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In: Mrs Lion Comments

Now that I’m more confident, my favorite way to torture Lion is with oral edging. I can do much more with my tongue than I can with my hands. As with everything, practice makes perfect. I’ve been practicing a lot lately. It’s easier on my knee for me to be on my stomach on the bed between his legs than sitting cross legged next to him. That’s not to say he’s been edged that way exclusively.

You may think that hands are easier to control. With my mouth I can adjust the tightness, speed, depth, and exactly where he’ll feel the effects. Sometimes I don’t even have to move. I just let my tongue do the work. Last night I got Lion so close I thought I’d have to salvage an orgasm a few times. But no, he held on. I’m not sure how based on all the noise he was making, but he did hold on.

From my position between his legs I also have access to his balls and his ass, to some extent. He loves to have his balls tickled when he’s about to come. Of course, I tickle them to trick him into thinking he’ll get to come. I also use my fingers to wrap his scrotum so I can pull his balls. And using my finger to rub near his asshole is another good way to encourage him. So many good things come from that position. Not Lion, of course, but other things. And when Lion is allowed to come, oral is my favorite since I get the yummy creme filling I’ve worked so hard for.

Last night I did a little nibbling on my weenie. Nothing to hurt him. I was just having some fun pretending to chew on him while Lion held his breath. He had no idea if I would actually bite him. It must be scary for a guy to have such a sensitive area near teeth. I would never really hurt my weenie, but what’s a few tooth marks between friends?

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In: Lion's Journal

Most of us agree that enforced chastity is a consensual, sexual power exchange between a man and his keyholder. I suggest that this power exchange when it is between a man and a woman is actually a profound change in the order of things.

I’ve been reading a lot of stuff, written by women rationalizing sexual dominance that claim women are designed for very frequent orgasm while males “need” to be prevented from coming more than once every week or two. The rationale is usually that 1. Women can have multiple orgasms, and 2. Men get lazy and unresponsive after they come. Neither of those concepts, if they are true, are reasons for anything. They are, at best, descriptions of behavior.

When we look through the lens of procreation, only males need to have orgasms since that is the mechanism that accompanies ejaculation, which fertilizes the egg. There is evidence that the more aroused the woman is, the more likely the sperm will hit the target. But it’s not a precondition to fertilization.

To this day, many women are “trained” that if a male they are with is aroused and they are part of the arousal process, then the male should ejaculate. According to our western training, men should always come as a part of sex. Girls learn to masturbate males as a way of keeping sexual contact short of intercourse. My point is that guys expect to ejaculate if they are in a sexual situation. They get upset if that isn’t the result.

This is all part of our paternalistic society. It’s long been an issue with the feminist movement that a woman’s orgasm is often forgotten as part of sex. Social issues aside, it’s hard to disagree that men, in general, see ejaculation as an inevitable part of sex. I’m not so sure that guys see that as a symbol that they are superior to women, but there is no question that cultural stereotypes govern the way boys and girls are conditioned growing up.

All this is leading up to what makes enforced chastity a profound power exchange. I don’t think there are many guys who ever imagine having sex without ejaculation. Those of us who discovered enforced chastity, well at least me, found the idea of postponing ejaculation extremely hot. I didn’t think very much about the more significant idea that I would learn to have sex without any expectation of ejaculation.

Wearing a chastity device and being edged will, over time, condition a male to stop associating sexual activity with his own orgasm. It’s not that the desire to come disappears, but the connection between arousal, erection and sexual activity always ending with ejaculation grows very weak. After nearly three years of enforced chastity, I truly don’t associate any sexual activity Mrs. Lion wants with the happy endings of yore.

Enforced chastity hasn’t turned out the way I imagined it in the beginning. I saw myself suffering as I was forced to wait for the orgasm I so desperately wanted. Ever second of time I was kept away from that ejaculation I was an unwilling victim. Ok, that’s the bondage fantasy anyway. But if we are honest with ourselves, we guys like that story line. One day I woke up and realized that just because Mrs. Lion was jerking me off, there was absolutely no assurance I would get a happy ending In fact, unless the orgasm is scheduled, I’m actually surprised when I get one.

Let’s take that one level deeper. This loss of sexual entitlement opens the door for female control of sex and other things. We gave our keyholders the right to own our orgasms. That was a really hot idea in the beginning. But when they own our orgasms, they also have direct authority over a key part of our lives: sex. It isn’t a big leap for either the male or female to start transferring other power to her as well.

