Too Hot to Handle
We both learned things yesterday. Lion learned not to assume something is too weak and I learned that proving a point is not always worth it.
I told Lion I was going to use menthol on his balls last night. I tied him to the bed and brought out the menthol he thought wasn’t strong enough. After I paid a little attention to Mr. Weenie, I proceeded to slather on the “weak” menthol. Very shortly it became apparent that it was not weak at all. I had to untie Lion so he could wash it off. So much for his theory of 1.5% menthol being weak. So much, too, for my theory of Lion not being able to handle the weak menthol. Turns out we were both wrong. Fools rush in and all that.
Our theories range from he was not turned on enough to I put too much on at once to he was sensitive from the manscaping I had done earlier in the day. Live and learn.
Once he was done washing off and his balls returned to semi-normal, we tried again. I tied him back up and edged him. I was torn between wanting to give him an orgasm and wanting him to wait. I wanted to wait since burning his balls is not the best foreplay for an orgasm. I wanted to wait because I had a different plan on how he would have his orgasm. In the end, I gave him an orgasm because he was ready for it. Not that I didn’t think he could wait. Not because I felt bad for burning his balls. (I did, but that’s not why I gave it to him.) I just felt it was time.
Almost immediately he said he’d have an awfully long wait since he was only going to have two orgasms in April. Again with that? I asked him who said that. He had read it in my post. Black and white. There it was. What I said was that there was a trend for only two in April. There’s a trend for none in June. I don’t think he’d like that too much. The only thing I said was certain was that I was not going to buck the trend for March. There were only two days left in March at the time and since the earliest day he could possibly have an orgasm, according to the schedule, was the 30th, I wasn’t going to give him one at least until April 1. I may tease him about not giving him an orgasm for a month or a year, but we both like his orgasms too much to follow through with it.
Right now, the schedule says April 10 is his next date. Of course, that’s only the date that an orgasm becomes possible. It is not necessarily the date he will have one. This time he had to wait three days beyond his scheduled date. I wonder how long 2.0 will make him wait this time.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control is a term that’s bandied about on various forums. People who use this term consider it different than enforced chastity. Depending on who is writing, some fine, basically-trivial differences are cited. Let’s try to clarify.
First, enforced male chastity is a practice where the male is forbidden to have sexual release that isn’t authorized by a person called his keyholder. Many people who practice this use a mechanical chastity device that is locked on the penis and prevents erection and orgasm. This device, however, is not necessary to practice enforced chastity. The requirement is that the male won’t allow himself to orgasm in any way without the authorization of the keyholder.
As Mrs. Lion has made very clear, whether or not I am wearing a chastity device has nothing to do with her control of my sexuality. I like wearing the device because I find it exciting and I like the fact that I have no choice whether or not I can have an orgasm. When she lets me remain uncaged, I still don’t have the right to touch myself sexually, or for that matter, let anyone else touch me sexually. But it is possible without the mechanical barrier.
Some people believe that the chastity device is the only tool the keyholder has to control the caged male’s sexual activity. They also believe that sexual control without a mechanical device is orgasm control, not enforced chastity. So, apparently for some people, enforced chastity is about hardware and orgasm control is dominance.
That’s not how my lioness and keyholder looks at it; at least now. When we started, enforced chastity was something she did to make me happy. I didn’t cheat because I was living one of my fantasies. Somewhere along the way Mrs. Lion came to think of me masturbating in a similar way to how she thinks of me having sex with another woman. I talked a bit about this change in my post yesterday.
You see, enforced chastity / orgasm control are both part of a power exchange. In the world of BDSM, power exchanges are negotiated, have limits, and can have safe words. In our marriage, enforced chastity is no longer a power exchange; it’s a marriage vow. It’s an essential part of the bond of trust that Mrs. Lion and I share as a couple. I absolutely trust that she won’t have sex with anyone but me. She absolutely trusts that I won’t have sex with another woman and also trusts that I will never touch myself sexually.
This goes way beyond a power exchange. It is a central trust issue in our marriage. I don’t think either of us noticed this shift. Somehow it went from something Mrs. Lion did to make me happy, to something she enjoyed as well, and now to a marriage vow she considers central to our relationship.
