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In: Bondage, Orgasm, Sex, Spanking

As you can imagine, we spent the night in last night. We’re not much for parties and standing in the cold to watch fireworks we can see on TV seems ridiculous. We had our Chinese takeout and settled in for the night. In addition to being New Year’s eve, it was Lion’s orgasm night. We had our own festivities.

I combined Lion’s love of three things. First I cuffed his hands together and then I cuffed his feet together. I didn’t tie him to the bed because I knew he be turning over and I wanted him to remain cuffed the entire time. Yes, Lion, there was a method to my madness. I grabbed all the paddles in the bedroom and brought them to the bed. Lion laughed at me. He thought it was overkill. I told him I didn’t know which ones I’d want so I brought them all. Most of them are the ones I use for punishment, but of course, they can work just fine for play spanking. I made Lion’s butt a lovely shade of rosy red. I even bit him a few times. He was a very good boy and stayed still the whole time.

When I was done with his tush I had him roll over. He was still cuffed so it was a little difficult but he managed. I asked him if he was ready to come and he said I had to determine when he was ready. I started off with my hands but then I realized what he really wanted was my mouth. I had to uncuff his feet for that. As soon as my mouth touched him he was harder. Now he was really ready. He’s gotten it in his mind that I have to give him permission to come. That’s difficult to do when I’m sucking him. Besides, I like to push him to the point that he has no choice in the matter. I never get mad at him for coming too soon. That just means I’ve done my job. And I get mad at myself when he has a ruined orgasm if that wasn’t what I was going for, and I rarely go for that. But, for last night, I gave him permission and he had the most prolific orgasm he’s had in a while. And, although I thought I had sucked him dry, he was dripping for a while afterwards. Yum!

The only problem is that, somehow, Lion has a sore on his penis now. It was there before he came. We don’t know how it happened. The easiest explanation is that he got pinched in the cage. I won’t say I told you so, but he did want the cage locked on a little too quickly the other night. It might have happened then. I don’t know if he’ll be able to have his New Year’s day orgasm. He’s decided if he can’t have one then I should. We’ll see. It’s supposed to be his night again.

Lion ended the old year with a gush. I’m still hoping he can start the new year with one.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm, Ruined orgasm

I had Lion all tied up. His hands were connected to his collar. His balls were stretched out with a rope. The Magic Wand was working its magic. And I pushed him just a little too far.

Damn.

It wasn’t an obvious ruined orgasm. He didn’t gush. He didn’t get soft immediately. I was able to suck him for a little bit before we decided he needed a break. Time to recharge. I deferred to Lion to tell me when he’s ready.

An hour or so later we tried again. It was going okay, but then he lost it again. Just gone. I guess I broke him. Well, not broken. Ruined. I hate when this happens. I get so mad at myself. Why do I push it? Why didn’t I stop in time? Annoying.

Lion was wild Friday because he had a doctor’s appointment. I decided to leave him wild because he needs manscaping done. Of course, I thought he would be all relaxed and non-horny. Maybe he isn’t quite as horny today since I ruined him. I know I can trust him not to do anything. It’s not like I won’t be with him. We’ve got a lot of errands to run today. There shouldn’t be any time for him to cheat even if he was tempted.

We’ll try for his real orgasm again today. I would never make him wait if it was my fault he had a ruined orgasm. I’m hoping I can get him all the way today. If not, we’ll keep trying. I may have to put him in the sling to finish him off. Whatever it takes.

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In: Edging, Lion's Journal, Orgasm, Sex

Our marriage has improved greatly thanks to enforced chastity. I’ve been thinking about why this is so. I realized that one of the activities a lot of us do may offer a way for people to sustain intimacy and active sexual activity even if they aren’t involved in any kink.

As we males age, our sexual prowess diminishes. We take longer to recharge (refractory time) between ejaculations. It can take more stimulation to get hard. Our overall interest in sexual activity can decline significantly. That was certainly the case with me. I never was good at initiating sex and as I aged I got worse. Mrs. Lion was very unhappy that I wasn’t initiating and distance grew between us.

But now things are very different. I am almost always very interested in sex. It takes Mrs. Lion almost no time to get me hard and ready. Intimacy in our daily lives has grown significantly. I believe the change is due to an activity we call edging. People who practice enforced chastity understand this activity well. If you aren’t familiar with it, it’s stimulating the man until he is just about to ejaculate and then stop the stimulation. He is brought to the edge of orgasm, but if hi isn’t stimulated enough to actually have one. We do this as part of a power exchange. But if you take the power exchange away, the activity has a lot of value.

