Adult spanking, at least the way we practice it, is a consensual activity. I asked Mrs. Lion to spank me. I’m far from alone. I haven’t discovered any consensual spanking couples who started because the spanker wanted to paddle her spouse. Disciplinary spankings are initiated by the person who is to be disciplined.
The fantasies that drive us to ask our wives to spank us are almost always the opposite. The scenario is that a wife is tired of her husband’s disregard of his duties or his disrespect for her. She gives him an ultimatum: Accept disciplinary spankings or the marriage is over. Consent is present, but she is demanding it.
As I said before, I can’t find a single real-life case when this happened. There’s a good reason it hasn’t. What wife wants to believe that her husband needs that kind of discipline? What husband is so irresponsible that he can’t sustain a marriage without being spanked? I’m sure that there are marriages where the husband is out of control. I’m also sure that the last thing his wife is considering is spanking him. She’s calling her lawyer.
Once we accept the reality that adult spanking is initiated by the person who is to be spanked, we can think about what really goes on in disciplinary marriage. Mrs.Lion and I have been in one for over ten years. She has not evolved into a benign dictator who rules my life. She has no interest in taking on that role. How many wives do?
The way it works here is that Mrs. Lion considers what she wants to enforce with her paddle. For her, the easiest are rules centered around things I need to do around the house. Other rules cover behaviors that she wants to change. She isn’t interested in making me into a different man. But since I want her to spank me, why not correct some annoying habits?
Well, that last bit is easier said than done. She has no problem spanking me if I forget a chore. It’s actually fun for her to catch me. The spanking itself isn’t necessarily fun for her to administer, but she doesn’t mind beating me. Her fun comes from catching me. She takes pride in delivering an effective spanking that properly reddens my bottom and makes me yelp.
It turns out that she has a lot of trouble punishing me for interrupting her. I don’t fully understand why that is a problem, but it is. Based on what she’s said, things get complicated in her mind when it comes to deciding to punish me for annoying her. Was it really my fault? She hates the idea of being unfair. This sort of thinking stops her almost every time. I’ve said that I don’t mind if it turns out to be unfair. I want her to spank me anyway.
We can’t seem to get past this problem. Currently, she will give me “Just Because” spankings if I’ve gone too long without earning a punishment. When she delivers a “Just Because” spanking, she almost always says that I earned it by interrupting her. It seems to me that it is a small step from “Just Because” to “You interrupted me.” It isn’t for Mrs. Lion.
I know that I’m overdue for a spanking. Mrs. Lion told me that I interrupted her and forgot to get my medicine packets (a chore she tracks). However, the spanking(s) haven’t come. There are good reasons they haven’t. Mrs. Lion has an overwhelming list of things needed here. I get it.
We are much happier when Mrs. Lion consistently enforces my rules. It may seem odd, but we feel closer and more connected when she frequently uses her paddles. I don’t want her to spank me, but I need her to do it anyway. We need to restore the balance we both love.
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