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In: Body Hair Removal, Lion's Journal
pubic hair regrowth
After five weeks very little hair has returned. Of course, I have removed hair here for a long time. Still, this is excellent.
(Click image to view NSFW full pubic area)

This afternoon will be our third hair removal session with wax. It’s been five weeks since our last session. In general, the hair that has returned is lighter and thinner. There is a lot less of it too. If you click on the image (right), you can see that not too much as come back. Mrs. Lion will need to use a bright light to make sure she gets it all.

I’m very happy with this result. Over the years I’ve tried all sorts of hair removal methods. Initially, I used an epilator. This is painful but effective in producing stubble-free skin. It’s a lot of trouble and invariably my scrotum skin got caught and bled.

The most effective was laser hair removal. I got monthly treatments over nine months. It was expensive and painful. The pubic hair above my penis was almost completely eradicated. The hair directly over my cock as well as the hair on the shaft, stubbornly returned.

We also bought and used an IPL (Intense Pulsed Light) device. This is the home version of the laser. Over months, it did permanently remove some hair. It was also painful, especially on my balls and perineum. Most recently I shaved using a Venus razor.

I did some research into waxing. It looked like a good solution. It isn’t permanent, but it does a good job of clearing out hair. Professional waxing is expensive and difficult to get if you are male.  Pubic hair waxing for women is the most popular service offered. Few salons will do this for men. You can read about how we worked around this problem here.

The last two sessions, Mrs. Lion cleared all the hair off my body from toes to face, excluding my arms.  It’s a good look, I think. It takes over an hour to fully de-fur me. It may go faster today since much less hair has returned.

After all of my efforts to stay clean, waxing has proven to be the best for me. If you want to get rid of unwanted hair, you might want to try it too.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm, Orgasm denial

Lion snoozed a bit while we watched TV. After he was done snoozing, we started watching a show I like that he doesn’t. He asked if we could snuggle. Of course. When I moved over he asked if there was something wrong. Was I tired? I was but not too bad. He wondered because I wasn’t touching my weenie. I was watching my show, but OK.

Once I touched my weenie, of course, he sprang to life. Lion asked if I wanted him to pause the show. Nope. I was watching it. Then I wondered out loud how frustrating it would be if I didn’t actually get him to the edge but just kept playing with him for a long time. He didn’t know. Oh well. I decided we didn’t need to find out.

Instead, I edged him mercilessly. Every time he got near and seemed positive he was getting an orgasm, I stopped. Again and again. And then I finally went far enough for him. He said it was a week between orgasms. I told him that wasn’t a very long wait. He disagrees.

Later on he said I really didn’t have to play with him. He was fine snuggling. Then why did he ask? Sometimes (ok, it’s frequently) I don’t understand Lion. If snuggling was fine then not playing with my weenie wasn’t an issue. I know we can pause a TV show. I figured we’d wait another day for festivities. I know I could have put my foot down. Maybe it was a test and I failed miserably. Maybe Lion was looking for me to say I was watching my damn show and he’ll just have to chill out for another night.

It really didn’t bother me on the scale of recent annoyances. It’s more of a head-scratcher than anything. Things that make you go, “huh?”

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity
jail bird chastity device
My Jail Bird sits empty on my dresser, but our male chastity is stronger than ever.

More than a third of our marriage has been spent with me in male chastity. We’re close to completing our fifth year doing this. As the kink world goes, this is a remarkable achievement. Of course, there are others who have been at it even longer. Our adventure is fully documented in this blog. What we do now is very different than what I expected all those years ago. Our power exchange has evolved a great deal.

The biggest change, I think, is that we are not dependent on hardware to make male chastity work. When I asked Mrs. Lion to lock me up, I meant it literally. I spent 24-hours-a-day locked in a male chastity device for over three years. I was only released for teasing sessions as well as the occasional orgasm. It was on over 95% of the time.

A little over a year ago I had shoulder surgery. While it might have been possible to stay caged after the surgery, it would have been very difficult for me while I recovered. Mrs. Lion allowed me to remain wild (uncaged). The fact that my penis wasn’t encased in steel didn’t change anything in terms of male chastity. During this time we realized that the cage isn’t necessary for us.

My kink, at least when we started, was centered around the idea that I was helpless to get myself off. No matter how much I wanted to come, the physical device would keep me from it. A lot of guys who are into male chastity are motivated by this very hot sexual bondage fantasy.

The reality, as I’m sure you know, is that there isn’t a practical, escape-proof chastity device. So what? I asked to be locked up. I didn’t want it so that I could prove I could escape and jerk off. I wanted any choice as to if and when I ejaculate to be Mrs.Lion’s, not mine. Three years locked in my Jail Bird met that requirement. I could have pulled out, I suppose. I never tried.

I like the hardware a lot. It’s hot to feel my cock locked out of reach. It’s still a turn on for me. However, that has very little to do with male chastity. Yes, the device has been a great educational tool for Mrs. Lion. I haven’t masturbated in almost five years. I no longer want to. I’m conditioned on a very deep level to look to Mrs. Lion for my sexual pleasure. I know that if I “forget”, I’ll be back in the cage where I will nave no need to remember.

The bottom line in male chastity is that the male, me, has no control over if or when he can ejaculate. Mrs. Lion has full control. That’s the main kink, if you will. The device is a good training aid; no question about that. But at this point, it provides me with a nice way to play with my bondage fetish. I like being restrained. A chastity device restrains me full time!

A chastity device is not necessary to assure that I never ejaculate on my own or with anyone other than Mrs. Lion. I’m pretty sure I’ll be locked up at times. Mrs. Lion will do it because she knows it’s something I want. It’s also something I don’t want. It’s inconvenient and makes peeing a pain. It pinches now and then and requires adjustment. The first two weeks or so, I wonder what I was thinking about when I asked to be locked up. Then I settle in.

From my point of view, the biggest loss I feel when locked in a device is the inability to enjoy an erection. I get morning wood like most men. I also sometimes get an erection at night when falling asleep. I like those experiences. The cage is too small to support even slight growth.

The chastity device isn’t really part of our male chastity life. It’s now in the same category as butt plugs, dildos, and other BDSM toys. We’ve proven that we don’t need hardware for this power exchange. Male chastity isn’t about hardware. It’s all about control.

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm, Orgasm denial

Lion was tired when he got home last night. He was snoozing while we watched TV. We both got up early so he could get to work at the crack of dawn. I’m not sure what shape we’ll be in later but we can always snuggle.

I assume I’ll need to jump start Mr. Weenie next time we play. If he goes a few days without attention he tends to be difficult to rouse. I could be wrong. But I might start off with the butt plug just to get the ball rolling again. Any form of play (except the maximum strength Icy Hot) will get Lion in the mood if he isn’t already.

I was all ready to give him an orgasm the other night. I don’t know if tonight will be his night or not. If we’re too tired maybe tomorrow will be his night. I don’t usually have a particular night in mind anymore. It’s just whenever the mood strikes. If Lion had one when the mood struck, he’d have more orgasms. I think he’s a very lucky boy with all the orgasms he gets even when I make him wait.