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lion's penis in double cock ring
My new Mature Metal double locking cock ring. It uses the same security screw as the Jail Bird chastity device.
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One important advantage of wearing a chastity device is that it provides a 24/7 reminder of the sexual power exchange. As long as that device is locked on your penis, there is no mistaking the fact that orgasm, even erection is impossible without your keyholder unlocking your cage.

Over the last few months, Mrs. Lion has let me run wild (no chastity device). The reason had to do with my healing from shoulder surgery and then inertia. Being wild didn’t affect our power exchange. I’m trained to keep my hands off her penis. But for me, at least, it felt like something was missing.

It’s true I got teased almost every night. Our sexual routine, including play, didn’t change. But for me it just felt different. I didn’t feel as controlled. I figured it was because I wasn’t wearing a chastity device. I asked Mrs. Lion to lock me up again. After a week or two, I was uncomfortable. The cage was pinching and peeing was difficult.

This, of course, was no different from how it felt over the years I wore the cage 24/7, but now my patience had worn thin. I asked to be unlocked. I realized that my problem had to do with feeling my lioness’ control all the time. Yes, I’m trained and do what I’ve been taught, but I didn’t feel her the way I did when wearing the chastity device.

I thought about collars. We had tried them in the past. We never found one that didn’t irritate my skin. Also, we couldn’t come up with a “day” collar I could wear when out and about. The chastity device was a perfect collar. It only needs to come off for occasional cleaning and for travel. I am constantly aware it is hanging between my legs. Mrs. Lion sees it and knows she is the only one who can remove it.

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A standard cock ring on my cock and balls.
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That’s what got me thinking about a cock ring. I tried a standard cock ring (image left). It goes around balls and cock. It pushes the balls forward and applies a little squeeze on the penis when hard that tends to slow loss of an erection.

There’s one big problem with a standard cock ring: I can simply slip it off. Mrs. Lion doesn’t control whether or not I wear it. From my perspective, that just won’t work.

I like the idea of a cock ring, especially if it locks on. It would have the same symbolic value as a chastity cage. It’s a piece of hardware that locks over my cock and balls that I can’t remove on my own. It’s a concrete, unmistakable symbol of Mrs. Lion’s ownership.

my hard penis in locking cock ring
My double locking cock ring. This is my first Mature Metal product that allows me to get a full erection, as you can see.
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It turns out that Mature Metal, the company who makes the Jail Bird chastity device I wore all those years, also makes a locking cock ring. The locking mechanism is identical to the one used with their chastity devices. The base ring size is the same as my Jail Bird, 1-3/4 inch diameter. The cock ring is one size (1/8th inch) wider than my cage: 1-3/8 inches in diameter. The device is designed to permit and help sustain a full erection. Mrs. Lion had no problem getting me hard and the ring did its job keeping me that way as you can see.

I’m trained not to play with Mrs. Lion’s weenie, so having the ability to get hard is strictly a convenience for her. Even though the device is new, I’m finding it very comfortable and wearing it gives me the same sense of security I got with the Jail Bird.

As I’ve written before, real life enforced chastity and FLR aren’t constantly exciting circuses of sexual activity. There are long periods of normal, day-to-day life. Wearing a device, whether a collar, chastity cage, or in my case a locking cock ring, keeps the power exchange alive 24/7. I think this new addition will do a lot for me.

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In: Chastity hardware, Health and safety, Mrs Lion Comments

Lion made it through our football zapping game yesterday. It helped that there weren’t many points scored. None by our stupid team. They did, however, have at least ten penalties so Lion paid the price for those. He waited until after the game to fall asleep, although I think I may have woken him up with at least one zap. Maybe I just surprised him.

Lion is heading to the doctor today. I hope he’ll get answers about his cough and nausea. This needs to stop. He needs to feel better. It’s been dragging on too long.

Today is also the day the new locking cock ring is supposed to arrive. People have been confused by my calling it a cageless cage. That’s what it looks like to me. It’s the Jail bird without the cage. “What’s the point of that?” you might ask. I wonder too. But I do understand it a little. It will give Lion the feeling that he’s wearing a cage even though it’s just a cock ring. I hope it won’t pinch him. I also hope it’s not too hard to put on. I hate wrestling with cages. The one thing I want is for Lion to feel whatever it is he needs to feel with the cage.

