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Mrs. Lion wrote about our puppy’s digestive illness. She seemed more energetic on Sunday but still not her normal self. Dogs do their best to hide any weakness. Our previous dog worked hard not to let us know that she was in terrible pain. Willow is the same. I get it. If an animal who lives in a pack exposes any weakness, she is likely to be prey. Even though dogs have been domesticated for thousands of years, this trait still persists. We have to watch for subtle clues to determine if our pets need help. Her current problem was easy to spot. She was throwing up and had no energy.

While I’m on the subject of pets,I want to say that we have pet health insurance. We are covered by Trupanion. It covers 90 percent of all treatments and drugs. Willow’s policy costs more than Mrs. Lion’s health insurance and is only a few bucks less than mine. Our last dog was also insured. She started having seizures when she turned one. Her insurance paid for expensive medication that exceeded the premium we paid. Willow’s visit on Saturday cost $800. We ended up paying less than $200 for it.

Sex was the last thing on our minds on Saturday. It’s not all that interesting on Sunday, either. I’m writing this post on Sunday afternoon. Mrs. Lion and I might change our minds later. She’ll let you know in her post.

The end of the year is growing closer. We will have completed nine years of male chastity in just a week. We are just over two weeks away from our 6,000th post. I never imagined we would still be at either after all these years. Mrs. Lion and I have been together for twenty years. All those years ago, when we first got serious, I wondered what it would be like in twenty years. At one point early in our dating, she said she wondered if she would get bored with me. I asked her the other night if she was bored yet. She said she wasn’t. We’ve been practicing domestic discipline for at least five years (I can’t remember exactly when we started). We wondered if that would last.

I think the reason we manage to continue is that we keep communicating and trying new things. Based on other blogs I read, this is the secret for other couples who manage to incorporate these exotic practices in their daily lives. If we have anything in common, it may be that we discover real value in some aspect of what we do. We also compromise. Our domestic discipline isn’t what you read in the fictional accounts.

If our blog offers any historical value, it’s the accurate accounting of how we’ve changed over the years. What hasn’t changed is how much we love each other.

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We are 42 posts away from the magic number of 6,000. I’m sure you’ve noticed that I’m pausing for some needed introspection. Along the way, I learn new things about more than myself. For example, Richard commented:

“Right now I have no keyholder but I wear a device, maybe 5 to 7 days during the week. I have become kinda addicted to wearing one. I switch between four or five that are comfortable as my weekly ‘decoration’.”

He articulated what has to be a major reason a lot of guys choose to wear a male chastity device. Maybe it’s the main reason. There are very few compulsive masturbators. Most men jerk off to relieve sexual tension. They have gainful employment and enjoy positive sexual relations with their partners. The male chastity device isn’t protecting them from themselves. It’s fun to wear. It feels good to know it’s locked around the penis. It looks cool in the mirror. It’s body decoration.

Before I started wearing a male chastity device (I’m cage-free right now), I had a frenum piercing. I liked how it looked and felt. It was my body decoration. During the years I had the piercing, I reviewed male chastity devices. One required the piercing to hold the device in place. It was hot to try them out, but I had no desire to wear any of them full time. Years later (at least ten), I had removed the piercing jewelry and decided to revisit male chastity devices. You know what happened then. We have almost 6,000 posts to explain.

I loved the idea that no matter how horny I got, I couldn’t get relief unless Mrs. Lion gave it to me. I had a very sexy power exchange. My analysis of male chastity started and stopped with that description. It was accurate but not complete. It certainly didn’t describe why many men wore devices even though they had no partners or their spouses weren’t interested.

The sexual game was big fun and the major motive we had for getting locked up. Even guys who had no partners liked to use the device to force themselves to wait for release. I think that focus on masturbation hid the other big reason for wearing the device; it was fun. I like how it feels to be locked in a male chastity device. I never masturbate, so there is no sexual bondage involved in wearing one. It’s just fun. Admitting that destroys the popular bondage fantasies about being locked in a male chastity device. As if any of us believed they were true. Let’s be honest. A male chastity device is male body jewelry. It can be a fun part of a power exchange or just a secret decoration it’s fun to wear.

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Things are back to normal. Mrs. Lion didn’t spank me on Monday. I was still under the weather. I feel much better. We are both waiting for the other shoe to drop. I got sick again three days after my last bout. Will I get sick again on Thanksgiving? We are both worried. I’ve resumed penis pumping. It’s an odd experience. I can see my penis growing longer and harder inside the clear tube. It doesn’t feel like I have an erection. If I couldn’t see what was happening inside the tube, I would think that something was pulling on my flaccid penis. Pumping isn’t a sexual experience for me. Mrs. Lion reports that my last sexual session produced a very erect penis. That could be caused by an urgent need to ejaculate or because the penis pump is doing its job. I wasn’t all that horny when Mrs. Lion decided to jerk me off. I’m convinced that the pumping is working.

This is only the second time that sexual hardware kept its promise to me. I’ve tested sex toys for over twenty years. During that time, there has been very little innovation in the area of male masturbators. They fall into a few categories. Most try to use vibration to get a man off. Most of us can be brought to orgasm with a strong vibrator applied to the right part of the penis. The premiere vibrator is the Magic Wand. Mrs. Lion can get me off with it.

