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In: BDSM, Lion's Journal, Spanking

Thursday night Mrs. Lion teased me with her mouth. She’s gotten expert at knowing when I am close to coming. She’s very confident that she can keep me on the edge using her mouth. In the past, she often went too far and I got an unplanned orgasm.  Soon after the teasing, I was back in my chastity device again.

We seem to be back in  our old routine. There’s some comfort in that for me. I’m still not all that happy about being caged. But when I’m wild, I’m not too happy about that either. That suggests my feelings aren’t really related to the device. Sure, wearing it is inconvenient and sometimes a little uncomfortable. But I’ve been dealing with that for years.

We’ve basically stopped playing. We were very active, doing something at least a couple of times a week. When the maintenance spankings stopped, we stopped any sort of BDSM. I’m not unhappy that those spankings aren’t coming at least twice a week. They are genuinely hard to handle. I accept that they are a valid form of training for both of us. Since she started doing them, her intensity has gone up and my ability to accept the spanking has improved. Perhaps when I don’t need punishing in a week, a maintenance spanking can allow our training to continue.

One of the key components of BDSM play for me is that I’m aroused when it takes place. When she used to give me a play spanking, she made sure I was hard and excited before she started. Many times I stayed erect through almost the entire spanking. I had fun. The same was always true for other play as well. I’m not claiming that’s a requirement for BDSM play. But for the play to make sense at least one of us has to be enjoying it.

For example, if Mrs. Lion enjoys seeing how many painful clothespins she can put on my balls, then it doesn’t matter if I’m aroused or not. She’s having fun. If she enjoys it and I’m aroused too, then we are both having fun. My point is that if neither of us is having a good time, why do it?

It bothers me when Mrs. Lion does things to me out of a sense of duty. It makes me feel guilty and an little sad. I know that the bottom always has the most fun. Even with a sexual sadist topping, safe play is often more work than recreation. I’m sure pro doms enjoy their work, but it is work nonetheless. The same is true for Mrs. Lion. I’m sure she would rather play on her iPad than torture me. I hope she will still have fun playing with me. I’m greatful for her efforts on my behalf.

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

Fridays are sort of hectic for me. I work a half day. In those few hours I have to make sure everything is wrapped up for the week. There’s often no time to write a post. By the time I get home and we eat lunch, it’s late and my post will be late. Sometimes I don’t even have any idea what to write about. Today I have two ideas so I’ll save one for another time.

Lion and I have both written about needing to get back to playing. We’ve both mentioned the Box O’Fun. It contains papers on which I’ve written various kinds of play. There’s spanking, Icy Hot, clothespins, etc. We created the box to “force” us to play, much like the cage “forced” us to bring sex back into the relationship. Going back to the Box O’Fun makes sense. Then why haven’t we so far?

Lion’s allergies have been getting to him again. Between itching and the medication, he hasn’t cared a lot about sex lately. I’ve been trying to give him time for things to clear up. Generally, we can still snuggle. Sometimes he’s too itchy. We still hold hands.

Last night Lion mentioned the Box O’Fun again. I agreed we should try it. When I had unlocked him earlier, he said he wasn’t horny and apologized. There’s no need to apologize. Ever. If things don’t go well one day, we try again the next. I assumed he wasn’t horny because of allergies. I didn’t equate the Box O’Fun with his non-horniness. Maybe it wasn’t related. But just before bed, after I had attempted to edge him orally, he mentioned the box again.

My first reaction was to be annoyed. Alright already. We said we’d use it again. How many times is he going to bring it up in one day? Again, I don’t know if he was trying to suggest it earlier or not. Apparently I do need to be hit over the head with things if he was just reiterating how important he thought it was. For the record, we don’t need the Box O’Fun to play. And we have been playing a little bit along the way. But I do understand the need to bring it more to the forefront and the Box O’Fun can help with that.

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In: Body Hair Removal, Lion's Journal

For some time we’ve been researching ways to keep me hairless, front and back. In current terms that’s called a full brazillian or manzillian. I’ve been hairless for many years. At one point, I had professional laser hair removal treatments. Over nine months, almost all my pubic hair was gone. Most of it isn’t growing back now, over fifteen years later. Some, particularly on my balls stubbornly reappears. We’ve used a home light treatment to try for permanent results. But there is still some foliage.

