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Even though the bedroom was cool, I had trouble getting to sleep. I ended up streaming old “Shark Tank” episodes until after 2 AM. I don’t understand why this is happening. As promised, Mrs. Lion offered to play on Wednesday night (“General Yuck“). I declined at first and then got on our new massage table so she could test the height adjustment. She played with my cock and balls for a while. It was nice, but I couldn’t get very aroused. She decided the table needed to be a bit higher. Maybe we will try again tonight.

I’m still unspanked. We are at 42 days. I think that’s a record. I’m doing my chores and not pissing off my lioness. There’s a good chance that she is disregarding behavior that deserves correction. This happens if my bottom stays lily white too long. I don’t think that I let things slip.

Some couples add rituals to their spankings. I’m pretty sure that the guys want them. The rituals I’ve read about provide a dose of sexy humiliation. I admit that idea turned me on for a while. After all, spanking is inherently humiliating. Mrs. Lion refused to add anything to our punishments. She was right. The entire point of spanking me is to let me know I did something I shouldn’t. It’s punishment. It isn’t a BDSM scene. When Mrs. Lion spanks me, she’s calm and purposeful. Her objective is to give me a painful lesson, not sexy time.

The idea of being spanked turns me on. I like thinking about it. I don’t like the actual event. I’m not unusual in this respect. A lot of people find spanking hot. The trick in domestic discipline is to make the punishment anything but arousing. That’s a big reason why rituals don’t work for us. I can get turned on thinking about being spanked all I want. Mrs. Lion knows that when she starts paddling me, I lose any sexual thoughts.

Some people get aroused during a spanking. Women are more likely to react this way. Their sexual nerve endings are located in places that get a sexy bump when their bottoms are hit. Very few men are that lucky. That doesn’t mean the spanking doesn’t hurt. I’ve spanked a few women to tears while they were having an orgasm. Talk about confusing sensations!

It doesn’t matter if they have an orgasm or not. Some part of their consciousness recognizes that they displeased their spankers. The spanking underlines that displeasure. Even though spanking is a turn-on, I don’t know any men or women who consciously try to provoke punishment. That’s important. No matter how sexual the experience is, the fact that it is punishment stays in the foreground.

blog housekeeping

My vision has deteriorated over the last few years. Modern website design calls for lower contrast on web pages. For example, some (most) forms use light grey boxes to designate where to add data. I can’t see them. I can read the caption of the field they want, but I can’t easily find where to enter the data.

Another big problem is how links are shown. I was guilty of committing this sin. Many sites offer links in different colored type. People like me (color-blind folks, too) can’t see the color change. I have to guess whether something is a link or not. The theme I use for this blog doesn’t offer the option to underline links. I asked them for help, and they sent me a little code that fixed the problem. It’s not a perfect fix, but it works.

The biggest issue is that people, most bloggers, for example, choose graphic setups that they think look contemporary. This “modern” style calls for grey type on a colored background. OK, pure black type on white can be a bit much. Dark grey is pretty (I use it here) and works for people like me.

Type size is another issue. The default type size for most themes is too small for modern browsers. As screen resolution has increased, the rendering of the type gets smaller. Here’s why. The pixel is the smallest unit of measurement. Traditionally, we specify the type by the height of a capital “M.” On low res monitors, the 12-pixel type is quite large. On my monitor, it is very hard to read. The type on this page is 23 pixels. I added extra space between lines. That also makes it easier for me to read.

Making changes like this isn’t hard. It may take some searching, but it can be done. Fortunately, browsers allow me to magnify type on websites that render too small for me to read. On most browsers, CTL + will enlarge the type. CTL – will make it smaller, and CTL 0 returns to the default size. Bloggers, please be considerate of people like me. Thank you for listening.

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I may be heading for a spanking. We are coming on two weeks of good behavior. This puts my bottom into “just because” spanking territory. Once we go more than ten days, Mrs. Lion starts to lose her edge spotting behavioral issues. “Just because” spankings are as much for her as for me. Of course, I’m the one who will have trouble sitting for a day or two.

