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I think it will take some time to get used to the massage table. The last time I adjusted it brought it up to the height of the waxing table. I’m not sure that’s where I want it. Of course, the whole thing is strange right now. It seems a little clinical. Detached. It feels weird to be standing over him. We do have a stool, but the wheels never worked well in the pile of the carpet we had in the other house. The pile is lower here so maybe it will work. I’ll bring it out over the weekend. I’m not sure the angle with me sitting will work either. Trial and error, I guess.

The other day I said I didn’t see how I’d give him oral sex on the massage table. He said he could sit on the edge, and I could sit in his office chair (perhaps the stool). We could try it. I like having him across the bed. Of course, if it takes a long time for him to get to the edge, my arms start to fall asleep. If I get him more excited, maybe it won’t take so long. The issue then becomes, getting him excited on the massage table and then moving to the bed. I don’t have an answer for that. We’re just trying things.

Last night I set the massage table up while Lion was in the shower. When I was done with work, I went in the bedroom to relax with him. I told him the table was up whenever he was ready. He asked to wait a while. A little after 8, I had him situate himself face down so I could spank him. It wasn’t a punishment spanking. I didn’t have any mean paddles with me. I wanted hand-to-tush contact. It’s been a long time since I spanked him with my bare hands. I’ll definitely need to toughen them up again. We laughed about how ridiculous my first attempts at spanking were. Even starting out slowly last night, Lion said the swats were harder than the hardest I hit him early on. I’m not sure why he didn’t give up. It really was pathetic. [Lion — It was still fun.]

I did use a few implements. One was a small rug beater. I think it was actually designed as a paddle, but it has the same head of a rug beater. I also had a lightweight wooden spoon. In the good old days, they probably would have sufficed for me. Lion was used to being whomped on. I was not used to whomping. I figured they would be good to use as we re-introduced play spanking. I didn’t want any confusion between play and punishment.

I was hoping having a rosy tush would turn Lion on. It didn’t seem to. I don’t know if I didn’t spank him long enough or if he was just not horny enough. Maybe it was the table. Maybe it was the heat. There are too many variables to know for sure. We just need to keep plugging away.

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Even though the bedroom was cool, I had trouble getting to sleep. I ended up streaming old “Shark Tank” episodes until after 2 AM. I don’t understand why this is happening. As promised, Mrs. Lion offered to play on Wednesday night (“General Yuck“). I declined at first and then got on our new massage table so she could test the height adjustment. She played with my cock and balls for a while. It was nice, but I couldn’t get very aroused. She decided the table needed to be a bit higher. Maybe we will try again tonight.

I’m still unspanked. We are at 42 days. I think that’s a record. I’m doing my chores and not pissing off my lioness. There’s a good chance that she is disregarding behavior that deserves correction. This happens if my bottom stays lily white too long. I don’t think that I let things slip.

Some couples add rituals to their spankings. I’m pretty sure that the guys want them. The rituals I’ve read about provide a dose of sexy humiliation. I admit that idea turned me on for a while. After all, spanking is inherently humiliating. Mrs. Lion refused to add anything to our punishments. She was right. The entire point of spanking me is to let me know I did something I shouldn’t. It’s punishment. It isn’t a BDSM scene. When Mrs. Lion spanks me, she’s calm and purposeful. Her objective is to give me a painful lesson, not sexy time.

The idea of being spanked turns me on. I like thinking about it. I don’t like the actual event. I’m not unusual in this respect. A lot of people find spanking hot. The trick in domestic discipline is to make the punishment anything but arousing. That’s a big reason why rituals don’t work for us. I can get turned on thinking about being spanked all I want. Mrs. Lion knows that when she starts paddling me, I lose any sexual thoughts.

Some people get aroused during a spanking. Women are more likely to react this way. Their sexual nerve endings are located in places that get a sexy bump when their bottoms are hit. Very few men are that lucky. That doesn’t mean the spanking doesn’t hurt. I’ve spanked a few women to tears while they were having an orgasm. Talk about confusing sensations!

It doesn’t matter if they have an orgasm or not. Some part of their consciousness recognizes that they displeased their spankers. The spanking underlines that displeasure. Even though spanking is a turn-on, I don’t know any men or women who consciously try to provoke punishment. That’s important. No matter how sexual the experience is, the fact that it is punishment stays in the foreground.

blog housekeeping

My vision has deteriorated over the last few years. Modern website design calls for lower contrast on web pages. For example, some (most) forms use light grey boxes to designate where to add data. I can’t see them. I can read the caption of the field they want, but I can’t easily find where to enter the data.

Another big problem is how links are shown. I was guilty of committing this sin. Many sites offer links in different colored type. People like me (color-blind folks, too) can’t see the color change. I have to guess whether something is a link or not. The theme I use for this blog doesn’t offer the option to underline links. I asked them for help, and they sent me a little code that fixed the problem. It’s not a perfect fix, but it works.

