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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

One thing that is true of every person (and lion) practicing male chastity and orgasm control is that it is a very individual experience. Some of the basics are the same: a male wants his frequency of ejaculation controlled, he wants his partner/keyholder to decide what kind and how much sex he gets to have. Beyond that, it is very different.

It takes time for these differences to emerge. Most couples treat male chastity as a sexy game. He isn’t expected to wear a chastity device all the time. Orgasm control is a form of play. A chastity device is locked on for an evening or a weekend. Maybe a couple will control his orgasms during a vacation. It’s an exciting game.

Some people decide to practice it for long periods of time, even for life. We fall into this group. With or without a device locked on my penis, Mrs. Lion produces every orgasm I get. This has been true since the end of 2013. There are no exceptions; none.

Part of the time I’ve been wild (no chastity device). That hasn’t changed anything. I am not permitted to jerk off and I don’t. Mrs. Lion’s sexual control is absolute, no hardware required. We aren’t unique. Many long-term couples practicing male orgasm control are the same.

In our case, Mrs. Lion generally teases me every day or two. She makes me ejaculate every week or two. There are no hard and fast rules determining how long I have to wait between orgasms. I ejaculate when Mrs. Lion decides I should. She doesn’t need a reason.

For the last year or so I’ve been wild. Surgeries and health issues made wearing a chastity device very difficult. Nothing changed, well almost nothing. I still got teased almost every day. I got to ejaculate on the same basic schedule we had when I wore a male chastity device.

Mrs. Lion liked the convenience of my free-range penis. I was in no danger of jerking off. Being wild saved her the trouble of locking and unlocking my cage. She could play with me without dealing with hardware. We discussed it. She knows that I get something out of being locked up. She agreed that she would lock me into my cage if I wanted.

At the same time, she noticed that it took quite a bit of penis massage to get me hard. This was true even if my last orgasm was over two weeks in the past. I remembered that when I was locked up, I started to get hard almost as soon as Mrs. Lion began removing my cage. We both wondered if the simple act of keeping me in a chastity device made me much more responsive.

Since I had asked to be locked up and since Mrs. Lion was curious about how my ability to get hard would change, she locked me up again. To our surprise, I started to get hard as soon as the cage came off. This was true just a day or two after I ejaculated. When I was wild, Mrs. Lion had a lot of trouble getting me hard so soon after I came.

It’s not the novelty of being locked up. I’ve spent the vast majority of the last seven years locked 24/7 in a male chastity device. I wonder if it is because the device won’t let me even begin to get hard. I can’t say that I am experiencing many in-cage attempts at erections. Maybe I am without knowing. Or, maybe my body “knows” it can’t express itself sexually until Mrs. Lion unlocks me. Perhaps I am making sure I get hard as soon as I can.

Having observed this, Mrs. Lion has decided that from now on I will be locked in a male chastity device. She is also being more diligent about returning me to my cage after teasing or ejaculation. I think that is important. Tomorrow, we are going on a trip with our camper. For the first time, the chastity device stays on for the trip.

As it stands, the only time I’m allowed to be wild is when Mrs. Lion needs my penis for sexual purposes or I will be getting a medical procedure that might expose it. She is indifferent about which cage I wear. I’m allowed to ask her to lock me in a different one. I’m not allowed to be wild. That makes sense to both of us. It turns out that wearing a chastity device is truly beneficial.

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In: Sex, Lion's Journal

When I first read about male chastity in the 1990’s I have to admit that I was a bit turned on and also put off. Everything I read talked about strict keyholders and long deprivation. It was extreme submission expressed via a device that locks up the penis.

I understand that some guys love these fantasies. It’s ironic because they use them as fodder for jerking off. Read about never ejaculating while you bring yourself to orgasm. Go figure. I liked the idea of being sexually controlled. It didn’t turn me on imagining extreme scenarios.

Those stories eventually piqued my curiosity enough to investigate actually wearing one. I had started a website that reviewed sex toys and decided to branch out into male chastity. I began contacting people who made chastity devices. There weren’t many. Most were happy to send me a device to review. This isn’t the story of those reviews.

