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Lion didn’t manage to write a post for today. He may be steadier on his feet but he doesn’t feel well enough to be on his feet much. He thought about sitting at his desk to write a post today while I changed the bed. Neither has happened so far.

I ventured out to get more pain meds this afternoon. We finally convinced the surgical team and hospital pharmacy that Lion’s primary care physician could prescribe the pain meds as we’d asked for on Tuesday. I also looked for food that Lion might like. In the hospital, he loved the turkey dinner. I bought a few versions of frozen turkey dinners. Nothing has tasted good to him for a few days. I’m hoping the turkey does the trick. I just made his favorite go-to chocolate milkshake. If nothing else, he’ll get some nutrients from the milk and the ice cream.

Last night, Lion said he might be feeling the first twinges of horniness. Fingers crossed. His cages are still on his nightstand waiting for him to feel better. Actually, the locking cock ring could go on anytime. It doesn’t pinch and doesn’t restrict peeing. If he starts giving me any guff he might find himself locked in it sooner than he expected.

I think today is just a minor setback. He’ll be back on the road to recovery by tonight. The chocolate milkshake will do it. The next step is getting him to sleep less during the day and more at night. Little by little he’ll get there.

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In: Rules, Health and safety, Mrs Lion Comments

Lion has his days and nights confused. He’s been sleeping a lot during the day and then can’t sleep at night. We haven’t had anywhere to be so it’s okay, but tomorrow he has an appointment with a nurse at the hospital to discuss pain meds. This wouldn’t be so bad if he hadn’t covered this before his surgery. Supposedly pain management put a plan in place to deal with post-op pain. Apparently the surgical team isn’t beholden to pain management

This morning Lion reminded me it was punishment day. The only problem is that it isn’t. Tomorrow is. For some reason I had my days straight and Lion didn’t. It’s usually the other way around. I give him credit for trying. He’s really been trying to follow his rules even if they aren’t in effect right now.

I think Lion is getting stronger every day. He seems less wobbly. Sure, he’s still sleeping a lot but when he gets up, he’s doing better. I think his getting out of the hospital is responsible. He doesn’t have to fight with me when he wants to get up. I just help him. He’s able to control the position of the bed better too. In the hospital, the controls were on the bed rails which were hard to reach. At home, he has a remote for it. He has more television channels to watch, or sleep through as the case may be. The only thing lacking is room service. The variety of food isn’t as great, but I get him anything we have whenever he wants it.

I predict that Lion will be a little more self-sufficient by Monday. He may still need the walker but he won’t need me to be hovering nearby. Obviously he’ll need me to get him food but he’ll do better at personal care. And then I further predict that he’ll start feeling horny by the following Monday. Maybe I’m being optimistic but it’s good to have goals.

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It’s really nice to be home. The truth is that I’m not all that more comfortable home as I was in the hospital. I’m supposed to go back for a check and visit tomorrow. I’m not sure that won’t be too much for me. However, I will do my best.

Collared Michael, one of our friends and readers, wrote that he is exploring the idea of wearing a very short chastity device. Since he has had considerable experience in a rather long Jail Bird, his reactions to the new, closer environment will be interesting. For many reasons, guys frequently maintain the same size device over a long period of time.

If they do try different brands and styles, they almost always leave the basic measurements the same. This makes sense. After all, if you change up too many things you never really learn whether a new product is an improvement over an old one. I suppose there is no good reason to swap out chastity devices unless the current one is a poor fit.

In my case, at least, I like the variety and I like to experiment to see what would happen if I change one or more parameters. Over time, I’ve learned that I prefer an “open” style cage. I like that it’s easy to keep clean and that my skin can breathe.

I’ve tried some tube-style devices. By and large they are a little more difficult to fit into (the extra friction with the solid walls makes getting everything lined up harder to do). Other than that, the biggest difference for me is the effort needed to stay clean. Some guys have a strong fetish attraction to being in a solid container. There’s nothing wrong with that. Most of the tube style devices can be kept clean.

Of course, enforced male chastity is not about the container in which the penis lives. It’s about surrendering control of its sexual activities. For me at least, surrendering sexual control has turned out to be the easiest part of all this. The cage isn’t really necessary as a way of assuring I won’t masturbate without permission. I won’t, and Mrs. Lion knows it.

Being bedridden, I had some time to reflect on things. No, I haven’t emerged from the cave with the oracle’s solution to man’s problems. I have, I think, gotten a better perspective on how my orgasms are thought about by Mrs. Lion and other interested parties.

I did not arrive at anything profound. I just realized that my orgasms are very big and important to me, but not terribly significant to anyone else. If you think of me standing naked before you with a full erection, you will notice it, of course, but it won’t end up being where your eyes are fixed. You’ve seen a penis before. You know what an erection looks like. And, truth be told, mine isn’t so big or unusual that it merits more than a passing glance.

On my side of the equation, my penis is enormous. It is a gigantic opportunity to embarrass me by my exposed sexual arousal. What would your mother say? Do you like showing your erection to strangers? Can’t you control yourself?

None of my thoughts are about how nice my arousal must look to you. It’s about how embarrassing it is for me to force you to look at my erection. I’ve had sex with a lot of women over the years. I have no idea how any of them, including Mrs. Lion, actually feels about seeing me poking out.

If you see me in this condition, perhaps let me know how you react to it. It’s really not a big deal. It’s just one of those “blank spots” that exists in polite society. It’s the way we pretend that such obvious signs of arousal don’t exist.

 

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Lion is still snoozing a lot. He’s still taking pain medication and I’m sure that’s part of it. He keeps apologizing for being so tired. I’m glad he’s sleeping. He needs to so he can recover.

I think he’s doing a lot better but he’s still frustrated. Unless he was able to bounce right up off the bed after the surgery, he wasn’t going to be happy. We did manage to get him into the shower yesterday so at least he’s a clean Lion. And he’s been venturing into the bathroom to brush his teeth.

Last night Lion asked how many days it’s been since he had an orgasm. If memory serves, he had one the Friday before his surgery. Of course, he’s not ready to have another one, but I think it’s a good sign he’s thinking about it. He keeps saying he’s broken, but if he’s wondering about orgasms then I don’t think he’s broken.

I suspended Lion’s rules while he’s recuperating. However, he’s been trying to remind me of punishment day and he asked if he could eat first yesterday. Somewhere under all the incoherent, half-asleep babble, he’s thinking about FLRD. Obviously, I’m not going to punish him for forgetting the rules since they aren’t in effect. I just like the fact that he’s trying to obey them.

The worst part about Lion being out of it is that we’ve had quite a few very nice days in a row. It’s been in the 70s for a few days and poor Lion is missing it. I’m sorry we don’t have a lounge chair that he could snooze outside on.

I know Lion is discouraged that things aren’t progressing as quickly as he’d like. But every day I see improvement in his strength and stability. I think he just needs to be a little more patient, although that’s definitely not his strong point.