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I think one of the reasons I hate making Lion wait is that I feel like I’ve wasted too much time already. He says he wishes we had met earlier in life and I always tell him we met when we were supposed to meet. But the truth is, we did meet late. Then I wasted time waiting for him to initiate and allowing us to have a dry spell. So why would I want to make him wait now?

Technically I know there’s a difference between the two scenarios. The first was a general ignoring of his needs. This time part of his need is to be controlled, perhaps through denial. But for me it all comes down to the same thing. I feel I’m being mean to him by making him wait. Even if it’s what he wants.

Plus, of course, I love to give him orgasms. I like to see how many different ways I can make him come. Last night’s blow job was long and slow, not much movement at all, lots of tongue, fondling his balls, and then his hips started bucking. I want it to feel good from the beginning and build up to a point that he absolutely needs to come. I want him to wonder why I don’t just go faster and do it already. To me that’s nice torture. I’m not hurting him, but I am in complete control. That’s when it’s fun for me. But any time I give him an orgasm is fun for me.

Last night was day five of his latest wait. Even though it really wasn’t a five day wait. My fault. What can I say? When I need to make him come, I need to make him come. But I didn’t give him another date. Maybe we’ll take turns, as a reader suggested. One time he’ll have a set date and the next will be more fluid. I really like having it be a surprise to him. He won’t know until I take him over the edge if he will come or not.

This is one of the difficult parts of being in charge. I can’t make up my mind. Decisions, rules and punishment. Yuck! I guess I’ve got some thinking to do.

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One good thing about being in charge is that my decision is final whether Lion likes it or not.

Lion and I often (read: usually) have different takes on things. When he first suggested a contract some months ago, I said I didn’t think we needed one because we’d just use our common sense. Last week he decided a contract would help me feel less guilty when I’m doing mean things to him. He also wants to know specific times he’ll be teased or played with.

I’m more of a laid back person. I could never have a job in which I had meeting after meeting after meeting. I don’t like the structure. Lion thrives in that environment. I can understand why he would want a schedule of play times. He doesn’t want to be ignored or feel abandoned. But penciling him in for Thursday at 8 pm for a spanking doesn’t really work for me. I like a more spontaneous timing. I’m more likely to not want to play with him at that particular point in time simply because it’s forced.

As for his idea that a contract will make me more secure in the knowledge that he really wants me to hurt him? He could have a contract written in blood, and a tattoo across his butt that says “Spank here” and I wouldn’t feel any differently about going too far and really hurting him. I know he wants me to do these things to him. Otherwise I wouldn’t be doing them.

What if Lion wants to stop doing things? With or without a contract my answer is the same: let’s discuss it and we’ll come to a decision. He told me a long time ago that playing wasn’t important to him. Well that’s obviously not true. So if he wants to stop it’s most likely because he thinks I want to stop. I didn’t do all this work to give up now.

I do agree that we need to revisit things from time to time. That’s where the common sense comes in. Do we need a week off from chastity? Let’s discuss. What if we agreed to a week of ass play but two days in he’s too sore to continue? So we stop. Even if the contract says I can continue, we stop.

Whether we have a contract or not, if I am in charge, we’re using the common sense approach. Lion’s input is still needed. His suggestions and requests are still welcomed. I will decide what to do with it.

I will honor the schedule of teasing him every other day, which was my suggestion, unless it becomes too structured or smothering to me. At which point we’ll discuss it. Again, there’s that common sense.

And, for the record, Lion got another orgasm last night because I felt like giving him one. I know that’s two unscheduled orgasms when he was supposed to have a five day wait. Sue me! I wanted him to come. And what I say goes, contract or no contract.

[She has spoken! We do have very different views of the world. It’s one reason I love her so much. — Lion]

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Poor Lion is in the homestretch of his twelve day wait. The other day we got his Jail Bird back and with its shorter length I practically had to cram his horny weenie in it. Needless to say, last night he got teased through the cage. If I had let him out I may not have been able to get him back in.

That brings up an interesting problem. If he is so horny that just a gentle breeze gives him a raging hard-on, then how do I make him wait for an extended period of time. Once I take him out for tease and deny, he won’t be flaccid enough to lock him up again.

What are my options? I could keep his waits short. I wouldn’t mind that. Lion wouldn’t mind it either except he really does want to be denied for longer periods of time. We could switch back to the Chinese cage when it becomes too difficult to get him into the Jail Bird. He’ll hate that idea. It’s less comfortable and he may have to pee sitting down. We could get another Jail Bird made that is sized somewhere in between the old one and the resized one. That would be expensive, but it may be the best idea. We could do nothing. He’d have to learn to get soft enough to be caged again.

This will require some thought. There are pros and cons to each option. As always, we’ll discuss it and I will make the final decision.

In the meantime, Lion will get his release within the next ten hours. After the blood flow has returned to his brain, I will tell him what his new wait time will be. Will he be relieved? Will he be disappointed? Will he be frustrated? The only thing I know for sure is that he will be horny again tomorrow!

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Being a tease was a bad thing when I was in college. Now it’s something Lion wants me to do. I am learning to enjoy it and not feel guilty for leading him on. However, he is getting good at looking pathetic. It won’t work, Lion!

As I’ve mentioned before, I didn’t have a wild youth. I never went out with anyone until I was in college. No one ever called me a tease — until now. Back then the title would have had a negative connotation. Now I take pride in being able to tease my poor Lion right to the edge. And sometimes over the edge — accidentally or not.

It’s still difficult. It just feels like I’m the worst person in the world when I get him all riled up and leave him hanging. I know I hate when it happens to me. I have to keep telling myself that he really wants me to do it. I think that’s why it bothers me when he gets grumpy about it. If I forget that he asked for it, I feel guilty for denying him. Fortunately it’s been getting easier to remember that he asked to be caged. He asked to be denied. It’s all his fault. Blame it all on the poor Lion. So then I can laugh at him when he gives me his best pathetic look. He’s been working hard to perfect it.

I’ve decided he likes to grumble. Grumble, grumble, horny. Grumble, grumble, not fair. Grumble, grumble, grumble. Coupled with his pathetic look, it can get quite amusing. Sometimes I just smile at him. Sometimes I ignore him. (I think it’s more frustrating for him when his pleas are flatly ignored.) Sometimes I try to fix the situation. He grumbled that he didn’t have a firm date to shoot for so I gave him a firm date. Now he’s grumbling that it’s so far away. Poor boy. He really does need to be careful what he asks for. Next time it may be fifteen days. Or I may take pity on him and make it only five. I could always go back to the nightly regimen of orgasms. It might get boring if he knew he always had to make it the same length of time. Whatever method I use to determine it, I will definitely switch it up on him. As his tease, it’s my job to keep things interesting. How am I doing, my pet? [You are doing wonderfully (grumble, grumble, grumble, poor lion) — Lion]