You’d think that being a male, I would know all about what works for men. I don’t. For example, it wasn’t many years ago that I learned about ruined orgasms. Yes, there had been times in the past when I had them. They were always accidents or miscalculations. I had no idea that women would deliver them just for fun.

It never occurred to me that there was more than one way I could come. Please! No, I’m not talking about hands, vaginas, mouths, or anuses. I’m talking about different sensations that can be delivered at will. The first surprise was ruined orgasms. I had read about women dominating men by doing this to them. Once Mrs. Lion learned to consistently deliver them, I had many opportunities to experience the frustration they induce.

Some males can be brought to a ruined orgasm more than once in a session. This ability is controlled by the amount of semen available for ejaculation. The more produced, the more times he will be able to experience ruined orgasms in a session. Apparently, our ability to reach orgasm depends on a supply of semen available for release. Most of the time, in a normal ejaculation, the entire supply comes out at one time. A male orgasm is a complex set of muscle activities that moves semen to the base of the penis and then out.

A ruined orgasm occurs when the penis is stimulated just enough to trigger the sequence. Once that happens, the supply of semen at the base of the penis is sent up and out. However, without continued stimulation, the sequence aborts. That sensation isn’t pleasant. Of course, you know that. After a brief (only a few seconds) rest, stimulation can be resumed, and excitement will build again. Rinse and repeat.

Many women don’t fully understand when they create a ruined vs. full orgasm. A ruined orgasm occurs when penis stimulation stops, and then nothing happens for up to 15 seconds. Then the semen oozes out. Some guys will squirt. I don’t. The key is that after you move your hand away, the penis may twitch a bit, and then some semen emerges. Resuming stimulation once the semen starts to flow won’t rescue the orgasm. It’s too late. Some women whose partners can have more than one ruined orgasm will take mercy and keep rubbing for the last one. That way, he finally gets to enjoy what every man desires.

A second odd male sexual ability is edging. Female orgasms build slowly. Excitement increases until the orgasm occurs. Males are completely different. We will get aroused, and then our arousal plateaus. It may increase a little, but we don’t feel a gradual buildup to our climax. Instead, when we are ready to come, our excitement builds rapidly, and then we ejaculate. That ramp-up can be as little as two or three seconds. Some men experience a slightly longer buildup.

Edging is first cousin to ruined orgasms. It takes some practice to successfully edge a man. Edging is stimulating the penis until just before ejaculation is triggered. Ruined orgasms require stimulation until just after that trigger point. There is fun on either side of that razor’s edge. The better you are at edging, the closer you get to that trigger point. If you get really close, it feels like ejaculation is on the way. When you suddenly stop, there is a huge buildup of arousal with nowhere to go. I may be sweating and panting. I will try to hump air in order to get over the top.

Unlike ruined orgasms, every man can be edged over and over. You can’t go on indefinitely. Eventually, he will “break.” He will get soft and be unable to be aroused. Mrs. Lion has done this to me a few times. It is super frustrating. Within an hour, most guys will be ready to go again. Do this for an evening, and you will have a sweaty guy with a sore cock.

Most women use their hands for either activity. Mrs. Lion can do it with her mouth. She can sense the level of my arousal and stop on either side of my trigger point. She is a very skilled lioness.

As Mrs. Lion wrote yesterday, I had a ruined orgasm on Friday night. It’s the first one since July. It crept up on both of us. I felt myself coming close and my hips were moving a little. Then, suddenly I felt a muscle tighten in my right thigh — a sure sign an ejaculation has begun — and that was it. Mrs. Lion stopped just after that muscle tightened. That was it. Since she was giving me a blow job, she was able to catch the semen that dripped out. She likes that.

She also wrote that I might be horny again on Saturday night. Since I am writing this post on Saturday afternoon, we shall see. From my reading, the ability to ejaculate again after a ruined orgasm is based on whether or not all of my semen supply was exhausted. Some men can have multiple ruined orgasms. If there is a good supply of semen stored up, then they can. The incomplete orgasm that constitutes a ruined orgasm only empties the semen in the chamber just below the base of the erect penis. This chamber fills as arousal gets very close to ejaculation.

In a normal orgasm, muscle spasms refill the chamber, and the fluid squirts out. This happens over and over until no more is left. Apparently, I have a very small supply that usually only partially fills the chamber. That’s why my erection fades quickly after the ruined orgasm. If I had a larger supply, I would have remained at least partially hard and could be coaxed into either another ruined orgasm or a complete one. Some men can have four or five ruined orgasms in a row. You can see a good example of this on YouPorn. Here is a link (part of my research).

Mrs. Lion is right that I might be horny. It depends on my semen production, apparently. If I have a supply, even one too small to appear, I will want sex. Mrs. Lion can encourage semen production by teasing me during the day. Each time I’m stimulated to get an erection and hold it for a while, my body gets to work. This is one reason why I want her to take frequent teasing breaks without trying to edge me. A once-a-day session is nice and I love it. However, more frequent, smaller sessions are very helpful as well.

just published: a great, new spanking book

My friend Julie of Strict Julie Spanks has just published her book, Julie’s Spankings: A Semi-Autobiographical Account of a Young Wife’s Husbandly Spankings and Embarrassingly Public Punishments in a Family and Church Setting. It’s available on Amazon Kindle. Click the title to visit the order page. I had the privilege of copy-editing the book. It’s extremely hot with chapter after chapter of sexy spanking and humiliation scenes. If you are a fan of her blog, like I am, you know how arousing her writing can be. The book is free for Kindle Unlimited subscribers and only a few bucks for the rest of us. By the way, the sexy cover shot is really her!

get the red in

Her red bottom in the picture is real. I have had a problem reproducing accurately the way my bottom looks after a spanking. I’ve tried using a point-and-click camera as well as a semi-pro DSLR. The red seems to fade to nothing. Julie shared a technique she developed to “get the red out”. It doesn’t enhance the color, just brings it out to the actual way a freshly-spanked bottom looks.

