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Mrs. Lion hates it when I suggest what she “should” do. In my post yesterday, “Get Hard Or Else“, I responded to her post of the day before, “Communicate or be Spanked” where she suggested that on nights I don’t want play or get teased sexually, I might be spanked unless I had a good reason. I suggested that maybe this could be a less squishy rule that required me to get hard when she wanted.

I’m not trying to defend the fact I elaborated. I just want to avoid a trap we seem to fall into: When a rule is subjective like spanked for annoying Mrs. Lion, it doesn’t seem to get enforced. When the rule is concrete like, set up the coffeepot every day, Mrs. Lion is excellent in observing an infraction and punishing it. That’s why I tried to make her subjective concept into a more concrete one.

We both decided that there wasn’t enough spanking going on here. That may sound odd coming from me, but we both can all-too-easily stop something if we don’t consistently practice it. The maintenance spanking I got last Tuesday didn’t have the same effect on either of us that punishment has. We agreed to find more opportunities for me to earn a spanking. We both realize that the disciplinary part of our marriage has value for us that we don’t want to lose.

Given that, it seemed to me we could have a concrete easy-to-spot rule that would provide us with opportunities for more spanking. It also would take advantage of the connection I have with spanking and sex. That’s the reason for my proposal.

I suppose that means I want more spanking. I do, but it isn’t that simple. Mrs. Lion is willing to spank me if I ask her. Those “play” spankings have a very different feel. It may be because we both know I requested it. That puts me in control. That may also be the problem with maintenance spankings. I don’t earn them.

It is a very different feeling when I am to be spanked for breaking a rule. I feel a total loss of control as well as remorse for doing something wrong. I think Mrs. Lion also approaches it differently. She means business and wants me to learn something. She knows that if she doesn’t make a very strong, hopefully-lasting impression I won’t change.

This is where a sexual rule becomes tricky for her. Sex is for me. Mrs. Lion reasons that if I don’t want sex, there is no reason for her to impose it on me. That’s logically sound. Up until now, I’ve thought about orgasm control as Mrs. Lion preventing me from having orgasms unless she decides to give me one. It’s the basis for male chastity. In that sense, me not wanting sex is fine. It’s less work for my lioness.

When Mrs. Lion wrote about expecting me to want to play unless I had a good reason not to, I realized that orgasm control and male chastity has a flip side. If I’m not allowed to ejaculate without permission, shouldn’t any sexual response also be under her control? If she wants me to get hard and she is in control, shouldn’t I? If she wants me to pick a card from the Box O’Fun and then get what’s written on it, shouldn’t that happen?

After her post, I realized that it should. Preventing orgasm is pretty easy. She can lock my penis in a male chastity device or rely on my training to assure I won’t ejaculate without her making me. A much more interesting concept for me, at least, is the idea that if she wants me aroused, shouldn’t I obey?

I’ve reached a point when sometimes I’m not in the mood for sex. Recently, that’s happened frequently. It would be too easy to let me control when I get hard. In a way, it is the same as me deciding when I get spanked. It might work for some, but I don’t think it works for me.

My suggested rule may not work well either. I’m sure that in the beginning, I will get frequent spankings. That’s not a bad thing. I believe that punishing me for failing to be aroused will have the same effect that punishing me for spilling on my shirt had. I stopped spilling on my shirt. Wouldn’t that be a great outcome?

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In her post yesterday, “Communicate Or Be Spanked“, Mrs. Lion made it clear that when she wants me hard and interested in an orgasm, I better be or face a spanking. She did write that she would accept a good reason for not wanting sex, she would have to decide on just what would be acceptable. She also said that she didn’t want to be unfair and would not require me hard and panting too soon after she had gotten me to ejaculate.

I suppose this is a logical extension of male chastity. If you consider that orgasm control not only includes preventing orgasms unless authorized, it also should include producing orgasms when expected or at least produce an erection. In the past, Mrs. Lion has been more than happy to put off sexual activity if I didn’t feel like it. I haven’t felt like it for the last few days. Okay, I get it.

This isn’t any different than me being very horny and bugging Mrs. Lion to get me off. It’s probably just as aggravating for me to pass up on the sexual activity. I know that Mrs. Lion isn’t saying that she expects me to ejaculate or get spanked. She is very happy teasing me and putting off ejaculation. Apparently, she is not that happy about this lack of interest in any sexual activity.

It may be that a corrective spanking will revive my interest in sex. She may have thought of that when she wrote her post. We both have come to realize that more frequent disciplinary spankings do us both good. I guess failing to become erect after reasonable stimulation makes sense as a new rule. A hard penis automatically cancels any objections I may have made about not being interested. My penis is the ultimate “interest meter”. Since I am always naked at home, she can check the meter anytime she wants.

