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Last night I was fully prepared to swat Lion’s cute tushy. When I brought out some paddles to use after my hands were too sore, Lion asked if we could put it off to another night. Of course we can. If it was a punishment spanking I would have told him to roll over without hesitating at all. He doesn’t get to ask for a delay of that unless there’s an illness or injury. He’d been horny earlier in the day. I guess we just missed our window of opportunity.

Maybe I was wrong to allow him to delay even for a play spanking. It seems ridiculous to force him to do something he doesn’t want to do when he’s the one who’s supposed to get the benefit out of it. But I wonder if he’d get into it once we started. Sometimes he doesn’t think he’s very horny but I can make Mr. Weenie stand at attention. Is spanking, or any other play, something that you have to already be in the mood for long before it starts?

I know a lot of sex is in your mind. I know I’ve talked myself into orgasms in the past. When Lion feels bad that I don’t have orgasms and I agree to let him give me one even if I don’t really feel like it, I feel bad that it’s taking so long. Sometimes I have an internal discussion with myself. “This feels really good. What the hell are you doing? Come already!” I won’t say it works every time but a good, stern talking-to can go a long way.

I have no idea if Lion has these internal discussions. I here him mumbling to himself sometimes. Not during sex necessarily. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have internal discussions. I remember a friend who was dating a guy named Eddie. During sex he would say, “Come on, Eddie. Come on, Eddie. Come on, Eddie.” Apparently Eddie’s internal discussions spilled over.

If Lion doesn’t feel like a spanking tonight, I’ll suggest we try anyway.

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I was not feeling well yesterday. New medication was messing with me and I was also really tired. I’d feel okay, start to move and then I wasn’t okay. Needless to say, no play went on in our house last night.

Today, however, I’m determined to give Lion his play spanking. He was looking forward to it since I mentioned it in my post. He might have even been drooling at the thought of it. Since I forgot to take the new medicine this morning, I should be fine later.

I think the biggest difference between a play spanking and a punishment/maintenance spanking is that I start off a play spanking with my hands. Sometimes I only use my hands. Other times I graduate to paddles or floggers or a combination of things. I also stop from time to time to rub those rosy cheeks and even kiss them. I never do that during a punishment spanking.

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Sometimes (usually) I run into problems when Lion suggests changes. Or, more correctly, when I perceive he’s suggested a change. Case in point: his recent posts about cages.

Yesterday I suggested that the blog has replaced the cage when you consider the importance in our lives. The cage was meant to focus our attention on sex and play. It did its job. Now I think the blog has done the same thing. In my post I suggested that the cage is no longer needed, but perhaps we could use it, as Lion wrote in a different post, on weekends as a toy. He doesn’t like that idea.

Locking Lion up again has been something we’ve discussed off and on for a while. We haven’t come up with a solution. He wants to be locked up except when he is locked up. I want him to be locked up except when I have to lock him up or unlock him. It’s an inconvenience. Does that mean it’s not worth it? Up to now I think it does. We still have some thinking to do.

Lion had a lot going on yesterday and didn’t remind me about punishment day in his emails. I didn’t say anything. I just waited. He has until 8:30 pm. At around 7 he reminded me. He does have reminders set on his phone but if he’s not in the room when it dings he’s sort of out of luck. Good thing he remembered on his own.

I was thinking tonight might be a good night for a whomping. Of course, it doesn’t have to be a maintenance spanking. It might just be a good old fashioned play spanking. He hasn’t had one of those in a very long time.

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We’ve been wrestling with the maintenance spanking concept. Our maintenance spankings over the last weeks went from very infrequent to twice weekly. The problem, for me at least, is that these are full-scale punishment spankings. They have been getting progressively more severe each time I get one. This is planned. Mrs. Lion is perfecting her technique and I am learning to hold still.

Now that she is at a stage where I am really being punished, maintenance spankings are truly hard to take. I know, I know, they’re supposed to be. I mentioned to Mrs. Lion that if I’m being punished twice a week for practice, breaking a rule has no real consequence because I will be beaten anyway.

If these spankings, even if intense, were within my comfort zone for pain, then maintenance spankings would be exciting for me. Mrs. Lion calls spankings at that level “funishment”. Even though I hate them, they still turn me on to anticipate and remember.

At their current level, spankings go well past the funishment level. That’s good. It’s exactly what we both want. I know Mrs. Lion is successful because I am now in phase two of spanking reactions: I’m angry while she is spanking me.

The anger starts well past the point where she used to stop. This isn’t a dangerous anger. I’m not going to attack her. I feel angry that I am allowing myself to go through this. I don’t know if Mrs. Lion can sense when I reach this stage. If she does, it is the perfect time to remind me that the spanking is my fault. I misbehaved and if I don’t want more, then I have to learn not to do it again. It’s also a good time to require me to answer questions like, “Do you know why I’m spanking you?, Tell me what you did to deserve this.” It’s extremely humiliating to have to answer while being swatted. Any delay of response gets a very hard swat to remind me to speak up. You get the idea.

If my anger is turned back to myself for misbehaving, the spanking becomes a stronger incentive to behave. If there. Is no reminder, I tend to be angry that I allowed myself to let her spank me. My anger is at the spanking, not my behavior. It’s still effective. I do know why I’m being punished. But if the primal reaction to the pain can be redirected at teaching me to correct my offense, the conditioning is better.

Yesterday, Mrs. Lion told me that “maintenance” spankings would be “random”. She said that she would spank me if she doesn’t t like my behavior even if I don’t break a rule. Even if she labels it a maintenance spanking, in reality I’m being punished for displeasing her. This is exactly what she should do as my disciplining wife. It’s an evolutionary step in our female led relationship with discipline. It’s a move away from rules-based discipline to a more organic and natural expression of displeasure. Long ago, we agreed this was where we would like to go. We also agreed that punishment would be truly unpleasant for me. Neither of us was sure we would ever get there.

The rules were the start. This new idea could be progress toward our original goal. Certainly, the spankings are evolving. We may even get past the anger to the submission phase. That is the most transformational stage of spanking. It is the transition from mental rebellion to acceptance. It manifests itself differently for each individual. Some produce tears, others beg abjectly, some just silently accept their fate. I have no idea how I will behave. As we evolve, I will find out.

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