If you’ve gotten here you’ve probably been thinking about locking up your penis so that when and if you can climax is controlled. To be perfectly clear, we are talking about enforced male chastity. That is, you will be wearing a device that will deny sexual access to your penis. There are many variations on this theme. Some men want continuous (24/7) enforced chastity, some want it within a particular play period with or with out a partner, and others want it as a form of punishment.
Here are some of the most popular scenarios:
- Full time chastity In this scenario, the chastity device remains locked on you 24/7. This doesn’t mean that you never get out. In fact, even if your particular form of this kink is to permanently prevent release, you will have to be out of your cage periodically for inspection and cleaning. There are no devices that are absolutely safe to wear continuously over long periods of time. Most chastity fantasies are variations on this theme. Caged lion is living this lifestyle. In his case it doesn’t mean he never gets to orgasm. In fact, Mrs. Lion gives him regular release. This adventure is just beginning. You can read about his adventures in the journal section of this site, Caged Lion’s Journal. This scenario is played out in one of two ways: you have a partner who is willing to be your keyholder, or you do this alone either by keeping the key or sending it to someone you find on the Internet who agrees (usually for a fee) to be your keyholder. The content on this site discusses the first scenario, however much of it applies to solo play as well.
- Weekend prisoner Many people start out this way. This is, in fact, the way the vast majority of men endure enforced chastity. Enforced chastity is part of a power exchange play time. You and your partner agree that you will be under her control for a period of time (usually a weekend). During that time you will not be able to get hard or come without her permission. You get locked into a chastity device to assure you follow the rule.
- Bad boys can’t come This is a particularly interesting fantasy that plays out well in real life. In this case, enforced chastity is a punishment. In order to have this work you need a partner who is willing to make and enforce obedience to her. If you have this sort of relationship, chastity can add a very interesting twist. If you break a rule or fail to obey, your partner locks you up for a period of time; your jail sentence. Generally this sentence is at least three days; often it is several weeks. During that time you are locked up the same way as men in 24/7 chastity relationships. However, during your sentence you aren’t released to come. She may take her toy out for some “yard time” during which she stimulates you to the edge of orgasm and then locks you up again. This yard time is often part of 24/7 enforced chastity too. It keeps your attention focused on what you are missing. Also in this scenario, if there are further infractions your sentence is extended. This particular scenario is most difficult for your partner. Many women find it difficult to be this “cruel” and don’t have the time or interest to manage a male-disciplined relationship. A very large number of Internet fantasies are about this sort of relationship.
There are many variations on these themes, but as you can see the main difference is in the length of time you are locked up and the motivation for caging your penis. If you begin enforced chastity with your partner, very often the nature of your lockup will change over time. You can easily go from a weekend prisoner to full time. Full timers can find themselves serving time between orgasms for infractions of rules. The possibilities are endless.
What this is about: The bottom line
Forced chastity is about surrender. Your agreement to give someone else control of your penis is surrendering your sexuality to your keyholder. When you cage your penis, your keyholder owns it. It may live on your body, but you no longer can use it for anything beyond peeing. This is a very profound form of surrender. You are losing control of your favorite toy. It’s hers now. How profound this is depends on how important sex is to you. If you are like most of us, sex is something at the top of our pleasure list. When that lock clicks shut, your release is owned by someone else. She doesn’t have to ever let you come again. Even if you thought you were just playing for a short time, if you have a secure device, she can hide the key and have you at her mercy. Powerful stuff!
That may feel like a very hot idea, but think about the reality. It’s like joining the army; once you are in, you are stuck, so you better learn to like it. The other critical point is that you are trusting someone with your penis. Too many men are so desperate to try enforced chastity that they are willing to let the first woman who agrees to hold the key take control. This is usually a mistake. The simple fact is that there is a lot more to enforced chastity than a device and a keyholder. To work and make the fantasy come to life, you need a relationship with your keyholder first.