Fun Night
Last night Lion got six hard punishment swats with the rough side of the nasty paddle. He had eaten before I did at breakfast and he dropped his napkin at dinner. This time I told him he had to remain still or I would start again. I’ve never done that before. I gave him four swats and then told him he had two more coming. He took them all like a champ. And they were hard swats.
I inserted a larger butt plug. I think it is the same width as the smaller Njoy plug, but it is about three inches long and weighs quite a bit. He had a little trouble taking it. When I unplugged him about an hour later his buns were still rosy from the punishment swats. That rough paddle really does the trick.
Earlier in the day Lion said he wished he could lick me. I told him he could do it whenever he felt like it, but I didn’t want him to feel like he had to. He said he didn’t want to pressure me. Clearly we have issues in this area. I know he has trouble initiating so it always feels like he is forcing himself to do it. It’s sort of a catch-22. I don’t want to ask and he doesn’t want to pressure me. We have to find common ground.
When I had unplugged him, Lion asked if his front would be getting any attention. I told him I thought that could be arranged. I was thinking about just taking him out and exercising him. I wasn’t planning on edging him. What can I say? I love making him squirm. I edged him two or three times. Then, of course, I sucked him. And I kept playing with him while we snuggled. Then I asked him to lick me. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him move so fast. He gave me two or three orgasms. Forgive me for not being able to count. My mind (or rather the blood to my mind) was elsewhere.
While I did reap the benefits of him licking me, it was more for him than me. What would I do if Lion said I could no longer give him blow jobs? I wouldn’t be a happy person. I know he loves to give me orgasms too. So, I guess our common ground is that I will ask/allow him to do it more often whether I’m technically in the mood or not. I know I’ve said this before. But this time I am committed to it. I will never get back in the mood if I don’t try to prime the pump, so to speak.
Tonight I’ll use the clone dildo on Lion. Then I want to try out my nubby paddle. I know he’s very horny at this point but Mr. Weenie will not make an appearance tonight. He has four days to go and he should be getting grumbly soon. He’ll need to make sure the toddler doesn’t come out or he’ll be waiting longer.
Mailbag: I’m Too Big For That Cage
Only one email today, but one that I think affects a lot of us.
I Am Nine and a Half inches fully extended, about six and a half flaccid, have a big corona ridge and head, I would appreciated suggestions on how to get a good fit. I want to remain chaste and honest to my fiancé, When I wear a metal cage, head becomes swollen and red, I am concerned about permanent damage. Any real suggestions? This is for real. I enjoy enforced chastity for two reasons more intense orgasms, and It avoids jealousy because my Girlfriend. knows I was very promiscuous when I was single, I am willing to purchase a “Holy Trainer” but I do not want to spend that kind of money, then have it come apart.
You and I have the same problem, just yours is a very large penis, and mine, well you know. Off-the-shelf devices like the Holy Trainer work for the “average” guy. Actually, they don’t work too well for anyone, but at least if you are the right size for one of these, it will work. In your case, I suspect none of the CB’s or other plastic devices will end up fitting correctly. You may have to save your pennies, but I’m afraid that a custom device is needed.
You mention that a metal cage irritates the head of your penis. It’s probably not the stainless steel. It just doesn’t fit correctly. I suggest you contact one of the two main custom cage makers: Mature Metal or Steelworx. Both companies are happy to help you figure out the best device for you. While you are saving up, you can experiment with base rings. Mature Metal sells a set of rings that allow you to work out what is best for you. Alternatively, you can go to the local hardware store and buy metal rings in a wide range of sizes. Either way, try one, if it is too tight to wear for long, try the next size. I suggest that when you think you have the right size, wear that ring for at least two full weeks, 24 hours a day. If it remains comfortable and isn’t too loose (see our article Getting A Good Fit for more information), then that will be the size to order.
The best thing about custom devices is that the makers are willing to adjust them if you need a change. They charge a fair price for these adjustments. If you go the Holy Trainer or other off-the-shelf route, you may end up spending more money on replacing these devices than you would have spent to get one made for you.
I’m a Prude
On the way to work I was thinking about how bondage and other kinky sex is portrayed on television. Most of the time there is a woman who gets paid to inflict pain or humiliate a man. Then I started wondering how many women are actually out there (or men for that matter) who get paid for their services. And how do they do it? Are they really into inflicting pain or humiliation or are they just doing it for the money? I’m sure there are some of each.
Some years back, an acquaintance discovered that Lion likes me to tie him up. It turns out he wanted the same thing. He was sure his wife would not react favorably and wondered if I would do it. Wow. No. I told him I was very new to it and not at all interested in playing with anyone but Lion. We did tell him about a group he could contact for more information, and we encouraged him to talk to his wife. She might surprise him. I have no idea what the outcome was.
I could never play with random people. The only reason I play with Lion is because I love him and I want to make him happy. I’m not knocking anyone who does it. It’s just not me. To me, it’s an intimate thing that I could only share with someone I care about. Maybe I’m a prude in that respect. I find it funny that I might be considered a prude given the things I’ve done to Lion, but I’m sure there are people out there who feel that way.
Ultimately it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. As long as I make Lion happy (even by making him unhappy during a spanking or other activity) that’s all that matters. Which reminds me, he’s due some swats for eating before I did this morning.
I’ve Changed
There are days I wonder about the cage that hangs between my legs. After all this time you would think that I would have made my peace with being caged. I know, I know, it was my idea after all. I’m sure you are tired of me talking about it as well. I think the reason that I sometimes wonder about it is that I know that with or without the chastity device, I would not cheat on Mrs. Lion. So, what’s the point of wearing it?
There is a very good reason, at least in my case. Very simply, that little cage guarantees that I will not cheat. It doesn’t matter whether I wouldn’t or not. I can’t. At least I can’t without Mrs. Lion finding out. I know that it is possible to pull out of a device, though I have never tried it. But, as far as I know, getting back in without unlocking is not likely. So, the cage is a constant reminder that it simply isn’t up to me. I can be as horny as can be and want to come more than I want to breathe. But I can’t unless Mrs. Lion gives me that orgasm. I think about that. Then I think about how much I like Mrs. Lion controlling me, and I smile.
When she decides I need a spanking, I roll over on my stomach. I’m already naked. One of my rules is to be naked all the time at home. I can wear a t-shirt if I am cold, but my buns and genitals are always exposed. Lately, Mrs. Lion has been very strict with her spankings. I know it will really sting. I find it nearly impossible to hold still. She has said that at some point, if I move, she will begin again. So far, she hasn’t objected to my squirming. I think I would like to have to learn to hold still no matter how much it hurts.
Squirming is something she says she likes. I know that I can squirm when she is spanking me. When she is teasing me, I find myself bucking, hoping to provide that little bit of extra stimulation that will get me over the top. For the record, it never works. But I can’t help myself. I have to try.
She also said she likes the sounds I make when she teases me. Before being locked up, I was a very quiet lover; not silent, but not very expressive. I haven’t tried to make sounds, but now I am pretty noisy. I don’t know why, but I provide a lot of audible feedback.
These changes are all part of my lockup. When I notice them, or Mrs. Lion points it out, I realize that I am being conditioned to involuntarily behave differently. I wonder if this would extend to painful stimulus like a spanking. Can I learn to hold still without even thinking about it? Maybe I will find out.
