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For two days, Lion has been free range. I let him go free on turkey day, remembered to give him panties Friday and have forgotten since then. He also hasn’t been reminding me. That was never a rule. I just knew I’d need help remembering. For what it’s worth, I haven’t been reminding him to go on the treadmill. I guess that makes us even.

Apparently, the threat of a spanking woke Lion up. After he read my post yesterday, he loudly declared he was heading into the bedroom. I think I said, “So?” He clarified that he wanted to do an Edex shot. I guess he was going to do it whether I was in the room or not because I heard him tearing open the wrappers. Technically, there’s no rush for me to be in the room since his erection lasts a while, but he does need help aiming the needle to miss veins and get it in the right spot. I wasn’t busy, so I went to help.

He didn’t want any CBT. He must have been primed from the wait and from the threat of a spanking. And he was ready. It took a little while, but not as long as last time. Of course, I don’t time these things. I go by how long it takes me to get uncomfortable or when my arms start to fall asleep. Neither happened yesterday. Unfortunately, what else didn’t happen is cream filling. He has a theory that if he isn’t hard or fully erect, the semen has nowhere to “wait”. I don’t know if his theory is correct, but while he was hard, he wasn’t as long as he is sometimes. As I was sucking on him, I wondered if he’d prove his theory. I’ll need more experimentation to prove or disprove it. Lucky Lion.

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We were supposed to have some fun on Thanksgiving before dinner. It didn’t work out that way. So, then I thought maybe we could have some fun yesterday. Lion brought out the Edex and then we didn’t use it. It’s almost 2 pm and I don’t know if we’ll use it today. I’ve been doing a lot of chores around here. Mostly cleaning up things that I don’t get to cleaning up when I don’t have four days off. I’ve been a bit frustrated with things, but not as frustrated as Lion. He’s been wanting sex for days. I think I should put him out of his misery.

In my defense, he’s in his office until late afternoon most days. He’ll say I could tell him I want him for sex. I think if he wants sex, he would mention it. I know he has trouble initiating and then he thinks he’s becoming a chore. It’s really more of a problem when he says, “I guess no Edex tonight” after we’ve been hanging out for a while. Yes, I was probably on my iPad but that doesn’t stop him from telling me he’s hungry. Can he say, “I’m horny” instead of hungry?

I still haven’t tested out the new paddle. The original plan was to swat him the day after sex. Since sex has been elusive, so have the swats. I bet if I instituted the rule that he has to initiate in order to get sex, he’d initiate. And that’s more than bringing the Edex out to sit on his nightstand. He could tell me he brought out the Edex and then ask if we could use it. I’m not the desperately horny one. Okay, he never said he was desperate. But he is horny. Do something about it. (Not masturbation.)

On the other hand, he’s doing his own version of orgasm control now. It’s true I could deny him if he asks for sex. That’s one of the reasons he doesn’t like to initiate. Think of all the times I’ve had great ideas (to my mind) and he trashes them. Anyway, if he doesn’t want to initiate, maybe it should be fine by me. The longer he has to wait, the more desperate he may become. Will he finally initiate? I don’t know. It’s not like he hasn’t asked if we could use the Edex. How scared could he be?

Should I make a rule that if he doesn’t initiate, he gets spanked? How will I know he wants sex? He does tell me when he’s horny sometimes. He does bring out the Edex. If I work off of those cues, I could spank him if nothing happens that night. Of course, if he’s not feeling well or something else comes up, I wouldn’t hold him accountable. So, what do you think? I’ll start an impromptu poll here. Yea or nay for the new rule?

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Every so often, someone asks me how we manage our blog. It’s tempting to want to express yourself on the Internet. Blogging is a fun way to do that. If you want to create a sexually oriented blog, there are some issues to consider. There are two major providers of free blogs: blogger.com and wordpress.com. Both offer free, easy-to-setup blogging websites. WordPress.com prohibits sexual material and is very efficient at shutting blogs off without warning. Blogger does allow most sexual content. However, you will get a warning page in front of your site. Google owns Blogger and has threatened to shut down sexual sites in the past. They changed their minds and decided to allow them.

Our site is set up on a private Internet service provider (ISP). We pay for a shared server in the cloud. We got the necessary base software installed as part of the server. We had to set up and add other software we might need. The way we did it requires some knowledge of Linux administration and other technical skills. Given the size of our site, it was the only affordable way to go. More on our techy stuff at the end of this post.

