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In: Femdom, Keyholder, Keyholder101, Lion's Journal, Punishment
remote control
This remote control gives the keyholder her invisible leash. Small and easy to operate, it takes male control to a new level. Once you determine the right setting that will signal your male without hurting him, enforcing compliance is as easy as holding the button longer. Or for correction, pressing the red +2 button for a stronger message.

Control is all about communication. The training collar is a silent form of communication that will provide the keyholder with a new level of control. Yesterday, we talked about the training collar that can be adapted to provide silent communication between the keyholder and her caged male. When I first tried the new training collar on, I was worried that I was in for a world of hurt. After all, this thing delivers electrical shocks! I envisioned the painful jolts I got when wiring and mistakenly touching a live wire. Now those shocks were going to be delivered under my balls; the most sensitive part of my anatomy. I was pleasantly surprised to discover that this device is not at all what I expected. In fact, Mrs. Lion had to keep dialing up the intensity until I could feel anything happening. It was easy to discover a setting that felt to me like a warm buzzing under my balls. It wasn’t painful at all. As we continued increasing the power it did get to the point where I really wanted it to stop. It wasn’t pleasant. But unlike the pain from a spanking or Icy Hot on my balls, when Mrs. Lion released the button, there was no residual pain. Nothing. This was new to me. It turns out that this transient “correction” is ideal for keyholder communication with her caged male.

Even if you aren’t interested in punishment or pain play, the collar and its little remote offer a great way to extend the caged male experience. Say hello to Male Control. Today we will look at how a keyholder can use the collar to silently direct her male to do things she wishes.

Come
This is a very useful command. It instructs the male to return to his keyholder. How many times have you wanted to  call him at a party, in a theater lobby, or a store? Wouldn’t it be convenient to be able to call him if he is within several hundred feet of you without even raising your voice? With the collar it’s easy. Just press the yellow button. Think of it as a doorbell. The first “ring” can be short and polite. If he doesn’t “hear” you, ring again pressing longer. You can press up to 5 seconds. If you still need to get his attention, try a series of buzzes, each about 5 seconds long. Don’t worry, you won’t injure him, but you should get his attention.

Sit
This may seem like a doggy command, but it actually useful for your caged male. If you are together and he is dominating the conversation or otherwise acting in a way that you want to calm down, press the yellow button three times in quick succession. He will learn that means to cool it.  I think you are seeing how this works.

Sexual commands
There are times when it is inconvenient to give verbal directions. For example, he is giving you oral attention. It’s nice but you want it more intense. Three quick pushes of the yellow button can tell him to lick faster. Similarly, a long, slow press can mean slow down. You can see the possibilities. You can also use the stimulation to distract him if he close to orgasm and you want to stop or delay it. This won’t necessarily work on the “signal” setting. You may need to press and hold the “+2” button until he indicates he has forgotten about his orgasm.

NO!
No is a correction. It means you want him to stop something he is doing now. Typically, behavioral correction had to wait for a convenient time to spank or otherwise punish. Now, you can correct him on the spot. Consider. You don’t like that he touches his genitals. Most males do this almost unconsciously. Saying “No!” loudly will remind him, but it is noisy and only temporarily effective. Your electronic leash can do so much more. If he has his collar on, if he touches, just give the +2 button a two-second push. It will provide an unpleasant reminder that he is breaking a rule. This isn’t really punishment; it’s correction. As soon as you release the button, the sensation ends. Each time he touches, you press the +2 button. It may not happen right away, but he will learn not to touch himself. This method of correction applies to any behavior you want to modify. What if he disregards your +2 correction? Simple. Raise the power and give a long pulse to him. If he is especially defiant, just keep increasing the intensity and length of time you hold down the button. He will lose interest in defying you very rapidly. All in real time.

Correction is not punishment. It is helping your male associate an unpleasant sensation with the behavior you want him to stop. He will get the point and you will extinguish the undesired behavior. For this to be effective, you need to correct every time he repeats the behavior. Don’t worry, it won’t take long for him to learn, and with some reminders now and then, he will learn to do what you want.

The invisible leash doesn’t necessarily replace punishment. Many caged males like the drama and humiliation of a spanking or other punishment. Discipline is appropriate when he is naughty. I consider that I am naughty when I am negligent or willful in not obeying a rule. A correction from the collar won’t help in that case. Being naughty isn’t as simple as interrupting or touching myself. It doesn’t really pay to correct for dropping something (Mrs. Lion swats me with a paddle when I do). But it is appropriate if I interrupt her since it stops me mid-interruption and I associate the unpleasant sensation with interrupting. The difference is subtle, but you probably see how it would work in your relationship.

