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One of the biggest problems I face as a blogger is that my posts not only inform you of what’s happening, but they serve as a reminder to Mrs. Lion of what I notice she is missing. In this case, a punishment spanking (“Getting Back On Track…Again“). She read my post and realized she didn’t spank me on Monday. I was relieved that she had forgotten.

In her post, she mentioned that I was due to be punished for interrupting her. I’m sure I did, but I can’t remember when. Perhaps she’ll remind me at punishment time. I like the idea that she would tell me why I’m being spanked when she has me strapped down, but like the spanking itself, I don’t like her reminder of my sins.

That probably means it’s a good thing for her to do. Everything I’ve read about disciplinary spanking always includes verbal reinforcement of the punishment. Hear it and feel it is better than just feeling it. Maybe the reason I dislike the idea of this conversation is that it underlines the fact that I am being spanked as a punishment, not because I want/need spankings. It’s also humiliating to be reminded so graphically of my mistakes.

The established punishment ritual of lecture followed by spanking must be nearly universal for good reason. I’m starting to understand why. I suspect that Mrs. Lion is uncomfortable with the verbal phase of the punishment. She seems to want to get right to the beating without any preliminaries. I think the verbal part may be as much for her as it is for me.

When she articulates why she is spanking me, she is reinforcing her role and the legitimacy of her actions. It provides context for both of us. It also might help motivate her to make her point more forcefully. We both know that “Just Because” spankings are almost never as forceful as punishments. Now that I’m getting punishment day spankings, whether or not I’ve earned them, I think it is particularly important to let me know that I’ve actually done something this time.

Neither of us wants to complicate the process. We both like just to get things done. Even so, we’ve struggled a bit with differentiating between earned and unearned spankings. This may be the way. It’s something disciplinary spankers all advocate. It will be uncomfortable for us, but it probably makes sense.

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As I’m sure you’ve read (“I Think My Domestic Discipline Is Rooted In My Need To Be Spanked, And I’m Far From Alone“), I didn’t spank Lion the other day. He’s wondering if he should remind me. On one hand, he already reminds me about punishment day. Should he have to remind me to spank him? On the other hand, if he doesn’t, spanking might go the way of the panties. Remember them? Yeah, we were doing fine until the landlord dropped his I-need-the-house-back bombshell on us. Then things shifted gears.

The short answer is that I don’t want him to have to remind me. I’ll try to remember tomorrow on punishment day. Let me get back into it now that the holidays are over and there won’t be any long weekends for a while. Work will calm down. Ha! Besides, with all of his interruptions, he’s due for a real spanking

For the past few days, I’ve been guarding my shoulder. It’s an old football injury. Softball, really. Long story. Anyway, both shoulders tend to hurt, but the right one has been pretty bad for a while. No, I’m not going to the doctor. They’d probably want an MRI and I’m not squishing myself into a tube only to be told I need surgery and how can I manage surgery anyway? As long as I don’t move it the wrong way, it will be fine.

Luckily, my left arm is free to whomp Lion. I don’t use my right arm much anyway. It just provides a different angle. I can prove my point nicely with my left. Ask him. He’ll tell you that he yelps freely no matter which arm I use. Making him wait until tomorrow will heighten the anticipation. He’ll be looking forward to it. Until I pull out the spanking bench. Then he’ll be sorry he ever asked to be spanked.

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wife spanking husband

January 1 was punishment day. Mrs. Lion didn’t spank me, and I was relieved. Three spankings a week aren’t easy to take. However, I’m not going to argue if that is her choice. We need to get back on track, and if it takes three spankings a week to do it, I’m certainly willing. I wonder if I should remind her. I let her know it was punishment day, but I hadn’t prompted her for a spanking. [Mrs. Lion — I remembered. I was just lazy.] That brings up a second question. Should she make up the missed spanking today (January 2)?

We watched the Washington-Texas semi-finals last night. It was a true nail-biter. Since we live near Seattle, we were cheering for the Huskies. One good thing about living in the Pacific time zone is that the game ended at about 9:30 PM here. In the East, it was after midnight. We had time to stream a couple of “Rookie” reruns before going to sleep. Exciting life.

The question about whether or not to remind Mrs. Lion to do painful things to me keeps coming up. Part of me believes that I owe her reminders to spank me. Another part, probably the little kid in me, is happy to escape. Mrs.Lion goes both ways on this, too. I also worry that if I remind her, she will feel that I’m nagging her for attention. After all, shouldn’t she remember ?

It’s true that I’ve bought most of the spanking implements she uses. That’s how it generally works; the spanked partner ends up providing the painful means of their destiny. Yes, I know. I want to be spanked. Mrs. Lion’s interest in it is limited to providing me with something I need. I don’t think that’s going to change. The best I can hope for is that she likes the results her spankings produce. We’ve both noticed the educational benefits of giving me a sore bottom. That’s indisputable. It’s also embarrassing to me. I think the humiliation is a helpful component of my punishments.

The scientist in me likes to find the root causes of things. My analysis of domestic discipline generally upsets a lot of guys who would rather live in the fantasy and disregard the underlying facts. The first hard-to-swallow fact is that male domestic discipline is initiated by the man who wants to be spanked. I haven’t run across any couples where the wife initiated the practice. This makes sense since spanking has to be consensual if it isn’t going to be spousal abuse. Men in domestic discipline want it.

