Over the years, we have gotten many requests for information about male chastity. Here are the three most common ones we get.

will my penis get smaller?

This is one of the most frequently asked questions about wearing a male chastity device. Since the device prevents erections, some men fear that their penises will shrink. This isn’t true. Erection prevention is frustrating but not at all harmful. The theory is that if it isn’t allowed to inflate the penis, it will lose flexibility and not grow as much. Aging will make your penis shrink a little, but not wearing a chastity device.

is orgasm control habit-forming?

Yes! I wore a male chastity device 24/7 for over three years. I was only unlocked when Mrs. Lion wanted to tease me or give me an orgasm. Otherwise, my penis was inaccessible to me. Once I was allowed to run wild (no cage), I lost my desire to masturbate. It just never occurred to me that I could jerk off. I haven’t gotten myself off since 2013–not once. I have learned to patiently wait for Mrs. Lion to give me release. I think she would be very surprised if I demanded an orgasm or tried to jerk off. It’s just the way things are. I don’t think that we could decide to stop. If we did, I probably wouldn’t get to have an orgasm until we decided to start again. I don’t control what sex I get. Mrs. Lion is in charge of that.

How can I try male chastity if I can’t get a device that fits?

This is a complex subject. We have several articles about fitting male chastity devices (see the menu at the top of our web page). The simple fact is that all penises are not alike. They vary in flaccid length, thickness, relationship to the scrotum, etc. You are very lucky if you can find an off-the-shelf male chastity device that is comfortable to wear. You can probably get a device that you can handle for a weekend for less than $50. Longer-term wear requires custom fitting.

First, forget about security. A male chastity device is not a prison that you can attempt to escape. It’s an educational aid to help a man learn to stop masturbating and allow his partner to control his sexual activities. It isn’t meant to challenge you to get your dick out. It’s there to help. Since men are the ones asking to be locked up, it makes no sense to try to escape. The important thing is to find a device that fits. You can do that, but it won’t be cheap. The typical custom device costs about $400. Once you decide that you want to be kept chaste, it’s worth the investment. We have several articles to help you.

There are lots of questions that people ask about chastity device fitting. If you read the various forums, I guarantee you will get more confused. The best thing to do is keep it simple. Try to buy a device that matches your measurements. Don’t worry, they will be wrong the first time. Fitting a device takes time and patience.

My “normal” flaccid penis. This is not even close to how short it often gets.

Out of idle curiosity, I searched “male chastity” on Amazon. Tons of Chinese chastity devices showed up. Judging by the promised delivery dates (June), they are shipping from China. FYI, dhgate.com (search chastity) has the same stuff and more at lower prices. More interesting to me is that many of the devices are short–lion short. My Jail Bird has a one-inch cage. It’s nice to see that chastity device makers are creating cages better suited for most of us.

penis turtle size
Turtle mode. A cage about the same length as the head will work perfectly.

Many men who want to buy a male chastity device will measure their cocks when they aren’t at their shortest. A properly fitting chastity device should fit so that the head of the penis is always in firm contact with the front of the cage. Most of us have penises that will “turtle” a good amount of time. This is the correct size for the cage. After several adjustments in cage size, I discovered that the best fit was the shortest cage.

shortened jail bird
This is my Jail Bird with the cage shortened to 1-1/4 inches. Now my urethra poked out almost all the time. (Click image to view larger)

If you leave any space in length, the head of the penis will wander, and peeing becomes a seriously messy game of chance. Also, erection control and comfort are improved with a properly sized cage. The diameter of the cage shouldn’t be too small. Ideally, your soft cock will comfortably fit. Squeezing the diameter can result in edema, swelling of the penis in an uncomfortable way.

Speaking of male chastity devices, I expect Mrs. Lion to lock me into my cock ring or a cage now that the little sore I had is healed. She’ll probably lock me into the cock ring. The cage has a spray risk even at its very short length. My urethra can wander and “bite” the bar. This results in a messy trip to the bathroom. She might choose to leave me wild since there is no risk of me jerking off.

