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Mrs. Lion has a theory. She thinks that I won’t be able to be edged, or for that matter, ejaculate, unless I am kept locked in a male chastity device. She advanced this idea in her post yesterday. She decided that there is no point even trying to get me aroused until she has me locked up again. She also decided that she will wait until the reprint of my Evotion Orion gets here before she locks me up. It won’t arrive until late this week at the earliest. Apparently, wild lions don’t get sexual attention until then.

Mrs. Lion may be right. In a way I hope she is. An alternative theory is that I’m losing interest in sex. This loss of interest could be temporary, brought on by sleeplessness and the very hard-to-breathe air around here lately. It could be any of a large number of things. I’ve gone through similar periods in the past. It’s way too early for me to worry.

There has been a trend. Since mid-July, the time between my orgasms has jumped from an average of 6 days to one of 14 days. The 6-day average held since 2016, so the change in trend is significant. I’m not waiting longer because Mrs. Lion decided to extend my time between orgasms. She hasn’t. I just haven’t been able to even reach the edge until I wait nearly two weeks. She’s tried hard every night. I get aroused and have big fun while she sucks my cock. Before I get even close to the edge, I can feel my interest drain away. I start to get soft soon after.

I can’t explain this. Obviously, I’m not getting bored. It feels wonderful to be inside her mouth. I have no problem getting erect. I stay hard for several minutes without any problem. Most of the time, when my interest fades, I’m still hard. Then, after about 12 days of this, I reach the edge. Mrs. Lion can tease me and if she wants, make me ejaculate.

This timing has been the same while I was locked in my cage as well as when I’m wild. It might take less time to get me hard when I have been locked up, but so far it hasn’t reduced the number of days before I can reach the edge. At least this hasn’t been progressive. I suddenly went from 5 days to 13 in July. The average number of days hasn’t increased since then.

I’ve been thrashing around looking for factors that might be contributing to this change. I have been worried about where we will get money if I am not called back from furlough. There is a very good chance I’ve permanently lost my job. This is almost certainly a factor.

I’m being spanked less. Either my behavior has been improving dramatically or Mrs. Lion isn’t as alert to spotting faux pas. When she is in full-on disciplinary mode, things are a lot more exciting around here.

The combination of these two factors might be significant contributors to my loss of libido. They also might not. When I’m locked in a male chastity device, I do feel a heightening of sexual tension. Being wild while waiting for the reprint could be a third factor. We can’t do anything about the scary reality of no job. The other two factors are under our control. Hopefully, we can eliminate one or both soon.

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In: Chastity hardware, Lion's Journal

I am excited that my reprinted Evotion Orion male chastity device is shipping tomorrow. Both of us have missed it since the dog chewed up a section of my old one. Maybe I am becoming an old fogey, but I am absolutely blown away by 3D printing. Until I needed a replacement Orion I hadn’t given a lot of thought to just how incredible this process is.

The fact that someone took the measurements of my penis and used them in design software to create a 3D design of my chastity device is very cool. Software that does this has been around for decades. In the past, it was used to control automated machine tools that sculpted objects out of metal or other materials. I’m not aware of any chastity device makers who have done this.

Two big changes happened in the last few years: The first is that companies are around who let you upload your 3D designs and then using very sophisticated 3D printers, produce what you created. The second is that a few people who have the design skill and understand how to use the software have gone into the male chastity device manufacturing business. I tried the first example of this about five years ago. It wasn’t a very useful design. Since then I have had three other devices custom made for me.

The first one I got was from Custom Chastity. This is a little, two-person company in Australia. They have a few designs. The one I chose fit perfectly but managed to seriously abrade my penis. The problem isn’t their design. It’s the technology used to print the devices. The big public printers use a system that deposits a thin layer of plastic powder on a table and then a laser fuses the powder where the device will be. Layer after layer is fused until the device is finished. The problem is that the little particles that are fused form a rather rough finish that abraded my skin.

When I asked Custom Chastity for help they refused to do anything. Later, they admitted a problem and said they were fixing it. They didn’t offer to take my device back or repair it. Buying it was lost money. I finally hand sanded the device and got it smooth enough to wear. Dealing with this company left a bad taste in my mouth. I suggest avoiding them.

