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Ordinarily I think of myself as an optimistic pessimist. Recently, however, I was told I’m actually a realist. Since I tend to lean toward the glass being half empty, I stand by my optimistic pessimism. The glass is half empty but the waitress may be coming to fill it up at some point. In other words, I may always feel down, but I try not to let it get me down. The past few days I have. We are still in the same dire straits we were in yesterday, but Lion has another interview on Wednesday so things may be looking up again. Life is a roller coaster. I don’t like roller coasters. I’m more of a Tilt-a-Whirl or Scrambler person.

I think we’ve both been pretty exhausted. We seem to sleep at night, but we’re not getting good sleep. Stress will do that to you. I was debating whether or not to play with Lion last night. About 9 I asked for the Lion weather report. He said he thought he was horny. Still, I debated. According to our relationship agreement (if you watch The Big Bang Theory you get the reference) I could have taken last night off since I played with him Thursday night. By 10 he looked so hopeful that I gave in. After I unlocked him and started sucking him he said, “uh oh.” I stopped. Uh oh? He said he forgot to remind me it was maintenance spanking day. Uh oh, indeed! I almost stopped to administer the swats then, but I was otherwise engaged. I told him he had something for his list on Monday and continued.

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Lion loves to be sucked. I think most men do. Many women find it distasteful. I’m not one of them. I love sucking him almost as much as he loves being sucked. When I was done he told me it was perfect, except that I forgot to go all the way. Did I? No, I don’t think I did. I think I went all the way to the edge quite a few times. He laughed. I reminded him that Thursday night, when I offered to let him come if he wanted to eat it, he told me sometimes it’s nice to wait. Well, my pet, you don’t get to choose how long that wait is. One more day? Two more days? A week? You roll the dice and take your chances.

Part of me still wonders if it’s better for him to know the exact date of his next orgasm. Even if I said it was next Tuesday, I still have the power to give it to him Monday or Thursday. He could never be sure. Part of me thinks it’s better that he always think tonight’s the night. This time she’ll keep going. This is definitely it. Damn! I do know that I’m more likely to cheat and give him an unscheduled orgasm. I knew I would. But I did that when he knew the date anyway. Keep him guessing. Maybe tonight really is the night. We’ll see.

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As predicted, Lion reported that he may be horny yesterday. He wasn’t sure how long it would last (hint, hint) but at least it was a start. He reminded me again as the evening wore on. He’s very subtle. He asked me how I was feeling. I guess there’s no sense proceeding if I tell him I’m not feeling well. Many times that won’t stop me from playing with him, but I understand his need to test the waters. As I was looking something up online I thought he would be interested in too, he told the dog it was getting late and things tend to slow down the later it gets. Ahem. Hint. Hint.

When I finally suggested going into the bedroom, he almost sprinted in. He was definitely horny. And it didn’t take long to get him hard. He was none too pleased that the night didn’t end with an orgasm. He said I made his horniness worse. The nerve of me! I told him I was glad he was horny. I like it when he’s horny. I don’t know when his scheduled day is but I might just march right past that date to keep him horny for a while. I haven’t made him wait very long for a while. Given his current job situation I’ve been taking pity on the poor boy. Maybe it’s time for a longer wait.

Lion just informed me that he’s been waiting five days. Yes, and? Definitely time for a longer wait. I’ll have to consult my schedule, and if he gets a job he gets a bonus orgasm, but aside from that I think he needs at least a ten day wait. I’m sure his heart just sank. Ten days? Nooooooo! You can do it, Lion. You’ve made it longer than that before. Besides, you don’t have much of a choice.

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Technically two unless you count the ruined orgasm Friday. Yesterday, less than a day from an orgasm, Lion said he was really horny again. Maybe he is a goldfish too.

We were relaxing in the bedroom in the afternoon. He’d reminded me earlier that it was punishment night. He asked me what was on his list. I told him he was supposed to remember. He said he only remembered reminding me about maintenance spanking night and he was only a half hour late. As I recall, I reminded him. And I wondered if missing it by only a half hour was supposed to get him half a punishment. He said he has nothing to do with the punishment part. Very true. He had also interrupted me a few times, which I hadn’t asked him to remember. Plus the biggie of embarrassing me but I didn’t count that one. Depending on his behavior next weekend I may have to punish him retroactively. I did remind him that he holds the key to the punishments. If he obeys then he doesn’t get punished. All he has to do is be a good Lion. Simple, right?