I’m still not sure how I can play with him with the cock ring on. I mean, I know he can get hard. I just worry the ring will be in the way. I guess we’ll find out later. I’m sure he won’t want to waste any time putting it on. He might even put it on before I get home. I know he’s very excited about it.

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In: Lion's Journal, Advice to caged males

Most blogs about enforced male chastity and female led relationships answer two main questions: How? and What? You can read endlessly about what is supposed to happen when a man’s penis is locked up. There are endless accounts of sexual submission brought on by male chastity or surrender to a female led relationship. Almost all of it is fiction. Real-life couples who practice this lead much less exciting lives. Our blog prides itself on accurately portraying our adventures in enforced chastity and FLR. None of what we write is fiction.

The other big question is: How? There are practical matters relating to selecting and fitting a male chastity device. Technique is required to apply physical discipline. Tools are needed to do this. Then there are sexual toys that many of us incorporate in our power exchanges. They run from butt plugs and dildos to bondage equipment and grooming supplies like waxing. As we incorporate these things in our relationship, we offer advice on how we use them.

There’s one area that gets little-to-no mention: why we do these things. Yes, the fiction and fantasies offer rationalizations that fit with their story lines, but I wouldn’t consider that stuff real reasons. I suppose it isn’t very important to understand why we do this stuff as long as we do it safely and consensually. If you are interested in starting a power exchange, having a good idea why you want it will go a long way toward helping you communicate you desire to your partner.

The first thing to understand is that wanting a sexual power exchange isn’t some sort of pathology. Study after study has shown that the vast majority of men and women fantasize about this stuff. Over 70% of men dream about being spanked, for example. Those of us who choose to act on it are, I guess, the brave ones.

In any case I’m not talking about rationalizing what we want. I’m trying to get close to the root so that it will be easier to communicate your needs.

In my case I’m turned on when my partner takes sexual control. This control extends to determining when or if I get to ejaculate as well as making and enforcing rules I must follow. That’s why I want her to control my penis and spank me when required. For whatever reason, it sexually fulfills me to live this way.

Granted, this is fairly vague and offers little specific direction to Mrs. Lion. But it’s enough to start her thinking and get  us going. I think t is easier for her to understand this statement than to sit through fantasies I may have about how it should work. That, after all, is the “what”.

Your reason may be totally different. I’ll bet it is equally easy to express when you cut away the “what”. Try writing down the basics and why you want them. For example, “I want you to take sexual control of me because it arouses me every time I think about it.” Talk about a good conversation starter!  Hopefully, her first question will be, “Why do you want this?”

If so, you’re on  your way.

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I’ve been trying to keep Lion hydrated and fed. The hydration part is easier. He still feels nauseous so eating is not easy for him. We’ve been eating fairly bland foods for about a week. Well, he has. Any time I’ve made food for myself with any aroma, I’ve had to leave the room. Just the smell bothers him. I understand. Even when I’m feeling well, some of the things he eats bother me.

This morning he asked if I want to play our football game. I have no idea if he’s up to it or not. We can try it and see. If he wants to stop at any point, we can. Personally, I think he’ll have some trouble even staying awake if yesterday was any indication. Of course, last week it was me who fell asleep toward the end of the game. We’re quite a pair!

We do make a great pair. Aside from the fact that we both get sick at the same time, we try to take care of each other. I put up with him and he puts up with me. I’ll do anything for him and he’ll do anything for me. We just fit. We have a very peaceful marriage.

Today, after I take care of some chores, we’ll lounge around and give the football game a shot. At some point I have to get lunch into him. He ate breakfast so my fingers are crossed. Then I’ll defer to Lion for dinner plans. Neither of us have been getting the right nutrients. I guess that’s why they invented vitamins. I’ll just be glad to get him past this bout of nausea. Maybe the doctor can help him tomorrow.

Yes, this is another boring post. Move along. Nothing happening here. But I hope things will get better in the coming week.