I rarely keep track of Lion’s orgasms. He does. Of course he does. He even puts the count in the subject line of emails he sends me. By the time I get home and we play I’ve forgotten if it’s been four days or eight. I go by how horny he is or just by whim. He will tell me after an orgasm how long he’s waited. Last night was five days.

Because of his medication we hadn’t played in a few days. How horny could he have been? Apparently the horniness builds up regardless of whether or not he actually feels like playing. I might consider yesterday as day one since we hadn’t played. No, no, no. The fire is still smoldering underneath the surface.

I find that funny. In the past he’s said that if we didn’t play for a while, eventually he’d lose interest. Does that only hold true if it’s me who doesn’t want to play? If he has an illness, the pilot light stays on. The furnace will be ignited as soon as he feels better. Whoosh! Eighty degrees in no time.

I’m not complaining. I’m merely observing Lion in his natural habitat. I like when he’s horny. I think he’s happier. Obviously he’s happier just after he’s had an orgasm, but he’s still very happy when he’s horny. Almost every touch elicits a purr from him. He’s just a big kitty cat looking for someone to rub his tummy – and elsewhere.

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This is a pair of panties that Mrs. Lion picked out for me. It’s fairly transparent. You can see the Jail Bird under it.
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One of the people I follow on Twitter, writes that she is new to the concept of femdom. She claims that her husband admitted seeing a professional who spanked him. She believed that he was cheating on her with this other woman. Lots of people let her know that pros rarely have sex with their clients. In any case, she decided to talk to him and find out just what was going on.

Not surprisingly, he told her that he wanted to be spanked. She thought about that for a while and then reluctantly took a riding crop to his bare behind. She liked it. Of course, so did he. This began the conversation they’ve been having about his fantasies. One of them, is cross dressing. She asked her twitter followers what it meant when a man wanted to wear women’s clothes.

I thought about my adventures wearing panties. In my case, I don’t get the sexual thrill dressing like a woman. But I do feel a titillating sense of potential humiliation. I know that if other people saw what I’m wearing under my jeans, it would be very embarrassing. This is sort of like the feeling I get having sex where I might be discovered.

Wearing my bunny-tail buttplug.

It’s also an expression of Mrs. Lion’s control over me. I like that. It is a turn on to have to do things like wearing panties, a diaper, or a bunny-tail butt plug. Even though I know she is the only one who will see me in this embarrassing state — except for you, of course — it still gets to me.

This is very different from the feeling of submission I get when Mrs. Lion punishes me. Being spanked and having to sit on the punishment stool makes me feel her raw power. Wearing panties or a bunny butt plug is a different sort of semi-humiliating feeling.

It’s been a while since I’ve done any of these things. Mrs. Lion has threatened to put me in panties and diapers; she’s even threatened to paint my toenails. So far, I’ve escaped.

For me, at least, wearing panties is exciting when I think about being forced to put them on. Once on, they feel like…underwear. I don’t get any long term titillation knowing that under my jeans I’m wearing a frilly thong. That doesn’t mean it’s ineffective. It just means that without being reminded I have them on, I don’t think about it. Of course, when I get undressed, there they are. Now that’s humiliating. I suppose that if my naked-at-home rule is modified to require me to wear those panties and nothing else, I would certainly be affected.

When I have to wear a diaper, that’s all I wear when I’m at home. It’s impossible to forget that I’m wearing a diaper even when I’m fully dressed. This is particularly true when the diaper is wet.

Mrs. Lion has made some rules about diaper wearing. Generally, I have to wear a wet diaper at all times. Essentially, the first diaper goes on dry and stays on even after I pee. Usually, I get to change the diaper just before I have to pee again. That way, I’m never dry.

Recently, I ran across a blurb for an adult diaper. It said that adults generally wear two diapers a day. That suggests that wet diapers are changed on a schedule rather than after getting wet. This might work for me so long as the diaper I’m wearing has the capacity to manage my output. In any case, the idea of scheduled changing has a certain appeal.

