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As you’ve probably read, Lion says it was my idea to start out with hard whomps for our numb butt experiment. Nope. Not me. I’d rather start out with medium whomps and increase the harshness in subsequent spankings. That way we can tell how hard I need to swat to begin to see a difference. Lion advocated for hard swats right off the bat. As I said yesterday, we “compromised” and we’re going straight for the hard swats. True, it was my decision to go with the compromise, but it wasn’t my first choice. In the end, it became another example of Lion being careful what he asks for. I can usually agree with that.

Last night was punishment night. Lion dutifully reminded me. When I said I didn’t think he had anything on his list, he reminded me that he hadn’t thanked me for his previous punishment. I was debating if I should let him off the hook since I hadn’t remembered and he reminded me. Ultimately, I decided that he should still get swats, but not as many and not as hard. However, when I was done, I hovered for a minute to see if he was going to thank me. Just before I asked him if he needed more swats, he remembered. Phew! That was a close one.

His whomping was not done for the evening’s activities. After I unlocked him I was massaging his balls and starting the fun. Then I swatted his balls a few times. Massage and swat. Massage and swat. He doesn’t like to have his balls swatted, but a long time ago he told me to do it. He also told me his balls could handle being swatted fairly hard. Now when I swat them he winces with even the slightest of love taps. I tell him he has wimpy balls and swat harder. I remind him that he told me to swat harder. He doesn’t like to be reminded of things he said in the beginning of our relationship. Sometimes he wishes I’d forget a lot of what he’s taught me. My memory may be faulty, but it’s not that faulty. Sorry, my pet.

The other love/hate relationship he has is with edging. He loves the attention. He hates that I stop. Well, my dear, you asked for this too. The whole idea of being denied was your idea. You can’t blame me for getting so good at it. And it could always be worse. I could be missing the mark and giving you ruined orgasms.

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As Mrs. Lion mentioned, I’m off on a business trip Monday morning. At least I think I am. My destination is in the heart of the area hit hurricane Matthew. I won’t know until later this weekend whether or not the trip will be possible. My heart goes out to the people in the path of this terrible storm. Many of my colleagues are affected. One joked yesterday, “When you come down you can take pictures of the damage to show the folks at home.” I hope not. This is far closer to me than the evening news. I care a lot about both the people and the place on a very personal level.

I suppose you saw Mrs. Lion’s post yesterday. I sure did. She’s curious about our spanking experiment and decided that she should start out with very hard swats. This isn’t punishment. It’s science. That won’t reduce the pain for me. Mark wrote a comment about my post yesterday. He mentioned “leather butts”. This is an expression in the BDSM community that refers to people who can take a lot of spanking with little effect. I’ve seen quite a few cases.

He said that the reason someone would have a leather butt is because they have gotten so many spankings that they get toughened up. He suggested that is probably why spankings don’t redden me as much as others. In my case, that’s not true. I haven’t been spanked much at all prior to Mrs. Lion coming along. But, in fact, frequency of swats doesn’t appear to be related to this condition. You would have to have calluses on your ass to not feel pain there when swatted.

The fact that I don’t get deep red doesn’t mean I don’t feel the swats. I think I am a wimp when it comes to spanking. I can’t hold still for a punishment spanking. I can’t stop myself from yelling/screaming in pain. If anything, I feel more back there than many. But still I don’t get red or easily bruised. I’ve known others who turn red to the extent you can see a hand print from a single swat. I’ve had bottoms like that. It’s fun to leave my mark that way.

I thought that after being spanked over time, I would learn to hold still and accept my punishment. After more than a year, that hasn’t happened. Even if I “earn” extra swats for moving, I just can’t stop myself. Who knows? Maybe I just need more practice. One thing I have never seen is anyone getting an acquired immunity to spanking. It may take more to send a message to some people, but I’ve never seen any evidence that they lose sensation over time.

By that I mean over many spanking sessions. In a play spanking where the build up is fairly slow, endorphins will build up (the same way they do when people run long distances) and the pain will become pleasure. That’s not what I mean. I’m talking about spankings over a period of years. I know of no reports that the spankings stop being effective.

Punishment spankings don’t allow endorphins to build up. They start hard and stay hard. Sometimes, in my case, the swats get more severe as the session progresses. I never try to provoke Mrs. Lion to give me one. I hate them. And, for the record, I don’t have a leather butt.

 

 

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Lion isn’t sure how he can manage waiting until Sunday for his orgasm. He’s also concerned that I won’t let him come on Sunday. He’s heading off for a week-long business trip so I don’t think it’s advisable to leave him as horny as he is when he’ll be alone and wild. He could find himself a hottie to relieve the pressure. Plenty of business men have women in every port. I’m teasing. I know he won’t find a helper. I just don’t want to tempt him to help himself.

