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2.0 certainly keeps Lion on his toes. He knew he’d have the nJoy in his ass last night. And he knew he’d have maintenance swats last night. But he didn’t know he would have an orgasm. In all fairness, 2.0 didn’t plan it. She was happy edging him with the Magic Wand. Then she realized that, with the butt plug still inside, Lion would have a much more difficult time having said orgasm, so she decided he needed one. Plus she made him eat his semen. He hates that.

Even this morning he’s surprised by the orgasm. Pleasantly, I’m sure, but still surprised. He says 2.0 can’t be predicted. Exactly! And don’t you forget it. I think the biggest thing is that 2.0 did it because it was more difficult with the butt plug in. 1.0 may have taken pity on Lion, but 2.0 looks for ways to make his life difficult. Is she nice to Lion sometimes? Of course! Actually she’s always nice to Lion. It just comes in the form of discipline or pushing him to do things he really wants to do at a time when he may not really want to do them. While 1.0 might have taken an orgasm because she wanted to taste Lion, 2.0 takes an orgasm because she wants Lion to taste it. And because she wants to keep Lion off balance.

Yesterday we were discussing how many orgasms he should average per month. I think he said January and February he averaged five orgasms a month. For March it was four. I think last night threw a monkey wrench in that average. Too bad. 2.0 is not beholden to some average. She’s going to do what she wants. Schedule be damned. [Lion — Actually I had 5 in January, 4 in February, and 3 so far in March]

Who knows what tonight holds. I think Lion will probably have some more anal training. He’ll probably have some more maintenance swats. Maybe he’ll be edged. I haven’t heard the Lion weather report yet. I’m assuming is will be cool after last night’s activities. But just like you can never assume what 2.0 will do, I can’t assume what Lion will do either.

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In: 2.0, Punishment, Spanking
spanking paddle
This is the very mean paddle. It’s length, weight, and small business end combine to make it exceptionally painful. This design is based on a paddle used during U.S. colonial times on recalcitrant adults.

I’ve long understood that spanking causes the “spankee” to go through various phases. The first is reacting to the pain.  The reaction ranges from silence with changed breathing, to screams. As the sensation increases, the second phase is anger. If the bottom is bound (a very good idea if you plan to go to or through this point), he will fight to get out of the bondage. If he isn’t, then he will probably turn over and demand the spanking stop. The third phase is submission. He will cry actual tears and accept the pain.

Most BDSM spankings never get past the first phase. With most impact toys it would be difficult to get any further. We have an exceptionally effective paddle. It is 16-inches long and the business end is a circle only 3 1/2-inches in diameter (see image, right). It is made of 3/8″ hardwood which is very heavy and dense. The combination of the leverage provided by the long handle and the small, concentrated striking area, makes it easy to administer a very severe blow.

It only takes a few swats with that paddle to rocket me from phase one to phase two. At that point I turn over and announce “Enough!” Mrs. Lion usually waits for me to get back in position and continues. I try to stop her again. She generally stops or reduces the force of the blows at that point.

Before you go all he-should-take-it-and-not-move on me, bear in mind that a serious spanking can trigger largely involuntary reactions. I agree that I should hold still all the way into phase three, but so far I can’t do it more than a couple of strokes into phase 2.

2.0 is going to have “practice” sessions with me to see if my ability to accept her punishment can be improved. On Monday night I was to get 20 hard swats (3 pennies in the punishment bank). I barely got past six. Maybe 2.0 should repeat the session every night until I get to 20 without trying to get away. That might be a long, painful process but it could help my self control.

She said that she will reduce the force of the blows. I agreed when she said that and even suggested she could make them harder to see just when I go to phase 2. It is a sensible plan. On the other hand, she should be able to spank me with the force she wants to use. I am in no danger of real injury, just a lot of discomfort. That’s what made me think of nightly repetitions until I can complete the 20 hard swats I am owed.

