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This is that post where some fondly held beliefs may be shattered. I think it is important because success in starting male chastity or a female led relationship depends on getting this right.

No matter how I look at it, Female Led  Relationships (FLR) are male inventions. This is a highly counter-intuitive conclusion. Just as male chastity is also a male institution, FLR is the product of male sexual fantasy. That’s not to say it’s all fiction. That’s not the case at all. Mrs. Lion is firmly in charge of our FLR and enforced male chastity. Still, that doesn’t mean it was her idea.

FLR and enforced male chastity are alive and well. They are consensual power exchanges between partners. Once they get going, who started them is probably not very important. But if you want to begin your own, it’s critical to understand the realities before going to your partner.

Pretty much everything you read about male chastity and FLR are scenes, real or imagined, that arouse their authors. The underlying theme is that the man’s will is subsumed by his partner’s. This is manifest by lockup of his penis, requirements to perform menial chores, passive acceptance of punishment, and requirements to deliver unreciprocated sexual pleasure to his partner.

His arousal comes from his sexual frustration and submission. Dialogue often centers around reminding him how helpless and unimportant he is. The fantasies tend to be extreme. Sexual fantasies tend to push beyond sane limits.

This isn’t all gloom and doom. There’s an easy way to translate fantasies to a request that a partner can actually act on. Let’s say you would like to try a female led relationship. You’ve been reading blogs, forum posts, and stories. You have an idea what turns you on. I’ll use myself as an example:

  • I got turned on when the strong wife spanked her husband for disobedience.
  • Being given rules turned me on.
  • Punishment scenes are hot.
  • Mild humiliation (panties diapers, pegging, etc) turned me on.

That’s the short list. My initial list was much longer. I worked on it to remove duplicate entries. I also simplified as much as possible. The short list turned me on. That’s why I ended up presenting to Mrs. Lion. Initially, she agreed she could make some rules and punish me (by spanking) for breaking them. We were on our way!

Since then, we’ve done a lot more. None of it conforms to those fantasies other people wrote. What we do is all us. Maybe this can help you get started.

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When I left for work this morning, Lion was vertical. I’ve since learned that didn’t last long. He wrote a short post and crawled back in bed. I told him to make sure he drinks OJ or water and he should eat something. There’s leftover soup from last night but he can eat crackers if that’s all he can manage. As long as he eats something, I’ll be happy.

Lion forgot to remind me it was punishment day on Saturday. I figure he’s lucky he could make it to the bathroom when he needed to so I’m not going to punish him. I forgot too. Of course, it’s not my job to remember. But if he’s not feeling well he shouldn’t have to remember either. It’s more important to get well.

We watched our football team actually win again. That’s always exciting, especially since they weren’t able to get out of their own way for most of the season. Our rookie running back is very impressive. It’s fun to watch him. I’m sure that went a long way to make Lion feel a little better last night.

I fell asleep toward the end of the game. Between Lion’s coughing and my own, we didn’t get much sleep. We only took short naps yesterday. We’re taking baby steps toward getting well. Tonight maybe we’ll even manage to snuggle a bit.

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Both Mrs. Lion and I have been under the weather. I’ve been in bed continuously since Friday at 10 AM. Mrs. Lion has been sick too but more mobile. I’m grateful she kept you updated. I’ve noticed that she appears to think I’m wimpy for complaining and staying in bed while she soldiers through. Maybe i am. I’ve been up and sitting at my desk for ten minutes now. I’m near my limit.

I like to think that I’m brave and strong. Maybe not. In any case, my lioness has been taking really good care of me. Sadly, I’m nowhere near back to normal. For the record, I forget to tell Mrs. Lion that Saturday was punishment day. I just remembered now. The fact that I remember is a very good sign.

I have bills to pay but that’s not going to happen this morning. I’m heading back to bed with no thoughts of sex, FLRD, or anything else. More when i feel better.

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Lion has been coughing for a few days. He says he can’t stand it anymore. I’ve been coughing for weeks. I think he can stand it. It’s not that I don’t have sympathy for him. I just don’t think it’s as bad as he does.

The good news of the morning is that Lion was actually hungry. He hasn’t eaten much in the past few days but he decided he should eat whether he wants to or not so he can get better. What an adult thing to do! Yes, I’m teasing him. He looks a lot better today. Maybe he’ll want lunch and dinner too.

This will be our third or fourth week of watching football the boring old way. He hasn’t felt well enough to play our zapping and swatting game. That’s okay. We still have Zapardy! and whatever other game that morphs from it. Jeopardy! is on every weeknight so we have many opportunities. There’s even an all-star series of Jeopardy! games coming up. What torture can I come up with for those episodes? Maybe if the players I don’t like get a correct answer, Lion will get zapped. Maybe that will be part of the morphed game. Each night he can pick a number between one and three and whichever player that is earns Lion a zap for each incorrect answer. Or some swats. The rules are a work in progress.

Whatever the new game is, I’m sure Lion will learn to love and hate Jeopardy! at the same time. When we watch without the zapper, sometimes he’ll say it would be a good night to have played since he gets a lot of questions right. If the zaps/swats are dependent on a contestant’s answer, it won’t matter how many questions Lion gets right. Yeah. This could be a very good game. Just not necessarily a good game for Lion.