I’m starting to believe that FLR is the next logical step in the course of sexual surrender. Frankly, it feels completely natural to me. I know that Mrs. Lion isn’t quite there yet. But to me, it makes perfect sense that if she owns my sexual satisfaction, she is assuming a dominant role in our relationship. Ok, here’s the controversial part. I don’t think there is any way a couple who is practicing enforced chastity for any length of time doesn’t find the female partner assuming more and more control over other parts of life. What do you think?

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In: Mrs Lion Comments

Our stupid football team lost. We didn’t even watch the end of the game. It was depressing. We watched other shows and then I edged Lion. I thought I went too close once. He agreed. It was way too close. Good thing I stopped in time.

The other thing I did last night was give him his punishment swats for getting food on his shirt the other day. Lion said he should use the numbing cream he uses on his balls before I manscape him, on his butt before I swat him so he can’t feel it. It’s an interesting idea. I suggested numbing one side of his butt and we could see if how much he feels on each side. I’m also curious to see if he’ll having any lingering pain once the numbness wears off. You know how you can still feel some pain after novacaine wears off.

Lion suggests that I hit extra hard on the side that’s numb. I think we should start out equal as a control. Once I know if he can feel it at all or if there’s a residual effect then we can go from there. I may very well have to really whomp on him to get the residual effect. There’s no rush to get there. I can experiment as often as it takes. We can even try alternating cheeks to see if one is more sensitive than the other. Does one paddle do more “harm” than the others? The possibilities are endless.

Like many things, Lion may regret his suggestion. It’s possible he already does. He could potentially have one sore cheek and one numb cheek for weeks until I get tired of doing it. He may be looking forward to his business trip next week. It’s five days from today. I can do a lot of experimenting in that time. Poor Lion. Poor, happy Lion.

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In: Lion's Journal, Reviews, Underwear

I ordered some of the dual pouch underwear that I wrote about a bit ago. It has a pouch for the penis and a ventilated area for the balls. I got a comment from a guy who says he wears these with a Jail Bird. I suppose it is possible with a long enough cage, but mine is too short for it to work. I was wild yesterday for a doctor’s appointment. I took advantage of the opportunity to wear a pair of the dual pouch briefs.

They do feel nice. The separate pouches do eliminate the need to “adjust”. The micro modal fabric feels great. In the car, the place where the label is sewn on the back did dig in a bit. You have to remove the very long labels before wearing. There is a unique fly at the end of the penis pouch. Once you figure out how it works, it is a nice improvement on the standard side fly. This one opens so that the penis goes through a horizontal opening in the end of the pouch. Very easy to use and comfortable. Some complain about the price. These are cheap for micro modal fabric, only $6 each pair. You can find them here if you want to try them for yourself.

My shoulder remains pretty painful which has reduced my interest in sexual activity. The pain comes and goes, so when it’s not hurting too much we do have some fun. It’s all a matter of timing. Mrs. Lion is wonderful about taking care of me. She does everything she can to make me more comfortable. After work last night I saw my doctor. He gave me a cortisone shot which he says will help.

Some people don’t believe that we are real. Others find it hard to accept we are as happily married as we appear. There is nothing I can do about proving either. It’s sometimes hard for me to believe we get along as well as we do. I was incredibly lucky to find my lioness. We just fit together. She’s gone way out of her way to accommodate me. She became my keyholder and later my disciplining wife with no expectation that either would be rewarding to her. She did both simply to make me happy.

Fortunately, she found a lot of value in enforced chastity and she does it because she knows it makes us a better couple. The jury has been out on domestic discipline and FLR. However, she recently discovered she enjoys it when she discovers me breaking a rule. That may not seem like a big deal, but it is. She may still be doing it because she knows I want it, but she is also doing it because she has discovered a personal challenge she likes.

I don’t think she will ever get real pleasure out of punishing me. She may find the trouble that I get myself into amusing, but that’s not the same. I don’t get any pleasure out of being punished. We both realize that punishment is a necessary part of the power exchange. It’s also an effective way to change my behavior.

We aren’t living a fantasy. We are living a real-life FLR/enforced chastity lifestyle. What we write here is a true account of our power exchange. If it seems we are having fun, we are. We love each other and what we are doing.