This evolution is completely unexpected. I don’t think either of us noticed until I asked in a post how Mrs. Lion would react to me masturbating. Her reaction caught me by surprise. I suspect it surprised her too. I’m still processing my feelings about this. I accept it, but it does make me feel a bit odd. It is clear that whether or not we practice BDSM or I wear a chastity device, I can never touch my penis sexually. Only Mrs. Lion has access to it. Wow!
Lab Rat
Last night Lion didn’t seem to be as horny as he professed. Afterwards he offered an explanation. Maybe he was more turned on because Thursday I had baited the hook. I told him what I’d be doing to him that night. He was already excited before we even started. It seems plausible. I know he tends to be more aroused when I play with him beforehand rather than just going in for the kill, so to speak. Since I did nothing to announce my intentions last night, I can see that it might have taken some time for him to get going. On the other hand, there have been times when he’s horny and springs into action as soon as I touch him, play or no play. Another theory he posed was that maybe he has gone beyond his frisky stage and has entered his less frisky stage. We may have passed Lion’s peak of freshness. His sell by date. Lucky for me I have a caged lab rat to experiment on.
First I need to figure out if he’s gone past his peak. This should be easy to figure out by getting the Lion weather report. If it’s still hot and steamy, then chances are good he’s still ripe. If he’s ripe then suggestions of what I’ll do to him later should work well. Of course, if he’s not they could still work well. But at least I’ll know ahead of time.
The more difficult part is what to do if he has gone beyond his frisky stage. Do I give him an orgasm just to start the process over? Do I make him wait longer because if he no longer cares about having an orgasm he can wait with no trouble at all? I do know he’s not as much fun to play with if he’s not interested. A lioness likes to play with her food.
I had another thought last night. Do I change his scheduled date now that we are beyond it? Would that signal Lion that he has to wait until that date or will he just watch that date coming closer and wonder whether he’ll have an orgasm before then? There may be a whole psychology thing going on that I don’t understand. As far as Lion knows, his orgasm could come at any time. Tonight, tomorrow, a week from Wednesday. If I change the date, he may reset his own clock. At this point, I’m thinking I’ll leave the date where it is. If he makes it past the next date, I can always congratulate him on making and he still won’t know when he will actually have an orgasm.
I think this has officially entered the realm of being more difficult than parenting.
Picked At The Peak Of Ripeness
For the last two years I’ve been sure that I have a “chastity” cycle that is predictable. A couple of days ago I learned that it has either changed or I was completely wrong. I’ve consistently written that my tree-humping peak was on the fifth day of waiting. After that, it slowly dropped off until by the tenth day I wasn’t very horny at all.
The last couple of times my wait has extended past a week, I got more and more horny ever single day. For example, Thursday night was my ninth day. I was so horny that when 2.0 unlocked me and told me to get on my knees for some anal fun, I was hard as a rock without any help. I stayed hard through administration of a medium spanking and an injection of peppermint oil up my ass.
I never reacted this strongly on my fifth day; ever. Each day I think that I have peaked, and each day I’m even more desperate. My curiosity is starting to outpace my need to have an orgasm. Will my desire continue to grow? How long will 2.0 make me wait this time? Stay tuned.
I think there’s a good reason my interest has kept growing: Mrs. Lion has made a point of playing and edging every night. Thursday night, for example, 2.0 showed no mercy. She edged me over and over. I was left exhausted but still hard. She tried applying ice to calm me down. It didn’t work. A zip lock bag filled with ice covering my penis reduced my erection a bit, but not enough to get my ring or cage back on. Is there a trick we don’t know to end an erection?
It looks like I need about a week of waiting before my desire starts to reach the point I’ve been experiencing the last few days.. Frankly, I’m surprised. I thought that extended waits end up with desire leveling off at a rather low point. After a long wait, orgasms at the end were somewhat anticlimactic; at least that’s what I’ve read other guys claim.
When we discussed the idea of extending my wait to see how long the excitement grows, Mrs. Lion expressed concern that we will only know that after I peak. She likes to take an orgasm when I am fully ripe and at my peak. An overripe lion isn’t as much fun for either of us.
I still have mixed feelings about longer waits, but I have to say that my feelings are moving more toward waiting until I am fully ripe and ready. The daily play/edging sessions are more and more exciting as the wait increases from my last orgasm. After all, edging is the closest a male can get to multiple orgasms. Yes, the frustration is incredible, but I’m having so much fun that I don’t want it to stop. Once I get to come, it will be a week before the fun reaches these new, high levels. Wow! Am I saying I don’t want to come? Me?
