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By the time I got around to spanking Lion, it was after dinner. He didn’t like the idea of being spanked after dinner. Too bad. I worked late, we both fell asleep watching TV, and then I made dinner. It was the first chance I had to swat him. Sure, I could have given him a pass, but he breaks rules so seldom anymore and I almost never punish him for interrupting. I had to follow through.

I strapped him down more out of habit than anything else. I guess it’s a good thing because he hasn’t had many punishment spankings lately. He was bound to move. Or rather, he was bound so he wouldn’t move. I was free to swing away.

I used a variety of paddles. I’m not sure which ones hurt more. I bet Lion isn’t, either. He yelped a lot although I wasn’t even hitting as hard as I’ve hit him in the past. I did quite a few hard swats, with time in between for the insult to sink in. By the end, his butt was a little bloody. It stopped bleeding as soon as I wiped it off. Today he reports that it hurts to sit. I’d think so. It was a good spanking.

Tonight, I’ve promised him Mr. Weenie will get some attention. I don’t think he’s horny enough for another orgasm so soon, but you never know. I may just concentrate on edging him. I don’t know what else I’ll do to him to get him ready. If I can’t think of anything, there’s always the box o’fun. It hasn’t failed us yet.

Aside from weenie’s attention, I’ll continue to put my iPad down to give Lion attention. This weekend I’ll clean the living room and insist we give my idea of watching TV in the living room to keep him awake a chance. It may not work, but I’d like to try it.

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If you read Mrs. Lion’s post yesterday (“Trading Up For a Full Punishment“), you learned that Mrs. Lion caught me interrupting her when she was talking about lunch. That means instead of my rather-mild five-minute punishment day spanking, I’ll be getting a full ten minutes of punishment (No, my tenses aren’t confused. I’m writing this on Thursday afternoon.). This will be my first in a month. For the record, just because I’m writing about it doesn’t mean I’m happy to be getting punished. I’m not.

I have no way to know how many men are spanked by their wives. The only information I get is by reading blogs and forums. The guys who write and comment on them seem to get pleasure from endlessly discussing their behavior and how it motivated their wives to spank them. Many discussions center around things like other people witnessing their spankings, finding out that they get spanked, etc.

They almost never refer to being punished, only spanked. Every so often a guy will complain that his wife could use other forms of punishment. Those discussions are rare. Mrs. Lion always refers to punishing me. She will say that she will spank me as my punishment.

It seems that from the perspective of the guys writing about being spanked, the key is the humiliation of submitting to the spanking. Not the actual paddling. That suggests the sexual component to domestic discipline is stronger than most of us want to admit.

Our partners may already know about the strong sexual connection. I know that Mrs. Lion understands it. Some may believe that they are actually rewarding us with a spanking if it provides sexual arousal. Based on my experience and what I’ve read, the sexual component is irrelevant to the disciplinary benefits a spanking provides.

I haven’t found a single husband in domestic discipline who doesn’t get turned on by the idea of being spanked. It’s this sexual need that drives us to ask our wives to spank us. When Mrs. Lion began punishing me, I had an erection when she started. I don’t anymore, but I still find thinking about being spanked arousing. As one woman wrote, the arousal makes her husband meekly get into position for a spanking. It’s the bait that draws us into the trap.

Once our wives learn that they aren’t spanking us to please us, the beatings become a lot more painful. Ironically, the fantasy is to have a wife who mercilessly spanks for any infraction. Once our wives make that fantasy come to life, it’s too late to back down. When Mrs. Lion punishes me, she wants it to hurt. If she straps me down, I know that she isn’t going to worry about me rearing up. I’m going to feel her wrath for at least two days after she’s beaten me.

What’s weird is that I like that idea. Sitting at my desk about an hour away from that beating, the thought turns me on. When I’m riding the spanking bench, I’m not going to feel so good about it. It’s a complex set of emotions. A smart wife understands how to use this to help her husband improve.

A strict wife can’t cure serious behavioral problems. Drinking and drugs can’t be spanked away. Less serious behavioral issues respond surprisingly well to the application of a paddle. When we started, neither of us had any serious belief that I would make real changes as a result of Mrs. Lion spanking me. We were wrong. It didn’t matter that I found the idea of spanking arousing. It had nothing to do with whether or not I was hard when she started. I can honestly say that without any conscious effort on my part, I learned to avoid doing the things that earned me a spanking.

