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This morning the dog woke me up around 7:30. I tried to get out of bed without waking Lion. He said he was awake too and thought he was up for good. Once the dog came back in we fell back to sleep until 9:30. I guess we needed more sleep. Our plans had been to get breakfast at iHop and go to Costco. I wasn’t sure Lion still wanted to go since it was so late and generally iHop gets busy with the after-church crowd. He still wanted his all-you-can-eat pancakes, so off we went.

Halfway through breakfast Lion said, since the eye medicine makes him sleepy, he thought we should play in the afternoon. We can do that. Last night he was snoozing while we snuggled so I suggested we just snuggle. Playing in the afternoon will work today, but not on a weekday. I’m not sure how we’ll adjust then. There’s no reason we can’t play earlier, but it certainly won’t be afternoon. We’ll have to try different things until we hit upon the right timing.

At 8:50 last night, Lion remembered it was punishment day. I’d completely forgotten. Too bad he’d forgotten until it was too late to remind me. 8:30 is his deadline. He’s due some whacks today. We’re also scheduled to play our football spanking game. I’m not sure the two can be done in the same day. Well, the football swats don’t really do much to him. Scores generally happen far apart. I could do the punishment after the game. Or forego the football swats and just do penalties. That has more of an impact on him anyway. Of course, we could not do the football game altogether and do punishment whenever. I’ll have to decide which way to go.

We got Lion’s office somewhat cleaned up yesterday and installed his new monitor. My goal today is to get the dungeon cleaned up and put my rowing machine together. I’ll also make sure Lion has easier access to the exercise bike so he can strengthen his knee. Somewhere along the line I’ll throw the laundry in and clean up the kitchen/dining room. Still lots to do but I’ll make sure Lion gets his balls tied up and my weenie gets some attention. This is the first weekend in a long time that I feel we’ve actually accomplished something.

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lion's penis in shorter cages
Left, is my original Jail Bird. After about a year, I had it shortened from 1-3/4 in to 1-1/4 in. A couple of years after that, I had it shortened to just 1 in. Note that my penis fits comfortably in the one-inch cage.
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Physics plays a big part in chastity device comfort. The penis is filled with special, spongy tissue. When the penis is sexually aroused, this tissue fills with blood and creates an erection. Blood, like water is incompressible. That’s what makes the penis hard.

The energy pushing the blood into that tissue comes from the heart. If you have low blood pressure, erections can be difficult and not as hard as you might want. High blood pressure, on the other hand, can make you bigger and harder. I’m not suggesting high blood pressure is worth having to support nicer erections. Oh no, health risks far outweigh the ego boost a super cock might give you.

When it comes to a chastity device, the hard cage (or tube) prevents blood from filling the spongy tissue and prevents an erection. That’s the theory. There’s another factor. The more room the penis has to grow inside the cage, the more force the budding erection will exert against its prison. That’s why many guys experience the base ring moving up their cocks when they try to get hard.

it’s all a matter of physics. The more blood that can get into your penis before it encounters the cage, the more force it can apply to the device. Think of it this way, if the device is very short the penis can grow only a tiny bit, and not enough blood gets into it exert enough pressure to force the base ring to climb the penis. Theoretically, and from my experience, I learned that the shorter the chastity device the less pressure the inflating penis puts onto the device and its base ring.

The penis is an amazing structure. Not only can it expand in size and get hard enough to penetrate the tightest orifice, when flaccid it can compress to a tiny nub. Anyone who has gone swimming in cold water is aware how tiny his penis can get.

It’s this property of the penis that makes it possible to wear a chastity device that seems impossibly short. When the penis expands as an erection forms, most of the expansion is to the length. The diameter of the cock grows a bit but nothing like the length. That’s why it’s important to get a chastity device that fits properly across the diameter of the penis. I found that if you measure the diameter of your soft penis and subtract one quarter of an inch, you will have a good size for the diameter of the cage.

