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In: Lion's Journal
bondage sling
This isn’t my sling, but it is very similar. Ankles and wrists are attached to the four chains so they are up high and out of the way. Click the image for naked picture of me in my sling.

As she promised, Mrs. Lion strapped me into my sling on Sunday afternoon (explicit nude pictures of lion in his sling). It had been quite a while since I had hung there. It took a bit of time for me to figure out how to “mount up”. Once in place, Mrs. Lion attached the ankle and wrist restraints. I had almost forgotten how exposed I feel hanging there with my legs up and wide apart and my butt hanging over the edge of the sling. Mrs. Lion had access to all of my naughty bits.

She began by removing my cage. This is the first time she removed the cock and ball ring. Usually she unlocks and removes the penis cage and I rake off the ring. When I am locked up, the process is reversed with me putting the ring back on. Once unlocked, she got some lube and proceeded to make my butt nice and slippery. She started with her fingers. It hurt at first. I am really out of practice! But she is persistent and discomfort aside, I was able to take three fingers. She then switched to a double dildo and inserted the rather large “male” end into me. That took some time and effort. Over the months I had “forgotten” how to take large objects. She followed the double dong with a 1 3/4-inch diameter, 8-inch long dildo. I got a good bit of it in before I had to ask her to call it quits. Anal play takes time. I know it won’t be long until I can take it all and she can peg me with it. Sunday, the pegging (fucking) motion was just too much. I never really learned to like that in -and-out of the dildo, but with practice I am sure I will.

While she pegged me, she played with my penis too. I don’t know if I got hard or not, but it was a nice distraction from the anal sensations. I asked about the double dong. Mrs. Lion said that she would like to use it, but the sling was too high for it. I made the sling easily adjustable, so one evening this week we can adjust the height for comfortable pegging. This will be a new experience for both of us. I hope she likes it and can orgasm that way.

After insertion time, Mrs. Lion took a nice long spanking break. My buns were hot and burning when she finished. She is an amazing hand spanker. She can do me in with her bare hands. She also used some assorted toys including a flogger. I should point out that flogging someone in a sling is not easy. The sling and hanging chains get in the way, plus balls and penis are out where they can be hit too. Flogging balls and penis has to be much gentler than the butt. She did as well as she could. We also have a spanking bench. She may want to use that for her next flogging. I like the “thuddy” feel of the flogger on my butt and back. It is almost like a massage. She followed the flogger with playing with my penis and edging me with her mouth. Oh that felt so good! She went a bit far on her last try and I felt myself starting to come just as she took her mouth off of me. Being the kind lioness she is, she immediately used her hand so I wouldn’t have a ruined orgasm. All that play, plus having to wait a few days made my semen production quite copious.

In her post yesterday, Mrs. Lion mentioned making me wait as an idea to get me to have more forceful ejaculations. I have been doing Kegel exercises daily and there is some improvement in ejaculation, but it still oozes out. I think this is a function of my age more than anything else. I can’t believe I am saying this, but as a caged male, I think I should have to wait longer between orgasms, at least for a trial period. It isn’t that I get pride in how long I can go without an orgasm, or how I think being deprived will make me more attentive. It’s that I wonder how it will feel when I finally get to squirt. And  I do wonder how things might change with longer denial.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but my interest in sex seems to follow a cycle. I don’t know how long this cycle is, or if it is regular, but I have periods when I just want sex every day in every way. Then I go through some time when I am happy to have sex, but not really driven to it. I am currently in a fairly quiet period. This could change overnight. It has in the past.

At this point in our chastity relationship I think Mrs. Lion has her own ideas how she wants things to proceed. Earlier, I was concerned that I was driving it through things I said or wrote. You know, topping from the bottom. I don’t think that’s true any more. So regardless of what I say or write, we are now following Mrs. Lion’s plan. I am very happy we are.

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In: Femdom, Lion's Journal, Male Control (training), Punishment, Sex, Shock Collar
no sex for lions
Being forced to wait is sexy in its own way. Forced male chastity is full of contradictions. Humans (and lions) are very strange critters.

The earliest reading I did about forced male chastity featured docile obedient males instantly tamed by virtue of a device being locked on their genitals. If these guys were submissive to start, maybe I could buy the instant docility. Even now after months of being caged, I don’t find myself inclined to be docile. Reading forums devoted to male chastity and heavily screened to keep fiction out, I find very little along these lines either. In fact, the idea of male control (obedience, etc.) doesn’t frequently appear in the same context as forced chastity. I think it is easy to make the assumption that if a male allows his keyholder to take absolute control over his ability to enjoy orgasm or erection, then it follows that he will do anything to induce her to let him get off. In practice, for me at least, that isn’t the case.

