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When Lion told me it was punishment day on Saturday, apparently, I wasn’t “grateful” for the reminder. He said I sounded bored when I thanked him. I was in the middle of something, so, at the very least, I was distracted. I did respond. Sometimes he says I don’t acknowledge him at all.

This morning, he told me it was punishment day. I made sure to give him my full attention, and I told him he hadn’t gotten himself in trouble. I also told him he was a good boy. From time to time, he tells me I don’t tell him he’s a good boy very often either. For the record, I don’t tell him he’s a bad boy very often either. I guess those two phrases still sound ridiculous to me. It’s like I’m talking to the dog. But I try to remember to do it sometimes because I know Lion likes the pageantry of it all. [Lion — In some ways talking to her lion is the same as talking to the dog.]

Yesterday, I said Lion shouldn’t feel guilty when I do things for him. I wasn’t ruling anything in or out. Apparently, I need to work on things (a lot of things) like the pageantry aspect. It’s been difficult for me to tell him why I’m spanking or even ask him why he’s being punished. Why is that so hard? Again, it’s like I’m talking to the dog. “Bad dog! Why did you barf on the rug?” But I will make an extra effort to tell him he’s a good dog; I mean good boy.

I guess I could even tell him he’s been good when I try to get him hard, and it doesn’t work. He’s trying. It’s not like he’s willfully not getting hard. Maybe if I praise him for trying, he’d be able to get there the next time. I don’t know. Just thinking. [Lion — That’s a good idea! It’s less pageantry than feedback.]

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As Mrs. Lion mentioned in her post yesterday, I’m not sexually cooperative. I don’t know what the problem is. I don’t seem to be getting turned on. I’m not sure why. It may just be a slump. It’s frustrating for both of us. It’s not that I want sex, but I can’t get it up. I don’t want it. Maybe my libido is joining Mrs. Lion. That would make being a sex blogger odd.

I’m pretty sure that isn’t the case, but for the moment, let’s consider whether that would impact our non-sexual activities. Would I start objecting to being punished as a disciplined husband? I, like most men, initiated our domestic discipline partly because the idea of being spanked turns me on. What happens if nothing turns me on? I suppose it no longer matters. There is nothing in our agreement that says I have to get a woody thinking about a spanking. In that sense, it makes perfect sense for me to write about DD.

Mrs. Lion is sure that my interest in sex will return soon. I hope so.

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Sometimes Lion doesn’t want sex. I know! That doesn’t sound right at all. It does happen from time to time. He immediately thinks he’s broken. I immediately think I’m doing something wrong. Neither of us is right. There’s just a lull in the action. No harm, no foul.

Usually, I think, lack of Lion sex drive means he hasn’t been getting enough bondage or other attention. However, last night was the night after a spanking. Admittedly, it wasn’t a great spanking. He didn’t feel it at all the next day. I blame that on the leather paddle. It’s fine for warm-up, but it doesn’t send enough of a message. I should have used the spoon-shaped paddle more. It would have made things bloodier, but he would have had trouble sitting yesterday and possibly today.

What can we do about Lion not being horny? I keep trying. Sooner or later, I’ll hit upon something he likes enough to get him hard. This is not a case of absence making the heart grow fonder. I won’t say it’s work in the sense of toiling away at it, but it is something we have to work at. It’s an I-know-you’re-in-there-you-silly-erection type of thing. I’ve just got to figure out how to coax it out. Don’t worry. I have my ways.

Lion is probably feeling selfish again. He does this somewhat frequently. He’ll feel he’s taking advantage of me. He’s not. He’ll feel sorry for himself that he can’t have vaginal sex. That one is particularly silly. He can have it. I sometimes offer, albeit rarely. He tells me not to bother because it does nothing for me. So? If it’s something I can do to make him feel good, and I’m willing to do it, shut up, and let’s go for it. If I told him his next orgasm would be vaginal, would my weenie spring into action immediately? Schwing!

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When you hear references to “innies” and “outies,” you, like me, probably think of belly buttons. I’ve never had an opinion about whether one or the other is more attractive. Now, with the widespread practice of pubic hair removal, these terms have a new meaning. A shaved woman displays her genitals without the cloaking of pubic hair. Some appear completely smooth with a, excuse the term, slit on display. Others with larger inner labia now show them protruding. They are referred to as “outies.” (click to see innie, outie)

I’ve never given this anatomical difference any thought. My interest is in what’s inside that opening. Over my lifetime, I’ve experienced both types. I can’t tell you which partners had either. I don’t even know whether Mrs. Lion is an innie or outie. I think she is an outie. I’ll have to check. The only time I’ve noticed is when I look at the occasional image of a naked woman I run across on Twitter. Even then, I didn’t think much about it until I read someone refers to this difference.

Almost all of the nubile models in those pictures are “innies.” I imagine some people will immediately jump to the conclusion that men prefer innies because the women look like young girls and the men are closet pedophiles. I don’t see it this way. It’s just another aesthetic value. It’s only been so obvious since many women make their innies or outies obvious by removing pubic hair. I never considered this something I needed to care about. I wonder if women are sensitive about this difference.

Male genitals are obvious with or without pubic hair. We have “cut” (circumcised) and “uncut” penises. Some American uncircumcised men are sensitive about their penises. The vast majority of Americans, including me, are circumcised. When my son was born, my ex-wife and I discussed circumcision. I was neutral on the subject. My wife wanted him circumcised because it would make him look like his dad (me). She thought it might negatively impact him if his penis looked different than mine. Fair enough.

Another male difference is how balls hang. All males will have low-hanging balls when they are warm and tight when cold. The scrotum is lined with a thin layer of muscle that can contract or expand. This ability allows temperature control of the testes inside. Sperm is temperature-sensitive. They are happiest at a temperature a bit below 98.6F. That may be why they are external. Some men have low-hanging balls naturally. Others are held close to the body.

I’ve had partners who prefer tight balls and others, like Mrs. Lion, who prefer them low. Some women like to use ball stretchers to encourage the balls to hang even lower temporarily. So far, Mrs. Lion hasn’t done that with me even though we have the necessary equipment. It is an interesting sensation to spend a day with weighted balls swinging when I walk.

All of this is a matter of personal preference. I prefer hairless genitals. I like both outies and innies. Both are very sexy to me. I’m not sexually interested in men. I am happy I’m circumcised. I wish that my balls didn’t hang down so low, but I’m happy Mrs. Lion likes it, and I encourage her to stretch them if she finds that fun and sexy.