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I am writing this post on Friday morning (It published on Saturday). My bottom still hurts when I sit. Mrs. Lion wants me to tell her when I feel the aftereffects of a spanking. She says she likes it when my butt is sore. I wonder if she really does or says it because it is erotic to me. She replied to my email that she wants to keep my bottom sore. It is a reminder to behave. I don’t know if she is serious about that wish. If she is, I can expect a spanking very soon.

There is an important aspect of domestic discipline that is often overlooked: inevitability. This is very different from consistency. Inevitability means that once a punishment is promised, it will be delivered. Consistency refers to always punishing infractions. Both are important to good discipline. I think that inevitability is critical.

When the time comes for my spanking, there have been times when I wasn’t feeling well, or some other activity caused Mrs. Lion to delay the punishment. Occasionally, she has given me the option of delaying a spanking for a day. She will “charge” me a penalty of two extra minutes of spanking for the delay. I know that if a spanking is earned, it will be delivered.

This isn’t true of “just because” spankings. Mrs. Lion often cancels them. She announced that I would get one every Monday and Thursday. So far, she has canceled almost all of them. If I earn a punishment, then she cancels the next “just because” spanking. I think that’s fair since the “just because” spanking is a sort of placeholder that, by definition, isn’t needed if I am punished for a real offense.

I suppose you could argue that any scheduled spanking should be administered. We do have a way to handle multiple offenses that require punishment. Mrs. Lion adds five minutes to my spanking for each additional offense. If Mrs. Lion decides that any scheduled spanking is inevitable, then I probably will have trouble sitting all the time comfortably.

Consistency?

We learned that consistent enforcement of rules changes my behavior. The most obvious evidence of this is how I eat. Before Mrs. Lion made getting food on my shirt a spankable offense, I managed to do it several times a week. About a month after she consistently spanked me every time I spilled, I became a neat eater. I rarely get food on my shirt. It does happen now and then. When it does, I’m spanked.

We know consistency works. It’s easy to consistently enforce a rule like not spilling food on my shirt. It’s not so easy when it comes to subjective offenses like annoying Mrs. Lion. Some DD people argue that sort of offense requires the same sort of consistent enforcement as the simpler rules. I disagree.

Subjective offenses may fit better in the parental model. Parents rarely apply strict consistency to punishing children. They punish when the annoyance reaches a level that feels serious enough to spank. I think the same is true of disciplinary wives. When Mrs. Lion feels I have crossed a line, then she can punish me. It doesn’t make much sense to say that every time I interrupt her, for example, she punishes me. That makes Mrs. Lion’s job much harder. Isn’t it better for her to punish me when she feels I deserve it?

I don’t think that my education will be slowed or that I will be confused by inconsistent enforcement. I understand that I have to watch my step. If I am careless and piss her off, she will make me pay. It may take some spankings for me to get the message. Eventually, I will.

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In: Domestic discipline, Oral Sex

I was punished on Wednesday night. It was a very painful spanking. I suppose it wasn’t worse than the other recent paddlings I’ve received. Maybe I block out how much it hurts as time goes by. It hurt to sit on Thursday. I don’t expect you to feel sorry for me. I’m doing it enough for both of us. I was spanked for annoying Mrs. Lion on Tuesday.

This is the first time she spanked me for upsetting her. In her post yesterday, she said,

“Lion may be sorry. He wanted me to punish him for things that annoy me. Apparently, I’ve been letting a lot of things go. He may never be able to sit down comfortably again.”

That sounds like the wind will be blowing from a new direction. If Mrs. Lion is serious about this, my behavior will change. It may take a lot of spankings to do it, but if she consistently persists, I will learn. When she resolves to do something, she can be relentless. That’s what it takes to train me. We both know it. Only time will tell if Mrs. Lion is going to put her paddle where her post is.

Wednesday night was memorable for another reason. Mrs. Lion decided to give me an orgasm. It had been 11 days since the last one. She gave me oral sex. I love how that feels. The orgasm control clock is reset, and I count the days until my next chance to ejaculate. After more than eight years of this, I’ve forgotten what it is like to have sex on demand.