This may be due to the fact that Mrs. Lion doesn’t make me wait very long between orgasms. She never uses the threat of extending my orgasm-free lockup for failing to obey her. It’s true that I have very little to do in terms of obedience. If I avoid dropping food (not easy for me), don’t get grumpy with waitstaff and clerks, and wait for permission to eat, I am obeying my keyholder. Failure to do either results in a shock  if I have my leash on, or a small paddling later if I don’t. Neither has anything to do with my caging. I’ve always helped around the house, inside and out, and I cook frequently. So domestic duties don’t seem to be an area that needs exploring.

In my reading, I see that most of the writing by caged males is about living with the hardware. Some talk about length of being locked up. Is this the new “mine is longer than yours” discussion for caged males? Both caged males and keyholders write about tease and denial, ruined orgasms, masturbating and orally pleasing keyholders, and accidental male orgasms. Very little is written about obedience, punishment, or chores.

My conclusion is that ironically, forced male chastity is about sex; odd for something that prevents sex from happening. In most cases it is also about other things. For many it includes top and bottom play where the keyholder does classic BDSM topping of her caged male. This includes bondage, spanking, anal play, as well as many of the other forms of top/bottom play. As far as I can tell, it is independent of the forced chastity. You could argue that forced male chastity is a form of bondage. Strictly speaking that’s correct. Mrs. Lion and I have done top and bottom play for many years. The frequency of this play dropped off to almost nothing in the last six or seven years. So did most sexual activity, particularly for Mrs. Lion.

When I asked her to be my keyholder and she agreed, changes started happening. One of the first things I did after being locked up was to begin this blog. Mrs. Lion read it. More recently, she has become a regular contributor. It’s fair to say that the blog and my forced chastity began at about the same time. This combination has over the last few months, improved our communication, Mrs. Lion’s libido, my efforts to give her orgasm, and our interest in top/bottom play. It could be this blog; the fact that we are communicating through our writing. I am sure this is a valuable part of it. But I think that my cage is a bigger part. Both of us know that I am sexually dependent on Mrs. Lion. We both understand that she has to do something before I can even get an erection.

This knowledge motivates me to give her reasons to think about my sexual needs. These needs could range from wanting an orgasm to wanting to be forced to wait longer. Because her pleasure is also increasing, she has reason to consider resuming our top/bottom fun. I find it very hot to know that I have no control over my next boner or when I will be able to actually ejaculate. Wearing my electronic leash and knowing that even at a distance, Mrs. Lion can give me a forceful message under my balls. I also like the idea (as yet untested) that I will have to wait longer for an orgasm and perhaps will be made to wait even longer if naughty. As you might have guessed, a good part of the excitement of being a bottom for me is that I will be disciplined. I wrote about this in the past.

I can’t honestly say that we couldn’t do all the things that turn me on without my being caged. But I am sure that the fact I am locked up keeps our attention more focused on sexual fun. I know that for me it is impossible to forget that no matter what my mood, I can’t even get hard without Mrs. Lion letting me. That’s seriously sexy!

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In: Keyholder, Lion's Journal, Sex
lion in his sling
This is the most explicit image we have posted. How do you feel about it?

One of the key questions I have had to answer is, “How explicit should photos be on our blog?” When we started out, one of our main goals is to make this site friendly for both men and women, many of whom have never considered any sexual play. To make the site friendly, we avoided obvious penis pictures. However, as our conversation moves into specific activities, it’s clear to me that we need to show nudity and play. As you may have noticed, most of our images are black and white. This takes some of the “porn” feel out of these images.

We appear to have been successful. However, yesterday to illustrate Mrs. Lion’s post about playing in my sling, we added a very sexual image of me in my sling. Was that a mistake? Did we turn off some of our readers? Did we help our readers better understand what we are communicating? I don’t mind being the “model” for some of these images. What Mrs. Lion and I write is far more intimate than pictures of my butt or penis.

What matters most is that we share with you and how you feel about the material. Mrs. Lion appears to have a growing interest in topping more. She knows I want to bottom to her. I would like to share what we do with you. How do you feel about the sling image we posted yesterday (I put it into this post too for your reference)? If you are one of our female readers, would seeing imaged like this, or the ones on this page bother you? Would it help you better understand what we are saying? Would you be offended or turned of? Do black-and-white images make sexual topics more palatable?

Please let us know how you feel. Leave a comment and share your feelings about explicit images. Your feedback is very important to us.

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In: Keyholder101, Lion's Journal
stop sign
Understanding your male’s reactions are critical to safe play.