It’s odd that I consider these activities to be private humiliation. After all, pictures of me in these states are publicly available in this blog, and by extension, on an image search of Google or Bing. If you go on either image site and search “site:malechastityjournal.com“, you will see a large collection of images we published over the years. Most of them are of my genitals or ass. They also include me in diapers and with various toys up my butt.

Below my shoulders and above my knees, I am a very public lion. On this site alone, over a million people have intimate knowledge of my naughty bits. Of course, we’ve been careful and it is unlikely anyone is going to stop me on the street and tell me that they like my penis. I wonder how I’d react if that ever happened.

My latest theory is that if you start off a new year with health problems, things will get better as the year goes on. I won’t tempt fate and say things can’t get worse. They can always get worse. I’ll just be quietly optimistic over here in the corner.

Lion wasn’t much in the mood for play yesterday. Well, he might have been in the mood but his body was not willing. The eye drops he’s on make him sleepy and spacey. I didn’t give him his punishment swats either. I know he doesn’t have to be in the mood for punishment but he should be conscious. The good news is that he doesn’t have to take the drops that make him the sleepiest and spaciest. By tomorrow he should be back to his old Lion self and ready for action.

I stayed home from work this morning to take Lion to the eye doctor. Neither of us thought he’d be safe driving. Since the doctor was double-, triple- or quadruple-booked, we waited a long time to actually see him. By the time we got some lunch and made it home, it made little sense for me to go to work. I could have stayed late but some of the work I do requires phone calls and, while I personally could have gotten a lot done with no one else around, I couldn’t call offices that are closed. I’ll go in a little early tomorrow to get things done. East coast offices will be open so I can get a head start on those calls.

Somehow I think Lion and I feel closer when we know there won’t be any sex. When I played with my weenie yesterday and then Lion said he didn’t think he was really in the mood, we just snuggled. Every so often one of us would squeeze a little tighter. I’m not sure if that was encouragement that everything was still okay or what. Maybe part of it was Lion showing how much he appreciates the things I do for him and how understanding I am when he’s not in the mood. Maybe it was reinforcement of how much we mean to each other. At any rate, it was nice. [Lion — It was all of the above.]

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My Jail Bird base ring on my flaccid penis. It is a tight-but-comfortable fit.
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Very often, people new to enforced male chastity struggle with sizing the so-called base ring. This is the large ring through which you thread your cock and balls (works best when you put your balls one at a time through first, then your soft penis). The cage or tube locks to this ring. For some reason, the idea has circulated that the tighter this ring, the more secure the chastity device. I have no idea why people imagine that’s true.

Of course, I don’t think so-called security is even a factor in selecting a male chastity device. Any device that’s secured by a base ring around the cock and balls is escapable. Escape can be made much more difficult if the cage or tube is secured to a penis piercing. Frankly, I think that’s all irrelevant. Men are locked in a chastity device because they want to be. It’s not a female kink. This is strictly guy stuff.

I realize that there is a subculture of chastity enthusiasts whose main interest is escaping chastity devices. The hobby consists of making or buying devices that are supposed to be secure, and then escaping. I’m not writing to this group. To the rest of us, the male chastity device is meant to prevent unauthorized sexual activity. My Jail Bird is absolutely up to that task. It’s also hard enough to escape so that I’m not tempted to sneak out for a quick jerk off.

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Here I am with the cage attached to the base ring. Note how compressed my dick is.
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The purpose of the base ring is to provide a stable anchor for the cage or tube. It is supposed to be tight enough to prevent the entire chastity device from sliding outward when an erection is attempted. I call this “cage creep”. Cage creep is one of the most common complaints chastity device wearers have. It’s believed that a tighter ring (i.e. smaller diameter) will provide additional friction and stop this problem.

It probably will. But, too much friction is a bad thing. A tight ring won’t move with the body and as a result, will irritate the skin. A lot of guys regularly apply lubricating lotion under their rings. They find it effective. Of course, skin is meant to be dry and keeping it wet with one of these products can result in breakdown, sores, or other injuries. Additionally, too-tight a ring can restrict blood circulation as well. In any case, it’s pretty uncomfortable.