2.0 is making progress in exerting her will over mine. Anal play now goes well beyond when I want to stop it. She is teaching me to accept without complaint. In my mind the same is true of spanking. I don’t want to be able to take even a little control over that. This is especially true of punishment. Accepting something I really hate is great training for unquestioning obedience.

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Last night was punishment night. Lion had three pennies in his punishment bank. Uh oh. He asked me earlier in the day what those three pennies represented. How many swats? I’ve never really had a correlation between the amount of pennies and the amount of swats. To me, each penny represents an infraction. Each infraction has its own severity. If he got one drop of spaghetti sauce on himself, that should count less than spilling his drink all over himself. Did he eat before me at breakfast and then turn around and do it again at lunch? But Lion was looking for a number.

When I picked up the paddle I told him I was going to do twenty hard swats and see how he did with that before I decided to add any more. I turns out twenty was too much. Five was too much. The second swat landed on the sweet spot of his left cheek. He immediately told me that was enough. Really? I don’t remember it being his place to decide what was enough. I told him to get up on his knees so I could try to avoid the painful spot. A few swats later and he was whimpering again. He said he couldn’t take any more. I told him he would take ten total swats and I wouldn’t hit as hard from then on. I thought that was a suitable compromise since he was definitely having an issue, but I didn’t want to stop just because he wanted to stop. We decided maybe he needs maintenance swats again to toughen up his butt.

This morning I said I’d do some practice swatting tonight so I don’t damage the sensitive Lion hide. He said his hide is tough and he’s just being a big baby. A baby? Babies wear diapers. He should be careful about that. Oops. [Lion — Oh crap]  He hadn’t thought of that. Somehow I don’t think he’ll be a baby about the swats tonight. He does not want to wind up in diapers. It just proves he has to watch himself. You never know what 2.0 will come up with next.

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2.0 commented the other day that she was running out of play ideas. There are, after all, a limited number of BDSM activities. Even with a large repertoire, you will eventually run out. But there is a very simple and fun answer to the “what can I do now?” question: Do training.

Take anal play for example. Butt plugs and pegging can grow old for both top and bottom. However, add the training aspect and this set of activities takes on a new personality. Anal activities in particular, lend themselves to safe, progressive training. I am in the early stages of that myself. I’m learning to comfortably accept smaller butt plugs and dildos. 2.0’s current goal is to train me to ride our fucking machine. This device will peg me at any speed Mrs. Lion wants.

It will take a while for me to accept our slightly-larger-than-lion-sized dildo for pegging. It will take a long time for me to reach that first goal. A long time ago she said she wanted me to learn to accept her entire hand. I’ve felt that was probably impossible. Now I’m not so sure. With very consistent training I think I will learn.

Mrs. Lion likes variety. She worries I will get bored if she doesn’t keep changing things up. I don’t think so. Most of the things she does to me can be increased in intensity in one way or another. I see this “training” as a very consuming form of play. It’s change on a very primal level. Over the years, my lioness has worried about losing my interest. That’s not possible. I think her concern that she needs to change things up is a symptom of that.

She’s also experimenting with how much and how long she can keep me in unsatisfied sexual heat. She’s been very successful there. I hope she is getting satisfaction from my frustration. She has my full attention.

Another recent activity has been putting clothespins on my balls and then removing one each time I am edged. That combination of sensations is very powerful. This form of play is brand new to me; another Lioness 2.0 creation. This is an activity I hope she will repeat often. The combination of pleasure and pain is amazing to me.

We both discuss punishment here on the blog. I try to avoid being punished, but I miss it when I somehow manage to meet Mrs. Lion’s standards. I’ve been trying to understand this apparent contradiction. So far I’ve had only one thought: Punishment is a form of attention that shows both love and control. It’s  hard work for 2.0 to enforce rules and  modify my behavior, and even more work to punish me when I fail to meet her standards. Her consistent effort demonstrates in a very real way how much my lioness cares about me. I realize that there is some artificiality there. The rules she is enforcing aren’t life changing. But they are rules and do circumscribe my behavior. I can’t ask for more than that. Boundaries are very important to me. My lioness is doing a good job setting them.