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The other day, Lion bought some new panties. He shared a picture on one of his posts. It’s been a while since I made him wear panties or a diaper. I just haven’t thought about it. Apparently, I should. We have other panties. I guess he thought we needed more because we haven’t been using them. Hint, hint.

I don’t usually think about humiliating him. I guess spanking could fall under that category, but I never thought of it that way. I’m sure if someone saw me punishing him, he would be humiliated. But no one does. Having a license plate that alludes to my spanking him is a little humiliating. I’m not sure which one of us it humiliates more though.

While I was looking for his razor case, I came across the nail polish I used to put on his toes a long time ago. I didn’t pull it out, but if he wants to be humiliated, I certainly can accommodate him. I don’t remember what colors we have, but giving him pretty toes is not unreasonable. Maybe his toes can match his panties. How’s that for a fashion statement?

I guess those are two ways that aren’t painful to show my power. He asked me the other day what I had in mind when I said there were other ways to show my power that weren’t painful. I had no answer. I wasn’t really thinking of any. I’m not sure if he was looking for ideas or if he was reminiscing about the good old days when he bought the panties. Like me, I am sure he forgot all about the nail polish. [Lion — I did.]

I haven’t posted since his latest orgasm. He didn’t give me much cream filling. But he did have a nice orgasm, so I’ll live with it. When he did the Edex shot, I pulled out some plastic clothespins. They are far meaner than wooden ones. Once I started putting them on, he pouted and said he thought he was getting oral sex. He can’t have both? Isn’t this the man who said he needed more play? Just because his previous oral sex didn’t end in an orgasm, doesn’t mean we’ll jump right into sex. No, no, no. If I had gone right for sex, he would have pouted that we didn’t play first.

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wife spanking husband cartoon

I asked Mrs. Lion what pain-free expressions of her power she had in mind when she wrote her post the other day. I asked her this while she was putting painful plastic clothespins on my balls.

“This is an expression of my power,” she said, then paused. “Well, it isn’t painless.”

I grunted in agreement. It hurt a lot. Then, she continued, “I don’t know.” There wasn’t further conversation as she continued alternating the application of clothespins and jerking me off. She removed them one at a time. It hurts more when they come off, and the blood rushes to the pinched spot on my scrotum. When the last pin came off, she invited me to lie across the bed for a blow job. I had a great orgasm.

Our conversation remains unfinished. Mrs. Lion is at a loss for ideas on how she can exercise her power and punish me without spanking me. Don’t get me wrong, spanking isn’t going anywhere. She announced a long time ago that infractions would always be punished with a spanking. She left room for other activities to add on as further incentives to correct my behavior.

What Mrs. Lion suggested that she wants are more ways to assert power when I don’t break a rule. She has also been searching for additional, non-serious, easy-for-me-to-break rules. We both miss her Catch And Spank game.

There’s a more serious side to these activities. When Mrs. Lion is active with Catch And Spank, she’s also much more likely to use her paddles to deal with times I annoy her. She’s always been challenged when it comes to creating and sustaining activities that reinforce our female-led relationship.

I have faith in my lioness. She will almost certainly find ways to make this work. She could use your help. iWhat works in your FLR? Is it just more “Just Because” spankings? Is it mouth-soaping and other childhood punishments? How do other women remind their husbands who is in charge? Your thoughts are most welcome.

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In an effort to return fun to our power exchange, I ordered some rather humiliating panties in my size. I know that Mrs. Lion sometimes enjoys having me wear panties just because she knows it embarrasses me to wear them. It turns me on when she does things like this that are a bit humiliating. I can’t explain it; I’m just wired this way. The reason it’s fun for her is more complicated.

Mrs. Lion likes games. She enjoys catching me breaking the rules. I’m not talking about the more serious offenses like interrupting or upsetting her. She has trouble punishing me for things like that. However, she likes being able to catch me breaking less emotionally loaded rules like forgetting to make the coffee or not sending her an email. It amuses her to catch me breaking them. I know she doesn’t get aroused by spanking me, but she does enjoy seeing my reaction when I realize I will be paddled. She also likes reminding me that I want her to do this.

