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In: Sex, Lion's Journal, Male Chastity

I am getting fewer orgasms this year. So far I’ve ejaculated 25 times this year. Last year at the end of August it was 34. Mrs. Lion hasn’t been reducing my allocation. It’s primarily due to my inability to be edged until a week or more after my last orgasm. That’s not entirely correct. I probably can be edged, but the time and effort it takes are too much for both of us.

Aside from that, Mrs. Lion seems comfortable with this slower pace. I’m averaging about one orgasm every two weeks. She’s said that the appropriate wait between orgasms is 7 to 10 days. This longer wait seems to increase the amount of semen I produce. Mrs. Lion likes this increase. I expect she will make this longer wait permanent. It will probably become 14 to21 days.

Looking back, this change seems to fit my sexual cycle quite well. There are times I want to ejaculate after only a few days, but based on the semen production and the time it takes to get me to the edge, this longer wait makes a lot of sense. If my sexual clock changes again, Mrs. Lion will notice. However, I don’t think she will change things. She likes having me horny.

Speaking of waits, the reprint of my Evotion male chastity device should be arriving any day now. When we get it I will be locked up again. Mrs. Lion decided not to lock me in my Jail Bird while we wait for the Evotion cage to arrive. My urethra tends to drift and ends up straddling one of the bars. This causes a nasty spray when I pee. The Evotion cage keeps me centered and peeing nicely. I’m wild until the Evotion reprint arrives.

Mrs. Lion doesn’t mind if I play with my penis as long as I don’t get close to the edge of orgasm. I rarely do this, but it is a temptation while I am wild. I don’t wear any clothing at home so access is unfettered. Once locked in a male chastity device, even the possibility of touching is eliminated.

Like most men, I’m fond of my penis. I like the way it looks and feels when it is hard. I think it is particularly attractive when hairless. I’ve never been very fond of genital hair. For the record, hairy or not, I like the way Mrs. Lion looks. She is natural and has rather light, sparse pubic hair. I’m very glad that the current trend is to remove pubic hair.

I’ve just completed migrating the blog to the cloud. As things like this go, it was pretty painless. Our site should be loading faster. We will be saving some money. That’s particularly important now.

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In: Spanking games, Games, Lion's Journal

Mrs. Lion loves to play games. However, she is notably reluctant to play games that involve me. I’ve wondered about this for some time. I don’t think it’s because she doesn’t like doing things with me. I wondered if the effort required might be the problem. It’s certainly possible. However, it might be simpler than that. She likes to play the games, not necessarily be the quiz master.

For example, when we play Zapardy, her job is to administer shocks when I miss questions. I doubt that’s too much fun for her; though she does enjoy giving me shocks. I know that she likes to play along and answer questions herself. It has to be less enjoyable when she is simply waiting to see if I get them right.

The exception to this is when we play our NFL game. She genuinely seems to enjoy administering swats when points are scored or there are turnovers. Spanking me for those situations doesn’t interfere with her watching the game. There is always plenty of time to get me red and sore during the commercials. She does like spanking me when we play that game.

Maybe we need to make our Jeopardy games more interactive. Perhaps allowing Mrs. Lion to be an active participant should be part of the way we construct any of our BDSM games. Maybe we should change the rules for the Jeopardy game. Currently, failing to answer a question earns me one shock or spank depending on whether we are playing with the shock collar or the paddle. Getting a question wrong earns me two swats or shocks. Answering the question correctly allows me to avoid the penalty.

When we play for spanks, Mrs. Lion has a counter she clicks for each swat I earn. She administers all of them at one time after the show is over. When we play for shocks, she administers them immediately. What if Mrs. Lion gets to play as well? Just like the contestants on the live show, she has the opportunity to answer before I do. If I’m fast enough to answer first and I get it correct, no penalty. If she answers it correctly first, two swats or shocks for me. If I answer first and get it wrong, four swats or shocks. If both of us fail to answer, one shock or swat for me.

This way Mrs. Lion is not only the judge and executioner, she is also an active contestant. I realize that upping the ante this way has a very strong probability of increasing the number of penalties I earn. If by doing this Mrs. Lion can have more fun, it’s worthwhile.

Since this game is much more complex for her, she probably doesn’t want to get distracted by administering shocks during the play. I think playing for swats makes more sense. Also, based on the way she likes to play the NFL game, making this game Spankardy instead of Zapardy, perhaps it will be a winner. A winner for her, that is. I’m guaranteed to end up with a sore rump.

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In: Punishment, Lion's Journal, Spanking

August went out with a bang. Literally. Mrs. Lion bruised my bottom on Monday night. My spanking was particularly painful. Mrs. Lion used a paddle made from thick conveyor belt material. This is the stuff used to move very heavy rocks and other pointed objects. In other words, it’s tough. This particular paddle has large holes in it. Some people think that holes in a paddle allow airflow and that prevents an air cushion from forming and lightening the blow. That’s simply not true.

The real effect of the holes is to provide more edges to trap and bruise the skin. When Mrs. Lion swings hard, the flesh on my bottom is pushed into the holes. If the holes are chamfered, sloped edges, no damage is done. If the holes have vertical walls, there is a nasty pinching effect that generally enhances bruising. Sometimes you can see the pattern of the holes on my skin. You can see them in the image of my butt after Monday’s spanking on the left.

Mrs. Lion is becoming considerably more serious when she punishes me. I think she likes to experiment with different paddles. Regardless of the implement, her objective is to make a strong, visible impression. She says I have made it worse on myself by suggesting she use more than one paddle in a session. I guess she is right.

