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Tuesday night, we took our 16-week-old puppy to her first training class. It turned out that we were the only people enrolled, so it was a private lesson. Our little golden retriever is very smart and easy to train. I’m sure Mrs. Lion wishes the same were true of me. Because of our 6 PM training class, I didn’t get punished for not setting up the coffee pot on Sunday. Tonight (Wednesday) will probably be a different story. My lioness doesn’t forget.

I asked Mrs. Lion for her reaction to my post yesterday. It was about using her power to correct the behavior that annoys her. She responded that it was like a similar post a few days earlier. She’s right; it was. I think it is the next big hurdle in our FLR. It may be a brick wall. I hope not. Last week when she punished me for being snarky to the TV, she made a point I hadn’t considered. I had no idea that behavior annoyed her.

If she is serious about helping me change, it will probably take more than one spanking for me to learn. I caught myself growling at contestants this morning after Mrs. Lion went to work. I’m not cured. The big question for me is how to help her observe and punish issues like this.

Part of the problem is solved. Mrs. Lion is committed to “just because” spankings at least once a week. She planned to do two a week, but so far, that hasn’t happened. If I’m going to be spanked anyway, if she observes annoying behavior, all she has to do is tell me that is why I’m getting spanked.  She was going to do it anyway. It seems to me that punishment isn’t the difficult part of solving this problem.

Even, red color and bruises where I sit are Mrs. Lion’s goals when she spanks me.

At this point, my lioness has no problem spanking me. Whatever worries she might have had about beating my butt have long disappeared. The issue is observing and reporting my behavioral errors. She’s told me that she likes that part of our FLR. It’s fun for her to catch me breaking a rule. The punishment isn’t a fun part of her game, but she recognizes it as a necessary element. Between you and I, I think she has some fun spanking me. She seems to like getting my bottom an even-dark red and making me feel it at least two days after she spanks me. It’s a kind of arts and crafts activity for her.

The challenge is to find a way to move from concrete rules to subjective reactions to my behavior. I’ve been thinking about this. If, at least initially, we agree that if anything that I am involved in causes her annoyance or impatience, that should count as an infraction that requires punishment. This is the experimental stage. We both know that many punishments will be for things that wouldn’t be spankable once the game goes into production. We’ve learned that we need a beta test period where the objective isn’t being fair. The objective is to discover and punish as much as possible. That’s how it worked with our old rules. There’s no reason it won’t work as well with this.

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I did it. After months of faithfully setting up the coffee pot every day, I missed Labor Day. I guess I am more of a creature of habit than I like to admit. Mrs. Lion didn’t say anything about the consequences. She just told me that I forgot and she had to set it up. Oh well, I have a “just because” spanking scheduled. The coffee pot offense will replace it.

Based on my reading, it is very common for disciplinary wives to have trouble punishing for subjective offenses. Mrs. Lion, for example, has a strong sense of fairness. She doesn’t want to be unfair to me. She knows that spanking me for forgetting to set up the coffee pot is fair. It’s a concrete rule that is set in stone. Spanking me for behavior, she doesn’t like is a different matter.

Punishing me for being insulting to people on TV is not something that I agreed needed to change. Mrs. Lion doesn’t like me doing it. That’s the point. I don’t need to agree with her judgment. I thought it was fine to make snarky comments to the TV.  Mrs. Lion doesn’t like it when I do. She has the paddle, so she wins. That’s exactly how I want it. I’m not worried about whether Mrs. Lion is absolutely fair. I have hoped that she would punish me as she sees fit.

We started with explicit rules. These rules, Mrs. Lion, said, were to give her a reason to spank me frequently. They were intended to help us build disciplinary habits. They worked, but we seem to be stalled in that phase. I’m very sure that I do other things she would like to correct. I don’t think the problem is that she is too worried about spanking me for something unfairly. I think it is more that she needs to increase her observational skill and “catch” me doing things that annoy her. She has a lifetime habit of disregarding those things.

I’m pretty sure that once she starts focusing on the things I do that displease her, she will be very busy with her paddles. That’s fine with me. It’s how we both learn. Just the way we learned when she enforces those little concrete rules, we will learn when she sharpens her observational skills and spanks me when I commit those subjective offenses.