I’m not complaining. What we are doing works well for us. I admit that during my spanking, I wanted to end being punished. I hated the spanking so much that I wondered if we could stop domestic discipline. Of course, I didn’t ask Mrs. Lion to stop. She wouldn’t agree if I did. I know that what we are doing is good for both of us. I’m supposed to hate being punished. I’m also supposed to long for the ability to ejaculate anytime I want. I’m not supposed to get my way.

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In: Punishment, Sex

Today is punishment day. I’ve already decided I’m not doing a “just because” spanking because I whomped him last night. He says he can still feel it this morning. Good. Spanking him again would be too much.

When I was done with him, I left him to recover while I took a shower. I like to give him some time between punishment and fun. I don’t want him to be thinking about the pain when I’m trying to arouse him, and vice versa. Plus, left to his own devices, he can think about his crime every time he tries to get comfortable.

I was still letting him recover when he asked if I wanted to snuggle. I’d closed my iPad, and I was trying to get myself in motion. In my mind, I was already halfway there. Of course, snuggling is often code for more. That’s fine. He needed attention. It had been a few days since I’d edged him.

He was hard when I used my hand. He lost a little bit when he moved to let me suck him. I got him hard again. I was afraid I was losing him, so I stopped pulling on his balls and started tickling them. It was an immediate improvement. I edged him twice. I was going to edge him again and then give him an orgasm, but he got ahead of me. He assumed I wasn’t going to let him finish. I don’t know if he believed me when I said I was going to, but he surprised me early.

I’m not complaining. I love Lion creme filling no matter when I get it. I guess if I hadn’t intended to give him an orgasm, I might feel differently. I’ve considered making a rule that he can’t come unless I tell him he can, but there’s a problem with that. I usually have my mouth full. I also think he can’t be expected to stop an orgasm when I push him too far. Ultimately it’s my fault. That’s why I get so annoyed with ruined orgasms.

At any rate, I have a spoiled Lion. He’s been spanked and sucked dry. He should have slept well last night. [Lion — I slept very well.]

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In: Spanking, Domestic discipline

Yup, I did it again. I’ve been encouraging Mrs. Lion to use domestic discipline to deal with situations she calls “unbecoming for a lion.” Wednesday morning, I got this email:

“By the way, I was thinking you should be punished for snapping at me when we were waiting, and I was talking to Dr. N. That’s conduct unbecoming a Lion.”

“How’s that for catching you annoying me? Eureka! lol”

I asked for it. Don’t let the light tone fool you. Mrs. Lion was annoyed on Tuesday when I offended. The email came a day later after she had time to cool off. I have no illusions that the punishment will be light. It will be at least ten minutes of butt-blistering paddling. I have no doubt that I will be very sorry by the time she finishes.

That’s the thing about domestic discipline. It isn’t administered in anger. Mrs. Lion punishes me after she has had time to cool off. In a way, that is worse than being spanked while she is angry. She will administer my punishment with cool objectivity. She isn’t working off her anger. She will calmly work to teach me a lesson, a very painful one.

I’m very proud of her. It’s taken years to get to this point. In a way, it’s a turn-on for me knowing she has this power and will use it. After all, it’s what I asked for all those years ago. I won’t be turned on when I’m strapped on the spanking bench. But I’m aroused now, hours before she gets home, thinking about it. Weird, huh?

She also said that she thinks I have a cute butt. I don’t see it. You’ve seen pictures of my rear both before and after spanking. Is it cute to you? If you want to see one of my rear view, click here. I’m glad she likes it. I suppose I’m also glad she is ready, willing, and able to beat it. While I’m on the subject of spanking, have you noticed that there are no more references to bare-bottom spankings? I guess everyone knows that spankings are administered on bare buns. Eight years ago, it was almost mandatory to specify that a spanking will be on a bare ass. Mrs. Lion always spanks my bare bottom.

Another significant change is that Mrs. Lion has learned not to react to my complaints and yelps when she punishes me. If anything, she is encouraged when I am screaming and demanding she stop. Of course, she doesn’t. She also disregards blood. Hard paddling will break skin in a couple of places. There is never any trace of an injury afterward. She used to stop at the first sign of blood. Now she disregards it (Click here to see my butt after a spanking with blood). I support this because the bleeding isn’t dangerous and doesn’t even cause a scab. More importantly, Mrs. Lion has a job to do and shouldn’t stop until she is done. If the DWC was still around, I’m sure they would agree.