One more thing. We are not able to tell you if this device will be effective for your male. Everyone is different and there could be problems with some especially sensitive people. You do this understanding that you are responsible and must exercise care and establish how he reacts. Don’t locate the collar anywhere above the waist. Under his balls seems to be a good spot since you don’t need very strong stimulation and the area is below the waist. We have only tried the specific product we have presented here. Training collars for larger dogs, anti-bark collars, and other brands may deliver more power. Always start with the lowest setting and give him a chance to react and tell you how it feels. Mrs. Lion and I are discovering the fun and power of the invisible leash. You may want to try one too.

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In: Chastity hardware, Femdom, Lion's Journal, Male Control (training)
little dog training collar
This training collar is a surprisingly effective, inexpensive training device. Before trying it, I was sure it would be just painful. In fact, it has subtle adjustments that make it work for signalling as well as corrections.

When I first got interested in forced male chastity, part of the appeal was the surrender of sexual control to my keyholder. My initial thought was that the only hardware required was the cage. If my keyholder controlled access to my penis, then sexual control automatically follows. That’s completely true in terms of if and when I can have an orgasm. This is certainly powerful and is enough for most people involved in forced chastity. We have written many posts about how to use this power and its effect on caged males. It turns out there is a new dimension to forced chastity: behavior control.

You may be thinking that withholding orgasm and spanking, etc. provides behavior control. It does,  but these measures are generally taken well after the infraction occurs. Also, they are a fun part of many people’s chastity experience. Well, thanks to modern science there is an inexpensive way to provide “training” in real time.  This device is the Little Dog Training Collar.

After reading about this product, I knew I had to have one. I had a feeling that I would regret the decision to buy it.  The idea of electric shocks under my balls just seemed too…well, extreme. The device arrived yesterday.  It’s smaller than I imagined. However, the collar itself is way too long to go around my cock and balls.

collar side view on cock
After adjusting the strap, the collar fits nicely around the cock and balls.

To fit it, simply remove the male (plug) part of the strap and the adjusting buckle. Don’t mess with the female side. The antenna is attached to that side of the strap.  Now locate the device so the contacts touch under the balls. and first wrap the female strap around the cock. Now, see how much strap you need to attach the male and keep the device in place. Next, attach the male connector on the strap at the point you measured. Test it. Is the fit good? If it is, all you need to do is remove the contacts (a pliers will do it easily) and punch holes in the strap so the male side’s loose end goes under the contacts. Before securing the contacts, remove the strap and trim it so that a small amount will protrude after securing under the contacts. Fuse the end with a match, screw the contacts back with the two straps under them and you are done. The result is comfortable and works!

As you can see in the side view, the device is under the balls and will not show through most clothes. That’s important since the device should be worn at all times the caged male is with his keyholder.

device under balls
This view from below shows how the device sits neatly under the balls. It is comfortable and doesn’t show under most clothes.

Comfort is important. The device should essentially disappear from the caged male’s attention. Once it was fitted, it was time to test. This was the part I dreaded. After all it is a shock collar! I imagined that I would be holding on to the ceiling with my fingernails. The reality turned out to be a big surprise. Mrs. Lion tried it at the lowest setting. Nothing. I was sure it was broken. We used the test light that came with it to see. The light went on. It was working. We verified that the contacts were touching my skin. They were. I was puzzled. We tried the next highest power. Nothing. The device has 16 power levels, 8 in a “low” range and 8 in a “high” range. Mrs. Lion kept moving up one power level at a time. At 6 in the low range, I could feel a small, not-unpleasant tingle. At 8, the highest setting in the low range, it felt like a gentle buzzing under my balls. At 2 in the high range, it felt like a hot vibrator; not painful, but obvious and impossible to miss. By the time we got to 4 in the high range, I got the message that I was being corrected. It hurt, but not a lot. It became clear to both of us that the device was usable for multiple purposes from signalling to strong correction. It isn’t some weird and frightening machine that only a true sadist would use. It’s a practical way to enhance forced chastity.

This collar has wonderful possibilities. It will enhance my keyholder’s control and move corrections into real time no matter where we are. Tomorrow, we will discuss how we can use this device for male training and control. Stay tuned.

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In: Femdom, Lion's Journal, Sex
tally marks
Keeping score. I have been on a daily orgasm regime for some time now.

In an earlier post, Mrs. Lion mentioned that caging me didn’t mean I would necessarily be denied orgasms, it could mean I would get many of them.  She even suggested I might have to come many times in a single day. This certainly sheds a new light on forced male chastity!

