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Lion annoyed me a few times in the past few days. He asked if he’d be punished. I said he probably should be. Sometimes I think it’s more trouble than it’s worth to punish him for annoying me. It seems more annoying to punish him than the annoyance that created it. But, I agreed to it so last night I whomped him.

split rubber spanking paddle
This is the heavy rubber split paddle (tawse). You can see some of the damage it did.

I used a rubber paddle with a split-tip. It wasn’t the one I was looking for. I was after the rubber paddle with the bigger head, but I found the split one first. Any port in a storm.

We’ve been trying to figure out why Lion bleeds when I swat him. He never used to bleed unless I hit him long and hard. I know I’m hitting harder, in general, but he bleeds more quickly than I think he should. Last night he put a pillow under him to see if that would help. If by “help” he meant would it make him bleed more, then mission accomplished. Normally he bleeds first on his right cheek and not on his left. His left is usually folded just under his cheek so he’ll get red on either side of the crease and a white stripe down the middle. Last night he bled first on the left side. It’s like we can’t win with the bleeding. [Lion — There is a pimple there that bled earlier in the day when I scratched it.]

Aside from the obvious breaking of skin, bleeding is not something I’m looking for because I can’t tell how red his buns are. Is he really that red or is it just the blood being transferred from the paddle? Unless I keep a wet cloth nearby to wipe him off, I just see red. The other issue is splatter. I felt some splatter hit my leg last night. That’s less of a problem than spreading blood on the carpet and other hard to clean areas. I didn’t actually see any blood on me, but I did feel it. It can get messy if I’m not careful.

I haven’t asked him this morning, but I doubt he feels any residual effects from being spanked. He rarely does. I know he was screaming into the comforter, but that’s not necessarily an indicator of his feeling it the next day. Some paddles just hurt more than others but don’t leave a lasting impression. I’m not necessarily going for bruises or even pain the next day. My job is to make it something he’ll work to avoid. I hope I’ve been doing a good job of that.

[Lion — She is!]

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As Mrs. Lion wrote in her post yesterday, COVID Brain, a sort of inertia has set in. I’m not sure exactly why she’s feeling this way, but clearly she’s finding it to be a problem to do most things including disciplining me.

I’m probably suffering from the same thing. It manifests itself by my general indifference to sex. I’m not sure I want to blame it on COVID-19 I think it’s more the pressure of being on furlough and worrying that I’ll never get back to work. The point is that it’s very bad for me to transfer worrying about things I can’t control to things I can.

We can probably fix things by doing what we always do: turn voluntary activities into mandatory ones. For example, on Tuesday night Mrs. Lion asked me if I wanted to do the Box O’Fun. I replied that I didn’t.

Inertia.

It’s my side of the equation that balances to Mrs. Lion’s lack of interest in disciplining me. This isn’t a new problem for us. It happened when we first started domestic discipline. We cured it by establishing concrete, easy-to-follow rules. Break one, get spanked. In the beginning, quite a few readers commented that it seemed cruel and unfair to spank me for something as trivial as spilling a little food on my shirt. It was unfair in the sense that it didn’t warrant so much pain, but it served its purpose: we learned to punish infractions of rules.

To this day I can expect a severe spanking if I spill food or eat first. It’s part of our marriage. It may be time to require some other things. Perhaps the Box O’Fun is mandatory every night or at least six out of seven nights. I agree that this should probably not start the day after an orgasm. I would suggest that it start on the third day. Mrs. Lion decides which nights to take off if she wishes. But, it is mandatory otherwise.

The next idea is a little more difficult to implement. Obviously deciding which things are annoying enough to warrant a spanking is very subjective. Mrs. Lion correctly pointed out that spanking me would just be another annoyance on top of the one that earned it. She also said that it’s difficult for her to decide what the threshold is for a spankable annoyance.

Should I be spanked because I asked her to turn on the window fan after she sat down? I agree it’s a small thing and in reality, I don’t think I could have avoided doing it. I can’t see very well on my left side and that is where the window and Mrs. Lion are at night. So it would be very unlikely I could ask her right at the time she was by the window.