A lot of guys try to solve “cage creep” by decreasing the diameter of the base ring. They reason that a smaller ring will grip harder. It will, but it is virtually guaranteed to cause pain and irritation.  Once you find a base ring size that won’t let your balls escape and is just tight enough so that you can get a finger between it and your skin, you probably have the right size. It’s a good idea to buy a set of measuring rings (Mature Metal has a nice set at a reasonable price). The ring needs to move a bit as you do. Too tight a ring will chafe you as it tries to flex with your body. Some guys use lube to allow a tight ring to slip. That’s not good long term. It’s much better to have the right fit.

Collared Michael wrote a post in his blog yesterday (read it here) about his hardware. That post reminded me that I meant to write about device sizing. Thanks Michael! He mentioned that he has base ring creep when he attempts an erection. My advice to him and to you is to consider a drastically shorter cage.

I know, it’s expensive to have a custom cage shortened. I did it twice. My original Jail Bird was sized based on my average flaccid length. Over a bunch of measurements, my soft penis measures an average of 2 inches. The longest cage (far left in the image at the top of the page), is 1 3/4 inches long. As you can see in the picture, there are times when tip of my penis did not touch the end of the cage. Other times, it looked like a very good fit.

My problem with this cage was that when the tip of my cock wasn’t pressed against the bars, more often than not when I peed, I would make a mess. Other guys experience base ring creep with the cage that supports so much of the cock.

Mrs. Lion measured the distance between the end of the cage and the tip of my penis when it wasn’t pressing. The average was about 1/4 inch. We decided to shorten the cage from one and three-quarter inches to 1 1/4 inches. The middle picture shows the 1 1/4 inch version.

This cage stayed nicely in contact with the head of my cock almost all the time. There were occasions when even this very short cage appeared to be slightly too long. I wondered what would happen if I further shortened it. Before investing in the cost of shortening my Jail Bird, I went shopping for an off-the-shelf cage of approximately the right size.

lion in chinese chastity device
Short Chinese cage from dhgate.com.
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I found a cage about 1 inch long and 1 1/4 inches in diameter on dhgate.com (click here to go to the page for this product) It costs $25 and arrives about three weeks after ordering. It’s a nicely made chastity device. I began wearing it and discovered it was both comfortable and secure. After about two weeks testing this, I sent my Jail Bird back to Mature Metal and had them shorten it to just 1 inch in length. This is the shortest they can make this cage.

When we got it back, I put it on and it fit perfectly. Yes, my cock was compressed. The cage is just long enough for the head of my cock to be contained without squeezing. The photo top, right of this post is me wearing the 1 inch version.

I experienced absolutely no problems in this much-shorter cage. Attempted erections barely had a chance to get going. I still found “grill marks” on the head of my penis after an attempted erection. I think they’re cool. Accurately peeing is much easier in this shortest cage. It’s absolutely invisible under all of my clothing, including just my underwear.

The reason I didn’t just stay with the Chinese cage, is that it isn’t nearly as comfortable as the Jail Bird. The cost of shortening my cage was very reasonable. Mature Metal is very fair about pricing alterations. One thing that they cannot change is the diameter of the cage. Length is easy. Changing the diameter of the base ring is also inexpensive.

I strongly recommend very short cages. Aside from simplifying peeing and making the device more invisible, it also eliminates issues caused by attempted erections. I suggest you invest the 25 bucks and try a radically short cage. It does take a while to get used to, but it doesn’t hurt and ultimately solves some of the inconveniences wearing a chastity device creates.

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lion's butt after 200 swats
Just 200 swats applied in bursts to a single area. I managed to hold still.
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Aside from our punishment experiment, there was little action last night. Lion is back on the medication that makes him snooze at the drop of a hat, but I just decided snuggling was all we needed. I think Lion felt otherwise because he said he was horny. I’d just given him an orgasm the other night. That used to buy me a few days. (I’m kidding. I don’t give Lion orgasms so he’ll leave me alone.)