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I was punished on Wednesday night. It was a very painful spanking. I suppose it wasn’t worse than the other recent paddlings I’ve received. Maybe I block out how much it hurts as time goes by. It hurt to sit on Thursday. I don’t expect you to feel sorry for me. I’m doing it enough for both of us. I was spanked for annoying Mrs. Lion on Tuesday.

This is the first time she spanked me for upsetting her. In her post yesterday, she said,

“Lion may be sorry. He wanted me to punish him for things that annoy me. Apparently, I’ve been letting a lot of things go. He may never be able to sit down comfortably again.”

That sounds like the wind will be blowing from a new direction. If Mrs. Lion is serious about this, my behavior will change. It may take a lot of spankings to do it, but if she consistently persists, I will learn. When she resolves to do something, she can be relentless. That’s what it takes to train me. We both know it. Only time will tell if Mrs. Lion is going to put her paddle where her post is.

Wednesday night was memorable for another reason. Mrs. Lion decided to give me an orgasm. It had been 11 days since the last one. She gave me oral sex. I love how that feels. The orgasm control clock is reset, and I count the days until my next chance to ejaculate. After more than eight years of this, I’ve forgotten what it is like to have sex on demand.

I’m not complaining. What we are doing works well for us. I admit that during my spanking, I wanted to end being punished. I hated the spanking so much that I wondered if we could stop domestic discipline. Of course, I didn’t ask Mrs. Lion to stop. She wouldn’t agree if I did. I know that what we are doing is good for both of us. I’m supposed to hate being punished. I’m also supposed to long for the ability to ejaculate anytime I want. I’m not supposed to get my way.

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Yup, I did it again. I’ve been encouraging Mrs. Lion to use domestic discipline to deal with situations she calls “unbecoming for a lion.” Wednesday morning, I got this email:

“By the way, I was thinking you should be punished for snapping at me when we were waiting, and I was talking to Dr. N. That’s conduct unbecoming a Lion.”

“How’s that for catching you annoying me? Eureka! lol”

I asked for it. Don’t let the light tone fool you. Mrs. Lion was annoyed on Tuesday when I offended. The email came a day later after she had time to cool off. I have no illusions that the punishment will be light. It will be at least ten minutes of butt-blistering paddling. I have no doubt that I will be very sorry by the time she finishes.

That’s the thing about domestic discipline. It isn’t administered in anger. Mrs. Lion punishes me after she has had time to cool off. In a way, that is worse than being spanked while she is angry. She will administer my punishment with cool objectivity. She isn’t working off her anger. She will calmly work to teach me a lesson, a very painful one.

I’m very proud of her. It’s taken years to get to this point. In a way, it’s a turn-on for me knowing she has this power and will use it. After all, it’s what I asked for all those years ago. I won’t be turned on when I’m strapped on the spanking bench. But I’m aroused now, hours before she gets home, thinking about it. Weird, huh?

She also said that she thinks I have a cute butt. I don’t see it. You’ve seen pictures of my rear both before and after spanking. Is it cute to you? If you want to see one of my rear view, click here. I’m glad she likes it. I suppose I’m also glad she is ready, willing, and able to beat it. While I’m on the subject of spanking, have you noticed that there are no more references to bare-bottom spankings? I guess everyone knows that spankings are administered on bare buns. Eight years ago, it was almost mandatory to specify that a spanking will be on a bare ass. Mrs. Lion always spanks my bare bottom.

Another significant change is that Mrs. Lion has learned not to react to my complaints and yelps when she punishes me. If anything, she is encouraged when I am screaming and demanding she stop. Of course, she doesn’t. She also disregards blood. Hard paddling will break skin in a couple of places. There is never any trace of an injury afterward. She used to stop at the first sign of blood. Now she disregards it (Click here to see my butt after a spanking with blood). I support this because the bleeding isn’t dangerous and doesn’t even cause a scab. More importantly, Mrs. Lion has a job to do and shouldn’t stop until she is done. If the DWC was still around, I’m sure they would agree.