Panties fit in this category, too. She likes reminding me that I asked her to make me wear them. I look silly and they aren’t very comfortable to wear. If I’m wearing panties, I cannot pretend she isn’t in cntrol. That’s what I reall want. I like feeling her exercise control. Spanking me is another powerful expression of her control.

In a post the other day she wrote,

“Even Lion can’t explain why he wants to be punished. Well, spanked. What makes that appealing to him? Is it my power over him?  He could get that in less painful ways. Is it the pain? He swears he’s not a masochist. I know he likes the idea of being spanked. He just doesn’t like the actual spanking. Maybe it’s not the pain then.”

Interesting point. What less painful ways was Mrs. Lion thinking about? She never told me. I am certainly open to them in addition to the spanking. She’s absolutely right that it is her power over me. The panties are an effort I’ve made to encourage her to demonstrate that power.

The problem is that she got out of the habit of demonstrating her power. It’s extra work for her. I don’t think that’s the reason she’s basically stopped. I think she got out of the habit. Mrs. Lion knows that I need her to make liberal use of her power on a frequent basis. It doesn’t have to be painful, but it can be, and I’ll welcome it.

So far it’s been my ideas: panties, Spankardy, anal play, and spanking. I’m sure she can come up with her own. Based on the quote from her post, she understands what I need. Catch and punish work well for both of us. We need easy-to-break rules to facilitate that. How she chooses to punish might challenge her creativity.

we are doing two things that look the same but are very different

So far, the lighter side of our power exchange looks exactly the same as the more serious part. The punishments are the same for failing to send an email or annoying my lioness. That’s because I suggested that all offenses be treated with the same degree of seriousness. I made that suggestion because we discovered that it was impossible to spank effectively and at the same time, spank less for lighter offenses. So, all offenses get ten minutes of intense spanking. If I break two rules in a day, the spanking is extended for another five minutes.

This has served us well, but it hasn’t given Mrs. Lion the flexibility she wants. I’m all in favor of giving her that opportunity. My ask is that she demonstrate her power much more frequently. I do want her to spank me. That’s proven effective and also satisfies a deep need. That doesn’t rule out other options. I welcome any that she would like to exercise.

Just as I suggested taking the hour after work to catch up on household stuff, maybe consciously setting time aside for exercising her power each day might be fun for both of us. I know that Mrs. Lion can be very creative when she sets her mind to it.

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stool with rough welcome mat on it for after spanking discomfort

Before we went on our trip, I was looking for the case for Lion’s razor. I’m pretty sure it’s in the disaster area that is our pantry. However, it could just as easily been in a box with things from our old bathroom. We had a cabinet that held things like that and most of it wound up in that box. It was worth a shot. It wasn’t there, but I kept moving the piece of doormat that was cut so Lion could sit on the stool with it under his freshly-spanked (and sore) bottom. We also have a board with tread tape on it for the same purpose.

I don’t know why I haven’t thought of it before, but the piece of doormat would be perfect for Lion to have under him in bed after I whomp his sexy tush. He always says his buns don’t hurt because the bed is soft. He doesn’t feel any lingering effects until he sits in his office chair. The doormat solves that problem. I may not give him long lasting “feels”, but the doormat sure will make him feel it afterwards. All from the comfort of his bed.

Lion thinks I’ve been taking it easy on him when I spank him. I haven’t been trying to take it easy. If anything, I’ve been ramping things up. Or at least I thought I was. The last time I spanked him, I stopped when he started bleeding. I just didn’t feel like dealing with the blood. However, he’d been yelping all the way through, just like he yelps every other time I swat him. I’ve been hitting harder and for longer bursts at a time. Then I slow down a bit for individual hard swats. It’s not necessarily to bruise him. I just like to vary things a bit. If he wants me to hit harder, I will. He may not like it, but he asked for it. Blood or no blood. And occasionally he’ll have to sit on the doormat in bed just to make sure he remembers he asked for it.