If the device didn’t injure me right off the bat — a surprisingly large number did — I wore it for a few days. I didn’t find myself sexually aroused by the confinement. I was mostly annoyed by the challenges the crude chastity devices presented to me. None of them were particularly comfortable. I suppose that wouldn’t have been an issue if I found some inner arousal because I was locked up.

Of course, I was locking myself up. I just couldn’t get into the fantasy that I had a keyholder. I didn’t look for one because the entire idea of male chastity wasn’t all that overwhelmingly interesting to me at the time. Nevertheless, I had fun trying the devices and reviewing them.

Over a decade later I discovered my secret sauce. My sex life had gone down the tubes. Mrs. Lion had lost interest in sex. We hadn’t discussed it, but she didn’t display any interest in sex. I’ve always been rather shy about initiating sex. I think it comes from a very serious fear of rejection. I’ve missed countless opportunities for sex thanks to this fear. A woman would have to almost ask me to fuck her before I would be brave enough to pick up the ball, so to speak.

That meant I always waited for Mrs. Lion to make the first move. I hated that I couldn’t bring myself to do it even with her. She made less and less first moves. It ended up with her jerking me off or giving me a very-rare blow job about once a month. This was my worst sexual nightmare. I still couldn’t turn it around on my own. I was withdrawing and felt very depressed.

One day I stumbled upon cheap male chastity devices on amazon.com. I had no idea that there were cheap devices and that Amazon actually sold sex stuff. I felt that old chastity tingle. Since I had a lot of experience with chastity devices from the old days, I looked for some that might fit me. I ordered a couple.

When they arrived, I excitedly tried them on. It was very cool to feel them restraining my cock. Neither fit well enough to wear for more than an hour or two. Besides, I didn’t want Mrs. Lion to know about them. I ordered two more. One of the new batch fit pretty well. I decided to tell Mrs. Lion what I was thinking about.

I had been reading whatever I could find on the Web. Most were worthless, but I got some ideas about talking to her about male chastity. It took a lot of effort to bring up the subject. After all, it was S-E-X. I proposed locking me up. I explained that I thought she could tease me often, but only let me ejaculate once in a while. She agreed. There are tons of posts from 2014 about how this got going.

a sneaky way to get sex (for me at least) going

My reasoning was that if Mrs. Lion had the only keys, she would need to remember to provide me with sexual stimulation. It was a somewhat sneaky way to transfer sexual initiation to her. She agreed because she loves me and wants me to be happy. I don’t know if she read the subtext at that time.

As it turned out, she wasn’t very interested in sex for herself. Male chastity allowed her to keep me sexually satisfied without pushing her into sexual activities she didn’t want. Over time, I missed the fucking and she missed me initiating sex. Thanks to the blog,  we wrote about these feelings. We tried and failed to bring two-person sex back. I tried initiating; it was so hard. Mrs. Lion responded a little, but apparently her pilot light was out.

Male orgasm control became the only sexual activities we share. I am forbidden to masturbate, so I am at the mercy of Mrs. Lion for any sexual pleasure. We both learned to like this. It mostly satisfies my continuing need for sex. I still miss fucking. I really miss giving Mrs. Lion orgasms. But that doesn’t mean I am not having fun. I worry that there is nothing in it for her.

The entire point of all this is that male chastity is the secret sauce of our sex life. Most recently, Mrs. Lion discovered that if I wear a male chastity device, I am more responsive when she takes it off. It isn’t because I secretly jerk off when I am wild. I don’t know why this is true, but it is. For this reason, I am permanently locked up again. At least that’s what she says. Love that secret sauce!

the brand new lioness box o’fun

After Mrs. Lion previewed my post, we went off to run some errands. I asked her what she thought of my post, particularly about my problem with initiating and sex for her. She said that she sort of knew about why I wanted to be locked up.

