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In: Mrs Lion Comments

Poor Lion. Every day is spent on the computer or watching TV. Oh, and most nights (sore weenie aside) he gets played with and edged. How boring that must be.

All kidding aside, doing the same thing day after day can get to you. Although I’d prefer not to have to go into the office two days a week, it does break up the monotony. Personally I think each day blends into the next even when I’m working in the office all week. There’s really nothing to distinguish one day from another. Some of my coworkers come in later on certain days or they work at different offices within the company. I just sit in my little office, banging away on the keyboard all day. Very little changes whether I’m at home or at work.

After reading Lion’s post for this morning, I wondered exactly what he’s looking for. Does he want Sundays to be pasta days like when we first got together? We could do butt plugs on Wednesdays. Ball bondage Tuesdays. Laundry Saturdays. I think it would be more boring to have a set schedule like that. I’m not saying that’s what he’s asking for, but I’m immediately balking at doing ball bondage every Tuesday. Too predictable and, to me, predictable is sort of boring.

The other thing that’s been bothering him is that we never talk. I talk. He talks back. It’s like we’re having a conversation. Is that not a conversation? Help me out here. Last night, there was no chance for any sexual fun since my weenie is still sore, but we snuggled and talked while watching TV. At least, I thought we did. This morning, I was reading an article on my iPad and Lion kept talking to me. I answered him. When he kept talking and I didn’t hear him, I explained I was reading something. He said he understood and kept talking to me. Then he got mad when I reminded him I was reading something. I put it away so we could talk.

This is why I don’t read things anymore. First, I don’t do well when I’m reading and the TV is on. It’s too distracting. If I try to go to another room, Lion asks why I’m so far away. I started doing Audible books on my commute so I could at least read that way. Once we moved, my commute shortened by at least twenty minutes and now I commute only two days so even being read a book doesn’t work well anymore.

Things are just helter-skelter. I know Lion’s bored being at home all the time. I’m not sure he knows what he’s looking for. He just knows this isn’t it. So we’ll talk about it and try a few things and I can almost guarantee we’ll be revisiting this at a future date. We seem to go in cycles with this like we do most things.

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In: Living with a female led relationship

Weekends don’t feel very special to me anymore. I’m at home all week, so being there on Saturday and Sunday is just more of the same. Since COVID, we don’t go out much. It’s too dangerous to eat out even if the restaurants were open for dine-in eating. The local casino is open and we enjoyed occasionally visiting it. We don’t think it is too smart to go there either.

Mrs. Lion only goes to her office two days a week. The rest of the time she works from home. Her routine doesn’t vary regardless of the day of the week. We might go to the grocery store on a weekend day, but other than that we are in the house and Mrs. Lion is either on her computer or iPad. Sexual activity takes place after dinner when we have it. There is nothing we do that distinguishes Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday from Saturday and Sunday. That’s too bad.

With more and more people either out of work or working from home, I imagine they are in a similar situation. I don’t mind being at home. I do wish we could somehow find ways to differentiate one day from another. As you probably know, I am required to remind Mrs. Lion of “punishment days”. These are throwbacks to the very beginning of our disciplinary relationship.

When we first started, Mrs. Lion quickly became adept at spotting infractions of her rules. She was very reluctant to spank me and more often than not offenses went unpunished. We got the idea that perhaps if we set aside certain days of the week to administer punishments, it would be easier for Mrs. Lion to collect my offenses and spank me on those days. Initially she set aside Mondays and Thursdays. I was required to remind her each Monday or Thursday that it was punishment day.

After a while, Mrs. Lion didn’t need designated days to spank me. She spanked me whenever one was due. Reminding her of punishment days became an opportunity for me to screw up and earn a spanking. In fact, when I got very good at reminding her about Mondays and Thursdays, she added Saturdays as well. I still managed to forget to remind her. Each time I forget, she spanks me.

Nothing special happens on punishment days anymore. Nothing special happens on any day. That’s too bad. I don’t know exactly what we should do about this. It seems to me that if we could find a way to make a day or two special each week, it would break up the monotony. I’m not claiming that my life is boring. It isn’t. Between writing and playing, I am very active sexually. Sex isn’t everything, of course.

For the last week or so I haven’t been able to do anything sexual. That leaves us watching TV and playing with iPads. Even if my penis wasn’t out of commission, Mrs. Lion has drastically increased the amount of time between orgasms. That doesn’t mean we aren’t active almost every night, but it means that a certain sense of urgency is missing most of the time.

Maybe we need to bring back the Box O’Fun. We seem to be getting in a sexual rut. Maybe we can find things we can do outside of the house to break up our time. We have to be careful about that. Both of us are in vulnerable groups in terms of COVID-19. Perhaps we should decide to have game nights. Mrs. Lion likes games a lot more than I do, but we could still find things to do.

This is something I think we need to talk about. We need to get out of our rut before the long winter nights take hold. It would be good to find some interesting things to do.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Health and safety, Punishment, Spanking

If Lion’s bruise didn’t hurt, we would definitely be resuming normal activities. I don’t see the scab is on the sore spot anymore, but even moving the skin to look at it hurts. It’s strange. I don’t remember a bruise ever hurting him this much. I’m very sure he’s not faking it. He’s horny. I know he’s getting frustrated both by not having an orgasm and by not being able to be tortured by edging. I wouldn’t equate my frustration of not being able to suck him with his frustration, but I miss doing it. There’s a perfectly good weenie going to waste.