The biggest issue is that people, most bloggers, for example, choose graphic setups that they think look contemporary. This “modern” style calls for grey type on a colored background. OK, pure black type on white can be a bit much. Dark grey is pretty (I use it here) and works for people like me.

Type size is another issue. The default type size for most themes is too small for modern browsers. As screen resolution has increased, the rendering of the type gets smaller. Here’s why. The pixel is the smallest unit of measurement. Traditionally, we specify the type by the height of a capital “M.” On low res monitors, the 12-pixel type is quite large. On my monitor, it is very hard to read. The type on this page is 23 pixels. I added extra space between lines. That also makes it easier for me to read.

Making changes like this isn’t hard. It may take some searching, but it can be done. Fortunately, browsers allow me to magnify type on websites that render too small for me to read. On most browsers, CTL + will enlarge the type. CTL – will make it smaller, and CTL 0 returns to the default size. Bloggers, please be considerate of people like me. Thank you for listening.

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Even in winter, we sleep with the window open a tiny bit. The fresh air is good at night. When it gets warmer, we’ve been turning the fan on at night. I don’t know if our sleep problems were from the heat or not, but we decided to try it with the air conditioner on all night. I slept. Lion still had trouble. I don’t feel great this morning, but I don’t feel tired in addition to yucky. I need both the heat and yuckiness to go away. I have too much to do to be lounging around.

When Lion was in the shower yesterday, I talked myself into setting up the massage table. I didn’t want to, but I’d promised Lion some action. After work, I asked if he wanted to do anything. He didn’t. He was tired. I understood. I’d been falling asleep at my desk all afternoon. A little while later, Lion asked if I’d set up the massage table. We decided we should at least test out the height. He thought it should be as high as the waxing table. I’m not so sure. I raised it two more notches. We’ll test it out and see how it feels. Since I had Lion on the table, I started feeling him up. Hey, I had to experiment with the height, didn’t I? He said it felt good, but he wasn’t getting aroused. Lack of sleep will do that.

Although he didn’t sleep well last night, I’m hoping he’ll be more in the mood tonight. At this point, I don’t think I’ll have any trouble talking myself into setting up the table. Even if he doesn’t get very excited, I can make him feel good. I’m thinking I could give him a play spanking tonight to start things off. IcyHot is fine if he’s already horny. I think a fun spanking with lots of fondling might work better.

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Our heatwave continues. It’s supposed to let up in a few days. Our AC is working well, and we are cool and comfortable. It’s going on three weeks since I’ve worn any clothing. I know. That’s the way it should be. Mrs. Lion wrote (“Baby, It’s Hot Outside”) that she was contemplating some activity with me. She thought I would want a spanking. As it turned out, we didn’t do anything. Her energy is still very low. As for wanting a spanking, I’m not sure I do. Of course, that means nothing. I get spanked when Mrs. Lion decides I need one. Based on what she wrote, that will be very soon. As of today, it’s been 41 days since my last spanking. That may be a record for us.

She made another comment that was a little surprising. She said that there’s no sex after a spanking. That’s our rule for punishments. I suppose that it also applies to “Just Because” spankings too. Of course, we never talked about sex before a spanking. Since the new massage table is proven good for sex, it will take no extra effort to tease me and then have me roll over for a spanking. As of today (Wednesday), it’s been just three days since my last orgasm.

If the massage table proves useful for spanking, Mrs. Lion may have a new possibility. If I don’t perform to her satisfaction when she teases me, she doesn’t have to do any work to spank me. I doubt she’ll like this idea. I can’t control my level of arousal at any given time. The new table is also good for bondage and CBT. It’s at a good height for accessing any part of my anatomy.

In the past, Mrs. Lion liked to peg me. The new table offers a couple of possibilities. She can have me on my knees on the table. She might also try having me in “spanking” position with my legs dangling off the end of the table. This might provide good access at a better height. The table offers excellent options for fun. Beds are generally too low and too soft. They are also very wide. Access is limited by the very features that make them good for sleep.

dealing with the mess

Pegging, handjobs, and other anal and CBT activities can be messy. Another advantage of a massage table is that you can get sheets to cover it. We have a few cotton sheets for the waxing table. When I bought the new play table, I found disposable sheets. I got 25 for about $40. They are made of a nonwoven fabric that is pretty thin but did a good job protecting the table for my lubed handjob. They also provide a sanitary surface if the table is to be shared.

Convenience and easy cleanup are important for play. No top wants a sore back from leaning down on a bed. I’m sure that Mrs. Lion will discover a lot of new possibilities now that she doesn’t have to deal with uncomfortable positions and difficult cleanup.