Much of my scrotal hair is grey. The darker hair yielded to the light treatments. Grey hair can’t be removed with lasers. There is also quite a bit of hair below my balls and on/in my butt. The light treatments made good headway there, but there is still work to be done. Most difficult for me is removing ball hair. Our electric body shaver painfully nicks me when used there. A body razor (Venus) does the work with fewer injuries, but stubble returns. We’ve used an epilator successfully on other spots, but the scrotum just gets caught in the machine and hurts me.

I suggested we could try waxing. A couple of weeks ago, we bought some Veet waxing strips. They worked pretty well on my balls.  We decided to go into waxing a bit more scientifically. I like to learn everything I can about new things. YouTube has a wealth of videos about everything. This video is the best waxing video I’ve found. It’s a step-by-step course on male pubic hair removal. There are some other good videos out there as well. I hope Mrs. Lion will spend some time with these lessons. There’s more to waxing than I thought.

For example, before waxing a lotion is used to prepare the skin. It’s important because it helps open pores and remove any sweat and body oils. Next, to my surprise, light mineral oil is applied to the skin; just a light layer that is rubbed off. The oil keeps the wax from sticking to the skin but doesn’t prevent the wax from grabbing hairs, Live and learn! By the way, generic light mineral oil is perfect. There are very expensive waxing oils that are just scented mineral oil.

I also learned that there are two kinds of waxes: strip and stripless. The strip wax is applied and then a cloth is pressed into the wax and us used to pull the wax and hair away. Stripless wax is applied more thickly and then allowed to dry for a bit. It can be pulled away without the cloth strip. This is supposed to be much less painful than strip wax. It is what all the videos I watched recommend for balls, penis, and inner butt areas.

I ordered a can of stripless wax and a heater to melt it. I also got a can of strip wax that can be melted in the microwave. Strip wax can be applied to larger areas and is faster than stripless. This may seem like a lot of stuff, but it’s what’s required. Since a professional male brazillian waxing costs about $125 in our area, the do-it-yourself kit is a bargain. According to the way my hair grows, I will need waxing every two-to-four weeks. The process takes about a half hour or so. That’s about how long using the light device takes.

If my experience with the epilator is any indication, hair grows back softer and lighter after waxing. Subsequent treatments should be less painful and take less time.  Speaking of pain, waxing does hurt; especially the first time. I think it’s worth the pain. There is no sharp stubble as hair grows back and the area stays clean an d smooth much longer.

It will be another week or so before we have all the supplies assembled and have the time to wax me. Like any other skill, I expect it will take a few sessions to master. I’m hoping that wax will be the hair removal answer we have been seeking.

 

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

Lion wasn’t horny last night. We still snuggled for a bit. He’s been very itchy. The dog goes for a bath on Friday so I hope that helps. It’ll still take a few days for the allergies to go away.

After I’d locked him up again, Lion said he thought I’d leave him wild. I hadn’t even thought about it. We’d just started back in with the cage. Why would I leave him wild? I asked if he was sore. He isn’t. Then it stays on.

I’m really not sure how to handle the cage right now. Lion wants it on when it’s off and off when it’s on. Technically he doesn’t need it on. He won’t cheat and he won’t masturbate. He didn’t like the idea of it only being worn on weekends or other times like he wears diapers. I don’t know if he’s trying to test my resolve at keeping him locked up or what’s happening. He’s usually not this wishy-washy. I don’t know if can all be blamed on the allergies.

The thing is, we talk and talk about the cage. He likes it from a bondage point of view and the fact that it seems to keep sex in the forefront. We decided the cage should continue. And then he wants to be out again. I don’t think there’s any need to talk about it anymore. It should be on except in cases of travel, doctor appointments necessitating its removal, and sores or illness. Of course, there may be other instances, but we can talk about it and then he should be locked again as soon as feasible. [Lion — Yes, Ma’am]