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ginger that went up lion's ass
This is the piece of nicely aged ginger root that I carved and then inserted into Lion’s waiting ass.

I may have forgotten to cage Lion again last night, but I didn’t forget to play with him. Ironically, our dinner included ginger. He had ginger coming and going.

I had no idea how long to leave the ginger in. I know it loses its heat at some point and there’s really no need to keep it in any longer than that. I arbitrarily decided on six minutes. Lion says it still had a lot of heat left in it. Oh well. Live and learn. The good news is that we have quite a bit of ginger left over. And it tends to get hotter as it ages.

ginger root on its way up lion's ass
The carved ginger root is on its way up Lion’s butt. No lube of course, that would block the burn. It went up surprisingly easily anyway.

When we email back and forth during the day, we usually end with KISS. Sometimes I throw LICK in there. Lion will answer with “mmmmm”. Yesterday I sent KISS LICK SUCK at the end of the first email. True to my word, I gave him some oral attention last night. I edged him once or twice and then decided to give him an orgasm. How many days had it been? Who knows. Who cares. [Lion — It was six days]

Lion was definitely happy. He was panting for a while afterward. And smiling, of course.

And then I forgot to lock him back up. Lion remembered before we went to sleep but I didn’t feel like getting out of bed again. I thought maybe I’d do it this morning, but I’ve had such a hard time getting out the door in the morning and traffic has been horrible. We can do it tonight. This time I’ll make it Lion’s responsibility to remind me. By bedtime he needs to be caged.

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In: Punishment, Lion's Journal, Spanking
multi-day spanking
One spanking for one offense leaves no room to send a message about severity or recidivism. Establishing a multi-day “price” for an offense can provide a truly effective deterrent.

Most of us who get involved in a disciplinary relationship where punishment is involved, like our Female Led Relationship with Discipline (FLRD), start out because the disciplined partner has at least some erotic connection with spanking. My interest in being spanked stretched back many years before I was aware there was such a thing as a disciplinary relationship. I enjoyed BDSM scenes that included spanking me. At times, this was a little difficult because I was an active top. I suppose the correct term would be “switch”.

In our case, my interest in a power exchange that included punishment came out of enforced male chastity. I enjoy Mrs. Lion’s sexual control and feeling it got me thinking about extending it to something much wider. Other people find their way to disciplinary relationships via many diverse routes.

Once there, there is a common path we seem to follow. The first, and most obvious step, is some sort of agreement about what behaviors need to be corrected. In our case, I didn’t have any glaring behavioral issues. Mrs. Lion wisely chose “problems” that I would most likely have on a frequent basis. The idea was to train both of us in giving and accepting punishment.

Other people have very serious reasons for entering into a disciplinary relationship. It could be something as devastating as overuse of alcohol and drugs, for example. It could also be a wish on the part of the disciplined male to be helped losing weight or correcting other lifestyle issues. Or, it could be things that Mrs. Lion wants me to learn like not interrupting her, accepting what she says, and obeying her.

Until very recently, I didn’t think a lot about how these problems are different in terms of punishment. They are the same in that we, the disciplined males, explicitly consent to whatever level of punishment is needed to correct these problems. In other words, it’s up to our disciplining wives to use punishment as a way of extinguishing our negative behaviors.

In the beginning, my behavioral problems were limited to spilling food on my shirt and eating before Mrs. Lion. Each time I committed an offense, I received a spanking. As she improved as a disciplinarian, the intensity of the spankings increased. To both of our surprise, the behavior she was punishing almost completely disappeared. That proved to us the effectiveness of a disciplinary relationship in terms of improving my behavior.

Of course, the offenses were trivial and I had no deep-seated investment in persisting in breaking the rules. Over the years that we operated at this level (about three), we discussed how to deal with bigger problems or with persistent offending. My thoughts were that the intensity of the spanking could increase if an offense is repeated or if it were more serious. Mrs. Lion agreed to try that. Frankly, I didn’t get a strong message from spankings she said were more intense. In fact, I realized that spanking should probably be at one intensity. I asked her to work to increase the intensity to make them more memorable.

That left us with the problem of dealing with repeated offenses for one thing. Most recently, in a four week period I forgot to remind her three times of our Saturday punishment day. It’s my job to remind her every Monday, Thursday and Saturday that it’s punishment day. These are days we set aside to be sure that punishments were administered even if we were very busy doing other things. Obviously, being spanked for missing reminding her wasn’t working.

About a month before this problem cropped up, she was frustrated that even after her new, stronger spankings, I felt the pain for a very short amount of time after she finished and I stayed red for a minute or two at most. She decided to overcome this, for each offense I would get a minimum of three spankings given once each day. That way punishment would be memorable because it was repeated.

