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In: Anal play, Orgasm, Orgasm denial, Spanking

I whomped Lion’s butt for about five minutes last night. It seemed like enough. He was red all over and possibly had a few bruises forming. I wasn’t tired. He was only bleeding a tiny bit. But I was happy with the way his buns looked. I don’t think I cheated him. I don’t think he thinks I cheated him. He was probably very happy to be done.

After my shower, I wondered what to do with him. I still haven’t really unpacked the restraints. I showed them to him, and we acknowledged that the straps were way too long to use as is. We’ll have to work on them a bit. I thought of ginger, but I wasn’t sure we had any. Still, I decided to make it a butt night. I took a vibrating dildo that isn’t very big and went to work. The other day, he got some lube squirters, so I squirted some lube and followed that by the dildo slathered with more lube. I’d say you can never have too much lube, but you really can. Let’s say you need more than you think you do.

I was going slow, and Lion didn’t seem to be able to get it in all the way. That’s fine. I had sprung this on him. When we really get into anal play, he does an enema beforehand. I started moving it in and out since it wasn’t going in any further. When it got uncomfortable (at least when I knew it was uncomfortable), I stopped. You have to start slow with anal. You can’t just slam it in there.

When he was all cleaned up, he moved into blow job position. When I give him a hand job, I concentrate the pressure just under the head. Why not do the same thing with a blow job? I did a few deeper thrusts, but I mostly stayed with the tip. It must have worked because he was very happy. So happy, in fact, that I decided to let him go all the way. It was 16 days, and I thought he should have a happy ending.

Next time around, I’m going to try to get him super horny. If I can get him to the edge consistently, then I can get him super horny. I want him to be panting and sweating when I leave him hanging. That will require more BDSM to get him turned on. We’ll fix the straps, get some ginger, break out the IcyHot and be on our way.

By the way, I suggested having ass night every time I spank him. We’ll see what happens. If we start with an enema, it might just work.

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In: Hand Jobs, Oral Sex

In yesterday’s post, Lion had a survey he did about handjobs. We were both surprised that many women don’t want to give men handjobs. Weird. Although I don’t imagine too many mothers give the options of oral sex and handjobs as alternatives to intercourse, it would seem to be a reasonable thing to do. It would protect girls’ virgin status and eliminate unintended pregnancies. Yes, I am aware that most mothers are going for abstinence rather than workarounds. But think of the pressure alleviated by handjobs and oral sex. Pun intended.

As soon as I read Lion’s post, I told him it was good and added that I like giving him handjobs, whether for teasing or orgasm. He said he appreciates it. Further, I like giving him oral sex for teasing or orgasm. And, yes, I do swallow. Yum!

I wonder what the aversion to handjobs is. Are those women not turned on by a hard penis? If it’s true that the respondents are women who follow Lion on Twitter, I’m even more perplexed. It’s true that some women are only slightly involved in the day-to-day workings of male chastity with their mate. The man may be responsible for locking and unlocking. He may masturbate under her supervision. If he springs to life when he’s released from the cage, she could just mount him and ride to her heart’s content. There would be no need for her to touch it at all.

It occurs to me that I may be thinking about this as normal versus abnormal. In my mind, it’s normal to give a man a handjob and oral sex. However, who’s to say I’m normal. I’m very rarely accused of being normal. Some women find it perfectly normal to have sex with multiple men, whether at the same time or not. That’s not my normal to each his or her own.

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In: BDSM, Bondage

How long should I make Lion wait for an orgasm? That’s been the question since we started enforced male chastity. I’ve tried different ways to determine it. We’ve had scheduled orgasms. Lion knew when to expect them. We’ve had pseudo-scheduled orgasms. I knew, but Lion didn’t. Of course, you could say I always know, and Lion doesn’t. Sure, he can predict when it will happen, but he doesn’t know. I tried to make him wait until he was super horny. Usually, it’s me that gives in. What can I say? I like giving him orgasms.

For a while, it’s been harder to get Lion to the edge. There may be a variety of reasons. Sometimes he’s tired. It could be age-related. There are times he feels he’s taking advantage of me because I don’t want sex for myself. All these things sabotage erections. I haven’t always been the best at helping things along. I know “all I have to do” is tie him up or shove something up his ass, and there’s a good chance he’d get excited. I talk a good game about doing things to him, and then I don’t do it. This has been a problem for a long time.

When we first got together, Lion had sex every night. Sometimes I spanked him or tied him up before I gave him a hand job. Back then, it was mostly hand jobs if I didn’t ride him. I think giving him sex every night might have been too much for me. After a while, I slacked off on playing with him so much. And over the years, I’ve slacked off even more. Last week, I revealed to Lion that I bought restraints rather than look for the ones we have. They are still in the packages. I had them on the bed when I got them. I was going to surprise him when I opened them. He was tired. I was tired. The only one not tired was the puppy. Maybe she needs the restraints more than we do.

Today I’ll take them out and put them on the bed. That’s the universal code for don’t-forget-to-use-them. We’ll both see them and know what it means. And then I’ll finally tie Lion to the bed.

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In: CBT, Edging

We had a late lunch yesterday, and then we took the car for an oil change. My stomach was complaining before we left and complained even more after we got home. I suggested quesadillas for dinner even though I wasn’t sure my stomach could handle it, and I wasn’t very hungry. We both took pretty long naps and, since Lion’s tummy was unsettled too, we had egg noodles for dinner. It was after 8 before the noodles were ready.

Between the late hour, my stomach hurting, and my being tired, I told Lion I needed a pass on festivities. I think he was ready, willing, and able. I was not. The puppy woke me up at 4 this morning, so I’m not feeling all that energetic today either. However, I am determined to be ready for adventure tonight. As I recall, we’re back to oral stimulation. Yum! Even if he doesn’t have an orgasm (he won’t), I still like the taste of my weenie. I know, there’s not much taste unless there’s pre-cum. I just like having it in my mouth. If you ask me, that’s where the real power comes into play.

Think about it. He may have a big, powerful hardon, but he’s vulnerable. I’ve got his manhood in a potentially dangerous spot. I can bite or suck or lick to my heart’s desire. You can’t tell me it won’t hurt if I chomp down. I nibble him sometimes, but I’ve never bitten him on purpose. Mostly I suck or lick. I’m very nice to him, even if I do leave him frustrated most of the time. Poor Lion. Isn’t that what he signed up for?

Even though he doesn’t have a piece of metal guarding his fun zone, we still practice male chastity. He can’t come until I say he can. Of course, he could resist coming when I want him to come. I don’t think he’s ever purposely stopped an orgasm. Usually, I get him right to the edge as many times as I can and make him sweat. Then I stop everything and tell him it’s not his night. He may pretend to grumble. He may tell me how mean I am to leave him hanging. He may tell me he’s still interested, and I can finish the job, but he has no real say in the matter. I still have the power of the key even when the key doesn’t have anything to unlock.