When I gave Lion the experimental swats, he said he wasn’t sure he could take many. Fair enough. I was prepared for as many or as few as he could take. I did decided to try his suggestion of hitting one cheek at a time. I think the problem is that the paddle I’ve been using is too wide to concentrate only in his sit spot. I seemed to create the same bruising pattern as before. Next time I’ll either use the bloodwood paddle with the rounded head or a weird stick-like paddle I haven’t tried yet.

spanked lion butt
This is the new long paddle. It’s only 1-3/4 inches wide, 20 inches long and and 3/4 inch thick. The marks on my butt came from this paddle, plus a few from the tenderizer.
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I think the stick paddle is too long but I’m willing to give it a go. I’ll have to adjust my swing a bit. I wonder if there’s a way to keep Lion’s crack open while I’m whomping him. I don’t really want him to have to hold it open. It would be awkward and I’m afraid I’ll catch his fingers. I don’t want to hold it open for the same reasons. Is there a kink shop that sells crack openers? It might be worth a look in the old Interwebs.

hanson ferule paddle
This is the Hanson ferule paddle in bloodwood.
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Today we ran a few errands and we have some chores to do around the house. I think we’ll play our football zapping game during the AFC game tomorrow. Perhaps Lion will get harder hits when the stupid Patriots score than when the Chiefs score. He doesn’t care about the NFC game so much, (Go Rams!) but we both hate the Patriots.

Regardless of chores and any other activities, Lion will definitely be getting some attention tonight. I’m thinking something along the line of tied up balls or clothespins – regular, not tiny, or the dreaded Velcro. I don’t think he’d be interested in a play spanking. He’s had too much attention in that area lately.

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For one reason or another we missed our spanking experiment until last night. Mrs. Lion was ready to go on Thursday night; I wasn’t. I was tired, my eyes were bothering me and nothing was further from my mind than getting a sore butt. I’m writing this post on Friday afternoon. We’ve agreed that our experiment will continue tonight.

Since we’ve been doing this for a while, my sore bottom reminded me to think about how it got that way. There are numerous options when it comes to beating butts. You wouldn’t think so; just raise paddle and aim between the middle of the upper thighs and the center of the bottom. Of course, that works, but there may be better ways.

As beating implements go, paddles are not very dangerous. Yes, they sting and can bruise. But it’s pretty difficult to do any serious damage as long as the target remains between the upper thighs and the center of the ass. I don’t recall any workshops on paddle technique. Spanking workshops did talk about paddling and suggested the different sensations of various sizes and weights of implement can inflict.I don’t recall any discussions about how to effectively wield them.

Our experiments provide a good, if painful platform for trying out different techniques. We’ve learned that when Mrs. Lion gives me bursts of 15 swats and then lets me rest, she can put a great deal more force into her spanking before I run away. Well, I don’t run away. I do try to roll away. That’s definitely something she does not approve of. I’m learning to handle harder swats, and longer streams of them.

Mrs. Lion distributes her swats over my lower bottom and upper thighs. I believe she tries to give equal time to the left and right sides. In my meditation about posterior pain, it occurred to me that maybe a more localized approach would prove more effective. By that I mean, she concentrate each group of swats on a single area. For example, if she is giving bursts of 20 swats, one burst could be on my lower left cheek the next on the right. This wouldn’t work on my upper thighs. They are way too sensitive to handle that much punishment.

Clearly this concept has limits. What made me think about it were pictures of other people’s spanked bottoms. The red areas were focused on the center of each cheek (by center, I mean from right to left). I’m sure this focus would make the spanking substantially more painful to receive and more memorable when sitting down later. Based on pictures of my spanked bottom, a more focused approach might also reduce some of the marking and bleeding on the sides of my cheeks.