It’s probably no shock that I read other blogs about spanking and orgasm control. I’ve noticed that other bloggers I read are writing much less frequently. I’ve heard that some are getting less traffic than they have in the recent past. Our traffic is steady, but not growing. I would suggest that more frequent writing would help. I don’t think that male chastity and domestic discipline are particularly good TikToK or Instagram topics., but what do I know.

Let’s face it; one male rear end is pretty much the same as another when it is bent over for a spanking. All penises don’t look alike, but they aren’t so different that you could identify a guy by a picture of his cock. The same is true of female parts. Pictures of my butt or penis are only interesting because of what’s been done to them., not their inherent good looks.

A big issue for sex bloggers like us is that we evolve, and the subject matter we discuss changes subtly. For example, at the beginning (2014), I wrote a lot about male chastity devices. I had a lot to say about fitting and living in one. It was new to me. Over time, I grew used to wearing my male chastity device, and it became less interesting to write about. We both accepted male orgasm control as a fact of life. It wasn’t special for me to be horny and wishing to come. Edging was my most common sexual activity.

As a result, my writing moved away from chastity devices and into the more internal realization that the devices trained me not to masturbate. It wasn’t remarkable that I had to wait for a release. I’ve had to wait for the last nine years. It’s no big deal. That’s the problem. If you are new to male chastity and are going through the same things I did in 2014, reading my 2022 adventures isn’t very useful or interesting. The blog evolved away from its initial audience.

Our traffic stays high because we have static pages about the basics of male chastity, spanking, and domestic discipline. Google points interested readers to those articles, or they discover them independently by looking at the menu. A small number of people do a blog search for topics of interest.

I think that one reason bloggers I follow are writing less often is that they feel that they have said all that needs to be said on the subjects of their blogs. Mrs. Lion and I sometimes feel that way too. We are approaching our 6,000th post. There isn’t much to say about our kinks that we haven’t covered. Our approach is to report our current state of affairs. This is probably not interesting to a beginner but may be helpful to people further along in these kinks.

We started writing about how we got into male chastity and spanking. Then, we wrote about integrating it into our lives and marriage. Now, we talk about how we keep our interests alive and refine our understanding. I could have gone in another direction. I could have written about my current fantasies, no matter how impractical to implement. I think that would be hot reading, but it feels wrong to write about it here. I restrict my fantasy reporting to activities within the realm of possibility. Mrs. Lion usually tries any I propose. When she tries them, we both report on how we are doing.

Our blog was always meant to be a sexual journal. It’s our story. We write it for each other as much as we write it for you. I realize that most of our readers don’t follow the blog. They seek specific information. That’s fine. Most of our regular blog readers found us after searching for something of interest. I’m happy you are reading what we write.

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I started a survey on Twitter asking what sort of stuff our followers would like to read on the blog. So far (the survey has a couple of days to run), 72 percent want orgasm control and male chastity device posts. Only seven percent want to read about spanking, and 20 percent about domestic discipline. Since the survey is on Twitter, it may indicate what tweets people want to see. Some never discover the tweets announcing each post are linked to the blog.

Our site stats tell a different story. Bear in mind that a large percentage of our readers come from searches for specific topics. Nevertheless, it’s all we have. The largest number (since 2021) of readers go to our first page, which is the current post. Next is “How to cage your man,” a page about chastity devices and male chastity. The next most popular is “Disciplinary Wives HandbookChapter 2: How To Punish Your Husband.” This is a spanking page and was generally reached via searches. It was a close second to the male chastity page. The next page is “Now He’s Locked Up, What’s Next.”

Based on our site stats, it looks like there is a slight bias toward male chastity pages. Our most popular titles are static pages that can be reached via the menu on the top of our web page and in the mobile menu. This makes sense since these pages have been around for a while. Don’t get me wrong, there are thousands of page views for our blog posts, but none as popular as some of the static content. Far and away, our home page is the most popular.