It worked very well. I’ve written about that in the past. The point is that we had stumbled on a way to add intensity to punishment without resorting to extreme beatings. So, when I forgot Saturday punishment day for the third time, she sentenced me to five consecutive daily spankings. That was absolutely no fun.

An offense and its consequence represent a pair of actions that form a transaction. In other words, forget something once and it costs three daily spankings. Forget it twice and the number goes up to five. Each day’s spanking is a full-scale punishment spanking. It’s impossible for me to ignore the extra cost of behaviors Mrs. Lion considers more offensive.

I went to boarding school during my high school years. The disciplinary system there worked with points. You started out with 100 points. Each rule carried a point cost if you broke it. Skip a meal, five points; late to class, five points; skip class, 10 points. Go below a total of 70 points and you’re grounded. Each week you didn’t lose any points you got five back until you were at 100 again.

This is the same sort of system we are using for adult punishment. Spill on my shirt, three spanking days. Break a rule twice in a short time, five spanking days. You get the idea. Mrs. Lion has not created a master list of offenses and punishments. She’ll work them out as she goes. The point is that there are two factors that determine how many daily spankings I get for breaking a rule: The first is the seriousness of the offense. Spill food on my shirt, three days. Act disrespectful, more days.

If I repeat an offense in a relatively short period of time, Mrs. Lion interprets that as meaning her original sentence wasn’t severe enough to deter my behavior. Therefore, the repeat offense will have additional spanking days. She may decide that a new first offense will catch the longer sentence since I’ve demonstrated that’s what I need. It’s very risky for me to repeat something wrong.

Take relationships where the problems being handled are much more serious, like drinking. I would be very surprised if a single spanking is a sufficient deterrent to doing it again. The disciplining wife decides what a first offense will cost. She might also let her disciplined male know that a repeat within, say three months, will double or triple the initial penalty.

She has no real way to know how severe she has to be to effect change. But she will find out as she raises the price for subsequent offenses. A similar strategy works for weight loss. Maybe start out with two days spanking for each pound or fraction gained. Perhaps make it four days if the gain repeats the next week.

At some point, he will get the message. It will become just too painfully expensive to break a rule. Other punishments can follow a similar pattern. The idea is that a single offense will always earn multiple punishments. Stubborn refusal to learn will learn many more unpleasant punishments.

I don’t know why this never occurred to me before. Somehow I imagined that one offense should equal one punishment. Repeat offenses or breaking more serious rules should earn more severe punishments. Now that I’ve been in a disciplinary relationship for a while I realize that’s not possible. Punishment intensity should always be high. There are no gentle spankings. If an offense is serious, the cost is day after day of painful spankings. Sooner or later the number of daily spankings will get large enough to be more than breaking the rule is worth.

Each male is different. Some of us are very stubborn and will need long periods of daily spanking to finally get the point. That’s the beauty of the lion spanking system. We, the disciplined males, determine just how much we have to suffer. Quick learners are rewarded with shorter sentences of daily spanking. If we are stubborn, the days can stretch into weeks. It’s all up to us. Our disciplining wives will follow our leads until we finally learn to do what we are supposed to.

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lion with a freshly peeled piece of ginger up his ass
Here’s Lion with a freshly-peeled piece of ginger shoved where the sun don’t shine. That fresh ginger really burns his tailpipe.
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Lion is not broken. I knew he wasn’t. I just figured he’d say that if I couldn’t get him to the edge last night. Luckily this was not an issue. It might have taken a tiny bit longer to get him there but he said I left him “in a state”. Thank you. Thank you very much. Job well done!

I toyed with the idea of locking him back up. Another way Lion and I are different is that we like the house a different temperature. He had the air conditioning on for me and that forced him to be under the comforter. I forgot to tell him I wanted the ring back on so when I went to put his eye drops in, he was hunkered down. Tonight I’ll tell him to put the ring on so I can cage him before he becomes Nanook of the North.

Unless he does something between now and tonight, Lion is punishment-free for the first time in days. He remembered punishment day today so he’s off the hook for that. I told him there’s still plenty of time to get in trouble. He might spill something on his shirt and there’s ample time to interrupt or annoy me. I’m not trying to jinx him. Honest! [Lion — Ha!]

Some weeks back, we bought ginger. I keep forgetting it’s in the fridge. Perhaps I can warm Lion up with that. Maybe he won’t need to be under the covers if his ass is on fire. I’m just trying to help. If he was too warm, I could make an ice dildo I saw somewhere. I know that would cool him off in a hurry.