I asked her about sex for her. On a few occasions I’ve given her some orgasms. I asked how she liked them? She said that she enjoyed them but she didn’t feel that she wanted to go out of her way to get more.

cowgirl position
This is cowgirl position. It’s most successful for giving Mrs. Lion orgasms.

It sounds like the old iniitiation issue. I had an idea. We use the Box O’Fun to jump start BDSM for me, why not create a lioness Box O’Fun with orgasmic activities for her? We could have cards for oral sex, finger fun, and lion riding for starters.

Lion riding in the old days was when Mrs. Lion mounted me cowgirl style. This position has the best chance of getting her an orgasm and is very likely not to allow me to have one. More recently. we she’s mounted me reverse cowgirl where she faces my feet. This position will get me off, but not her.

reverse cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl. In this position it is easy for me to come, but difficult for Mrs. Lion.

I suggested we go back to cowgirl. In the past if she decided she was done riding my cock, she would slide forward and I would continue with my tongue. I love that! Since an orgasm for me isn’t part of any of this, she could have a great time. Her Box O’Fun contains 6 Oral, 4 Finger, and 2 Cowgirl cards. This covers what I think she will enjoy. She still insists it’s for my pleasure. We’ll see.

Mrs. lion wondered if picking from the lioness Box O’Fun would be enough to get me going for teasing? Oh yeah, it would! Now we have to get going. I know us, if we don’t start right away, we may never begin. I’ll make sure we have it going before we leave on vacation.

Yum!

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In: Punishment, Domestic discipline, Female led relationship with discipline, Mrs Lion Comments

Last night Lion had another erection as soon as the cage came off. I suppose it’s too soon to declare the experiment an unqualified success. At some point, he’s bound to not have an erection when the cage comes off. How sustainable could it be? Everyone has off days.

It’s nice to have him so responsive this soon after an orgasm, but that response doesn’t necessarily translate into edging. Obviously, there’s more to edging than having an erection and being horny. The mind can be willing even if the body leaves you hanging. I may have gotten him somewhat close last night. [Lion — She did.] My main goal during these early stages is to make him feel good. As long as it feels good and I’m not annoying him, I’ll keep going. Within reason, of course. I won’t go hours just because it feels good to him. I’ll get tired eventually. Sometimes I crap out before he does. Having him tell me he thinks he’s done isn’t a bad thing. We’ll just pick it up tomorrow.

As we get ready for our trip, we discussed his wearing the cage while we’re gone. He says there’s no reason he can’t wear it since it’s comfortable and he can pee straight. We have two copies of each key so I put a set on my camper key chain. Now I won’t forget them. The lion would be a bit upset if I did. He wouldn’t be unlocked for six days. I know in the male chastity world that may not seem like a long time, but it is to Lion. He may like being locked up, but he loves being unlocked and played with even more.

lion's paddle
The camper paddle that Mrs. Lion hangs in full view just inside our camper door.

I’ll also need to put the toy bag back in the camper. I think I took the paddles out so I’ll replenish those. If I forgot them, I still have the camper paddle available. We hang it just inside the door to remind Lion who rules the camper. In a pinch, I can use it to confirm that fact. It may be small, but it packs a powerful punch. I don’t usually punish him, or play with him for that matter, much when we’re camping. I’m usually tired from driving and not sleeping well. But I’m going to make more of an effort. He needs to know I’m paying attention.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

According to Mrs. Lion, The Cage Is Here To Stay. I admit that I was surprised by her post yesterday. I wasn’t surprised by her conclusion that I am more interested in sex when I wear a male chastity device. I knew that. What surprised me was how much she dislikes putting it on and taking it off. I know she isn’t alone feeling this way.

penis pulled back into evotion chastity device
Once the shaft section is locked to the base ring, the penis has to be pulled back so only the glans sticks out. Mrs. Lion locks the shaft section on and I pull back my penis. She lubes the shaft before she locks the section on. This makes it easier to pull the penis back.