He made the mistake of rolling over while we were laying there and I asked if he was offering his butt to me because he was ready for his punishment. He rolled back over and said no. Too late! I got a mean paddle and swatted those cute buns very hard ten times. To his credit, he did not move. He didn’t even yell into the pillow. He was a very good boy.

A little while later I started massaging his balls and stroking him. Mr. Weenie was at full attention in no time. How could he be so horny the day after an orgasm? There’s really no rhyme or reason to it. I edged him a few times. He was bucking away. I decided that even though he had come about 24 hours before, I hadn’t tasted it. He’d had his fun of ejaculating inside me. Now it was my turn to have fun. I gave him a hand job and enjoyed every drop of Lion creme filling.

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Yesterday, after we spent a few hours wandering around the fake Bavarian village (I know it sounds tacky,, but actually it is genuinely quaint). we returned to our RV for a bit of rest before dinner. I got naked and lay down on the bed and started watching a DVD of some old “Magnum PI” shows. Mrs. Lion joined me. She started to do some nice petting. I didn’t immediately get hard. With some determination, she got a good rise out of me.

It felt amazing. Before long I was bucking and ready to come. She stopped just a second too late and I had a ruined orgasm. She said that wasn’t her intention. She only wanted to edge me. But, alas, I was too quick for her. That ended the festivities. She did mention that she plans to give me an orgasm today. I will love that if she remains in that generous frame of mind.

One thing that bothers me: I don’t seem able to recover after a ruined orgasm for more stimulation. Is it my age? Is it something we need to do? I don’t know. I do know that there is absolutely no reason why I need to go through a full refractory period after an essentially semen-free ruined orgasm. Mrs. Lion should be able to have me up and ready after only a minimal delay. Maybe you can give us some pointers. We both would like it if a ruined orgasm could be followed by more edging or another ruined orgasm.

Even though we’ve been doing this for over a year and a half, there is a lot about my sexuality we need to learn. Orgasm control is an art. By its very nature, it is an art practiced by my lioness. I am her sexual canvas. It feels to me like her color palette needs expanding in order to fully express her control over me. It appears that every keyholder has to learn what to do by trial and error. That’s really a shame.

About fifteen years ago at a BDSM event there was a male masturbation workshop. It was directed at the males’ partners. It was hands on, by the way. I participated. Well, my penis did. A very talented gay man demonstrated a technique and then had the partners practice it on their males. I was very aroused and can’t say I learned much. Of course, I was just there as a lab specimen. It was big fun for me. By the way, none of the males were allowed to ejaculate. The hour ended with twenty super hard and horny guys struggling into their clothes. We all left the room with noticeable bulges.

I recognize that this sort of workshop isn’t practical for orgasm control. There really isn’t any active organization of people practicing enforced chastity and orgasm control. Also, we are all very far from each other. On top of that, how many couples would be willing to attend classes like this? My guess is very few. That’s too bad.

It seems to me that the Internet is our friend in this. If some accomplished women (or men) would record a how-to video on edging, ruined orgasm, teasing, etc. we could reduce the learning curve for orgasm control. I’ve done a lot of searching; poor me searching through all that porn, to find anything of value. Sadly, nothing has come to light. And if you care,  almost everything I looked at was more turn-off than turn-on.

I keep thinking that if Mrs. Lion and I could watch other couples successfully induce multiple ruined orgasms, or demonstrate teasing techniques, our own orgasm control would benefit. YouTube and Vimeo won’t allow explicit videos, but there are enough of us with blogs to provide platforms for these educational recordings. I have one here that demonstrates a teasing session. I like the dialogue and the way the keyholder controls the situation. It’s a real life couple who decided to record this event and share it. Since it’s easy to remain anonymous and still show everything needed, there isn’t much risk to making one of these.

Maybe this is an insane idea. But I know we would benefit from this kind of education. Of course, a live workshop would be best, but that has absolutely no chance of happening, at least for now. What do you think? Any volunteers?