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We watched another football game last night so we didn’t play. It was late and I figured Lion was tired from making a yummy batch of stew. It made the house smell so good. Ironically, when I came out of the shower, Lion was watching Shark Tank and there was a product that helps couples with sex.

The concept is that there are two buttons. If you’d like sex, you push your button. If your partner would like sex, he or she pushes the other button. If both buttons are pushed it turns green and you know you’re both good to go. I laughed. For one thing, Lion is usually always ready to go. For another, why can’t you just ask your partner? Lion thought it was a good idea although he figured I’d never push it.

It’s true. I’d never push it for me, but I would push it to let Lion know I was willing to give him attention. I’m still not sure a button is required. I could just say “ya wanna?” and Lion would say “Hell yes!” and off we’d go.

The scenario the inventors gave was that the husband was working on his laptop in bed because he assumed the wife was too tired from her day, and the wife assumed it would take too much effort to drag the husband off his laptop, so no nookie tonight. If they had this magical button, they’d know from the green light that they had the green light for nookie.

It was also billed as a way to avoid being denied. In other words, if I push my button and Lion doesn’t (fat chance!) then I don’t have to stick my neck out to initiate, only to have him say no. Maybe this would help Lion’s inability to initiate. On the other hand, he doesn’t need it because he’s not supposed to initiate. Or so he says. I wouldn’t mind if he rolled over to snuggle with me sometimes. And, yes, I’d see that as a prelude to sex.

Anyway, the point is that I assumed it was too late last night and that he was tired. If we had the buttons, I would have known if he was looking for action. As well as we think we communicate, we still drop the ball a lot. Not unlike those football players we were watching last night.

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As Mrs. Lion wrote in her post yesterday, I got Autoblown. This is our latest male sex toy acquisition. It felt a little strange having my favorite sex toy (Mrs. Lion) sitting next to me while this new electric appliance pumped away. We plan to use it a few more times. Like most sex toys, it takes some time and testing before it can do its best work.

Aside from my native curiosity and the fact that I plan to write a comparison of male sex toys, the original motivation for getting it came from the realization that it was taking me a very long time to reach the edge. I reasoned that if Mrs. Lion had the help of a mechanical device it would spare her hands and mouth a lot of extra work. Once the mechanical sex machine got me reasonably close, I figured she could take over. Of course, the first problem is finding a sex machine that can get me reasonably close. I’m not an easy customer.

Autoblow ai. It felt good, but not great.

While I can’t claim that this first Autoblow experience was even close to orgasmic, it kept me hard the entire time we were using it and I had a semi-erection for quite some time after it came off. That’s pretty good considering that I was distracted by the need to wash off the lube.

I’m very sure that I’m over the hump so to speak since during my recent slump I almost never got an erection for nearly 3 weeks. Things are definitely perking up. Unfortunately, my wild days are numbered. The Evotion chastity device will probably get to me within the next couple of weeks. The folks at Evotion have the device ready but need locks for it. I’m very impressed that they use the German-made locks instead of the much cheaper, fairly low quality, Chinese versions. European products are much more secure. It’s fairly easy to pick a Chinese chastity lock. I saw a guy do it in a YouTube video using a foil condom wrapper. That is definitely not the case with the German product.

I’m probably within a week or two of needing waxing again. Mrs. Lion said that she really hates waxing my legs and she may send me to a professional to do that part of my anatomy. Mrs. Lion has become a very proficient waxer. At the same time, the hair grows back sparser and thinner. That also helps speed things up for her. My legs are several treatments behind the rest of me. That hair still grows back fairly thick and heavy. It won’t last under steady waxing.

mrs lion removed all of lion's body hair
Mrs. Lion is okay giving me a Lion-kini and chest waxing, but hates doing my legs.

We will probably resume anal training very soon. As with spanking, each time Mrs. Lion penetrates me she is more confident and less concerned about my verbal feedback. Before anyone gets upset that she doesn’t listen to me, she does but my verbal reactions to what she is doing turn out to be less reliable than what she can feel directly. There’s a certain amount of discomfort involved in anal training. As in all things, Mrs. Lion is the best judge of how much she should push me each time.

This is all within limits that I can handle. If I am really in trouble I can safeword and she will stop at once. There are times, maybe too many when I would rather she stop before she really should. It’s that time after I want her to stop and before it’s really too much for me that represents my best opportunity for growth.

The same is true of spanking. We both share the goal that a spanking should be felt for at least a day after it was administered. A few years ago, Mrs. Lion tried starting out with very hard swats. She couldn’t get past seven or eight before I rolled away. Two things were going on: The first was that I was unable to develop a tolerance for the sensation. The second was that I didn’t have enough experience to understand fully what I was feeling.

Over time, she learned that she needed to build up the force more gradually. When she did that, I was better able to manage the sensation. It did mean that at the beginning of spanking, it didn’t hurt very much. It turned out that was a great benefit. During that relatively painless time, I was able to adjust mentally and physically. When she stepped up the speed and intensity, the pain grew but not so much that I couldn’t hold still. Over time, she was able to do more and more as I learned to manage the sensations. Now, she has no trouble making me feel a spanking for a day or two after she’s finished. I also can tolerate it, but hate every minute. Job well done.

Anal training isn’t too different. The objective isn’t necessarily to cause me pain. It’s to teach me to relax enough to accept whatever she wishes to insert, even her entire hand. Just as with being trained to take a spanking, I have to learn to convert the unpleasant sensations into relaxing my sphincter muscles to allow her to complete penetration. Eventually, she will be able to do that.

I knew someone years ago who fisted all of the men she dated. She told me that with patience she could generally get the job done in the first session in less than an hour. I told her that I was pretty sure it would take more than that for me. We never got to try.