I’m still surprised by this. If Mrs. Lion consistently punishes me for something, I will change. The changes are happening below my consciousness. I can’t explain it. I change. OK, the change isn’t usually permanent. I will slip once in a while. If Mrs. Lion spanks me every time I do, the change becomes more permanent. It seems crazy, but domestic discipline works.

Think I’ll learn not to interrupt Mrs. Lion?

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When I started to list off our lunch choices, Lion interrupted me. I guess he wanted to extend his punishment day spanking to the full ten-minute real punishment. He said he didn’t know he was interrupting. Obviously. I hope he wouldn’t do it intentionally unless it was something important like my hair being on fire. But he did it and now must deal with the consequences.

In this morning’s post, Lion talked about my iPad usage. He’s complained about this before and I cut down a lot. Then, I’d be watching TV, holding his hand, and he’d be snoozing. Sometimes he’d snooze while we were snuggling. When I brought that up, he said it shows how comfortable we are with each other. I guess that’s true. Sometimes I fall asleep while we’re snuggling. On the other hand, isn’t his falling asleep and leaving me watching TV sort of the same as me being on my iPad leaving him watching TV?

He’ll say he doesn’t intentionally fall asleep. He’ll say that I can wake him up. I believe he doesn’t do it intentionally. However, it doesn’t always work when I try to wake him. Other times, he wakes up but goes right back to sleep. It wasn’t really a quid pro quo, but I decided to use my iPad while he slept, and then it just became habit to always use it again. I went overboard. I can reel it back in.

As far as Lion’s snoozing is concerned, I know “old” people fall asleep in front of the TV all the time. I don’t know if there’s a solution to Lion’s naps. I know. He’s a big cat and big cats sleep a lot. I wondered, a few posts back, whether sitting in the living room would curb his ability to fall asleep. If I remember correctly, he’s said he doesn’t like to use the living room because it’s not comfortable. Maybe that’s precisely why we need to use it. Maybe he won’t fall asleep so often if he isn’t comfortable. I’m sure it will take some getting used to, but the couch isn’t that bad. It’s a loveseat so we’ll be closer together than in bed. There’s no gap between the cushions.

What do you think, Lion?

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I had a lot of fun on Tuesday. Mrs.Lion spanked me for five minutes. She was gentle, so it felt more like a play spanking. That was followed by a nice handjob. Mrs. Lion used light mineral oil to lube me up. It was big fun.  It feels like it’s been a long time since we’ve been spontaneous in our touching and snuggling. I blame our bed(s) for this. When we had a regular king-sized bed, it was very easy to touch in one way or another without any fuss or bother. Our current split-king–two xl singles next to one another–puts a kind of valley between us and makes it hard for us to congregate in the middle of the bed.

As you can see in the image, there is a gap between the mattresses. Even if we adjust them so they are at the same angle, it’s difficult to snuggle. We like the ability to adjust the beds. I generally stay up later than Mrs. Lion and keep my bed up so I can watch TV while she flattens hers to go to sleep. This wouldn’t be possible on a single mattress.

There are products that claim to “fill” the gap. I’m not sure that’s the answer. We have separate bottom sheets and a king-sized top sheet and comforter. Assuming there is a way to update the bed, it will cost a lot. Sleep Number mattresses are in the $2,000 range. Unless I sell a book, we probably can’t afford to do it, even if it is possible.

There’s another issue that has nothing to do with the bed. I watch TV and Mrs. Lion spends her entire evening with her head in her iPad. It’s impossible to snuggle while on Facebook or playing a game. Granted, the TV shows don’t require full attention, but being present with me isn’t possible as long as the iPad is king. This has been going on a very long time. Mrs. Lion is addicted to Facebook and iPad games. It may not seem like a problem, but the screen is a major distraction. By definition, it’s solitary. TV may be sort of mind-numbing, but it is a shared experience.

It would be unfair for me to demand that she abandon her Facebook habit. Maybe she can limit her screen time, so she is available for at least part of the evening. I don’t think she realizes what a barrier that iPad is. I hope we can work out a better way to be together.