On the other hand, spanking me for asking her after she sat down isn’t very different than me spilling a little food on my shirt. It’s certainly excusable in the broader scope of things. However, if Mrs. Lion is having an issue with deciding what warrants a spanking, the best way to start is to make anything that gives her that little twinge, spankable.

I agree that it would be even more annoying to turn on the fan then spank me. There’s no question that I would learn the lesson more quickly if she did. However, setting that up as a pattern will probably make it more difficult for her to decide to enforce anything. Instead, maybe she could just inform me that I committed a spankable offense. Then, at her earliest convenience when it wouldn’t be so annoying to her, she could spank me. She could also make it my job to remind her if she forgets.

She brought up another interesting point when we talked about this: What if I commit more than one offense within a day? I reminded her that this actually happened a few times when we were starting out. She spanked me two or three times a day for a few days. It was very unpleasant. It hasn’t happened since.

If I commit more than one spankable offense before she gets around to punishing the first one, should she just give me one spanking and make it cover both? In the past, she has operated this way. If she wants to do this, it works as far as I can tell. I think it would be more effective if I received a separate spanking for each offense. I have a very strong feeling that I would be much more careful if I received more than one spanking in a day. She could space them any way she wants.

I think we both understand that we are at another crossroads. Based on our past experience, it’s likely we will just have to bite the bullet and become inflexible for a while. Until we have developed disciplinary habits around annoying Mrs. Lion, I think every annoyance should be punished. I am very sure it won’t take me long to find ways to avoid earning annoyance spankings.

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Mrs. Lion hates it when I suggest what she “should” do. In my post yesterday, “Get Hard Or Else“, I responded to her post of the day before, “Communicate or be Spanked” where she suggested that on nights I don’t want play or get teased sexually, I might be spanked unless I had a good reason. I suggested that maybe this could be a less squishy rule that required me to get hard when she wanted.

I’m not trying to defend the fact I elaborated. I just want to avoid a trap we seem to fall into: When a rule is subjective like spanked for annoying Mrs. Lion, it doesn’t seem to get enforced. When the rule is concrete like, set up the coffeepot every day, Mrs. Lion is excellent in observing an infraction and punishing it. That’s why I tried to make her subjective concept into a more concrete one.

We both decided that there wasn’t enough spanking going on here. That may sound odd coming from me, but we both can all-too-easily stop something if we don’t consistently practice it. The maintenance spanking I got last Tuesday didn’t have the same effect on either of us that punishment has. We agreed to find more opportunities for me to earn a spanking. We both realize that the disciplinary part of our marriage has value for us that we don’t want to lose.

Given that, it seemed to me we could have a concrete easy-to-spot rule that would provide us with opportunities for more spanking. It also would take advantage of the connection I have with spanking and sex. That’s the reason for my proposal.

I suppose that means I want more spanking. I do, but it isn’t that simple. Mrs. Lion is willing to spank me if I ask her. Those “play” spankings have a very different feel. It may be because we both know I requested it. That puts me in control. That may also be the problem with maintenance spankings. I don’t earn them.

It is a very different feeling when I am to be spanked for breaking a rule. I feel a total loss of control as well as remorse for doing something wrong. I think Mrs. Lion also approaches it differently. She means business and wants me to learn something. She knows that if she doesn’t make a very strong, hopefully-lasting impression I won’t change.

This is where a sexual rule becomes tricky for her. Sex is for me. Mrs. Lion reasons that if I don’t want sex, there is no reason for her to impose it on me. That’s logically sound. Up until now, I’ve thought about orgasm control as Mrs. Lion preventing me from having orgasms unless she decides to give me one. It’s the basis for male chastity. In that sense, me not wanting sex is fine. It’s less work for my lioness.

