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Thursday night Mrs. Lion snuggled and played with her weenie. I responded and she edged me once. It’s the closest we’ve come to normality since my surgery a month ago. It felt very good to me. It won’t be long before we are back to our full routine. Mrs. Lion will dust off her paddles and BDSM toys and the fun will resume. She’s told me that she is hesitant to punish me until my shoulder pain is controlled. Right now there is very little pain. She is concerned that the physical therapy (PT) will make things hurt so much that she won’t want to add to my trouble. My prior experience with PT for this shoulder, suggests that there will be pain but it will disappear within a day.

Her plan is to ease me back into male chastity and punishment for my transgressions. That’s a good idea. It may be a while before the chastity device goes on again. I need sufficient use of both arms to reliably sit to pee and adjust things during the day. I’m pretty sure that isn’t the case for domestic discipline. That will resume soon, I’m sure. I wonder if Mrs. Lion will consider non-spanking punishments when we resume. There isn’t any real reason to change. Spanking is very effective with me. But she might consider add-on’s just for the hell of it (literally).

She might not. Punishment in our house is not a BDSM activity. It has a purpose: to correct behavioral mistakes on my part. That’s it. I could see her making some punishments fit the crime like mouth soaping for interrupting. But it’s completely up to her. Spanking is sufficiently humiliating and painful to be the all-purpose correction method. I’ll stop suggesting alternates. She is perfectly capable of finding instructions on any activity she chooses.

I wonder how difficult it will be for her to get back to her routine. It took a very long time to get where we were before the surgery. As lioness 2.0, she was committed to increasing her strict enforcement of rules. Will she continue meeting that commitment? I wonder how I will react to 2.0 working toward 2.5? Of course, my reaction has nothing to do with how she proceeds. I’m just curious.

In my mind, lioness 2.o is a change in Mrs. Lion’s behavior regarding strictness, punishment, and orgasm control. 1.5 is very sensitive to my reactions and will generally allow me to cause her to be less strict and a lot less painful in her punishments. 2.0 is not interested in my objections to her spanking. She hits hard as long as she wishes. She also is much more observant of my behavior and very willing to punish for the slightest deviation from a rule. This is the point I hope she can return to in the very near future.

I think that Lioness 2.5 is more than just a meaner 2.0. In my eyes, 2.5 will demand more obedience and will punish more severely than 2.0. This next evolution of my lioness will be comfortably in control and have considerably higher expectations of me. Sexually, she will decide what I get based purely on her own thinking. My feedback may be accepted but will have little weight.

Of course, this is all my idea. Only Mrs. Lion knows what her next step will be. I’m hoping she will share her thinking on this in the near future. I think that a part of the process of getting back to normal is to think about where we left off and where we are going. I am going to discuss this with Mrs. Lion and see how she is feeling. After all, I don’t get a vote in any of this.

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As you may recall, Lion and I have been trying to lose weight. I got the idea that this weight loss procedure should play into our FLR. As incentive for Lion losing weight, I decided he should get punished if he gains weight. If his weight stays the same or if he loses weight, his buns are safe.

Aside from his kidney surgery, he has steadily lost weight. Before his surgery, he wasn’t eating so it stands to reason he would lose weight and then gain weight once he started eating after the surgery. He was sick so I didn’t punish him when he gained weight at that point. I’m not a monster.

I don’t have a minimum weight he needs to lose each week. As long as he maintains or loses, I count that as a win. Lion does too. Otherwise, he gets spanked. He does not want to be spanked. I’m not sure if the spanking itself or dreading it is worse.

This week didn’t go very well at our weigh-in. We both gained weight. Of course, we were not adhering to our low-carb diet as well as other weeks. I think eating well takes more effort and it’s boring. It’s much easier to grab a pizza or burgers. Tastier too, to me.

Right now, Lion is dreading the punishment for his weight gain. How many swats will he get? How hard will they be? What can he do to avoid it? Will I forget to punish him? He’s just a poor, injured Lion. Why would I be so mean as to punish him?

Ha! Poor Lion. He may fear the punishment, but on some level, he looks forward to it. He knows it means I care enough to hold him to his rules. If I tell him he’s earned punishment and then forget enough times, he’s upset because it looks like I don’t care. What’s the purpose of the rules if I don’t enforce them? Why should he follow them?