There are many independent pay-to-play ISPs out there. Their services range in price from about five bucks a month up to, well, a lot. I’ve worked with two. Both offer good service at fair prices. For the record, I don’t get any money from either for suggesting their offerings.

The simplest to use and one of the cheapest is EasyWP on https://www.namecheap.com. I’ve been working with this company for many years. They are one of the world’s largest domain registrars and offer some nice additional services. One is EasyWP. EasyWP Turbo is only $68 for the first year and less than $100/year after that. The price includes unlimited bandwidth, free software installation, and 24/7 customer support. They have a cheaper tier, but it requires you to buy an SSL certificate (needed to do the “https:” instead of “http:”). It’s robust enough to handle a pretty busy blog. We used this service for a while.

The other ISP I’ve used is Hostgator.com. They are one of the largest web-hosting ISPs in the world. Their starter WordPress package is $5.95/month for the first three years (paid in advance). It goes way up after that. I’ve used them for vanilla blogs. I have no idea about whether or not they care about your content. They also offer very good tech support.

There are hundreds of other ISPs. I have used a couple I didn’t like. If you build a WordPress blog, there are excellent migration plugins available. Moving from one ISP to another is fairly simple and painless. It’s easy to move when the sale price period is over. Also, register your domain name even if you use Blogger or the free WordPress service. If you don’t, someone else might.

How our site works

This site lives in the AWS cloud. We are on an EC2 WordPress instance. Unlike Hostgator and Namecheap, we have full control of our virtual server. Our instance is 2 CPUs with 4GB ram and 80 GB solid state disk. We have installed database caching software and plugin (Redis) to support our site. We also run Matomo web statistics.

Our site is served via the AWS Cloudfront CDN (Content Delivery Network). This consists of more than 70 servers around the world that deliver our content to visitors. That’s free. This setup requires lots of reading and tinkering. There is some command line work installing and maintaining the non-WordPress software. It’s more expensive than Namechap or HostGator but a lot more powerful.

I don’t spend a ton of time managing our system. It took a while to set up. I just finished migrating to a different technical architecture on AWS. It wasn’t terribly hard to do, just lots of reading and finicky steps. We will save a few bucks a month with the new arrangement. Performance seems a little better too.

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Sous vide turkey breast (not ours).

Lion made the cranberry sauce the other day. We now have two quarts of it. I know he likes it, but wow. Whatever he doesn’t eat today, we can put it in smaller containers and freeze it. I suspect we’ll be eating turkey again for Christmas. Not a complaint. Actually, it’s more of a hope.

A few minutes ago, I cut the turkey breasts off the bone and tied them together, fat end to thin end, so they’ll cook evenly. I sealed it in a vacuum bag and put it in the sous vide water. We are boiling (I know it’s not hot enough to boil) our turkey this year. We have no idea how this is going to come out, but it’s worth a shot. One year, we smoked a turkey. I’ve been intrigued by frying a turkey, but not enough to actually want to try it. It can be dangerous and seems just a little odd to me. Anyway, we’re having boiled turkey. [Lion — It’s not boiled! The meat is in a Seal-A-Meal vacuum bag. It’s nice and dry. The water is set to cook the bird to the optimum roasted consistency. Sheesh!] The sweet potatoes are in the oven. They get roasted, although I have a feeling there must be a way to sous vide them. We’ll have mashed potatoes, stuffing, and gravy. No veggies. I mean, who has room or appetite for veggies? This is a meat and potatoes kind of holiday.

If I had bothered reading Lion’s email when he sent it yesterday, I would have known he was horny. I was in a push to get things done before our four days off. If we can get ahead, then those extra two days might not hurt as much. By the time I read his email, it was kind of late. However, as I did the dinner dishes, I decided we could play this afternoon before we were too fat to move from eating our boiled turkey. [Lion — Grrr. NOT boiled.] It’s also punishment day. I never did test out our new paddle. I think that should go on the weekend agenda. Maybe tomorrow.

I decided to give Lion something to be thankful for and told him he didn’t need panties today. He’s a free-range Lion. He’s still wearing his necklace. He asked me last night if I liked it on him. I said yes and asked if he liked it. He doesn’t. He does, however, like what it represents. Mission accomplished.