I’ve been tempted to give him an orgasm sooner, though. I’ve been trying to stay strong. I know he’d say I’m the boss and I can do whatever I want to do so feel free to give that orgasm ahead of schedule. I can see the silly look on his face as he gives me “permission.” This temptation is different from the past. Several months ago I wanted to give him an orgasm because I knew he wanted it and I wanted to do it. Now it’s more a feeling of “you know, if you just go one more stroke he’ll come and feel so much better.” Maybe it’s because I’ve been trying to get him closer and closer to the point of no return. It has little to do with the fact that I know he’s dying to come.

Last night he said something to the effect of my making it worse by teasing him. I told him it might be worse if I didn’t tease him. He’d be upset that I was ignoring him. He’d grumble that he was so horny and I’m not doing anything about it. But when I do something about it I only make it worse. He’s caught between a rock and a hard place. Poor thing. Why won’t I just let him come? I’m so mean.

Lion’s also been pushing for me to test out my theory about using the numbing cream one cheek and not the other during a spanking. I’ve been a bit preoccupied with my knee lately. And he wants me to start out whomping hard. I don’t. He thinks we won’t see any effect if we start out slow. I think we won’t know if we start out hard. So the compromise is that I start out whomping hard. If we’re not starting off slowly then there’s no rush to do it since I won’t be building up to anything. We’re just going full force right out of the gate. So it can wait until Friday or Saturday night. Then if there is any residual pain I can make it worse with a play spanking before his orgasm on Sunday. Sometimes I really do have a plan for things.

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Mrs. Lion proposed an experiment involving numbing cream and spanking. We have a supply of the cream. I use it when Mrs. Lion applies the laser hair removal device to sensitive areas. Without anesthesia, it hurts terribly, particularly on my balls and perineum. Even with the Lidocaine, it still hurts but is manageable.

The experiment she proposed involves me applying the cream to one butt cheek. After it has time to take effect (30 to 45 minutes), she proposes to spank both cheeks. The expectation is that the anesthetized cheek will feel less pain. I am sure that is true. She said she wanted to see if the after effect changes as well.

That’s where she loses me. If she is spanking both cheeks with the same force and duration, why would there be any difference in the pain I feel later? The Lidocaine will wear off and then any sensation I am feeling in the untreated cheek should be echoed in the one that now has feeling. I can’t think of a reason I would find a difference.

(Here’s the part where Lion puts his paw in his mouth)

I would suggest a more interesting experiment would be to spank the anesthetized cheek longer and harder than the unprotected one. Maybe keep going until my reaction is the same as it is for the other cheek. That should mean the Lidocaine cheek will get a lot more, harder attention. Now, we would see if the residual sensation difference is significant.

Does that mean the new pattern for punishment is local anesthesia to enhance the punishment? No, that doesn’t make too much sense to me. But there is a real question that I think does need answering. In the past I have been accused of having a butt that isn’t easy to mark in any way and never gets truly dark red. People who have spanked me (play situations) commented that for all their work I had little lasting sensation.

Is this something about me that is independent of the spanker or her technique? Is it my physiology? Or, is it that my reactions to the swats somehow limit the needed force and duration? I think we’ve established that I truly hate the sting of a paddle. It’s pretty easy to get me to the point of seriously wanting to stop the proceedings. Without bondage and a gag, Mrs. Lion’s range is almost certainly limited by my reactions.

Secure bondage and a gag will cure this problem. I clearly have a limit to how long I can hold still no matter how hard I try. I can only get to a point in sensation before I have to get away. Changing implements to heavier, less stingy devices might help fix that problem. My limited experience at being spanked suggests that the most lasting sensations come when I am bruised in a spot where I sit. That would take the heavier, force-concentrating toy.

Mrs. Lion’s Lidocaine experiment, at least the way I am suggesting, has the ability to discover whether or not I can be paddled until dark red. It can also determine if that sort of concentrated paddling will make it hurt well into the next day. I have only had one spanking experience that did provide real discomfort that long. I have not idea what was used, but it had no sting. It hurt a lot and there was a painful bruise left behind that hurt for two days every time I sat down.

I admit that I am curious about this subject. I’ve seen lots of spankings (at S/M events) that produce dark red bottoms and clearly continue giving discomfort for some time. In my case, I’ve never experienced either. Do I have one of those “iron butts” or am I too much of a wimp to let things go far enough to be effective?