Recently, I published a picture of my rear after a spanking. I used Julie’s technique to correct the color. Mrs. Lion looked at it and pronounced that it accurately reproduced how I looked when she was done. We can’t figure out why digital cameras have this problem. I’m an experienced photographer and I’ve worked with the camera-raw images (no corrections applied by the computer in the camera). The red is barely visible. It turns out that judicious color correction can bring it back. That’s what I’ve been doing. Mrs. Lion reviews and certifies there is no exaggeration. Below you can compare the before and after images.

lion's spanked bottom
Before (Left), After (Right)

It always bothered me that we couldn’t accurately show spanking results. Now we can!

The problem with super edging is that if you get too close — and that’s exactly what happened last night — stupid ruined orgasms. Of course, if I had reacted quicker (or at all, for that matter) I probably could have salvaged it. I guess I was hoping it wasn’t really going to progress to a ruined orgasm. Sometimes he makes the noises and it doesn’t actually go that far.

I told him it was his fault. Obviously, it wasn’t. I pushed him too far. But he didn’t give me the signals until it was too late. There’s nothing he could do about it. Sometimes it sneaks up on him. Usually I know I’m playing with fire. I’d edged him once and I let him calm down a bit before starting again. If the past is any indicator, I should have been able to edge him at least one more time before I was in danger of going too far. Apparently he was hornier than I thought.

Now the question is whether that stupid ruined orgasm resets the clock or not. I don’t think there’s a concrete answer to that. If I remember correctly, there have been times he’s fine the next day. Other times, it’s like a full orgasm. I wonder if it depends on how far over the edge I took him. In other words, if I stop just past the edge, maybe it doesn’t reset things. If I go further, maybe it does. I don’t think the amount of semen means anything. He can produce a tiny amount after a long wait or a large amount after a short wait. There was a decent amount last night. I’m crossing my fingers that he’ll be ready to go again tonight.

Of course, there are things I could do to encourage him to be horny. A nice spanking might do it. I could tie him to the bed. I could shove a butt plug where the sun don’t shine. Oh, so many things! I don’t necessarily want to extend his wait much longer. I’d just rather have the orgasm be on my terms.

For a long time, I’ve asserted that Lion’s wait times are wrong. He says he’s been waiting X number of days based on his last orgasm. I say he shouldn’t count the few days after orgasm because he could care less if he has sex or not. Suddenly, the other day he came around to my line of thinking. Of course, he didn’t say he was agreeing with me. He just made a statement. What the heck? It sort of gave me flashbacks to arguments with my ex. We’d be yelling for hours and then realize we were both saying the same thing. It was so frustrating. Obviously, the level of frustration with Lion was far less than with the ex, but the concept of saying the same thing was there.

Naturally, counting from the orgasm date gives a more concrete number. I have no idea when Lion begins to get horny unless he tells me. On the other hand, I don’t really care how long he waits. I take my cues from him and then I decide when I feel like giving him an orgasm. I’ve been known to give him an orgasm the day after the last one just to keep him on his toes. That hasn’t happened recently because he’s physically not ready for one that soon. When he was having stomach issues, I think he waited over twenty days between orgasms. Does that mean he waited over twenty days? I don’t think so. Yes, physically, he didn’t have an orgasm for twenty days. But most of that time he was trying to get his stomach and intestines to stop playing ping pong. He wasn’t thinking about sex. He wasn’t really waiting.

So how long was he waiting? That’s the problem. I have no way of knowing. I’m not sure Lion does either. If there was one day in the middle of all the turmoil that Lion felt horny, does that start the clock? Or is that day just counted as a day along with the random Tuesday he felt a little better or the following Saturday that he thought he might get lucky? It will be incredibly hard to quantify things.

The other problem, which isn’t really so much a problem as an observation, is that some ten-day waits are worse than others. I don’t know if it’s hormones, the amount of reading he’s done, the way the planets align or what, but sometimes Lion is hornier than other times. Sometimes he wants an orgasm. Sometimes he really wants an orgasm. And sometimes he really, really wants an orgasm. After some waits, he’ll say, “Well, it was an X day wait.” Yes, but for three of those days, he didn’t care. Does that make it a seven day wait? It’s a little too subjective to fully figure out. And, in the end, does it really matter? We’re not going for the record or anything. I just frustrate him for a few days (sometimes more) and give him an orgasm. Done.

The thing that was important to me over this past week was making up for the ruined orgasm he had. We hate those. Lion told me not to worry about it, but I wanted to do a reset to his system. I know it sounds silly. I just wanted, I don’t know, to apologize to his body for the less-than-stellar orgasm. Of course, there have been other orgasms along the way that were less than stellar, but I don’t normally cause them. I mean, I cause the orgasm, but the lack of stellar-ness is not my fault. When it is my fault, I feel the need to correct it. Consider it an I’m-sorry-your-dinner-was-not-to-your-liking-so-I’ve-taken-it-off-the-bill situation. I basically made up for crappy service.

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