When Mrs. Lion wrote about expecting me to want to play unless I had a good reason not to, I realized that orgasm control and male chastity has a flip side. If I’m not allowed to ejaculate without permission, shouldn’t any sexual response also be under her control? If she wants me to get hard and she is in control, shouldn’t I? If she wants me to pick a card from the Box O’Fun and then get what’s written on it, shouldn’t that happen?

After her post, I realized that it should. Preventing orgasm is pretty easy. She can lock my penis in a male chastity device or rely on my training to assure I won’t ejaculate without her making me. A much more interesting concept for me, at least, is the idea that if she wants me aroused, shouldn’t I obey?

I’ve reached a point when sometimes I’m not in the mood for sex. Recently, that’s happened frequently. It would be too easy to let me control when I get hard. In a way, it is the same as me deciding when I get spanked. It might work for some, but I don’t think it works for me.

My suggested rule may not work well either. I’m sure that in the beginning, I will get frequent spankings. That’s not a bad thing. I believe that punishing me for failing to be aroused will have the same effect that punishing me for spilling on my shirt had. I stopped spilling on my shirt. Wouldn’t that be a great outcome?

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In her post yesterday, “Communicate Or Be Spanked“, Mrs. Lion made it clear that when she wants me hard and interested in an orgasm, I better be or face a spanking. She did write that she would accept a good reason for not wanting sex, she would have to decide on just what would be acceptable. She also said that she didn’t want to be unfair and would not require me hard and panting too soon after she had gotten me to ejaculate.

I suppose this is a logical extension of male chastity. If you consider that orgasm control not only includes preventing orgasms unless authorized, it also should include producing orgasms when expected or at least produce an erection. In the past, Mrs. Lion has been more than happy to put off sexual activity if I didn’t feel like it. I haven’t felt like it for the last few days. Okay, I get it.

This isn’t any different than me being very horny and bugging Mrs. Lion to get me off. It’s probably just as aggravating for me to pass up on the sexual activity. I know that Mrs. Lion isn’t saying that she expects me to ejaculate or get spanked. She is very happy teasing me and putting off ejaculation. Apparently, she is not that happy about this lack of interest in any sexual activity.

It may be that a corrective spanking will revive my interest in sex. She may have thought of that when she wrote her post. We both have come to realize that more frequent disciplinary spankings do us both good. I guess failing to become erect after reasonable stimulation makes sense as a new rule. A hard penis automatically cancels any objections I may have made about not being interested. My penis is the ultimate “interest meter”. Since I am always naked at home, she can check the meter anytime she wants.

I guess that since the normal male sexual state is horny, the concept of using orgasm control to insist on arousal hasn’t come up in the past. I admit it. I would’ve never thought of this. I think it’s a good idea. I also think that we both have a very good sense of when, after an orgasm, I can reasonably be expected to get turned on. This is currently the second day after I come. So, if I ejaculate on Wednesday I should be ready to be aroused on Friday.

From my point of view, it would be a good idea to establish some parameters. For one thing, it’s exciting to have this sort of rule. For another, it keeps both of us honest in terms of what is expected and what will happen if I don’t meet that expectation. I also think it is fair to require me to be able to get aroused when Mrs. Lion wishes on any day after that second day. Exceptions could be made for illness. I think it’s important to my mental health to make that the only acceptable excuse.

There are two possible outcomes from establishing this new rule: The first is that I will be much more actively interested in producing erections for Mrs. Lion. I will understand that there are no excuses because it’s late, etc. The second is that I will probably end up getting more frequent spankings. This is also good because we both agree that I need much more regular discipline. I wrote about this in my post, “Much More Than A Spanking“.

If Mrs. Lion spanks me immediately after deciding I wasn’t being responsive enough, it will set up an association for me. Also, if after spanking me she tries again, it should become interesting. If I can’t get hard after I am punished, does that mean I need to be punished again right then and there? Or, does it mean that I get a pass for the night? Mrs. Lion may have to experiment to decide which is better.

Meanwhile, her thinking moves us in a new direction. She is demanding proper “performance” sexually as well as behaviorally. This could be interesting.