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Saturday night I gave Lion an orgasm. It was the first time he’d been horny in a while. I’m not even really sure he was horny until I started sucking him. He tells me my oral skills are quite good. I’m glad he likes it. I like doing it for him.

Now the question is where to go from here. Do we continue business as usual? I’ve said I don’t want to force him to get excited. I don’t even know if forcing him is possible. Whether it’s a cyclical problem or a worry problem, there’s an issue that can’t be solved by snapping my fingers.

When we get home I’ll ask him how his wildness affected him. Was it something he liked in general? Is it fine just for travelling? In the past I’ve used it as a reward. Does he still see it as a reward? Not the travelling part. He will continue to be wild for travel. But is it a reward if I decide on a Wednesday night that he can be wild until Thursday night? I’m not suggesting we put chastity on hold. I just want an accounting of sorts. I’m checking in.

From my point of view, Lion will remain caged, things will continue as they have been. Minus the unhorny Lion, I hope. But even if he is still not horny, we march on. Full speed ahead. Each night I will offer him attention. It might not be in the form of an edging. Maybe he just wants to snuggle. That’s fine. Maybe he’s not up for anything. That’s fine too. As long as he realized I won’t give up. I’m with him no matter what.

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I asked for summer. I got it! It’s was 99 degrees all day Sunday. Happily, our “camper” remains a comfortable 73 degrees inside. Impressive! Saturday night my libido made a return appearance. Mrs. Lion gave me a mind-blowing oral orgasm. I was worried the equipment had a problem. I was wrong. It works when needed. I keep wondering if I have somehow adapted to enforced chastity. Maybe my arousal goes to sleep until a certain amount of time goes by; sort of an enhanced refractory period. That seems farfetched to me. If Mrs. Lion hasn’t been teasing me on a daily basis and just let me stew in my cage, then the idea of extended refractory period might be plausible. But with the very frequent stimulation, it makes less sense.

So, let’s assume that my loss of interest is either just a natural cycle or the result of external pressures. Where does that leave enforced chastity? If I don’t want sex, then my abstinence is hardly enforced. The longer one goes on with enforced chastity, the more likely this will happen. OK, it’s happened. Mrs. Lion teased me by saying that maybe the answer is just to increase my wait time. Sooner or later I will want to orgasm. In a way that makes perfect sense. It doesn’t seem right to me though.

Yes, extending the wait time assures that “enforced” stays in our equation, I wonder if that additional wait will make the reason for lack of desire worse in unintended ways. For example, if the loss of desire is caused by outside worries, will inaction make things worse? Or, by removing sexual pressure, will things be easier? Mrs. Lion told me that she wouldn’t “force” me to try to get aroused and that I could just tell her I wasn’t interested. I appreciated that choice.

After all, enforced chastity is a kink; an activity we do because we want it. It’s true that I have no choice about quitting. But quitting always meant that I would no longer wear my chastity device and that I could decide when I want to come. Not wanting to come doesn’t exactly fit into that definition. For example, I’m perfectly happy wearing the device. It’s a minor inconvenience, but since I haven’t wanted sex anyway, there is no frustration at loss of control. If, however, enforced chastity also means enforced orgasm, then it might be different.

I’m not sure that when I am just not feeling aroused, Mrs. Lion can get me hard, much less make me come. I know that many women think that men are sex machines that only require a  little stimulation to get hot. We aren’t. Last week, I wanted Mrs. Lion to succeed. I wanted her to get me hard and interested in sex. Even though I knew she wouldn’t let me come, I was very happy with the idea she could arouse me. However, it didn’t work.

Part of the reason, I think, was my mind-set. I needed to find a  way to distract myself from life and focus on a purely sexual scenario. Saturday night, the stars were aligned. I was able to get lost in the intense pleasure. Maybe I hit a biological tipping point. I don’t know. Clearly there is a lot more to orgasm control than just preventing them until desired. True orgasm control includes provoking them too. Who knew males were so complex.

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Lion hasn’t been very horny lately. I know he’s been a little worried about it. I wasn’t sure if he would be in the mood last night or not. In the back of my mind I knew it was his scheduled orgasm night, but there was no pressure since he didn’t know about it.

I caught Lion absently playing with himself last night. When I mentioned it he said it wasn’t having any effect anyway. I knew he wasn’t excited, I was just pointing it out to him. Not that there’s any penalty. It was just interesting that he was doing it without realizing it. Obviously he can only do it when he’s wild like he is while traveling.

Once we moved into the bedroom I started out by massaging his balls. He was moaning but Mr. Weenie wasn’t interested. I decided he needed oral attention. If nothing else, I figured it would feel good to him. It took a little encouragement but eventually he did respond.

It’s difficult for me to edge him orally. It’s too easy to go too far. I did get him close a few times. He was clearly enjoying himself. Since he hasn’t been horny in a while I debated whether I should give him his scheduled orgasm. Who would know better than Lion himself? So I asked. He said he’d let me know if he didn’t want to come. Well, I can’t argue with the schedule. And who cares if he hasn’t been horny? He was horny last night. So I kept going and made both of us happy.

I also decided the other day what his reward will be for doing so much work to get ready for the trip. He loves “Entourage” and the movie is out now. I don’t like “Entourage” or going to the movies. Seeing his movie is his reward.

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The temperatures here were in the mid-to-high nineties all day. The inside of our “camper” remained a cool 72. Nothing like two large AC units in hot weather. We took a little trip today to a picturesque town about twenty miles away. We bought that delicious cinnamon bread I mentioned yesterday. This morning we will have fantastic french toast.

I’ll let you in on  a little secret; I’m writing this post after dinner on Saturday night. That way you’ll have this to read first thing Sunday. We are in the Pacific time zone, so my posts publish at 7 AM. That’s far too early to get up and write. I know Mrs. Lion has some play in mind. I don’t know if it will happen on Saturday or Sunday. We are both pretty tired now, so there is a chance she will put it off. I’m OK either way.

My libido seems to be showing a few signs of life. It certainly is nowhere near where it should be after nearly a week’s wait. So many women think that the male libido is always going full blast and that all a guy needs is a little encouragement to get hard and ready for action. I suppose this was true in my younger years, but now it takes more. I also think that one of the cumulative side effects of enforced chastity is a certain loss of “interest”. This isn’t due to the lack of teasing. I get way more of that than most males. I think it is more subtle. I’m not sure what it’s all about. It could have nothing to do with enforced chastity. It could be life intruding.

I’m hoping we can reverse this situation. As usual, Mrs.Lion is more than willing to help up to the point of giving me all the orgasms I want. We need ideas, I think. It may be that our limited repertoire of D/S and sexual teasing may need refreshing. Maybe I need less certainty; much more doubt about what is next. My extensive D/S experience may be working against me. I really don’t know.

I just may be over thinking this. All I know is that I need help getting my motor started again.