The entire point of our experiment is to train me to hold still for punishing spankings. Admittedly, I’m a wimp when it comes to spankings. I’ve gotten better over time, but I’m still not where I think I should be. The experiment has another purpose. It teaches Mrs. Lion how to become a stricter disciplinarian. I think it’s been just as difficult for her to administer a strong spanking as it has been for me to receive it.

Excellent pattern

Our plan was to have Mrs. Lion deliver increasingly long bursts of swats — hard swats — so that I will learn to accept stronger spankings without trying to escape. It’s working. I suggest that we also work on her technique.

The image on the left shows a nice spanking pattern. Most of the swats were focused on the lower center of the bottom following the crease where the legs been sitting. Above that crease, is the area where weight rests on a seat. The pressure of the seat will irritate the spanked area and create a nice memory for the spankee.

My theory is that if Mrs. Lion focuses most of a group of swats on one of those target areas, she’ll create much more intense pain while she is marking me, and will assure it will be painful for me to sit for some time.

I am discovering that certain areas of my behind Sting a great deal more than others when they are swatted. It seems to me that these areas also correspond to where I’m likely to bleed. That means when Mrs. Lion wants me to yelp from horrible sting she can aim her blows on those side areas. When she wants to make a real impression she can focus towards my crack and on the lower portion of my bottom. Swats to the upper thigh are safe and extremely painful. A spanker can use them to punctuate a thought. She can also use them to bring back an escaping lion.

Much as I hate to admit it, she can play my ass like a musical instrument. One of the unique properties of a paddle is that it has the ability to both sting and thud depending on the strength of the blow and where it lands. In my opinion, a disciplinary spanking should be memorable. The longer I feel the results, the more likely I am to learn the lesson I was being taught.

It’s true that a stinging spanking is horrible. But within a short time afterward, it becomes an unpleasant memory. A deep thudding, bruising spanking will provide many painful reminders for days after the punishment ended.

My experiment spankings are approaching the severity of true discipline. Mrs. Lion is raising welts and bruises. More prolonged attention to smaller areas will also make the skin appear white. As the challenge increases, I will begin to sweat as I try to cope with the sensation. So far that hasn’t happened. It can also get the point where I produce tears. I don’t believe it’s crying it’s just a further extension of the spanking catharsis.

Mrs. Lion wondered how to differentiate a punishment spanking from our experiments. It’s a good question. I don’t think it’s necessary to do that. The experiments are pushing me as hard as I can be pushed. Each of our experiment spankings has produced welts and bruises and some trouble sitting for a day or two after. I don’t think a punishment spanking has to go further.

When I was punished for forgetting punishment day, Mrs. Lion started with much harder swats than she had been giving me in her experiment. I rolled away. True, I waited until the group was finished. But, I don’t know if I could’ve taken another group at that level of intensity. Were we worried that I wouldn’t understand I was being punished? Trust me, I knew.

What I’m saying is that after we continue our experiment a bit longer, I will be able to take those harder swats, longer groups, and more localized targets. That’s the point of the training. Admittedly we’ve set up an odd situation. Our experiments truly are disciplinary spankings. I suppose rather than make punishments worse during our experiment, it might make more sense to just repeat the experiment when I need to be punished. That should be bad enough. It takes me days to recover from one of our experiments.

Also, when I earn a punishment all bets are off. It doesn’t matter whether I’ve been spanked recently for any reason. I’ve done wrong and I have to pay. If I have to suffer the punishment on my recently-spanked bottom, I have no one to blame but myself. I think that spanking regardless of when the last spanking took place, differentiates punishment from planned activity. It’s been a long time since I’ve had two spankings less than two days apart.

One of these days, Mrs. Lion will bring the punishment stool up from the basement. Sitting on that for 10 or 15 minutes after being freshly spanked is a punishment all by itself. She has lots of options. Of course, she needs to feel good enough to expend the energy to take advantage of them.

I did it again. I offered inside tips on how to make me suffer. Silly Lion.