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waxing man's chestI actually got quite a bit done yesterday. I unpacked a lot of boxes, got Lion’s TV set up in his office, put the stupid foam in the bed, and got a lot of space opened up near the front door. The one thing I didn’t do was wax Lion. I tried. It just didn’t happen.

I swear I put the paddles, dildos and waxing supplies in the big toy box. It was all in the same room. Why didn’t I put it all together? When I opened the box and poked around, there was no waxing stuff. So where did I put it? I doubt it’s in a box labeled “Waxing Supplies”. It probably says “Pantry” or “Kitchen” like so many other boxes.

Lion ordered another warmer and some other supplies that will be delivered tomorrow so I can get rid of some of his fur. At the very least, I’ll give him his Lion-zilian. Then I won’t have to hear about how furry his balls are. When I unearth the rest of the waxing supplies I can make him smooth as a baby’s butt all over. [Lion — The supplies arrived today. We have everything we need for Mrs. Lion to take off as much hair as she wants.]

The past few times I’ve tried to edge Lion, it hasn’t gone very well. He’s very excited and I get him fairly close to the edge and then we lose it. I say “we” because I need to change positions and that breaks the concentration. I also think Lion probably needs more attention than just a hand job or blow job. I might need to break out that rope again to get him excited enough. I don’t think it has anything to do with his spankings. Last night he said he must be very horny because even after his buns were on fire, he was horny. And then I couldn’t quite get him to the edge.

Again, I’m putting the blame on me. If I could have maintained his blow job last night, I could have gotten him to the edge at least once. I don’t think I would have given him an orgasm only because he hasn’t been edged in a while. An orgasm at this point would be a freebie even if he has waited a long time. He needs to work for it a little bit. We’ll try again tonight.

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In: Spanking, Lion's Journal, Punishment
lion's spanked ass
Mrs. Lion changed position. She stood over me instead of sitting next to me. This is the result. No real, lasting swats where I sit. It looked bad when the picture was taken. The marks were mostly gone on Sunday.

(I am writing this on Sunday morning.) On Saturday night I got the first of my earned punishments. I assumed the position: half my body on the side of the bed the other half (my legs) dangling off the side. Generally Mrs. Lion likes to sit next to me when she spanks me. She uses her long-handled ferule paddle. This is easily the most painful paddle we own.

hanson ferule paddle
This is the Hanson ferule paddle in bloodwood. Mrs. Lion calls this the “camper paddle”.
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This time she said that she stood over me. The experience was very different and not nearly as painful as usual. Her swats ended up landing on either side of my bottom (see picture). I’m not sure why it came out this way but I ended up with those peculiar marks on either side of my butt. It hurt a lot while she did it, but not nearly as badly as her normal spanking.

She said my bottom was red all over. It doesn’t really look very red in the picture but I believe her. She said that she may have been pulling her swats a bit because she felt she had more power standing over me. I think she’s right in that respect. She wasn’t hitting nearly as hard as she usually does. This still doesn’t explain why the entire center of my tender bottom was missed. She doesn’t have an explanation either. Because the area that got the most attention was to either side of my “sit spot”, it doesn’t hurt at all when I sit down. I can’t see it, but I’m pretty sure the marks have also disappeared.

I didn’t offer a review of her spanking on Saturday. I’m not crazy! It just seemed peculiar to me that she ended up with the pattern she did. Maybe we need to find another spot for her to punish me. There’s only about 3 feet between the bed and the wall where I received my punishment. That doesn’t give her much space to move around and get the proper perspective. I don’t want to be unfair to her.

Mrs. Lion is generally not too interested in discussing this particular subject. Maybe I will suggest that I go back to being flat on the bed. The problem with that is that there is some distance between me and her body. This is good in terms of giving her leverage with the paddle, but not so good for letting her use one hand to open my crack in the other two beat me inside of it or otherwise manipulate my flesh to assure that she gets an even “burn”. The position we’re currently using is probably the best because she’s been the most effective with it.