Safewords are used to give the bottom (caged male) an emergency switch to immediately stop what is happening. For example, if during a spanking the bottom suddenly gets a chest pain, he can use the safeword to immediately stop the spanking, get released from bondage, and get help. The intention is recognition that the bottom must have some control to prevent injury; physical or psychological. Safewords also give the top some comfort in knowing that the bottom can scream, shout “No!” and make other protests without causing the top to have to analyze whether these complaints are real or part of the bottom’s enjoyment of the experience. Obviously, if the bottom uses the safeword, the top must immediately stop the action and aid the bottom.

Unfortunately, safewords aren’t enough. In three decades of topping and dungeon monitoring I have never had a bottom use a safeword. In that same time I have stopped many scenes because the bottom was clearly in distress. Why didn’t the bottom safeword? There are several reasons why the safeword isn’t reliable.

The main problem is what some people call “sub space”. This is a condition that bottoms, runners, athletes, and others who endure physical stress experience. As part of the “fight or flight” reflexes all humans have, endorphins, a brain harmone, is released when the body feels this stress. Endorphins mask pain and create a pleasant kind of euphoria. This is sub space. For some it’s addictive. If during play the stimulation is slowly increased, endorphin production will keep pace and the bottom will enjoy the stimulation. That’s why “warm up” is generally practiced; gently spanking or otherwise stimulating the bottom to build endorphins that will allow the bottom to take more later.

As a keyholder top, you need to be aware of this endorphin process. Since your caged male will be unable to accurately report any possible injury or stress, you need to understand the signs so you can control your stimulation and know when you might need to stop. Here is a list of things to do and observe that will help you keep your play safe:

  • If you use bondage, every few minutes feel the bottom’s hands and feet. If they are cold, circulation may be cut off.  Also note the color. If the hands or feet look a bit blue, that also can signal circulation problems. This can happen even with loose bondage. Thrashing and pulling on the bonds can cut off circulation. Feel the hands and feet immediately after you restrain them. That will give you a baseline. If later they feel colder, it’s time to stop for a bit and assure that circulation is ok.
  • Sweating is often a sign of stress. Assuming the room isn’t too hot, if your bottom starts to sweat, it may mean that he is feeling physical stress. Frequently the sweat will appear on the back and under the arms. Sometimes it will have an unpleasant smell. If this happens, you may not need to stop, but you should be much more sensitive to other signs. Reducing the level of stimulation for a bit can help too.
  • Heavy breathing is also a sign of stress. Panting is frequently a sign of stress. Ask the male if he is ok. If he can answer in a way that indicates he is aware of what is going on, you can trust his reply. If he sounds sleepy or incoherent, it means that he is on an endorphin trip and his answers can not be trusted.

Many bottoms consider an endorphin high as the main reason they like a top to stimulate them painfully. People do not react the same way to endorphins. I had a friend who would fall asleep almost immediately after getting spanked or flogged. He was unresponsive for a half hour or so and just needed to be covered and allowed to sleep it off. I don’t slip very far into sub space. I can actually enjoy spanking or flogging. What hurt horribly in the beginning starts to feel good. At that point I would never use a safeword. I am having fun.

As a top, you need to decide what you want your caged male to experience. If you want to spank him and make him feel every swat, then start hard and fast and increase stimulation before his endorphins can catch up. He will hate that. Of course, that is the objective of punishment. If you are playing, then start softly and build slowly. It takes me about ten or fifteen minutes before my endorphin level is high enough for me to enjoy hard swats. Also, if you use a paddle, the sensation is more sting. Sting isn’t well masked by endorphins. A flogger or a heavy strap is more “thud” and stimulates endorphin production more quickly. Ever wonder why some people like to be punctured with needles? For some, just one needle stick will induce an endorphin high.

What about bruises? Most males will bruise at one time or another. They are not a danger sign in and of themselves. In fact, well placed bruises on the lower half of the butt will provide a lasting reminder of your spanking every time he sits. One important rule is never hit a bruise. Even if you have to stop your activities, you must avoid re injuring a bruised spot. Another no-no is to hit an area that doesn’t have good padding; muscle or fat. Spanking the penis also has a few rules too. The erectile tissue (the shaft) should never be hit when he is hard. That tissue is very easy to damage. However, the penis head is fair game at any time. It also has the benefit of being very sensitive so it won’t take much effort to get a big reaction. Balls may be spanked too. Avoid heavy hitting objects. You need to protect the testes (balls) from deep injury. They are tough but need care when stimulated. His reaction will be a good sign. If he gets nauseous that is a sign you may be hitting too hard. Take your time and learn how he reacts. By the way, most males react much more to penis spanking than butt swats. It is an area no man expects to be spanked.

Most important is to start gently and observe your caged male’s reactions to stimulation. Take your time. Safe play depends on understanding your male and the way he reacts to various stimuli If you can, see if there are workshops in your area conducted by local leather organizations on spanking and other topping and bottoming topics. Seeing a demo and talking with experienced people is a great way to learn. Most important, have fun!.