Ejaculation is the biological completion of male sexual activity.We males are wired to ejaculate any time we can. When we are of reproductive age we can have several ejaculations in an hour. As we age, we lose that ability. But if our partner edges us instead of giving us orgasms, we are ready to go again in seconds. As long as the ejaculation process isn’t initiated, we need almost no time to recover and do it again.

In the beginning I felt that edging cheated me of the pleasure I so badly wanted. Over time I have learned that each time I am edged I get 90% of the pleasure of an orgasm. I still want that extra 10%, but I still have fun. Sound kinky? It isn’t. Many cultures practice edging as a form of normal sex. To some it has spiritual significance.

Let’s go back to that marriage where sex has become almost absent. If the couple decides to try this, it starts out with the female partner learning how to get her man right to the edge without going over. Masturbating him and watching his reactions as he gets more and more aroused will give you a lot of information. The first time take him all the way to ejaculation. Give him a nice orgasm. Note any changes in him just as he gets ready to ejaculate. That’s your signal to stop when edging. It will take time to perfect. You don’t need to get him just one stroke away from ejaculation, just close enough that he experiences that amazing “I’m going to come” feeling.

After stopping, wait a few seconds and then touch his balls or otherwise let him know you are there for him, but stay away from his penis until you are sure he has calmed down. The repeat. An edging session can include as many cycles as you and he want. Eventually he will lose the ability to get to the edge and just get soft. He’ll be ready again in a few hours. For our purposes it’s better to avoid going that far.

As his partner, before, during, or after the edging you can have him give you orgasms. In the beginning restrict them to oral or hand release. The female partner can have all the orgasms she wants. But it is important that he not have one.

What about orgasms for him? He needs to get them too. You both have to decide how often. Bear in mind that after he has one his sexual interest will be significantly diminished for some time. This varies widely among men. You can experiment with the interval. I suggest starting with one a week and then increasing or decreasing time as you both want.

Regardless of how often he comes, it’s important that edging sessions take place very regularly. Some couples do it almost every day. Others every other day or even every third day. After he gets accustomed to non-orgasmic sex, the man will enjoy edging almost as much as orgasms. The woman will probably feel the same way. Each edging session is an opportunity for the woman to have orgasms herself.

After he learns to expect and manage edging, he can learn to delay orgasm himself. If he tells his partner when he is about to come, she can encourage him to hang in there and give him an extra stroke or two. Over time he will gain some ability to recognize when it is too late and he will ejaculate. Once he knows that, you can have intercourse without him ejaculating. Just let him stop when he gets too close and take a few seconds to recover. He can always finish his partner with his tongue or finger.

The reason edging is so helpful is that a couple can have sex without being restricted by the reduced ability of a man to have many orgasms. Make no mistake, edging is real sex to a man. It is to me! I get hornier after each session. By the fifth day I get hard like a 30 year old man almost the instant Mrs. Lion touches my penis. I love that feeling. Edging helps us defy age and lets us enjoy sex like much younger people. It takes some time and effort but it really paid off for us. We added the kink of a male chastity device and transfer of sexual power to Mrs. Lion. You don’t need to do that part unless it appeals to you. Edging is just as useful without the kink.

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In: Orgasm

Lion was, indeed, a very horny boy yesterday afternoon. I could tell because he said he didn’t want to go shopping because we were going out last night and when he read my post he knew there might be some festivities at home. He was hoping he would get some action. I didn’t disappoint him.

In order to prove himself, he had to endure a tiny pink clothes pin on the head of his cock. I wasn’t sure he’d be able to do it. After a few long minutes, I removed it. He was hard the entire time so he can’t say he wasn’t interested at some level. I edged him a few times and then put a different clothes pin on a different spot of the head. He was positive he couldn’t handle it. I kept telling him he could. I was right. I’m not sure if it hurts worse when it first goes on, while it’s on, or when it comes off.

When he was clothes pin-free, I edged him a few more times. He was so horny he was even bucking when I wasn’t touching him. While he didn’t achieve beautiful penis status, I decided he was certainly horny enough for an orgasm. But that didn’t mean I wasn’t going to torture him a little more.

He really loves when I use my mouth. I’ve gotten better about edging him that way too. I’m sure he’s not happy about that, though. I know he likes a certain amount of teasing, but I was making him earn this orgasm.

Eventually I gave him a slow orgasm and was rewarded with a mouthful of cum. Another win-win situation. Now I have a happy Lion who is back to being not-so-horny, but I’m sure he will be by tomorrow.