The last time I tried to use clothespins on him, he wasn’t amused. I don’t think we were successful at all that night. He might have started out with an erection, but it didn’t last long once the clothespins were on. Despite his contention that he didn’t want to “just” be edged, it seems like playing in the BDSM sense may not do it for him anymore. Is it possible he’s moving away from it? I’ll try the ginger tonight and see what happens. I’m not ready to abandon it just yet. Maybe he just wasn’t in the mood those few nights.

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cherrykeeper chastity cage
This is the standard Cherry Keeper cage with the 3 mm headlock.

I’ve been wearing a Cherry Keeper chastity device for several weeks. This device is 3D printed. It takes excellent advantage of the opportunities for customization offered by 3D printing. JosieLynn is the designer. He created his devices using CAD software. Unlike other manufacturers, JosieLynn sends his designs to Shapeways, a public 3D printing company. When you order a Cherry Keeper, you’re actually ordering directly from Shapeways.

There is a unique feature available with the Cherry Keeper. JosieLynn calls it the “headlock”. This is a “shelf” inside the cage positioned so that the head of the penis rests on it. His original idea is to make it more difficult to pull out of the device because the shelf will resist. I’m not convinced that this works, however, it turns out to be a wonderful way to perfect the fit.

lion's penis in cherrykeeper chastity device
This is the “short” stock Cherry Keeper. It’s the short cage with the medium headlock feature. So far it’s doing a good job keeping my urethra front and center.
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The Cherry Keeper device is offered in several standard sizes. The headock feature is available on any of them. Headlocks can be ordered in several widths. The wider the shelf the more constricting the cage. I started out by ordering the small Cherry Keeper with the “medium” headlock. This is a modest shelf. The device was comfortable but the fit just didn’t feel right. I contacted JosieLynn and asked about a custom fit.

I was very happy to learn that he would make a custom design for the flat fee of $75 USD. He would create the design and submit it to Shapeways. I would then buy the device from Shapeways in the same way I bought the standard cage. More about ordering, later.

We exchanged messages (Shapeways has a messaging service that is very convenient). He informed me that I would need to provide a series of measurements that are very different from the ones I’m used to making for new chastity devices. He needed the diameter of my penis head. He also needed its length from where it mushrooms to the tip. He also wanted the circumference. Bear in mind penis heads have a flat spot so the circumference isn’t necessarily the diameter times pi. He also needed my flaccid penis length measured from the top; the distance from my abdomen to urethra when I am at my softest. Last, he needed the diameter of my penis shaft just below the head with the loose skin pulled away.

When he got all these measurements, he commented that the small cage I had ordered was too short to contain the entire head of my penis above the headlock. That explained why the fit seems wrong. I wrote him that I was very interested in getting a device that kept my urethra front and center in the opening so that peeing standing up wouldn’t be a problem. He noted that he had an idea about this which involved changing the shape of the cage.

I sent him $75 and we got started. He decided that my custom cage would be longer than the standard to accommodate the true length of my penis head. He designed a headlock just a millimeter wider than my penis shaft. He explained that it would take some work to get into this cage. He changed the angle of the cage in relation to the base ring (I was able to keep the standard base ring). The distance from cage tip to my abdomen would be the same as my flaccid penis length.

new custom cherry keeper chastity device
This is a rendering of my custom Cherry Keeper. Notice the sharp taper. Also note the wide headlock that will keep the head of my penis “locked” inside the cage.

He created the design and I ordered it from Shapeways. When I tried it on, it seemed that the cage was a bit long. My urethra didn’t quite stay in contact with the front of the cage. JosieLynn adjusted the design with a couple of minor tweaks. I ordered the revised cage and it fit perfectly.

You can see that the cage itself is considerably narrower than the standard model. The front opening is lower and conforms nicely to my anatomy. It takes some work and a little lube on the head of my cock to work the head past the headlock. In the beginning it was very difficult for Mrs. Lion to get me in. In fact, between us I managed to scratch the shaft of my penis just below the head.

my penis in the cherry keeper
The custom Cherry Keeper fits perfectly. My urethra remain centered in the opening. The device is supremely comfortable.

Now that she has much more practice, getting me into this cage is simple for Mrs. Lion. She still uses a little bit of silicone lube to make it easier to insert. Once in, the head of my penis rests firmly on the shelf and regardless of whether my shaft is shrinking or growing, the head is locked firmly in position with my urethra nicely centered. This is exactly what I want.