Many keyholders let their caged males remove and put on their own chastity devices. We never did that. Both of us agreed from the start that part of Mrs. Lion’s control is that she and she alone handle the keys. I do help her putting devices on me. It is my job to thread my cock and balls through the base ring. She takes over after that. In the case of the Evotion cage, once she locks the shaft cover in place, I pull my penis back so only the glans protrudes. Usually, there is quite a bit of penis sticking out of the shaft cover. Pulling the penis back isn’t easy. Once I have just the glans protruding she locks the glans cover in place.

I’m not sure that I can do this for myself. Mrs. Lion works pretty hard to get the pieces together and then make the locks work. It isn’t a smooth process. I can’t really see the places the two locks are inserted.

The Jail bird is even more frustrating

jail bird on lion's penis
To lock the Jail Bird, the cage’s hollow shaft receiver has to be aligned precisely with the threaded hole in the base ring shaft. There are no guides or stops to help with this process.

Of the two main chastity devices we own, the Mature Metal Jail Bird and the Evotion, the latter is easier to lock on. Our Jail Bird works with a security screw. To lock the cage to the base ring, threaded holes in the base ring shaft have to be precisely lined up with the holes in the cage (see photo, left). Performing this task is impossible for me. It takes Mrs. Lion a lot of effort to align and thread the security screw in place.

Another possibility is the Heart-On full coverage device. This one is very different from any other device I have worn. It completely contains my penis and balls. Once on, my genitals are gone. I like the idea of a full coverage device. This one may be larger than needed. I’m not at all sure how Mrs. Lion feels about how this looks on me.

heart on fitting details
The Heart On full coverage device has a rear piece that fits like a standard base ring. The cover has a penis guide ring and hinge. This was easy for Mrs. Lion once she figured it out.

Getting it on is easier than the other devices. First, the base plate is threaded over my cock and balls (Top of image, right). Then the black ring is threaded over my penis. It disconnects from the outer shell, so putting it on is easy. Then the outer shell hinge snaps into place, the black ring fits into its socket, and the outer shell is pushed up and locked in place. Mrs. Lion had very little trouble with this device.

Bathing turned out to be easy and I had no trouble staying clean. I used a squeeze bottle with a long, narrow spout to get liquid soap inside. Then I used my showerhead to rinse.

lion wearing the heart on chastity device
Here I am wearing the Heart On full coverage device. I think that it looks like I don’t have genitals. It’s pretty humiliating!

I rejected the idea of full coverage after testing the Heart On, not because it wasn’t comfortable and secure. It was. I think it had more to do with how I felt about losing all contact with my genitals. The color is rather humiliating too. But then, I like humiliation.

I’m still not sure how I feel about “losing” both cock and balls to a device like this. In a real sense, it is a purer form of male chastity. I lose all contact with my genitals. I can’t even see them. The device is invisible under clothing. That pink blob barely makes a bulge under my pants. I’m not sure if Mrs. Lion likes seeing my balls. If she does, this device won’t work for her.

After Mrs. Lion previewed this post she said that she didn’t like how I look when I wear the Heart On. I guess seeing your lion with his cock and balls replaced with a pink blob is too much. It turns out that isn’t the reason at all. Mrs. Lion went to the Nintendo website and showed me a picture of Kirby, a Nintendo character. Laughing, she said that is why. See for yourself (below).

heart on chastity device and nintendo kirby
I’m on the left. Nintendo’s Kirby is on the right.This is the reason Mrs. Lion objected to me wearing the Heart On chastity device.

She’s written that the only reason she still locks me in a male chastity device is that my apparent love of bondage makes me a lot easier to arouse when I am unlocked. There’s no question that she’s right about me being much easier to arouse. I’m not sure the reason is my love of bondage.

She also wrote that she has always taken me out of my chastity device when we travel. The reason for this is that I had a tough time peeing straight when wearing the Jail Bird. I don’t have this problem with either the Evotion or Heart On.

If you are interested in more information, here are links to my reviews of these products:

Mature Metal Jail Bird
Heart On Full Coverage Device
Evotion Wearables Orion