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In: Lion's Journal
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Is that a camera sticking out of your ass? Yup! Talk about POV!

Nothing says submission like a dildo in the butt. At least that’s how I see it. Even if it’s erotically arousing, it’s impossible to ignore the fact that there is a penis-shaped intruder uncomfortably moving in and out of my ass. For the record, I’m not turned on by having something shoved up my ass. It doesn’t feel good to me. But then, a lot of things I want aren’tparticularly  comfortable.

Anal penetration is a very dominant activity for me. When Mrs. Lion shoves a plug or dildo up my ass, I truly feel submissive. On the dominant side, there is a real power rush forcing a lubed object up a willing submissive’s ass. Like spanking, anal penetration is an almost-universal expression of dominance over a man. I think that those two are the first BDSM activities most people try.

It’s no accident that both involve the male butt. The bottom has a rich network of nerves that react to the stimulation of spanking. The anus is an area that is also graced with many nerves. Stimulation of them provides a combination of sexual arousal and pain. A finger gently inserted during a blow job greatly enhances the experience. I love it! The same is true of a spanking administered for fun. I can remain aroused through most of one.

Spanking and anal penetration are both exciting enough for me to willingly accept them. That doesn’t mean I will stay happy I was willing. When Mrs. Lion starts inserting a butt plug, for example, it feels good; a little like that finger during a blow job. I’m probably hard or getting there. Then, very shortly, as the wider part of the plug is being pushed in, the good feeling disappears and it hurts. The pain builds until the widest part passes my sphincter. Then it feels good again.

 

strap on panties
They look like ordinary women’s briefs until you see the “O” ring sewn into the front. A dildo goes there. It’s a comfortable and stylish way to peg your main.

The good feeling continues for a while. Then, it just sort of blends into the background noise of my body. After a couple of hours, it starts feeling uncomfortable, like I want to go to the bathroom. The discomfort builds slowly. I can’t find a comfortable position. Eventually, Mrs. Lion takes pity on me and she removes it. Going out is a lot less uncomfortable than going in. I guess I’m used to pushing things out. The “in” direction is not a normal part of my experience.

A dildo is a different experience. Depending on the diameter (length isn’t particularly important), insertion can hurt a lot. Once it’s well seated up my ass, I feel a lot of discomfort. After a few minutes, the pain subsides. Then she starts moving it in and out, slowly at first. I am not fond of that sensation at all. Every so often, she’ll pull the dildo out completely and then immediately reinsert it. Nope. That’s no fun. She speeds up. It feels a lot worse. I hate it. When she believes I’ve had enough, she will take it out. Whew!

She has a RodeOh strap-on panty. So far I’ve been too much of a wimp for her to use it. I would like her to be able to truly peg me. I think I can learn to handle being fucked. Like the other things I’ve learned to accept, I just need practice. Gradually, she can increase the length of time she fucks me as well as her speed. If she does this three or four times a week, I’m sure I will be ready for pegging soon enough.

I’m kinky enough to want this training. It feels like a good way to further express my submission to my lioness.  We haven’t done any anal play in months. I imagine that once she starts again I’ll wish I didn’t write this post.

 

 

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In: CBT

The other day when I wrote about the effective way to spank me, I made reference to ball swatting. Julie, who is the undisputed queen of all things spanking, noted that she needs to add her husband’s balls to her repertoire of spanking activities. Mrs. Lion swats my balls frequently. She says she does it because I asked her to do it. In the distant past I did. It occurs to me that it may be worth a post to talk about male genital spanking.

We guys aren’t going to be particularly helpful about ways to spank our cocks and balls. The most diehard male pain slut, who doesn’t break a sweat after an hour of caning, will squick out in the face of genital spanking. I think of spanking, my butt that as erotic, at least at first. I greet the prospect of genital spanking with fear. That’s not to say I don’t get hard when Mrs. Lion prepares to swat me there. I do. I just don’t spend too much time looking forward to it.

Oddly, many women love male genital spanking. I’m not going to go all Freudian on it. You draw your own conclusions. Anyway, there is a need for understanding the proper technique in cock and ball beating. Unlike the butt, the genitals are easy to injure and turn a fun session into a medical problem.

Penis spanking
The penis is filled with spongy tissue that fills with blood to create an erection. This tissue is delicate, particularly when the penis is hard. Just as it is dangerous to bend or fold a hard cock, swatting the shaft can produce permanent injury Fortunately, for the spanker, the head of the penis has a different structure and is very safe to swat. It is also more sensitive than the shaft. Soft or hard, it is safe to spank the head. Support the shaft with one hand while spanking the head.

The best toys for this purpose are lightweight, smaller objects. A  paint stirrer (free at warehouse stores) is great for cock heads and balls. You can sometimes find very small floggers that are perfect for male genitals. Mrs. Lion likes to snap a fingernail against the head of my penis. That really stings! A little sandpaper on the cock head is an easy way to make it more sensitive.

If you stick to the head of the penis, you can safely cause a lot of extreme discomfort. Some tops find it amusing to get the head nice and sore and then have their boys fuck them. Sex is both exciting and excruciating. It’s really making a male’s instincts work against him.