The next 3D -printed device I tried was the Cherry Keeper. The person who creates this is very agreeable about modifying designs to make the fit work. You order the actual printing from Shapeways, a 3D printing company. They add his profit to the price. You have to order the lock from another supplier. It was fun working with him on the device and the results were pretty good. The design caused me some irritation where there is an internal shelf designed to hold the glans in place. With more tinkering, I’m sure I could have fixed that. Aesthetically, this is not a very pleasing device.  Its thick, clunky bars don’t appeal to me.

Next up was the Heart-On full coverage device. The Heart-On covers the penis and balls. It looks like half a tennis ball fastened over my junk. It is comfortable to wear. Mrs. Lion isn’t fond of the way it looks on me. It is effective and I like it. I would be happier with a more compact full coverage device. The guy who owns this company started out printing the devices himself on a home version 3D printer. It uses a much less durable plastic than the medical-grade nylon used by the commercial printing companies. I have one of the early home-printed versions. Now, like the Cherry Keeper, you order your own parts directly from Shapeways and your lock from amazon.com. It’s a fairly confusing process.

My most recent 3D-printed male chastity device is the Evotion Orion. This device is in a class by itself. It’s unique. Evotion started out making, errr…printing devices to be worn with pierced penises. Most of their models are designed for the pierced. They always had one or two models for those of us without holes in our cocks. Fairly recently they came out with the Orion model. Aside from being beautiful, almost delicate, it fits like a glove. Their measuring instructions are clear and easy to follow. The resulting product is a joy to wear.

The device is in three sections: a base ring, shaft cover, and head cover. The shaft cover has a ring molded on the inside at the front. You lock the shaft section to the base ring — yes it has two locks — and then pull the penis back until just the glans protrudes. The ring inside the shaft cover helps prevent the glans from slipping back. You then lock on the head cover. Everything is securely locked into place.

When the dog ate part of my shaft cover, I discovered another wonderful benefit of 3D-printed devices: reprints are easy to get. Evotion charges a lot less than getting a new device to reprint yours. I guess it’s a sort of chastity insurance.

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We finally played Spankardy on Saturday night. Mrs. Lion wrote about it in her post yesterday. I ended up getting 34 swats at the end of the game. Mrs. Lion used her conveyor belt paddle to administer them. It wasn’t bad at all. I guess my hide is toughening up from disciplinary spankings. I admit that during the game I was a bit worried about paying the price. The NFL game swats were quite painful. One way or another I am sure that Mrs. Lion will make Spankardy swats more memorable.

Saturday was a canning day. We made two batches of blueberry jam and a double batch of bread and butter pickles. We had a lot of cucumbers left over so we made another double batch of bread and butter pickles on Sunday. Now we have enough for Christmas presents as well as for our own consumption.

This is uncharacteristically domestic behavior for us. The last time we made jam was over a decade ago. Back then, we also tried canning apricots. That didn’t work out very well and a couple of dozen jars ended up in the trash when we moved. This year we have been much more successful. Our blueberry and raspberry jam is too good to share. The pickles are fine too. Still, I doubt this is the beginning of a trend. We are not domesticated, just hungry.

I wasn’t interested in sex on Saturday night. I’m not sure why. When this happens I always worry that maybe I’m losing interest for good. Mrs. Lion’s loss of interest spooked me. If she can lose interest, so can I. That would be sad and make our blog a lot less interesting. I have limited tolerance for homemaker discussions.

The reprint of my Evotion Orion male chastity device is shipping out on Tuesday. If Donald Trump’s postal service isn’t too screwed up, I might get it next week. Mrs. Lion let me know that I will be going back into it as soon as we get it. She wants to continue testing her theory that I am much more interested in sex if I am kept in a male chastity device. Before the dog chewed up my pink Evotion, it looked like she might be on to something. I’m not sure. It could be the novelty of being back in a chastity device that is turning me on. I will have to wear it for more than a month before we can get a real idea of whether it works as Mrs. Lion thinks.

There is logic to her thinking. I like bondage and a male chastity device locked on my penis certainly counts. So far I really look forward to being locked up again. We will have to see if I stay that interested. It doesn’t really matter if I want to be locked up or not. That is completely up to Mrs. Lion. In the recent past, she has let me decide, within reason, if I come out or not. Lioness 3.0 may not be so willing to do as I wish.