It’s harder to generalize about the women. Obviously, all of them are willing to spank their husbands. Some find it arousing to beat their men. I suspect that most are like Mrs. Lion; they spank their husbands because they were asked to do it. Most, discover the educational value of DD and make use of it. I think they also know that their men need their bottoms beaten on a regular basis. Like many kinky practices, domestic discipline is hard to sustain over time.

Another bit of strong evidence that domestic discipline is more than punishment comes from the almost universal desire to have others aware that the men are spanked by their wives. A great deal of blogging has been done about wishing that relatives and friends become aware of the spanking. A great deal of spanking fantasy centers on witnessed beatings. It seems to me that this is a desire for sexual humiliation.

There’s nothing wrong with any of this. I think that a woman would be far more likely to enter into a DD situation if she understood the underlying reason for the request. I strongly doubt that most women would like the idea of having to correct their husband’s behavioral issues with a paddle or strap. That represents a significant power exchange, almost putting the wife into the role of disciplinary mother. On the other hand, if she understands that there is a deep-seated need for spanking and that satisfying that need will help her man, she would probably be more inclined to say yes.

The fact that spanking does affect some behavioral changes is icing on the cake. If we want to be completely honest, the most important aspect of DD is that we get spanked on a regular basis. Yes, we like the power exchange too. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be writing about DD, would we?

The other obvious-but-often-overlooked fact is that most men don’t want to be reminded that they want to be spanked. They would rather live in the fantasy that they need spanking to improve their behavior. It’s a harmless role play. I don’t like it when Mrs. Lion reminds me that I’m being spanked because I want it. I would much rather believe I need the discipline.

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There are over 3,000 images of my cock and ass on our site. Left–my bottom after a mild 2014 spanking. Right–my cock in it’s first male chastity device, a Chinese cage.

Our website is completing its first decade (the actual start date was February 2014). I would have never guessed that Mrs. Lion and I would be writing almost 6,500 posts so far. I’m particularly amazed since these posts are almost exclusively about a small area of my body between my belly button and my legs. We’ve published over 3,500 images of those parts of my anatomy. Almost ten million people have seen them. That’s pretty amazing, don’t you think? I would have never guessed there would be that much to write and show about my cock and butt. I certainly wouldn’t have guessed that so many people would be interested. Who knew?

lion's penis in jail bird male chastity device
One-inch Jail Bird

We started male chastity in December 2013. It began with a few cheap Chinese male chastity devices that I found on Amazon. None fit comfortably enough for long-term wear. The first models had hinged base rings. The hinges were protected by a bit of latex tubing. They irritated the hell out of me. My first custom cage was a Mature Metal Jail Bird. Over the last ten years, it’s proven to be the most comfortable and easiest-to-wear male chastity device. I’ve reviewed quite a few different devices over the years. The Jail Bird is still my favorite.

urethra view in male chastity device
My urethra nicely centered in my cage.

Male chastity has evolved over the last decade. I’d like to think that I had something to do with the changes. I think the most significant development is the nearly-universal switch to short cages. In 2013, there were no devices less than two inches long. Instructions were to measure the flaccid penis but avoid the extra-short cold water size. I discovered that unless the head of my cock were firmly pressed into the end of the male chastity device, my urethra would “wander” and end up straddling one of the bars at the end of the cage. That caused urine to spray everywhere. When I changed the length of my cage so it was short enough to guarantee contact, all was well. I learned that I could comfortably wear a one-inch-long Jail Bird.

I wrote a lot about this discovery. Over the next few years, over-the-counter male chastity device makers like Holy Trainer began selling short cages. Their Nano series is under one inch long. The long straggler in the custom cage world was Mature Metal, the company that makes the wonderful Jail Bird. That’s changed. Now they offer some of their lines in “mini+–one inch, and “micro”–one-half inch cages. I’ll be reviewing one of the micro models with an unusual twist. Stay tuned.

spanked butt
By May of 2022, Mrs. Lion was comfortable doing this to my bottom.

Somewhere along the line, we began a female-led relationship (FLR). It features spanking as the primary punishment. It took Mrs. Lion several years to get into the disciplinary head space and feel comfortable about spanking me. We’re at the point where she is comfortably brushing my bottom as needed. She is also much more comfortable punishing me for breaking the rules. Our nearly daily posts do a good job of documenting this evolution.

Domestic discipline has improved our marriage. We accidentally learned that my behavior changed due to consistent punishment. One of my very first rules was not to spill food on my shirt. I did that a lot, and Mrs. Lion figured it would be good training for us both because it would get me spanked often. It did; for a while. Without any conscious effort on my part, I stopped spilling on my shirt. My behavior changed. The same thing happened with other rules. After a bunch of punishment spankings for breaking them, I improved.

I still do things that annoy Mrs. Lion. She has had a lot of trouble punishing me for subjective offenses like interrupting her or acting like a know-it-all. She knows that if she consistently punishes me for doing something, I will improve, but something inside her gets in the way. She knows that I want and need her paddles. Spanking is important to me. Still, it’s a problem punishing me for upsetting her. Maybe fixing that is for the next decade.

I’m grateful to her for making such a gigantic effort to make me happy. I’m also grateful to you for sharing our  adventures.

Happy New Year!