I’ve long understood that spanking causes the “spankee” to go through various phases. The first is reacting to the pain. The reaction ranges from silence with changed breathing, to screams. As the sensation increases, the second phase is anger. If the bottom is bound (a very good idea if you plan to go to or through this point), he will fight to get out of the bondage. If he isn’t, then he will probably turn over and demand the spanking stop. The third phase is submission. He will cry actual tears and accept the pain.
Most BDSM spankings never get past the first phase. With most impact toys it would be difficult to get any further. We have an exceptionally effective paddle. It is 16-inches long and the business end is a circle only 3 1/2-inches in diameter (see image, right). It is made of 3/8″ hardwood which is very heavy and dense. The combination of the leverage provided by the long handle and the small, concentrated striking area, makes it easy to administer a very severe blow.
It only takes a few swats with that paddle to rocket me from phase one to phase two. At that point I turn over and announce “Enough!” Mrs. Lion usually waits for me to get back in position and continues. I try to stop her again. She generally stops or reduces the force of the blows at that point.
Before you go all he-should-take-it-and-not-move on me, bear in mind that a serious spanking can trigger largely involuntary reactions. I agree that I should hold still all the way into phase three, but so far I can’t do it more than a couple of strokes into phase 2.
2.0 is going to have “practice” sessions with me to see if my ability to accept her punishment can be improved. On Monday night I was to get 20 hard swats (3 pennies in the punishment bank). I barely got past six. Maybe 2.0 should repeat the session every night until I get to 20 without trying to get away. That might be a long, painful process but it could help my self control.
She said that she will reduce the force of the blows. I agreed when she said that and even suggested she could make them harder to see just when I go to phase 2. It is a sensible plan. On the other hand, she should be able to spank me with the force she wants to use. I am in no danger of real injury, just a lot of discomfort. That’s what made me think of nightly repetitions until I can complete the 20 hard swats I am owed.
2.0 is making progress in exerting her will over mine. Anal play now goes well beyond when I want to stop it. She is teaching me to accept without complaint. In my mind the same is true of spanking. I don’t want to be able to take even a little control over that. This is especially true of punishment. Accepting something I really hate is great training for unquestioning obedience.