Adding the lube to a tight ring will reduce friction with the body and also promote cage creep. The cure sometimes is worse than the disease. My view is that cage creep is largely unrelated to the base ring; it has more to do with the available surface area inside the cage. More about that in a bit.

The best way to size a base ring is by testing. I know, most guys are very impatient to get that cage and lock it on. Unfortunately, there is a process that must be followed to assure a good fit. The first step is to test various diameter rings. I suggest starting with a one-and-three-quarter inch ring. This is the most popular size. By the way, you can purchase a set of test rings from Mature Metal. They are inexpensive and will save you a lot of grief in the long run.

Put on the one-and-three-quarter inch ring. Thread your balls and then your penis through. Pull it tight against your body. If it’s comfortable, leave it on 24 hours a day for at least a week. If it starts to irritate you, take it off. Wait a few days to let the irritation heal. Then, try the next larger size. Rinse and repeat.

If while wearing the ring, one of your balls escapes, the ring is too large. Try the next smaller size. If a ball doesn’t escape and the ring still feels large, continue wearing that ring for a full week and then, if you want, try the next smaller size.

You can take quite a while to determine what works best for you. Most of us, don’t have to go through too much of this. Get used to the idea that preparing to wear a device locked on your penis full-time takes considerable time and effort. Of course, if you’re the impatient type, buy an inexpensive device with a one-and-three-quarter inch ring (44 mm) and give it a whirl.

Bear in mind, that the base ring diameter is the most critical part of correctly fitting a chastity device. The next most critical dimension is pretty easy to determine. That is your penis diameter. A key to wearing a comfortable, secure device is a properly fitting cage. I’ve determined at least for me, that the length of the cage is not terribly critical. The diameter is. Here’s how to measure it.

If you don’t have calipers, take a piece of string and wrap it around your penis near the base. Of course, you should be soft for this. Mark where the end of the string overlaps the string you’ve wrapped around. Don’t pull tight. Just wrap it around your penis let it overlap the end and mark the spot where it overlaps.

Lay the ring out on the table and using a ruler, measure it. You now have the circumference of your penis. If you divide that measurement by 3.1416 you will get the diameter. For example if the string is 5.5 inches long, when you divide that by 3.1416 you get about 1.75 or 1 3/4 inches. That’s a pretty big penis. Mine is 1 1/2 inches in diameter. You get the idea.

I order my cages with a diameter that is one quarter of an inch less than the measured diameter of my soft penis. This assures that the side of my penis will always be in firm contact with the cage. Similarly, I order the lengths to be substantially shorter than my soft penis. The effect of following this guide, reduces the surface area of skin in contact with the chastity device. That, in turn, reduces the amount of force applied to the cage when you try to get hard.

By keeping the cage diameter just a little bit less than the actual diameter of your soft penis, when you attempt an erection a good deal of the force will be applied to the sides of the cage. Most of the pressure, however, will be applied to the end. The less blood the cage allows to get into your penis, the less pressure is available to cause cage creep. While a smaller base ring, will add enough friction to reduce cage creep, it will also create considerable discomfort and possibly injury.

Since the chastity device is not adjustable, getting the measurements right is critical. It takes time and energy to make the fit work. Sometimes you get lucky and the measurements you use from the start are correct; at least they seem to be. Over time, if you do end up wearing it full time, you will probably discover that some adjustments are necessary. That doesn’t mean that the size of your genitals has changed. You’ve become a more critical wearer.

It took a year before I realized that my cage was too long. It took another two years before I understood that I needed it even shorter. You can bypass this trial-and-error experimentation sometimes if you start out with a much shorter cage.

It’s a big decision when you decide to wear a chastity device full-time. You should probably expect that it will take some time, energy, and money to figure out how to size it properly. In the end, all this effort is worth it. At least I think so.