The only other technique is to simulate sexual motion that strokes the penis the same way intercourse or oral sex works. The earliest of these devices is the Venus 2000. It was the first sex simulator that I tried. It consisted of a large case containing a vacuum pump and various controls. It worked by placing a plastic tube containing a latex sheath over the penis. The device created a realistic motion. The tube moved up and down over the penis. It took me a lot of work to make it get me off. When it did, the feeling was spectacular. The problem was the amount of time and effort to get that sensation. It cost $900. The Venus is still available for about the same price. Newer motion devices like the AutoBlow are more compact but don’t work for me.

I tried early male chastity devices. They were uncomfortable and there wasn’t any clear idea of why a man should wear one. Most of the reports from guys into this kink were about locking themselves up and then trying to escape. It was a sort of puzzle fueled by the need to masturbate. That didn’t appeal to me. Over a decade later, I chanced across some male chastity device listings on Amazon. My curiosity was fueled, and since the advertised devices were inexpensive, I decided to check them out.

I admit it. The idea of wearing a chastity device turned me on. I had no idea why, but it did. So, I bought a couple of devices and tried them. They weren’t very comfortable, but they were fun to wear. At that time, our sex life wasn’t very good. Mrs. Lion wasn’t happy about initiating sex and I wasn’t able to do it. As a result, she only got me off about once a month. I jerked off two or three times a week.

One day, an idea struck me. I figured that if Mrs. Lion would agree to be my keyholder, we could take the initiation problem away. She would keep me locked full time. Every day or two, she would unlock me and tease me. When she wanted, she could get me off any way she desired. When I asked her to do this, she agreed. I also told her that I had been jerking off. I assumed she knew that I must have been doing it. She was surprised and unhappy when I told her.

Right then and there, without any discussion of a power exchange, Mrs. Lion told me that I wasn’t ever allowed to masturbate. At the time, I didn’t think I agreed to let her make rules like that, but I kept quiet. She then locked me in a male chastity device. At the time, I don’t think she considered the chastity device as a way to train me not to masturbate. I think she expected me to keep my hands off just because she told me.

After a while, she understood that my kinky desire to be locked in a male chastity device also helped me obey her rule. Male chastity turned out to have real value in our marriage. I think that I probably would have cheated and jerked off if I weren’t locked up. I didn’t have a chance to find out. I was in a chastity device for over three years. By the time I was allowed to run wild, I lost my interest in masturbating. I think that is an amazing sex device success story.

In retrospect, I’m not particularly happy that I’ve been trained not to masturbate. It was fun and relieved sexual stress. Now, I’m totally dependent on my lioness for relief. She believes that is the natural order of things. I don’t know about that but it is part of the secret sauce that makes our marriage so successful. She wants to be the sole source of my sexual pleasure. She is.

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Synthetic erection produced by penis pump.

I am writing this post on Thursday afternoon. Today is punishment day which means my bottom will get some attention. It feels a little odd that being spanked is a regular, scheduled activity. I’m not complaining. It feels odd, that’s all. It’s been eleven days since my last orgasm. That isn’t exceptional as waits go. Actually, it’s close to my average wait. Between being sick and Mrs. Lion’s sore shoulder and general achiness, sex has been on the back burner. Truthfully, it’s slipped in priority.

It isn’t Mrs. Lion’s fault. She wants me to be happy. Sex is a sort of chore for her. She says it isn’t, but I’m sure that she would rather do a lot of things instead of entertaining my penis. I want to reciprocate and deliver pleasure to her. I understand that she lost interest in sex, and that’s normal in many post-menopausal women. I’m very lucky that she still wants to give me pleasure. She likes my penis. She doesn’t like moving around that much. Our massage table has only been used three times.

Male chastity (cage-free for me right now) is so routine that it isn’t ever mentioned. I go on tracking days since my last orgasm. Mrs. Lion makes me wait more out of routine than any conscious plan. I doubt she even thinks about how long I’m waiting. We both know that she decides when I get to come. Her decisions are made during times she stimulates my penis. It’s organic, I guess. Maybe that’s the desired end state for male chastity. If it is, I have to say that it’s a lot less fun than the journey getting here.

It seems that most men who have practiced male chastity for a few years no longer wear male chastity devices. For me, at least, there’s no advantage for Mrs. Lion. I haven’t masturbated since 2013, so there is no serious risk that I will start jerking off. Mrs. Lion is not fond of unlocking and locking my male chastity device. She says it’s extra trouble. There is an advantage to locking me up. The process of unlocking requires her to get up, get her key, and remove my male chastity device. She can’t just snuggle in bed and play with my penis.

She likes to do that even though I rarely get hard when she does. Her fondling doesn’t stimulate the way it does when she is sitting up. I can’t figure out why it makes a difference, but it does. Oral sex works even better. That requires a lot of moving. The male chastity device forced activity. I would much rather have the activity without the device. Wearing a male chastity device is inconvenient for me. Peeing is more difficult. I’ve learned to live with that. I’m not suggesting that I go into full-time lockup again. I’m not suggesting anything. I guess this is the ultimate “be-careful-what-you-wish-for situation. I wished, got my wish granted, and was locked up for years. Now that my wish was granted, we’re stuck.