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We were considering dinner out last night but neither of us were very hungry. By the time we decided to eat something in, it was pretty late. As a result, play time was late.

I tied Lion’s balls to see if that would help with his slump. I’m sorry to say it did not. Tight, stretched out balls were not the answer. Of course, it was late. But Lion is more convinced than ever that he’s broken. He’s afraid he’s permanently broken. I’m not so sure. He’s still horny. I’m wondering if it has something to do with medications. He’s making a doctor appointment to check things out.

This morning, Lion isn’t feeling well. He’s not sure if it’s kidney stones again or what. He’s in a lot of pain and I’m not sure how to help him. I’m in the helpless position of waiting for him to tell me if he needs to go to the hospital. Health issues are not the way we wanted to start 2020. I’m hoping he has whatever I had the other day. It wasn’t fun but it didn’t last too long.

With him in a lot of pain, I’m not really thinking about causing him more pain. However, I know he probably needs pain to get over his slump. Barring any organic issues, it must be a play problem. He isn’t getting what he needs to fully turn him on. It’s possible that a change of venue would help. We spend all our time in the bedroom and I’ve argued in the past that there should be some separation. Aside from my moving over to snuggle, there’s no real signal that sex is beginning. You know, in the movies and on TV someone usually says “let’s take this to the bedroom” or words to that effect. I don’t know for a fact that that would work. I just know something has to change.

I guess I could start putting clothespins or Icy Hot on the bed to foreshadow the night’s happenings. But I sort of like surprising Lion. It’s fun to get him all riled up and then bring out those evil tiny clothespins and watch his face contort. Even if I don’t use them. Even if I just bring one out and run it over the tip of his cock like I might use it. I have no idea if that would break his slump. I don’t know what will or I would have done it by now. I’m grasping at straws here.

Lion feels bad that he can’t get hard for me like he’s wasting my time. I feel bad that I can’t get him hard like I’m wasting his time. Maybe I really did do a number on him when I stopped when I was tired. Maybe that sent a message that I won’t go the extra yard to get him to the edge. I have. And I will. We’ll figure this out. Maybe we just need to stop dwelling on it. Thinking is the enemy of an erection, after all.

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No, not that one!

Lion had a doctor appointment yesterday. His blood pressure was fairly low. That might be part of the reason he hasn’t been as excited lately. Well, he’s been excited. He just can’t maintain an erection. I have no doubt he’s horny and willing. However, he said something last night that causes me some concern.

Perhaps masturbation has lost its luster. I admit, that made my heart stop for a second. What does that mean? How do we fix it? Is he tired of me? All those thoughts went through my mind before my heart started again. Oh, and one other thought: does he want to masturbate himself rather than having me do it? He said maybe that’s why the vibrator had such an effect. It was something different.

Since the hand job wasn’t working (even after clothespins on his balls), I tried a blow job. That worked for a while and then he fizzled out. So much for something different.

I have a few ideas. The first is that it is the low blood pressure, at least in part. The second is that it was a little late last night. The third is that he may be so excited about anal training that he can’t get anywhere unless we do that. The fourth is that he was in a lot of pain after the doctor visit which, obviously, affects everything. I don’t know. They’re just theories.

Lucky for Lion I don’t give up that easily. I want a nice woody and I want it now! Well, not right now because I’m not with him, but tonight. I’d even go so far as to give him an orgasm if he’d give me a lasting woody. I have no idea how many days it’s been but I’m sure he’d like an orgasm. What do you say, Lion?

[Lion — It’s been ten days as of today. I am fine with edging or an orgasm.]

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naked lion outdoors
This is the only socially accepted view of a naked male body. Unlike the frontal view further into the post, this picture can appear almost anywhere without drawing negative comments, other than not liking my body.

There is a very clear double standard when it comes to nudity in the media, movies, television, and even services like Facebook and Twitter. Even digital or cable programming displays the same bias. I’m talking about the fact that all these media will show full frontal female bodies. They also show rear ends of both men and women. Still off-limits are frontal views of males.

I’m not complaining that there is a more liberal view toward showing pussies. It does seem odd that penises, even flaccid penises are off-limits. I don’t get it. This is a clear double standard. I could see avoiding erections because an erection represents sex. A flaccid penis is no more pornography than an external view of a vagina.

Since this blog is about enforced male chastity, specifically our experience with it, the only sex organs we’ve shown so far are male; almost always mine. These are pictures that usually accompany posts that I write, though Mrs. Lion’s posts frequently show my penis as well. Most of the views show me flaccid or locked in a chastity device.

I don’t consider this pornography. You might argue that the pictures including my erection border on being X-rated. They still don’t show sexual activity, just an alternate state of my penis.

Is there something threatening about the penis that makes it objectionable to reveal? I suspect that the bias against showing male reproductive organs is a throwback to the double standard of male sexual dominance. I don’t think it has anything to do with the fact that the penis is more sexually provocative than a vagina. I don’t get turned on seeing pictures of naked men, even close-ups of their penises. I definitely enjoy seeing naked women including close-ups of their sexual organ.

I imagine this is true of almost all heterosexual males. I’m pretty sure that modern women enjoy seeing a penis if the context is something they welcome. I know that few women enjoy random cock shots, but they are neutral or positive to penis pictures associated with something they are reading. For example, a picture of my penis in this post may not turn on our female readers, but it won’t shock them or feel unwelcome. This blog is mostly about my penis in one way or another.