I guess that since the normal male sexual state is horny, the concept of using orgasm control to insist on arousal hasn’t come up in the past. I admit it. I would’ve never thought of this. I think it’s a good idea. I also think that we both have a very good sense of when, after an orgasm, I can reasonably be expected to get turned on. This is currently the second day after I come. So, if I ejaculate on Wednesday I should be ready to be aroused on Friday.

From my point of view, it would be a good idea to establish some parameters. For one thing, it’s exciting to have this sort of rule. For another, it keeps both of us honest in terms of what is expected and what will happen if I don’t meet that expectation. I also think it is fair to require me to be able to get aroused when Mrs. Lion wishes on any day after that second day. Exceptions could be made for illness. I think it’s important to my mental health to make that the only acceptable excuse.

There are two possible outcomes from establishing this new rule: The first is that I will be much more actively interested in producing erections for Mrs. Lion. I will understand that there are no excuses because it’s late, etc. The second is that I will probably end up getting more frequent spankings. This is also good because we both agree that I need much more regular discipline. I wrote about this in my post, “Much More Than A Spanking“.

If Mrs. Lion spanks me immediately after deciding I wasn’t being responsive enough, it will set up an association for me. Also, if after spanking me she tries again, it should become interesting. If I can’t get hard after I am punished, does that mean I need to be punished again right then and there? Or, does it mean that I get a pass for the night? Mrs. Lion may have to experiment to decide which is better.

Meanwhile, her thinking moves us in a new direction. She is demanding proper “performance” sexually as well as behaviorally. This could be interesting.

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In: Erections, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm denial

There is a lesser-known symptom of COVID-19. It’s brain fog. I swear, if I get any more brain fog I’ll forget how to breathe, never mind the virus debilitating my lungs. I’m not sure I’ve had any idea what day of the week it is this week. I forgot what Lion picked from the Box O’Fun, if he picked anything at all. I remember edging him orally, but it took some effort to remember the rest.

His choice was coconut oil hand job. He’s been finding hand jobs boring for about a month. I can get him hard if he’s got clothespins on or something else painful is happening, but the coconut oil wasn’t doing the trick. I’d think it would feel similar to being sucked, but what do I know?

I don’t know how long I was at it, but eventually I gave up with the coconut oil. I wiped him off with a tissue and washed my hands. I stopped short of washing the coconut oil off of him. It’s coconut oil. It should be edible. I wasn’t sure how it was going to taste, but I figured I’d give it a try. It’s not bad. It’s noticeable. I wouldn’t say, “Hey. You know what would be great? Let’s slather you with coconut oil and I’ll suck you.” I can handle it if it’s on him, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to put it on him for a blow job. And, the way I look at it, he shouldn’t need anything but my mouth. (Pardon me. My modesty faded a bit there.)

Of course, that’s not entirely true. He’s been unable to get hard from my mouth. It’s just one of those things that happens from time to time. It’s especially true if we haven’t done any warm-up drills. Going straight for sex doesn’t do much for him. Obviously, sometimes it works fine. I guess it depends on how horny he is. That falls on me. If I’m doing my job, he should be sufficiently frustrated so he gets hard almost immediately. It’s the stiff breeze theory.

Although neither one of us much cares for long waits, it occurred to me the other night that the more often I give him an orgasm, the more I have to wait for him to be ready for the next one. Theoretically, I should make him wait longer so I get to play with him more. This is only true to a point. After a certain length of time, he hits a plateau. He doesn’t care if he comes or not. The key is to find that sweet spot. I have no idea what that spot is, but I’m thinking it will be at least another few days before he gets any satisfaction.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments, Erections, Health and safety

Lion did feel better yesterday. I think it may have had something to do with the fact that he didn’t eat anything after breakfast. It’s difficult for his stomach to react to something that’s not there.

I think it was around 5 when I asked if he still had his woody feelings. He wasn’t sure so I investigated. I got a little reaction with my hand, but I figured I’d get more of a reaction with my mouth. I did. But it didn’t last all that long. He got hard and then lost it over the next five or ten minutes. He was making all the right noises but we weren’t getting anywhere. He said it felt good so I kept going for a while.

Even though we didn’t get as far as either of us wanted, we were intimate for the first time in about a week. I was hoping this trend would continue, but Lion is in more pain today. I just wish there was something I could do to help him. Lion doesn’t share my view of eating hot sauce-laden food to knock whatever ails him out of him. I think I’d be chugging sriracha by now. He’s going the more traditional drug route. To each his own.

On the plus side, he had an eye doctor appointment and everything seems to be holding steady. Lion feels he’s losing more vision, but the tests don’t seem to agree. I don’t know what to make of it. I guess the tests can say whatever they want. He sees in the real world.

I’m hoping Lion’s tummy feels better. Even if he’s not able to partake in any fun, I don’t like to see him in pain unless it’s pain I cause. Even a punishment spanking would be preferable to what he’s going through now. I’ll keep doing my best to keep him as comfortable as I can.