I don’t think either of us realized the effect that changing her position would have on her ability to discipline me. If I were an objective observer, I would imagine that her spanking technique is most effective when she sits next to me. I wonder what it would be like if she straddled my back? We have a substantial backlog of spankings that could give her an opportunity to test different ideas: four more as of Sunday morning.

You can also tell that I’m not as “hung over” from my Saturday night spanking as I would have been with her other technique. If my butt hurt a lot while I am sitting here, I would be far less willing to discuss helping her make things worse for me. I’m not too smart this way. I need a painful reminder that I should keep my mouth shut.

Anyway, in truth I have a lot invested in making her the most effective disciplinarian I can. When she does a really effective job of punishing me, I think she gets a sense of accomplishment. I also take my offense much more seriously. Let’s face it, it’s hard to take it too seriously if I get a little bit of ketchup, for example, on my shirt. No matter how much I am beaten for that, it’s hard to consider that a significant life event. I consider it a practice round for us both. We got to the actual tournament, when I upset Mrs. Lion on Saturday.

That’s different. I want her to be incredibly effective at making me unhappy that I did that. We already know from experience with the spills, eating first, and forgetting punishment days, that punishment is effective as a training aid. My slips are few and far between (except for spills which are highly dependent on my coordination and ability to see well). My vision isn’t great nowadays and my coordination is poor due to side effects from spinal surgery. That makes it far more likely I’m going to get some food on my shirt.

I’m glad Mrs. Lion is not taking those things into account. I need things, particularly rules, to be inflexible. Flexibility when it relates to discipline confuses me and ruins the conditioning effect of punishment. Whether or not you agree with the way we are doing things, our experiences have been very positive. To our surprise, we both missed it when Mrs. Lion had to suspend my rules after my surgery last spring. It wasn’t that I went crazy. I didn’t. But we both felt something was missing in our lives. I expected to feel that way. I absolutely didn’t think Mrs. Lion would.

But she did. She couldn’t put it into words, but she said that she felt something was missing. Now that we’re back to our disciplinary relationship, we’re both happier. Go figure.

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In: Punishment, Mrs Lion Comments

I have a ton of stuff to do. I know this because a) I can see all the boxes left to unpack, and b) Lion keeps telling me there’s a ton of stuff to do. My first thought when he points out the obvious like this is that there has to be a lot of stuff to do because I haven’t finished it all since the last time he mentioned it. Since I’m the one doing most of it, if I didn’t do it then it still has to be done. Oh, and he needs defurring. Badly. Did he mention he needs defurring? Badly? I think I’ve heard that somewhere before.

So I sat down to write my post, which wasn’t going to be about annoyances, and I noticed some comments. Lion walked by and said we have things to do. I know. I just want to write a post. Ok, that’s fine but there’s a lot to do. Yes, I know. And he needs defurring; Badly. And now the post is about annoyances.

We’ve been short with each other lately. He snaps at me. I snap at him. We snap at each other. I think one of the reasons I snap at him is because he’s been pointing out the obvious. We need to unpack. Really?? I hadn’t noticed. The kitchen table needs to be cleaned off. Really? You can’t eat a meal on top of boxes? Huh. If “we” put the new Sleep Number foam on the bed when “we” change it, the big boxes near the door can be thrown out. Really?? You mean “all I have to do” is unpack those boxes to get rid of them? What a concept!

At this point I can’t really tell if I’m more annoyed or amused. You know how you watch a video over and over just to make sure you’re actually seeing the person do that stupid thing? I’ve been doing that with Lion’s obvious statements. Did he really just say that? Yes. Yes, he did.

Okay. What the post was really going to be about was Lion’s punishment. He suggested that annoying me should have more weight than forgetting punishment day. Valid. Does that mean I have to add four days because he already had four days for forgetting? That didn’t seem right. He also would like punishment closer to the infringement. Valid. I asked if it made any sense to rearrange the punishment so that he earned four days for annoying me and one for forgetting. He said it did. In my mind he earned five days for forgetting and annoying me. In his mind he earned four days for annoying me and one day for forgetting. It seems to be a distinction without a difference. But, whatever floats your boat.