Balls
Balls are both rugged and delicate. The testes themselves are not safe to beat. A blow to them will often make the male fall down and throw up. However, the scrotum is a safe and effective spanking target. Your trusty paint stirrer is perfect for ball spanking. You can be the scrotum bright red without any risk of hurting it’s precious contents. A light flogger, even a riding crop are also effective on the scrotum. When Mrs. Lion uses one of these on me, it burns like fire.!

The biggest advantage in genital spanking is the mental effect it has on the man. We are frightened of anything beating our cock and balls. Very little effort will yield big results. If you pull the cock and balls back between the thighs and then use a belt to bind the thighs tightly together so they can’t escape,  you have ass and genitals available for spanking. I can tell you that a standard, butt swatting takes on new terror when my cock and balls are also in range of the paddle. Also, you can alternate between butt swatting and cock and ball spanking without turning him over. How convenient for you!

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In: Edging, Mrs Lion Comments, Orgasm, Orgasm denial

Lion has been very horny the past few days. His wait was only five days. That means nothing to him. Horny is horny.

I’ve had a stiff neck for a few days. Yesterday it became painful. It hurts to turn my head. Lucky for Lion it doesn’t hurt to move up and down. Perfect for some oral action.

I had him nice and hard before I moved into position to suck him. In the past, if I used my mouth, it meant he was getting an orgasm. It was difficult for me to gauge when to stop since I can’t see his face very well. Some time ago I figured out how to edge him. Poor Lion.

At some point, I set a goal of doing more oral orgasms than hand jobs. Well, I wanted to equal the number of hand jobs. It hasn’t worked out that way so far, but I’m still game. Lion is too.

Actually, I’m glad Lion has no idea if he’ll get an orgasm just because I’m using my mouth. I mean, if I’m still going for my goal, his chances are still good. But I like keeping him on his toes. I think it’s better when he doesn’t know. Of course, even if he did know, it doesn’t mean he’ll know exactly when. I don’t always edge him the same amount each time. Sometimes he gets edged over and over. Sometimes he gets edged only a few times. And it doesn’t matter if he’s getting an orgasm or not. On your toes, Lion.

Fortunately for Lion, last night’s oral ministrations had a happy ending.

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In: Female led relationship with discipline, Lion's Journal, Lioness 3.0, Punishment

Lioness 3.0’s arrival is difficult for me to accept. I’m not complaining. She is letting me know what truly bothers her. Some of these things feel challenging to me on a pretty deep level. Her recent post, Time For A Change, is a perfect example. In that post, she explained that she hates it when I respond to her declaration that she might have a cold with me worrying that I might catch it.

She sees this as me making her illness about me instead of her. I never thought of it that way. She has a point. My thoughts immediately went to the ten or more days I spend in bed with a bad cold. That is selfish of me. But that’s not the point at all. The big news is that Mrs. Lion was willing to let me know that it bothers her when I do that. Further, she announced that I will be punished if I do it again. Score for 3.0!

I never realized that I was upsetting her. I didn’t think I was being selfish or thoughtless. If 3.0 wasn’t visiting, I would have continued with this thoughtless behavior. Well, I still might do it, but I will suffer if I do. 3.0 didn’t concern herself with why I would say that. She knows. But she wasn’t looking to rationalize my statement. She was hurt. That’s enough.

I’ve been in relationships where my partner would let me know when I did or said things she didn’t like. Invariably, she would make me miserable about what I did. It was emotional punishment that pushed us apart. Mrs. Lion is taking a much healthier route. She tells me what bothers her and then punishes me for any future repetition. It’s clean and non-guilt provoking. There is no room for me to object or argue; and no further recriminations from Mrs. Lion. It’s a simple, “Do it again and you will be spanked.”

Some might see this as unfair. After all, what I said wasn’t intended to hurt her. It never occurred to me that it could. Susan, in a comment, argued that Mrs. Lion was being unfair:

“Why make a mountain out of a molehill? It’s an honest statement and don’t pretend that you would not say it the other way around or maybe think it. So what’s the problem? He just announces a fact nothing more nothing less, that’s how men work.”

She went on to say:

“He just stated a fact nothing more nothing less 100% without even thinking about it. Did you ever tell him, that it offends you? If not, you don’t have the right to make it punishable from now on.”

The fact is that she did tell me. She announced it in her post. She didn’t punish me for saying it the other day. She put me on notice that I will be punished if I do it again in the future. This has nothing at all to do with whether or not the statement is honest or correct. It offends Mrs. Lion because it shows I’m not thinking of her at a time when I clearly should. 3.0 will not stand for that.

The biggest question hasn’t been answered. Will Mrs. Lion actually follow through if I repeat this behavior? So far, I haven’t been punished for being a know-it-all or recently interrupting. I believe that Mrs. Lion has taken the most difficult step: she’s informed me that I offended or hurt her. This is epic! It’s the kind of action that will strengthen our marriage. I hope she will follow through as needed.

We’ve learned that prompt, consistent, severe punishment will change my behavior. It works. We’ve also learned that there are no negative side effects to this apparently-extreme exercise of wifely power. If anything, it turns out that it is benign. A sore bottom and a soapy mouth do teach me. Yes, my bottom and my pride is hurt. But that is a small price to pay for positive change. There is no guilt, no going to bed angry. It’s a clear, clean exchange that eventually results in making me a better husband