Before I started dealing with chastity devices, I had no idea that my soft penis had so many moods. Other men may not turtle as much as me. It’s important to understand this shortest length. For me that meant my cage is only slightly longer than the length of my penis head. I suspect that most men aren’t much different.

Some time ago, I mentioned that I tested a safe for storing things like keys to a chastity device. The first unit I got was virtually unusable. There were big problems with the setup. It claimed it could be unlocked using voice, but it couldn’t. I complained to the company. They got back to me with a new device and improved software. Now the device can be unlocked using Amazon Alexa voice control.

The Pillar, by Lockedbrands (link to Amazon page), is a high-quality plastic safe. It is unlocked via either a phone app or voice. It isn’t cheap: $100. I think it is worth the money. I set it up so that only Mrs. Lion can open it. She can use our Echo devices at home and say, “Alexa ask my pillar to unlock,” and it will. After unlocking, it automatically resets to locked in a few seconds.

You open it by twisting 1/4-turn and lifting, just like opening a jar. You lock it by putting the top on and twisting until it clicks. There is plenty of room inside for more than just keys. You can store other valuables there too. Obviously, since it’s made of plastic, it can be “cracked” with a saw, but that’s not the point. You can’t open it without wrecking it unless you are authorized.

This device neatly solves the emergency key problem, at least at home. The keyholder can unlock the Pillar from anywhere her phone can connect to the internet. She can do it with her voice through the Alexa phone app or by clicking a button on the LockedBrands app. Think of how useful this could be for a findom or professional keyholder? She could set up any number of Pillars on her phone and unlock them for poor boys as she wishes. They would have five seconds from the time she clicks “Unlock” to open the Pillar and retrieve the key. Facetime is an easy way to assure the key goes back, and the Pillar gets relocked.

The Pillar solves the problem of digging out the key or unlock a box or safe to get it. Male chastity just got a lot more convenient for the keyholder.

I thought I solved the sizing issue with my Evotion male chastity device. I didn’t. As I wrote in my post yesterday, the new shaft section was 5/8 inches longer and a couple of millimeters wider. The idea was to take advantage of the ring that holds the head in place and allow more breathing room for my penis.

When Mrs. Lion locked it on, it seemed perfect. She had some trouble locking it together. That wasn’t the device’s fault, just lack of practice. Everything seemed to be exactly the way I hoped. However, within an hour the head of my penis had withdrawn into the shaft section while we were on the bed watching TV. My hope that a roomier cage would prevent a sore under the head couldn’t work.

The solution is probably to go back to the narrower shaft section. Some extra length might do the trick. Sizing this male chastity device has been a bit tricky for me. It’s not the fault of the device design or its seller, Evotion Wearables. It’s my wish to keep the head of my penis firmly in place. If I had a penis piercing, the device would be perfect. The piercing would fix my head to the top. I’m not prepared to be pierced again.

I might go back to the original shaft section. Perhaps if we approach locking me up by aligning the head of my penis before locking the shaft to the base ring, we can avoid any potential issues. I’ll talk it over with Mrs. Lion.

At this point, wearing a male chastity device is more to appeal to my love of bondage than it is to avoid unauthorized masturbation. My training has been very effective. I don’t even think about jerking off anymore. Mrs. Lion is happy if I remain wild. Maybe that’s the best thing at this point. I’m pretty sure I need a resized shaft section for my Orion. It takes about four weeks to get one designed and printed. Since I am out of work, we don’t have much spare cash. I may have to remain wild or go back to the Jail Bird or one of my other old devices. That’s too bad. I really love wearing my Evotion Orion. [Mrs. Lion — We’ll play around with getting the original to work. I think we’re on the right track with putting the shaft and cap together before connecting to the base ring. Don’t give up the ship just yet.]