Based on all this, I think our Twitter followers are biased toward male chastity. That’s not too surprising. All of the survey responses come via my personal followers. I didn’t retweet the poll on the site’s Twitter feed. We have another audience that I can’t track, our podcast. Our posts are provided as podcasts on most podcast providers. You can hear our posts if you have an Amazon Alexa by saying, “Alexa, play the Male Chastity Journal podcast.” Amazing, huh? We are also on Apple, Google, and lots of others. We use a computer voice for our posts. It isn’t that we need to hide as much as the time it would take to record each post.

We realize that orgasm control and male chastity are why we started the blog. It’s hard to write endless posts about frustrating me. Ho, hum, it’s been six days since my last orgasm. Nope, not exciting. That’s not to say that there isn’t more to write. There is. I plan to write about some of the long-term effects of being under orgasm control. I also want to write more about aging and all this stuff. Yes, we will also be writing about spanking and domestic discipline.

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Our site combines a blog and informational pages about topics that interest us. The blog is about our sexual journey that began with me asking Mrs. Lion to lock my penis in a male chastity device. That was a pretty kinky request but not too odd for me. Since that was nine years ago, we obviously liked it. The problem is that we evolved, and the need for hardware disappeared as we grew.

When we started, I thought that my penis would be locked in a male chastity device permanently. Well, not exactly permanently; it would come out for teasing and the occasional orgasm. For about three years, that was exactly what happened. Then we took a break. It was forced by shoulder surgery. After I recovered, the cage went back on. This time it didn’t stay. Mrs. Lion seemed to lose her taste for locking and unlocking a male chastity device. I was “wild” much of the time.

Eventually, the male chastity device came off and stayed off. It wasn’t just that Mrs. Lion didn’t want to take the time to lock and unlock me. There was no reason to bother. Its original purpose was to assure that I wouldn’t cheat by jerking off. Mrs. Lion’s first rule was that I was not allowed to masturbate. She made that rule in December 2013 and enforced it with a male chastity device. By the time I needed shoulder surgery, I had lost interest in masturbating. It didn’t occur to me that I could do it.

I was trained not to jerk off. If you had asked me if that would result from wearing a male chastity device in 2013, I would have laughed. I knew that the cage would prevent me from getting myself off, but once I was unlocked, I was sure I could go back to jerking off. I was wrong. The only orgasms I’ve experienced since we started were produced by my lioness–almost always with her hand. I wasn’t trained away from hand-made orgasms, just the ones I could do myself. Here I am in 2022, blogging on Male Chastity Journal with a wild penis. I still can’t jerk off, and Mrs. Lion decides if and when I can orgasm. We don’t use hardware to enforce it. I’m pretty sure that I will never be allowed to decide when  I can come. Mrs. Lion is permanently in charge of that.

another big change in direction

It isn’t that we stopped doing kinky things. They’ve evolved. A few years ago, Mrs. Lion began punishing me if I broke the rules. So far, the punishment is spanking. She’s been evolving her ability to spank me until she’s reached the point that she blisters my bottom when I need punishment. It’s true domestic discipline. I almost never get away with breaking a rule. We’ve chronicled our disciplinary journey in our blog.

The name Male Chastity Journal doesn’t fit our spanking posts. They often outnumber our sexual writing. It makes no sense to change our name. Our brand is well established. We don’t need to go through years of building a new one. I suppose that if I had any idea that things would change so much, I would have tried to find a more generic blog name. I did update the current masthead. I’m not at all sure that it matters to anyone but me.

In a way, it’s a good thing we evolved. There’s nothing new in male chastity devices. I thought that 3D printing would open up new vistas in male chastity devices. It hasn’t so far. I’m not surprised. A male chastity device is pretty simple. Ideally, it’s a tamper-proof container for the flaccid penis that is comfortable to wear and easy to keep clean. That’s it. Simple, right? Well, no. Our weenies are sensitive and easily injured. Any device that will be on it 24/7 has to fit perfectly. As far as I can see, nothing new has come along that is more comfortable.

Anyway, we aren’t writing much about male chastity nowadays. We write about male orgasm control and domestic discipline. We discuss what we’ve learned about effective adult spanking. As usual, you get both sides of the experience. Our name may be less accurate, but our kink is alive and well.