That brings up a new question: Will being “forced” to stay locked in a chastity device after I ask to get out charge my sexual battery? It very well might. I like feeling Mrs. Lion’s control. This is another experimental parameter for her to explore. Meanwhile, I can look forward to some long-term lockup.

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One of our readers commented that we need to get a life. She said that we spend most of our time writing this blog when we would be better if we took that time to be together. She was prompted to comment when Mrs. Lion wrote that I had spent a few days working on migrating our blog to the cloud. It’s true that the effort consumed me for two days. I was very happy to do it and Mrs. Lion didn’t feel neglected.

When you read a blog like ours it’s easy to get the impression that writing it is the center of our lives. After all, each of us writes a post almost every day. In the last seven years, we have published about 4,500 posts. That consumed a lot of time. Each of us writes for about an hour a day. Mrs. Lion appointed herself our chronicler. She records our sexual and power exchange adventures. She also explores her feelings about what we are doing and our relationship.

Both of us write about how we feel about our adventures and what we might want next. New readers often think I am topping from the bottom or being selfish when I write about what I might want. We’ve learned that in our female led relationship it won’t work if Mrs. Lion is the dictator and I am her pet and servant. That might make a hot fantasy or the plot of a BDSM scene, but we can’t build or lives around it.

partners can still have a female led relationship

What we do works for us. Mrs. Lion is in charge. That doesn’t mean she spends her time supervising me. She has her own stuff to do. We function as we always have, as partners. We divide the work. I get a vote in most things. Often I get to decide what we will do. Mrs. Lion prefers that. So where’s the FLR?

Mrs. Lion gets to make rules. For example, she assigned me the job of setting up the coffee pot before we need it in the morning. Mrs. Lion prepares breakfast. If I’ve done my job, all she has to do is press a button to make our coffee. That’s a small chore. However, if I forget to do it, Mrs. Lion punishes me. I get spanked. This isn’t a play spanking or a BDSM scene. It is a bruising, punishment spanking that I hate. The idea is that all I have to do to avoid it is to obey my rules.

There is no fuss or ritual. She tells me to bend over the bed and then she spanks me. She usually asks me to tell her why I am being punished. That’s it. She also punishes me if I am snarky or disrespectful. Respect isn’t calling her ‘Mistress”. It’s listening to her when she is talking and not interrupting. It is respecting what she says.

It’s taken years to evolve to this point. I asked Mrs. Lion to be my disciplinary wife. I consented to all this; in fact, I initiated it and work to keep it going. I’m still the lion. I’m allowed a small amount of grumbling and growling. I have to watch my step. Too much will earn me a spanking.

Because I can still be me and not live in some sort of fantasy role, our domestic discipline is very sustainable. We discovered we both missed it when we had to suspend discipline while I recovered from surgery. Neither of us can explain why, but it has become an important contributor to our happiness.

Aside from educating me and improving my behavior, domestic discipline gives Mrs. Lion a clear and powerful voice in our marriage. Before we adopted it, if I did something that upset her, she would withdraw and avoid contact with me. I had to ask her over and over what was wrong. When she finally told me, we discussed it and I agreed to do better.

This process was difficult and painful for both of us. Now, she can tell me that I upset her and let me know I will be punished. She can explain what I’ve done and then spank me. She has a positive way of expressing her displeasure. She spanks me and it is over. If I repeat the offense, I get spanked again. Trust me, I learn quickly.

learning to punish for upsetting the lioness

We are still a work in progress. Mrs. Lion still withdraws sometimes after I upset her. We both have to help her break that habit. I will go through the old process of prying the cause of her unhappiness out. Instead of a frustrating conversation, I ask her if I earned a spanking. She says I have. Then, later at her convenience, I get spanked.

The goal is for Mrs. Lion to identify things I do that upset her and inform me what I did and then punish me. She’s expressed some concern about what annoying action is serious enough to punish me. I suggested that in the beginning, she punish any annoyance no matter how trivial. This is the technique we used when we started DD. Mrs. Lion created trivial, easy-to-break rules that guaranteed I would earn frequent spankings.

While painful, this technique built disciplinary habits and allowed Mrs. Lion to improve her spanking technique. She agreed to use this same system to build a new disciplinary habit around annoying her. We haven’t made a lot of progress yet, but we will both work at it until she enforces annoying her the same way she enforces my failing to set up the coffee pot.