It seems unfair that there is a visual bias against naked male frontal views. I can’t believe that many women consider penises threatening. They might have been in earlier, less liberal times. I hope that members of both sexes don’t find male genitals disgusting. That would be an antiquated perspective. It’s unlikely that anyone reading this would feel this way.

lion naked on his deck
Okay, so it isnt a work of art. But my flaccid penis is no more offensive than a similar shot of a naked female. Mrs. Lion prefers to see my erection.You can see her favorite view further down the post.

Still there is an obvious bias against male genitalia in the media. It even overflows into the social media. I’ll follow a bunch of people on twitter. Some show naked pictures, like people into nudism. At least 80% of the nude pictures that cross the feeds I monitor are of women. Of the 20% male images, at least 75% of them are rear views. Less than half the female nudes, way less than half are taken from the rear.

Apparently, since we all have them, naked butts are much more socially acceptable. R-rated movies can show extensive rear nudity, and show very brief frontal female nudity, but no penises.

I’m not on a crusade for penis equality in the media. Well, maybe I am. From my perspective, I am much happier seeing naked women than naked men. On the other hand, it does affect me that my reproductive organ is a social outcast and must remain hidden from view.

I don’t think it’s a matter of aesthetics. It could be partly due to the fact that the majority of the people who produce pictures, TV shows, and movies that we watch our men; heterosexual men. They would be much more inclined to show naked women of course. Nowadays, there are a lot of female content providers and they also tend to show female nudity.

I think that even I’m affected by this bias. I feel a little reluctance each time I publish a penis picture, even mine. I don’t feel any hesitation when on publishing a female image.

lion's erect penis
Here I am in all my glory. I’m lying on my back with a full erection. Mrs. Lion is particularly fond of this view. I can’t see why this is more offensive than a similar picture of a naked female.
(Click to view larger)

Perhaps, sex bloggers like us could make a point of showing male genitalia. We could begin a little movement to desensitize people about any negative bias they have when they see a penis. I’m not suggesting we publish gratuitous close-ups of naked cock, anymore than I think it is in good taste to publish gratuitous pussy pictures. Showing full frontal naked male pictures, flaccid or erect would be reasonable in many contexts.

It doesn’t matter whether or not I particularly like seeing penises, I think it’s important that we males feel good about revealing our junk. I know that Mrs. Lion likes to see my weenie as she calls it. She also said that she prefers seeing erect penises to flaccid ones. Okay, Mrs. Lion picture to the left is for you. For the record, it’s me.

We haven’t had energy to do anything sexual. I’m feeling the pressure more and more every day.  Wanting to come and having the energy to actually do it is my current situation. As of yesterday it’s been 10 days. I realize that’s not much to most guys who are into enforced male chastity. Go tell my penis! He is ready now.

We are still sleeping in our camper. Maybe we will get the bedroom unpacked enough to stay there tonight. It’s a good thing that camper is very large and well appointed. It feels like a hotel suite. Nevertheless, we can’t make full use of the bathroom because wastewater and sewage go into storage tanks under the camper. If we attempt to shower or use the toilet too much, we will have to take the trailer to a dump station to empty the tanks. That would be a bit much. I suspect we will have to do it regardless.

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This narrow, heavy paddle is made of a very dense wood. It is three quarters of an inch thick and packs a serious wallop.

I’ve made a lot of mention about Lion being stuck. By this I mean that he gets excited but can’t get any further. If I can just get him to the edge once, I can do it a few times. The problem is getting him to the edge.

Last night I decided to try my hand at getting him there orally. It worked. I joked with him that “all I have to do” is use my mouth from now on and we’ll be all set. He agreed wholeheartedly. Of course, I’m not going to do that but I may have to do it more often than I have been. For all I know, it may be easier to get him to the edge tonight because I jump started the process orally last night. Maybe it’s a case of my weenie forgetting what it’s supposed to do and only by using my mouth can I convince it to perform. Maybe I’m the penis whisperer.

I have no doubt that nightly oral ministrations would get old fairly quickly. For both of us. My neck would either break or become one of the strongest necks on a woman the world has ever seen. My weenie would probably say, “Oh great. This again. Go slobber somewhere else.” It would take some time, but Lion would get tired of it. Trust me. Who thought he’d get tired of an orgasm every night? He used to “demand” that.

I did think spanking would go a long way toward helping the situation, but it didn’t seem to on Monday night. I used a different paddle last night. Sort of a flattened billy club-looking thing. I was able to swat both Lion’s cheeks at the same time. This morning he told me it was thuddy as opposed to stingy. Sting-y. When he clarified he said thicker, heavier implements produce a thud and wider, lighter implements provide a sting. I’d assume the opposite to be true.

Case in point, caning. I have no idea why I’ve been thinking about this lately, but we haven’t done caning in years and years. I guess smacking both cheeks at the same time reminds me of caning. At any rate, a cane is thin and produces a definite sting. At least I assume it does. From Lion’s reactions to it, I make that assumption. A thud from a flogger results in an “oof” noise. A sting from a cane results in a butt-clenching intake of air that sounds like a reverse hiss.

Having only been the recipient of one pinched nipple and a few playful swats, I am certainly no expert. I have to defer to my victim. I have to say, however, that recent spankings have sounded more like yowls than oofs or reverse hisses. Thuddy or sting-y, it appears to hurt. A lot.

[Lion — I would certainly welcome some caning. The cane is a combination of sting and thud. Because it is very flexible and long, the tip of the cane moves at very high speed. Since the cane is relatively narrow in diameter, it concentrates all that force on a very small area of skin. I’m not sure I would classify the cane as either stingy or thuddy. It’s in its own category of impact sensation.]