Based on my experience as a top, I know that there are two basic spanking effects: red color with a sting, and deeper pain and bruising. Given a choice, I will opt for the deeper pain every time. I hate the sting. The lighter, wood paddles generate sting and rarely bruise. The heavier tools with smaller striking areas will produce deeper pain and bruising.

She has learned to disregard my yelps and screams. They aren’t a reliable indicator of the quality of the punishment. As a spanking progresses, there is a natural loss of sensitivity. After a while, more force is necessary to produce the desired discomfort. Mrs. Lion knows this and does a good job assuring it hurts from beginning to end.

A helpful indicator of how spanking is progressing is the red color produced by the paddle. Everyone reddens differently. Some bottoms turn dark purple-red with very little spanking. Others, like mine, are difficult to get past pink. Mrs. Lion uses color to assure she has covered all of the areas she wants to spank. She wants me to feel sting over my entire lower butt and upper thighs. Did I mention that I really hate sting?

Even a tough-to-redden butt like mine will go from pink to a darker red with sufficient encouragement. It will take a lot of work, but it can be done. I wouldn’t mind a bit if Mrs. Lion stays with pink. I suspect she will want to go for dark red at some point.

The second phase of the two-part spanking is with the heavier implement. The conveyer belt, rubber paddles are in this category. They inflict a different sort of pain. It’s deeper and slower to be fully felt. Some describe this as “thuddy”. I prefer it to sting. When applied with sufficient force, the marks these tools make will last for days and will be felt almost as long as they are visible.

The most unpleasant spanking begins with lots of sting which is administered until I begin to lose sensitivity and my bottom is the shade of red that Mrs. Lion likes. Even if I lose sensitivity, if the color isn’t right, she can hit hard and fast until my reaction and skin color is what she wants. At that point, she can bring in the thud.

If this sounds cruel, it isn’t. As an adult male, I am quite difficult to impress with a spanking. Bear in mind that for many years before we started domestic discipline I received “play” spankings that were every bit as mean as some of Mrs. Lion’s punishments. It takes a lot of work to get my attention with a punishment spanking. Mrs. Lion knows this and has been working to assure that I don’t mistake punishment for play

I didn’t make that mistake on Monday night!

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In: Punishment, Female led relationship with discipline, Lion's Journal

The other day Mrs. Lion posed the question as the title of her post, Is He Looking for Another Spanking? She was referring to some things I said that bothered her. She appeared to be trying to figure out where the threshold is between a little snarky and spankable behavior. She wondered if I would earn a spanking two days in a row.

I appreciate her thoughtful approach. But I think at this early stage in disciplining me for behavior that upsets her, this may be a way to avoid the inevitable confrontation that punishing me creates. It’s not that I resist her demand that I get into position for a spanking. I don’t. I don’t even ask why she is spanking me. Usually, she tells me. Sometimes, she will tell me that I will be spanked but doesn’t explain why at that moment. I’m fine with that.

In the cold morning light, I think that if I do something that makes her wonder if it is sufficiently annoying to warrant punishment, almost by definition it is. At least in the beginning, it seems to me that if the thought of punishing me goes through her mind after I do something, that is sufficient grounds to spank me.

Mrs. Lion wants to be fair. Her strong desire to treat me fairly seems to be getting in the way of taking the next step in our disciplinary relationship. It’s not that she is unwilling to punish me for upsetting her. She demonstrated that last week. She bruised my buns to let me know she was unhappy with my behavior. That was a great start.

I think the next step is for Mrs. Lion to turn off that filter. If she starts thinking about whether or not something I’ve done deserves punishment, the filter is on. I’m proposing that for the foreseeable future, the simple act of asking herself that question automatically earns the answer, “Yes, he needs to be spanked.”

There is no doubt that for a while until I learn better communication skills, I might be getting several spankings a week. I certainly won’t like this. That’s not the point. We both agree that I need to be more careful in the way I speak to her. I need to think about what am about to say in terms of whether or not it might upset her. I don’t intentionally try to make her angry or sad. I can be thoughtless.

For example, Mrs. Lion gave me a haircut on Saturday. She’s getting quite good at it. However, she made a little slip in a very visible spot. I commented on it because I worried that people might see it and think I look silly. This hurt her feelings. After all, she worked hard to cut my hair and she rightly believed I should be grateful for her effort. She’s right. I’m very grateful that she does this for me. The fact that she didn’t do it perfectly doesn’t change my gratitude at all. I was thoughtless being critical.

Mrs. Lion was quiet after dinner on Saturday night. I finally asked her what was wrong. She told me that she felt badly about my comment regarding my haircut. Was that comment a spankable offense? The fact that she reacted so strongly and felt bad tells me it is.

I’m pretty sure that Mrs. Lion didn’t think spanking me would make her feel better about my thoughtless remark. She might be right. However, given our disciplinary relationship, I think I need to learn to be careful about saying things like that. We’ve established that consistent spankings for misbehavior of any sort condition me to behave the way she wants.

The challenge is for her to consciously decide to consistently respond to any thoughtlessness or other behaviors that cause her upset with punishment. Until she has developed the same level of consistency she has when I spill food on my shirt or forget to do a chore, it seems to me that she has to always err on the side of punishing for very minor offenses. It worked for us before in terms of chores and rules. It should work equally well for upsetting behavior.

I admire Mrs. Lion for her fairness filter. I just think it’s a little broken. That haircut comment was seriously upsetting. Based on our agreement, that certainly earned me a spanking. I know it’s going to be difficult for her to work through feeling bad and focus instead on educating me. I think she needs to turn the filter off for my sake.

Guess what? She spanked me!