Her point is well taken. Most of us, especially caged males, think of forced chastity as a frustrating sexual desert. Many want that. They want the denial and teasing as a way to demonstrate sexual submission. Many celebrate how long they have gone without release. I admit that I never wanted to run the abstinence marathon. I want the sexual control. So when lioness wrote about daily orgasms as an activity for me, I scratched my head for a bit and then realized that this was a very valid form of sexual control.

The process began this last Wednesday I received a very nice handjob and enjoyed the orgasm immensely. The process was repeated every day except Saturday. On Saturday afternoon, lioness put IcyHot on my balls. I couldn’t take the burn and asked to wash it off. She let me. Then she said that since I didn’t suffer through the IcyHot, I wouldn’t get my daily orgasm. I was a little relieved. Orgasms resumed on Sunday when I was surprised with great oral sex. Last night I came yet again. My semen production is pretty low at this point, but it still feels great to get teased and then get release. Stay tuned. Apparently lioness is not done with the series.

She also wrote about multiple orgasms in a single day. It appears her plan is to masturbate me to orgasm every hour or two (or some other interval). This is great fun in the beginning, but after two or three, it gets uncomfortable (sore penis) and increasingly difficult to come. That difficulty makes it take longer and make the penis sorer. It’s funny how something we crave can turn into something we want to stop.

I wonder whether I will become conditioned to want sex much more frequently and as a result, make waiting even more difficult. Devious lioness!

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In: Femdom, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity
woman spanking naked man
One consequence of being a bottom is that yours can become pink for breaking a rule.

While I have been active in the leather community for decades, it was generally as a top. My forays into bottoming were two or three hour play sessions. Non of that prepared me for my current situation. Now that I have been caged, I find myself as a full-time bottom. I’ve written about this before, but not so personally. In my fantasies my keyholder made rules for me to follow, spanked me if I didn’t do as I should, and generally acted as my erotic goddess. I knew full well that if I asked to embark on forced male chastity that it would never be like that.

The reality has been much more difficult than I imagined. First of all, Mrs. Lion had no real idea what forced chastity was about. You could argue that I had no idea either when we started. I had worn devices for a few days at a time, so I at least understood the mechanics. I had my fantasies and I had my years of experience as a top. So, I was ahead of the game in that sense. I did know how it should be played.

There is a lot of difference between knowing and doing. The hardest lesson for me so far is for me to stop telling Mrs. Lion what I want. This is commonly called topping from the bottom. It can range from the obvious, “I like it better when you spank me this way.” to  subtle requests for attention. I was saying, “I’m horny.” way more often than I should. After realizing that I may be topping from the bottom, I figured the best move was to stop asking at all. That way, at least, I wouldn’t be topping.

This phase lasted a week or so. I mentioned to Mrs. Lion that I was avoiding signalling that I was horny. Her response surprised me. She said, “Why?”

I told her that I thought it was a form of topping. She pointed out that just because I said I wanted sex didn’t mean she would give it to me. She left me with the impression that as long as I didn’t make a pest of myself, she liked hearing if my sexual temperature was rising. Lesson learned. Don’t assume you are a good boy just because you shut up.

If you’ve been reading here, you know that I have some practical knowledge about effective physical topping. At the same time I stopped giving my sexual weather report, I also stopped making suggestions. Again, I was reminded that just because I have a bright idea doesn’t mean that Mrs. Lion will adopt it. Some of my ideas are getting adopted. One of them: a remote controlled doggy shock collar was really intriguing.

I talked about it with Mrs.Lion. We discussed what she could do with it. Then the subject dropped. On Sunday she said that she had been thinking. She hates when I interrupt her. She thought that the shocks would be a good way to train me not to do it. I agreed and ordered a shock collar for us. The collar arrives today. Since I ordered it Sunday,  I’ve had some time to consider the folly of my suggestions. This training tool has the potential to actually change my behavior. It won’t be pleasant for me and it will require me to change as my keyholder wishes.

That is a sobering thought. It’s what brought me to write on this topic. It’s one thing to be a good boy and get a nice spanking when naughty. The spanking takes preparation and work on the part of my keyholder. The shock collar just requires a press of a button to correct me. No erotic undressing, no assuming the position, no lengthy discipline ritual; just Zap no matter where I am and what I am wearing. Discipline is instant and unpleasant. As I think about it, that is exactly what discipline should be.  That doesn’t mean that I am looking forward to this new form of lion control. Well, maybe I am. It is exciting to contemplate. I have a feeling that my next post on this subject might have a different tone. It may turn into one of those things I hate while they happen, but get hard thinking about it afterward.