The Cherry Keeper is amazingly comfortable. I’m not aware of the headlock and I feel no pressure or weight from this device. That’s not surprising. It’s made of medical-grade nylon. It’s practically weightless. Until I started wearing the Cherry Keeper, my favorite chastity device was the Jail Bird. Now, that one feels clunky and heavy. Also my urethra tends to wander when I wear it.

I like the way the Cherry Keeper looks. Mrs. Lion prefers the look of the Jail Bird. However, so far she is okay about me wearing the Cherry Keeper. I’m glad because this device is a radical improvement over what can be done with welding equipment and stainless steel wire.

Shapeways offers the Cherry Keeper in a number of colors and in two finishes. 3D-printed things tend to have a rough, sandpaper-like finish. This rough finish is the reason I was unable to recommend the Custom Chastity devices. The one I bought was horrible as I received it. I spent hours sanding and polishing before it was smooth enough to wear comfortably. Even after all that, it’s nowhere near as comfortable as the Cherry Keeper.

Anyway, Shapeways offers a solution for the rough finish: They call it their premium finish. It costs almost twice as much as getting the same piece with the rough finish. It’s only available in white, the natural color of the nylon, because all the other colors are painted on and are removed during the polishing process that the premium finish provides. I can’t recommend more strongly getting the premium finish. It might be nice to have a colored device, but is it worth the irritation the rough finish will give you?

Cost
You purchase this device in pieces. You need to order a base ring, which is offered in a wide range of sizes. If your size isn’t shown, send a message to JosieLynn and he will set one up that’s right for you. Base rings are available as oval-shaped or circular. I got the circular ring. Next, purchase the cage. If you are buying a standard cage, you select the size and then select the degree of headlock, if you want one. I selected everything in white with the premium finish. The ring cost $26.45 plus tax and shipping in the premium finish. The small standard cage with a medium headlock and white with the premium finish cost $34.95 plus tax and shipping. My total cost was $72.

Bear in mind that you have to provide your own lock. The Cherry Keeper uses the standard lock that Holy Trainer and other similar devices uses. Amazon.com offers one at a reasonable cost.

Given my experience, I recommend going directly to a custom-made device. It will cost $75 for JosieLynn’s design help. I used the standard ring so that cost $26.45. Because I wanted to tweak it a bit, I bought two cages. Chances are very good you won’t need to do that. JosieLynn sends a link to a custom order page. . The custom cage coat $33.95. It was actually a dollar cheaper than the standard cage.

That puts the total cost for a custom Cherry Keeper at $136.40, plus shipping and tax. If you need the lock cylinder it costs seven dollars. That means for less than $150 you can have a completely customized Cherry Keeper. I think that’s an amazing bargain.

I test a lot of chastity devices. Most of the off-the-shelf products are not good fits and usually poorly designed. The singular exception, other than the Cherry Keeper, is the HT Nub. My Chinese version fits very well and is comfortable. However, even counting my Jail Bird, the custom Cherry Keeper is my favorite. JosieLynn is very easy to work with and spent considerable time revising designs until we had exactly the right chastity device for me. Since JosieLynn wears what he sells, he has excellent understanding of what works and doesn’t work.

penis measuring with the caliper
This inexpensive digital caliper makes it easy to do accurate measurements of your penis. The blades are a bit sharp so be careful. Also avoid squeezing. By pressing a button, you can get the measurements in millimeters.

Measuring tricks
Since the custom Cherry Keeper needs a few new kinds of measurements, I did a little research and ended up buying a very inexpensive digital caliper. It cost just $10. JosieLynn prefers measurements in millimeters.

I don’t know why it me so long to figure out that an inexpensive measuring tool like the digital caliper, could simplify chastity device measuring. When measuring the diameter of the shaft of your penis for the headlock, be sure to keep the loose skin out-of-the-way and measure just under the head. JosieLynn made the hole in the headlock just a millimeter or so wider than the size of my shaft.

With a properly -sized headlock, penis length becomes less critical. Still, it’s wise to measure several times to be sure that you have the shortest normal length. In my case, measuring from the top, it’s about 2 inches.

Conclusion
The Cherry Keeper is an amazingly clever male chastity device. It takes full advantage of the flexibilities permitted by 3D printing. JosieLynn has spent a lot of time working out the best design for this product. I’m very happy with it. It’s become my standard, every-day chastity device. The combination of light weight and incredible comfort make it an irresistible product. The fact that you can get one custom made to your measurements for less than $150 USD, is just frosting on the cake.

My recommendation is to go straight to the custom design. For less than the price of a Holy Trainer, you can have a chastity device made to your specifications. Unlike other 3D-printed chastity devices I’ve tried, this one actually works and is comfortable to wear.