The truth is, even when I say the rules have been suspended, Lion tends to follow them anyway. For example, when he has his kidney stones, he still waited until I ate before he ate. Right now, many of the rules have been suspended because of his shoulder. He still follows them. Once he has his surgery, I’m sure he’ll falter, but that’s okay. They’ve been suspended for just that reason.

When I see him adhering to the rules, I try to recognize him. I think it’s important, maybe more so, to tell him when I see him doing something right. He likes to hear “good boy” too. Good boy isn’t really natural for me yet. I say it sometimes, but I bet he’d like to hear it more often. I generally just thank Lion for waiting to eat. It’s a work in progress.

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I’ve decided we’re playing this weekend. I’m not sure what we’ll do or exactly when, but it needs to happen. It probably won’t be in the sling because that may be difficult for Lion’s shoulder. I’m sure I can still tie him to the bed with some minor adjustments in position. I can still spank him. I can still blindfold him. He can still wear diapers or nail polish. We just need a break from shoulder surgery talk for a little while.

Last night was the end of our orgasm a day experiment. It passed with little fanfare. Lion was itchy, tired and his shoulder hurt. Plus, we were in preparing for surgery mode. Lion remains wild because I just now realized our experiment is over. I’m sort of torn between locking him up and leaving him wild. While he has decided to get the surgery, he wants to hold off until May. That leaves at least a month for him to be wild. If I don’t lock him back up, it may look like I don’t care if he’s wild or not. If I do lock him up, he’ll whine for the first few days while he gets used to his loss of freedom. I’m leaning toward locking him up. He’s been wild for a long time and will be wild for an even longer time after his surgery. And, since he’s no longer eligible for an orgasm whenever he’s horny, he may be tempted. I can’t have that. The cage will go back on tonight.

Lion has been carefully following his rules. I think I’ve been a little lax on his interrupting me. I’ll have to crack down again. It shouldn’t matter if he’s in pain or not, he should mind his manners. Obviously, if it’s an emergency, he can interrupt. Otherwise, he’ll receive a visit from a paddle. He’ll have plenty of time when misbehaving won’t count against him once his surgery is done. That still doesn’t mean he has free reign. I will correct him. I just won’t punish him. He will know he’s done something wrong.

I think Lion will, ultimately, like the return of the cage and some normalcy. It’s been a rocky few weeks. Right now it’s the calm before the storm. There’s a lot of work to do to prepare for that storm, but he can also have some fun along the way.

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Sometimes things just seem to fall into place. With all the turmoil lately, it’s nice to have something go smoothly. Even though our night was interspersed with surgery talk, Lion managed to have a good night.

I decided to choose my own paddle for Lion’s punishment. He said I picked the meanest one. I think he could have said that about several of them. This one has a long handle with a small circular head. Lots of leverage. It’s actually the cousin of possibly the meanest paddle we have, which is made of bloodwood.

Before I started swatting, I wanted to test a theory I had. It’s been a long time since he’s been swatted, but there’s a spot on his right cheek that tends to bleed even if I don’t hit it directly. I wondered if I put some paper tape on it before I started, if it would keep it from bleeding. The fact that it was even hard to find the spot probably meant it wouldn’t bleed.

I tried the tape anyway. I don’t know if it didn’t bleed because it just wasn’t going to anyway or if I didn’t hit the spot, but the tape might have been a success. I’ll need to keep trying it to see if my theory is really correct.

A while after his punishment, we snuggled. I’m never sure if he’s receptive to attention until I try. I don’t think he is either right now. Once my weenie was at attention, though, I knew we were onto something good. I hadn’t really planned ahead of time, but I wanted to give Lion some oral attention. I can’t remember how I gave him his last orgasm, but a blow job is usually welcome. Now that I know how to edge him orally, he never knows if he’s actually getting an orgasm or not.

Afterwards, he said he was hoping for a blow job. It must have been ESP. He was thinking it and I must have heard him. Or it just could have been that I know he loves blow jobs and I love giving them to him. Whatever the case, he was a happy Lion. He said he wondered if he’d have an orgasm. It’s still within our window of an orgasm a day experiment. Why not? He has two more shots for orgasms. Our experiment ends Wednesday night. Who knows how long he’ll have to wait after that?