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When I read Lion’s post for this morning (“The Best Kept Secret Of Male Chastity“, I realized something. I don’t have any problem giving him an orgasm without him reciprocating, but I have a problem with my getting one without reciprocating to him. I know. I’m weird.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve tried to give Lion attention either simultaneously or after I’ve had an orgasm. He usually pushes me away. I suppose I can understand it when we’re giving each other oral sex. My working on him is distracting and he doesn’t want to finish before he’s done with me. But I don’t understand why he’d turn down sex afterwards. Maybe he’s always been in “submissive” mode. I know he hates that word but it’s all I can come up with. Maybe this will put Lion’s mind more at ease with his getting all the attention. He’s worried about being selfish, but I’m the one who’s selfish. I want him to have a good time, whether I have an orgasm or not.

Lion’s shock collar. He gets zapped when he misses a question. It always makes him jump.

Having said that, this absolutely does not mean that Lion will have an orgasm every time. That’s not how we roll. I’m still going to frustrate him more often than not. Maybe it’s payback for his telling me I don’t pay enough attention to him. Attention does not equal orgasm. In fact, maybe the more attention he says he’s lacking, the more frustrated I should make him. That might be an interesting twist. I think he’s going on fourteen days now. I wonder if he thinks he’s missing out yet?

It seems completely logical to me that after Lion gives me an orgasm, I “owe” him one. Of course, I don’t really owe him anything even if we weren’t in an FLR or practicing enforced chastity. If I wanted to give him a blow job, for example, I don’t think he’d immediately think he had to give me an orgasm. Obviously, this is assuming I’d want sex, which I don’t right now. Maybe that’s the reason I don’t mind things being so one-sided. Not my not wanting sex, but being concerned about reciprocation.

P.S. I was thinking about playing Zapardy! tonight. Lion better charge up the shock collar.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Sex

Men almost always suggest being put into male chastity. The biggest reason is that the resulting orgasm control is very hot for some men. There are endless stories and fantasies created describing how this could work. In real life, almost none of them are very exciting to our female partners. Believe it or not there is a big benefit for a woman with a partner who is locked in a male chastity device. It isn’t obvious and takes some time before she can take advantage of it.

Let’s start at the beginning. Sex for almost all of us is a reciprocal activity. That is the people enjoying it experience orgasms. We are all trained at some level to believe that each interaction should result in two satisfied partners. It makes sense. It turns out that this is not as easy to do is most of us think in the beginning. Women have considerably more trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse than they do when stimulated other ways. For many years it meant that women rarely had an orgasm during sex. Men, generally want more orgasms than women. This leads to secret sessions of male masturbation.

It also means that mutually satisfying sex is the exception rather than the norm. Maybe one of the big motivators for male chastity is a sense of guilt with the apparent inequality between the sexes. Also, a lot of men have a strong desire to feel some feminine authority. When a woman locks a man’s penis in a male chastity device, she has clear control over his ability to have sexual pleasure. A lot of women find this to be more trouble than fun. But they do it because they know it makes their men happy.

What they may not realize is that there is a secret benefit. If a man follows the general mythology of male chastity, he will want to provide orgasms for his partner even while locked up in a device that will prevent him from getting any pleasure himself. Some men believe that if they do a good job providing orgasms, their partners will unlock them and give them release. This is a transaction. I give you some really nice orgasms and you unlock me and get me off.

Regardless of the motivation, most of us who are practicing enforced male chastity get our orgasms in sessions dedicated to our pleasure. We give our partners orgasms when they want. Since our penises are unavailable at those times, we focus on giving pleasure. We have no real expectation of reciprocation. Over time, both people learn that sexual pleasure does not have to be mutual. In fact, it’s more fun if each partner experiences it without expecting anything in return.

As this becomes a habit, we learn to give pleasure without any expectation of getting some ourselves. For a man, this means he will focus on doing his very best to make his partner happy. In the back of his mind, he may believe that if he does a good job he will get his reward. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that he knows she will have fun and be sexually satisfied and, at least for the time being, he will not.

That’s the secret. Sex becomes something each partner gives the other. Even intercourse is considered something that is for the pleasure of one partner. Lots of men practicing male chastity penetrate their partners and provide them with orgasms and work very hard not to come themselves. Some men are lucky enough to be given the chance to have intercourse so they can ejaculate. In those sessions, their partners don’t expect an orgasm. The intercourse is purely for the pleasure of the male.

If a woman gets the greatest pleasure from receiving oral intercourse, her partner can do it as much as she wants. He doesn’t expect her to do anything other than enjoy herself. After all, he is under orgasm control and she hasn’t decided to let him ejaculate. When she does decide to unlock him (either physically or figuratively), she doesn’t expect pleasure for herself. She wants him to have a satisfactory orgasm.

This pattern of unrequited sex feels very odd at first, particularly to women. But over time it changes the texture of sex. It makes it possible to provide exactly what is wanted without any concern that it is “selfish”. Both people are happy. There’s no such thing as bad sex. All of this is made possible by timeshifting sexual pleasure. There is no better way to do this than through male chastity.

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We haven’t been sleeping well. I know I’m repeating myself. I think part of it is the change in weather. We had warm, sunny days for a while and then it turned back to overcast and rainy. We’ve both been sluggish and always make a list of things that should get done and it doesn’t happen. Lion’s been talking about making corn muffins and bread for weeks.