One of the things I like best about our power exchange is that I have to grow to meet Mrs. Lion’s requirements. I know that she doesn’t really want to hurt me, but she understands my need to accept her in every way possible. We both learned that spanking has moved from being a BDSM activity I’ve always enjoyed to becoming an excellent way to train me. Now that she has learned that things can only get better when she does this, she is far more willing to advance my education.

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I should start out by saying that I caught Lion interrupting me on Saturday night. I was going to tell him that was a freebie and he wouldn’t be punished, but he should watch his step. Unfortunately, we moved right on talking and I never told him. In his post this morning he said he expected he’d be punished, but he wrote that before he knew it was a freebie.

Lion wanted to test out the Autoblow ai last night. I hadn’t really looked at it before I retrieved it from his office. It is a cumbersome device. I know the electronics take up much of the room but it’s definitely not a sexy sex-machine. I hadn’t read any of the instructions, had no idea how it worked, didn’t even know it had to be plugged in. So many toys we have are rechargeable, it never occurred to me that the Autoblow wasn’t one of them.

I was fumbling around, trying to get things set up, trying to get myself into position and trying to get Lion into position. Lion suddenly told me that in order for this to work, it had to be fun. The only thing I’d said was that the Autoblow’s pursed lips looked weird. Fine. She’s beautiful and you’re lucky to have her.

I’d assumed I’d be holding the machine while Lion enjoyed the ride. After I helped guide him into it, I tried to get a better grip and he told me to stop moving it. Fine. Hands off. I don’t know why Lion was in such a mood, but I let it go. Maybe he was just preoccupied with his new friend. Maybe he was annoyed that it was late in the evening again. We’d gotten caught up in a surprisingly good football game so we didn’t play earlier. I know he was worried he wouldn’t be able to get hard enough so he might have been thinking about that as well. [Lion — All of the above.]

Since he was running the show, and I didn’t want to make any “unfun” comments, I sat quietly and watched as Lion changed from this speed to that and from this setting to that. When he commented on how things were going, I agreed or laughed as needed. I didn’t want to break the mood. He said the machine definitely wasn’t as good as I am. It was interesting and got him somewhat turned on, but he didn’t think it would ever get him all the way. I wonder how much of that is the fact that it was the maiden voyage or that I was sitting there watching him. Of course, he’s not allowed to use it if I’m not there, but I think you know what I mean. He had an audience. We decided he definitely needs to try it more than once for it to be a fair trial. [Lion — I also think that since it was only two days since my last orgasm, I wasn’t going to get that far. I liked that Mrs. Lion was watching. It’s been many years since I’ve been allowed to get sexual pleasure without a witness.]

Before bed, I told him since he’d complimented me on being better than the Autoblow, he didn’t have to set the coffeemaker up for Sunday morning. I was pretty sure he’d forgotten and I didn’t want him to get in trouble. He’d done a great job remembering it was punishment day, after all. There had to be some reward for that. It’s the first Saturday in a while he’s remembered. Yes, I know. Not being punished is its own reward, but I don’t often figure out rewards for Lion. I thought I’d be nice. You never know when I’ll need to be mean again.

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My slump appears to be at an end. We haven’t tested it, but let’s just say I seem a bit more responsive south of the border. It’s Saturday night and Mrs. Lion is preparing dinner. We’ve been buying Hello Fresh meal kits. We both like the convenience and quality. As a very nice side effect, cooking techniques we’ve learned from preparing these kits have made our ad-lib. cooking a lot better too.

We took a break from watching a divisional football playoff game for dinner preparation. I took the opportunity to get a shower and write this post while Mrs. Lion is working on dinner. During the game, she was texting with one of her friends. I somehow got roped into the interchange. In the middle of this rather confusing combination of us speaking and her typing, Mrs. Lion looked up at me and said, “You just interrupted me.”

She didn’t say anything else at the time. I’m guessing that after dinner she will want to open this topic again, this time with her paddle. In anticipation of this, after I showered I applied liberal amounts of skin softener to my rear end. I admit that I’ve been negligent with my butt softening routine. Hopefully, there won’t be any bleeding. I’m assuming that she is going to spank me. Maybe I’ll get lucky and she won’t.

I’m also hoping we can take the Autoblow on a test drive tonight. This is the Autoblow ai model. The manufacturer claims that he hired a machine learning consulting company to work with him and analyze over 2000 video blowjobs. The result of this analysis is a special pattern of motions the Autoblow provides. To facilitate this level of diversity, the device is capable of applying arousing sensations to different zones of the penis. That’s what their promotional video and literature claim. I’ll let you know what I think when I do my male sex machine roundup. I assume that we will have to use this device more than once before I get used to it and can fully appreciate its benefits.

The Autoblow has a stiff competitor. Mrs. Lion gives the most amazing blowjobs I’ve ever had. She’s in no danger of being replaced by crude automation. It’s interesting to me that over the last year or two male sex machines of various sorts have turned up. These devices, unlike the sex-shop crap that used to be available, are thoughtfully made and premium priced. I wonder what social comment one could make about this new market. Until very recently, premium sex machines were limited to devices intended to get women off.

I received an email today that my Evotion chastity device has completed production and will be shipping to me shortly. I look forward to giving it a nice, long try. I told the manufacturers that I had trouble in the past managing urination standing up with most of the devices I’ve tried. They said that they would be willing to work with me to help perfect a chastity device that makes using the toilet confidently more likely.

Mrs. Lion will give you the play-by-play of what happens later tonight in her Sunday afternoon post. Meanwhile, I admit that I am hoping Mrs. Lion forgets about my little faux pas when I interrupted her.

Fat chance!