Under these new guidelines, when he spilled a little drop of food on his shirt at dinner, it didn’t seem right to add another day. It is a fake rule, after all. Inconsequential. I decided he should have mouth soaping added to one of the spanking nights. Was that the correct decision? I have no idea. We’re still experimenting. I won’t say spilling food will always result in mouth soaping added on. It just seemed like it fit last night. open [Lion — It does make sense. Spilling relates to eating, which, of course, uses my mouth.]

Maybe the original rules should have a punishment of their own now. I don’t think we should abolish them. They do serve a purpose. Even if he doesn’t annoy me (like that’s going to happen), he’ll still spill food or eat before I do. If nothing else, they’ll help keep us grounded. They’re where it all started. It would be a shame to lose them.

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In: Lion's Journal, Lioness 3.0, Punishment

I realize that our readers are much happier when I write about sex. When I read about discipline, I get zero comments. I really like your comments. Hint, hint.

As you may have guessed, this post is about discipline. Yesterday, for the first time, Mrs. Lion told me I would get a spanking for annoying her. In this case, I got a bit snippy when she was having trouble understanding an app on her iPad. To my great surprise, about 1/2 hour after I did this, she told me I was going to get a spanking for it. I pointed out that she gave me a sentence of four spankings when I forgot punishment day, and only one for upsetting her. She asked me if I wanted four more for this offense. I obviously told her I didn’t.

But this situation brings up a new problem. For one thing, Mrs. Lion’s spankings are far more severe than they used to be. Four days of spanking leaves me sore for days after. I know, that doesn’t have anything to do with it, or does it? Here’s the problem: when all we had were relatively trivial rules like spilling on my shirt or forgetting to remind her of punishment day, it made sense to sentence me to severe punishment when I broke those rules, particularly if I did repeatedly.

My “old” spankings weren’t very severe and it took several days of getting one a day to make her point. Now, I feel one of her spankings for two days after she gives it to me. The reason I bring this up is that I think we need judicial reform. It doesn’t make sense to punish me more severely for forgetting to remind her it’s punishment day, even if it’s the second or third time I’ve done it, then it does for annoying her.

Which behavior do you really want to modify, Mrs. Lion? Is it more important that I remember to remind you of punishment day that it is to be more careful about hurting your feelings? I think the answer is obvious.

We started the practice of sentencing me to multiple spankings as a way to make them more meaningful to me. The upside of this is that Mrs. Lion can indicate the seriousness of my offense by the number of days of spankings I receive. This works very well we’ve discovered.

Our judicial universe has grown larger. Mrs. Lion’s penalties have grown more severe. I think it would make sense to consider adjusting penalties to allow for these important growth steps. For example, as it stood this morning before I upset her, I had four consecutive days of spanking coming. That meant that it would be Wednesday before I felt her wrath for annoying her yesterday. I suppose there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m smart enough to realize that I just got myself another day of pain.

What bothers me is that I don’t think were setting the stage correctly for me to fully appreciate how wrong it is to upset her. It really isn’t a big deal if I get food on my shirt or forget to remind her of punishment day. Certainly, those offenses should be punished. But shouldn’t upsetting her, which is a real problem, be treated more seriously?

I’m suggesting that breaking one of those old rules earn me just one spanking. If I’m egregiously breaking it over and over, then add more. However, upsetting Mrs. Lion in any of the ways that I can, earn a minimum of two. Perhaps, if she is really upset, earn me more. I also suggest that when one of these more serious offenses occur, she deliver the spanking as soon after I committed as possible. That would assure I remember what I did and why it made her unhappy.

I think this is really good news. 3.0 is finally getting her feet planted firmly. Now, for the first time, we can use punishment the way it was intended. I’m not suggesting the old rules go away or that Mrs. Lion not add anymore. I’m just suggesting that her sentencing guidelines be adjusted to encompass the wider world of offenses I can commit.

Now, I hope it’s becoming clear why we worked so hard at this. I know a number of our readers thought we were insane for giving me severe punishment for something as trivial as getting little food on my shirt. All that was rehearsal. Now, we are beginning to use these tools the way they were intended.

Poor lion.