Yesterday, I had a work teleconference at 2. I was also trying to make masks so we’d have some protection when we went to his eye appointment this morning. Rather than wait for the stay-at-home order to finish, and our governor has already said he doesn’t think everyone should go back right away anyway, my work has decided to open on Monday. Yes, they’re giving us a four day notice. Thanks! I appreciate the heads up. Knowing that my work likes to take shortcuts, they are notoriously stingy with supplies, I have a gut feeling they want to crowd four of us in our regular office. They may not do it next week, but the week after, everyone is on a regular schedule. Everyone in the pool!

When I was done with the meeting, I had to make a few face masks so we could have some protection when we went to Lion’s eye appointment this morning. I took a few mask plans and stitched them together into a hybrid version that would allow for a coffee filter to be inserted for added security. I was working with a pillowcase and some 30-some year old sewing knowledge but I think they came out okay.

After the two and a half hour sewing foray, I sat down at my desk for a bit of a rest. I’d been standing and sitting and cutting and sewing and it seemed reasonable to take a few minutes to regroup. I heard Lion sigh from the bedroom. I asked if anything was wrong. He said no but in a way that meant yes. I challenged him on it and he said we always talk about playing early and we never do it. Seriously? He said it’s been two weeks and we haven’t done it more than a few times. And we said we were going to do it more this week when he wasn’t working. I apologized for having a meeting and needing to sew the masks. I apologized for not feeling well for a few days. (I even gave him most of a blow job while I had a headache the other day.) He says he hasn’t been sleeping well so the evening doesn’t work very well for him anymore. So, I dropped everything to give him some attention.

I pulled out some clothespins and attached them strategically. I started with a hand job while yanking on the clothespins to make them hurt more. There are a few spots that are always more sensitive. A little while in, I decided a hand job wasn’t going to cut it. It’s not that he wasn’t hard. I just figured he wouldn’t get very far. So I pulled off all the clothespins, making him wince with each one, and I started on a blow job. That got his attention. We were well on our way to the edge when he said he thought he was done for the moment. Within fifteen minutes or so, he was snoozing. Oh well. I tried.

Later on, I emailed my boss’s boss about working from home. To my surprise she got back to me today and seems somewhat in favor of it. Temporarily, of course. When Lion was out for his neck surgery, I asked about working from home. Most of my stuff is online. I sit in front of a computer all day. What difference does it make where I do it? I could be on the moon if someone could figure out how to get the paperwork to me. So I pleaded my case again. Lion and I both have underlying conditions that make the virus especially dangerous. If I can eliminate too much contact with the outside world, we have a better chance of surviving. I need to jump through a few hoops but I may be able to do it. Persistance might have done the trick.

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In: Body Waxing, Health and safety, Mrs Lion Comments, Panties
Lion is wearing these panties.

I haven’t been feeling well the past few days. I don’t know if it was connected or not, but it started with my stomach and with the stomach still lurking in the background, I got a headache. Then the headache lurked in the background and said just sleep off and on all day. And, of course, I didn’t get to sleep until 2 am so I slept late-ish this morning. Anyway, the point is, I’m not feeling 100%. There was no way I was going to give Lion any attention last night, play or sex or whatever you want to call it.

When I did the dinner dishes, I noticed Lion hadn’t put the coffee pot together. He’d taken his mid-morning break and was in the kitchen but he hadn’t done it. I was pretty sure I wouldn’t be in the mood to punish him when I “caught” him in the morning, so I decided to give him a hint. I asked if he forgot something. He didn’t think so. Then he thought of the coffee pot. He did it right away. As it turns out, I slept so late that he started the coffee anyway so he would have caught his mistake this morning.

I know what you’re thinking. I did him a disservice by reminding him. The way I look at it is I did myself a great service by not having to punish him. I really feel drained. It’s like I can’t possibly get enough sleep. I think Lion is in the same boat because he dozes off a lot too. Maybe it’s the social distancing coma. The more we don’t do things, the more we don’t want to do things. There’s no motivation.

Well, I do have some motivation today. I need to make us masks so we can take a fairly scary trip to Seattle to get Lion’s eyes checked. He’s losing some vision and his pressures need to be checked. Every time we leave the house, even if we follow all the guidelines, I’m afraid we’ll bring the virus home with us. Since hospitals already have all the sick people, it’s very scary to be going to one right now. Luckily, we won’t be anywhere near the emergency department or patient rooms. That makes it only slightly less scary.

I also have a video conference with work today. The scuttlebutt is that they want us back to work by May 4. The other boss would like it to be May 18. Obviously, of the two, I’d rather have May 18. But I really don’t think either is a safe bet. Even with masks there’s no real way to do social distancing in my tiny office. I know they need the income for the practice but I’m not sure it’s the right thing to do.

On Saturday or Sunday, I thought maybe I’d get around to waxing Lion this week. At that point, I didn’t feel yucky and he didn’t have a doctor’s appointment. I know after tomorrow neither of us are going anywhere so there’s no problem with pushing it off till Friday or the weekend or next week. I just want it on the record that I had the plan. It was me. Lion wasn’t nagging me. I know he wants it done. He’s mentioned it, but it was my plan. And then it went to hell like most of my other plans.

Today I’ll see if I can remain upright for more of the day. Maybe Lion will get some action during the day. If I can figure where I put his panties, maybe he’ll be wearing them this afternoon. Time to get motivated.

[Lion — She found them. I’m wearing them now.]