I don’t know why he’s gotten the bruise. The sore spot happens from time to time. It’s not like he hasn’t had bruise before, but it’s unusual that it hurts this much. A normal bruise wouldn’t sidetrack us. We’d be a bit more careful so we didn’t aggravate it, but he’d be humping away. I think it’s starting to fade. Maybe we’re on the road to recovery. I’m not sure what we’d do if it doesn’t get better soon. It’s not like he’d feel comfortable going to the doctor and explaining a cage injury. I guess he could always say it was a zipper mishap. I’m pretty sure his doctor has seen weenie injuries before. It’s just embarrassing to be the one with the weenie on display. [Lion comments — The bruise may be from me inadvertently pinching myself. That could be why it is so uncomfortable; maybe a non-zipper, zipper injury.]

Lion has been a good boy lately. Although, he has been dangerously close to being a know it all. I’ll bring up something that happened at work and, before I get the whole story out there, he’s off and running toward a solution. It may be the whole men are from Mars, women are from Venus thing, but I may not be looking for a solution. Actually, the past few times, I already have the solution but he doesn’t know that because he won’t let me finish the story. Should this infraction count twice? He is interrupting before he acts like a know it all. When someone on a cop show kidnaps a person and then murders them, they get so many charges of kidnapping and so many charges of murder. If you kidnap someone once, how do you get multiple counts? Anyway, I think Lion should be punished for each infraction. One, he interrupted. Two, he was a know it all. Done.

I know I’ve been too lenient with him when he interrupts or annoys me. Now that I’m not on nervous breakdown watch, I’ll try to be more tenacious. His butt won’t thank me, but Lion will. At least the bruises will be in the right spot.

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In: Chastity hardware
putting on orionmale chastity device
This is the way Mrs. Lion normally puts the device on me. She pulls my penis through the center section. Then, before she can put on the head cover, I have to pull the skin back so that just the head of my penis protrudes. I think that if too much skin remains inside the little shaft cover it pinches and causes the problems I have been having.

As Mrs. Lion wrote in her post yesterday, I have some wounds on my penis. These were caused by my Evotion Orion male chastity device. It’s not that the device doesn’t fit properly or that it is uncomfortable to wear. The problem is the way I put it on. The device has three parts: The first is the base ring which is the same as on other male chastity devices. The second is a sleeve that connects to the base ring. This is designed to hold the shaft of the penis. When the sleeve is on correctly, only the head (glans) pokes out. The third piece connects to the shaft cover and “protects” the head.

The tricky part is getting the shaft cover on correctly. Until the last time I had the device put on, Mrs. Lion would thread the head and shaft of my penis through the shaft cover. She would then lock it onto the base ring. This would leave about an inch of the shaft poking out from the front. I would then have to pull the shaft back until just the head of my penis poked out. This was a bit of work and without lube not terribly comfortable. When we used lube, it would often stay in place for more than a day.

evotion middle section
After Mrs. Lion locks the center section in place, I pull the skin back until just the head of my penis protrudes. Now it’s ready for the headpiece to be locked in place.

My bright idea was to have Mrs. Lion just move enough of my shaft through that covering so that the head was all that poked out. Then, she would lock it on to the base ring. I figured the remaining skin would stay in place inside the shaft cover. She did it and it went on well. However, inside that piece of the chastity device, the skin was vulnerable. I’m not sure exactly how it happened but some of the skin just under the head got irritated and a sore developed. Directly opposite the sore, a bruise formed. My guess is that I scraped the skin during normal wear and the bruise formed by pinching caused by bunched-up skin pressing against the plastic.

I’ve had a sore in that spot before. I suspect the device manages to irritate a bit of the skin at the very front of the shaft cover. I can’t feel any roughness there but I can see how some of that delicate skin below the head could poke out a little bit and rub. I wonder if any other men have had similar issues. Until everything heals, I’m wild. I’m also not being teased until things get better. Frustrating!

I’ll have to see if this issue repeats itself. Obviously, I’m not going to put the device on with my “new” system. We’ll go back to the old pull-the-penis-skin-back system. It’s more uncomfortable but appears to avoid these injuries. It also occurred to me that perhaps the shaft cover is a bit too short. The Evotion people stressed the importance of not specifying a device that is too long. I’m not sure it would be worth ordering a new shaft cover to test out whether or not I need more length. I don’t think I need one with more breadth. I fit nicely when Mrs. Lion puts it on.

I had a similar sore develop when I was wearing the Cherry Keeper male chastity device. It has a shelf built-in near the head designed to prevent the head of the penis from slipping back into the body of the device. It was very comfortable to wear and the shelf served its purpose. However, at one point I developed a similar sore where the shelf rubbed against the skin just under the head.

evotion orion ring to hold penis head in place
The molded-in ring (arrow) keeps the head of my penis from moving back into the device.

The Evotion Orion doesn’t have a shelf. It has a ring at the very top of the shaft cover. It serves the same purpose as the shelf in the Cherry Keeper. Maybe this ring can irritate my tender skin. This is a difficult problem. I like having something prevent the head from slipping backward. By holding it in position, urinating is easy because my urethra is always front and center where it belongs. Even though I had my Jail Bird male chastity device shortened to just 1 inch, the head could move enough so that my urethra would end up “biting” one of the bars at the front of the cage. This resulted in a nasty spray when I went to pee.

To date, the best male chastity device I’ve tried is the Evotion Orion. Despite the fact that it has caused a couple of small injuries, it does the best job preventing erections and allowing me to use my penis normally for non-sexual activities. I plan to continue wearing it as soon as I heal.