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Maybe is a popular word here. It doesn’t mean no and isn’t yes. The beef stew wasn’t made because it was frozen solid at 3:30. It takes too long to cook for us to start any later than this. I suppose that clears the deck for sexual activity tonight. That doesn’t mean there will be any, just that it is possible.

I’m getting cynical about sex. We still don’t have a good way to communicate desire and intention. If I say I’m horny, Mrs. Lion will do something for me even if she isn’t feeling well. If I don’t say anything and wait to see if something develops, it usually won’t. That’s how we’ve gotten to 15 days since my last orgasm. I’m writing this on Monday afternoon.

We have a failure to communicate. There’s a more difficult problem. Mrs. Lion and I can’t seem to get properly situated for handjobs. She currently sits on the edge of the bed near my feet and works from there. I have to make room for her while still providing access to my naughty bits. It’s difficult for me in that position.

I’ve been wondering about using the spanking bench instead of the bed. If I lie on my back, she can sit in a chair and have very good access. The bench is narrow enough for her to find a good spot. Alternatively, the waxing table is at just the right height for her if she is standing. We have a Sleep Number bed, and it isn’t great for this.

When we had the sling set up, it provided excellent access for manual and oral stimulation. It was also perfect for anal play. Too bad we almost never used it. That brings me to my central point. Our best stuff, from spanking to blow jobs were delivered out of bed. Our bed is far from ideal for most sex.

I also think that if we teach ourselves to go somewhere other than the bed for most sex and play, it will set expectations accurately and will provide a certain amount of locational foreplay when we move to the assigned spot. Moving spankings to the spanking bench improved more than just the delivery of the punishment. It also makes Mrs. Lion’s intention totally clear. We are both prepared for what is to come.

This is equally valuable for sex. If we can improve delivery as well as atmosphere, we have a serious winner. What do you think, Mrs. Lion?

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You may wonder why a locking cock ring is a valid expression of male chastity. It’s ironic that in this kink, we start with the most extreme expression, a male chastity device. This device has two main components: a base ring that goes around the cock and balls and a cage that encases the penis and prevents erection and ejaculation. Its purpose is to prevent masturbation.

I wore various male chastity devices (cages) 24/7 for over three years. Mrs.Lion tapered off locking me up after I had shoulder surgery. That was about three years after she started. It became clear that I had “forgotten” how to masturbate. Sure, there are times I play with my penis. I never get close to orgasm. It isn’t so much that I stop myself. I just don’t think of it. All those years in a male chastity device broke me of the habit.

More recently, I’ve missed the feeling of my penis belonging to my lioness. Sure, I know it’s hers, but I liked it when I wore a device locked around my cock. A simple solution would be to go back to wearing a male chastity device. I hesitate because the device makes peeing difficult. My urethra wanders off-center in a device and urine sprays. One of our readers gave his solution for that problem. He pees into a cup held over his cage. The cup catches the spray. Smart. We have a plastic 32-ounce pitcher that would be perfect.

I had a less radical idea. Since I don’t need a male chastity device to prevent masturbation, maybe a locking cock ring would do the trick. Mature Metal makes this device, the same people who make the Jail Bird, my favorite male chastity device. Essentially, it is a Jail Bird with the cage removed. It has the base ring that goes around my cock and balls and the first penis ring of the chastity device.

The penis ring is slightly larger than the one on my Jail Bird. That’s to allow for expansion when I get hard. It’s not designed to strangle my erect penis. It’s tight enough to apply pressure, but not too much. The people at Mature Metal say it is a good way to start before wearing a cage. I disagree. It’s really an invisible male chastity device. Make no mistake; it’s securely locked in place. Sure, I can get my penis out, but it isn’t coming off my balls.

I chose a double base ring for my invisible chastity device. It’s heavier but more comfortable than a single ring. If I were to go back to wearing the Jail Bird full time, I would ask Mrs. Lion to let me order the double ring for it. I don’t recommend a double-ring when you start out. The chances are good that you will need to try at least one different size ring to get the perfect fit. The double rings are much more expensive to replace. Once you are sure you have the perfect size, get the wider ring if you want.

When I wore the Jail Bird, Mrs. Lion would comment on how much she liked seeing it on me. She hasn’t made any comments about my invisible chastity device. It keeps my balls front and center like the Jail Bird did. It’s impossible for me to forget I’m locked up. Time will tell if the invisible male chastity device works for us.

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In: Domestic discipline, Spanking

I didn’t set up the coffee pot on Friday. By the time I thought about doing it, we were close to leaving for my medical appointment. I asked Mrs. Lion if I could hold off doing it. I have a 5 PM deadline. She agreed. When we got home (after 5), I asked to be excused from doing it. She agreed. It’s very rare for her to be so agreeable about a chore. I was grateful.

Chore or not, Mrs. Lion said (and wrote “Checking Out His Ass“) that she was going to spank me on Friday night. It had been twelve days since my last trip to the spanking bench. It had also been the same number of days since my last orgasm. I didn’t expect to get one of those. In the same post, Mrs. Lion promised to do a lot of teasing before giving me a chance to ejaculate.

The spanking didn’t materialize. Mrs. Lion’s arm was bothering her. I assume that I can expect a sore bottom as soon as it feels better. Edging might be part of the same package.

Mrs. Lion sometimes needs reminding to do things. I don’t remind her to spank me. I’m not sure she would welcome that sort of reminder. Sometimes, I remind her that my penis would love attention. I find that difficult to do. I know that she will do something if I ask, even if she doesn’t feel like it. That makes me feel guilty.

We have a magnet covered with the word “Ouch” that Mrs. Lion can use to remind herself to paddle me. I think she forgot to use it after announcing that she was going to spank me. I hope she remembers that she owes me one. It isn’t so much that I want to be spanked. I need consistency.

While I’m grateful that she gave me a pass on Friday, I’m also a little unhappy that she did. I like it when Mrs. Lion is consistent. I realize that I prefer that she punishes all infractions without worrying about being fair. I’m sure there will be times when fairness has to win out. Mrs. Lion is too willing to give me the benefit of the doubt. I don’t want that. Ultimately, we are both happier when she is less flexible.

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In: Anal play, CBT, Spanking

It seems counterintuitive that on a male chastity blog, so much attention is paid to my rear end. Since we practice domestic discipline, my bottom is spanked fairly regularly. Mrs. Lion has also committed to regular anal play as well. This makes sense. Male chastity is about regulating my orgasms. Mrs. Lion limits them to when she thinks I should get release. Anal activity and spanking are unregulated and occur more frequently.

We spent years working out the best placement of my bottom for spanking. Over the knee never worked for Mrs. Lion. Other placements, like on the bed, didn’t afford her the easy access she needed. We finally discovered our spanking bench. It’s at just the right height, and my legs dangle down so that my entire rear is fully exposed for her attention.

Before moving to our current home, we had a sling that she put me in. The sling kept my bottom high in the air. My legs were spread so that she had excellent anal access. The height was adjusted to be perfect for her. Even though we had this setup, Mrs. Lion usually preferred the bed with me on my knees.

She feels that this arrangement isn’t ideal anymore. We have no place to hang the sling. I suggested that she could also use the spanking bench for anal activities. The only difference in my position would be with my legs apart, riding it. This might give her good access. The bench is lower than the sling. Fortunately, Mrs. Lion’s office is right next to where we use the spanking bench. She can roll her desk chair into the room and comfortably sit while she tortures me.

Maybe the spanking bench could do triple duty as a CBT handjob platform. If I lie on my back with my legs dangling off the end, Mrs. Lion could sit in her desk chair and deal with me in comfort. We have straps to hold me down. My hands and feet could easily be attached to the legs of the bench. Who knew it would turn out to be such an excellent multitasker.