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As you’ve read in Lion’s post this morning, our plans last night were sabotaged by a headache. Unlike the cliche I don’t normally let a headache get in the way of sex for either of us. This, however, was a migraine. I’ll spare you specifics, but my migraines don’t start out with pain. It’s the flashes of light and other assorted weirdness that stop me in my tracks. Once the fireworks are done, then the pain starts and I can deal with that. Unfortunately by the time the pain set in it was time for bed. But, as Lion said, tomorrow is another day. Assuming I don’t have a rebound migraine today we should be on tonight.

Lion will be sending his cage in for adjustment on Friday. At this point I’ve decided to allow him to be wild until it comes back. Maybe it was the migraine talking last night; maybe it was the fact that I hate wrestling with the Chinese cage. He pretended to be very excited about being wild and I reminded him that I could make him wear the panties while we wait for the cage to be returned. I know he’s not really excited and he knows I wouldn’t really make him wear the panties for any length of time. At this point there’s no real reason for him to be caged. I trust him not to masturbate. I trust him not to cheat. The cage is a symbol. Its absence for a week will not change anything.

That said, I may play with him more while he’s wild. Maybe it will tie up his cock and balls so they don’t forget what the cage feels like. I may fashion a cage of velcro. There are quite a few possibilities. He may wish he never sent the cage back to be resized. But we know Lion. He’ll be happy for the bondage and attention, even if it does involve velcro.

Lion mentioned the other day that I found wedding bands that have a lock for him and a key for me. He’s concerned about wearing it at work. I do agree with a reader’s comment that he could explain away any questions by saying that I hold the key to his heart. It’s not untrue. Another possibility might be just a simple turn of the ring so that the lock is hidden from view and doesn’t bring attention to it. It hasn’t been vetoed but we’re still trying to figure out the best way to mark our one year chastity anniversary. I’m sure Lion thinks an orgasm for him would be a great idea. And a spanking. And bondage. And I’m sure he’ll get at least some of that. But I think we should have some way of celebrating the milestone that isn’t “just” sex. We’ll figure it out.

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In: Lion's Journal, Male Chastity, Sex

Despite Mrs. Lion’s wonderful plans for last night, we were unable to carry them out. She came home with a terrible headache and had a hard time just showering and getting into bed. Never fear. Tomorrow is another day. The sun will come out tomorrow along with any more cliches I can think of. No real problem. I’m sure Mrs. Lion will say more tomorrow. Besides, this gives me a chance to tell you about some other stuff.

For the last few months I’ve felt that the base ring on my cage is too large. It was never tight, but it keeps my balls in place and my penis out of trouble. However, I think it is time for an adjustment. Right now it is 1 3/4-inches in diameter (oval). When I was trying devices, I could wear a 1 5/8-inch ring but it felt snug and a little irritating. I’ve heard that the skin on the scrotum thins a little over time. I’m not sure I believe that. But there is no doubt that the ring is a bit too loose.

Many guys find that a smaller base ring is needed after a while. Of course, there are always those who try to get the very tightest they can in the beginning. They generally spend a lot of time putting lube around the ring to avoid chafing, and end up out of the cage in a short time. In my opinion, it is way better to have a larger ring and then at a later date, in my case a year later, get it made smaller.

My plan is to get my 1 3/4-inch ring sized down to 1 5/8-inches. That 1/8-inch reduction may sound small, but if you do the math (circumference = ? * diameter; or the change in diameter. So, if we make the ring 1/8-inch shorter in diameter, the circumference is reduced 3.1416 * .125 = .39 inches ) it makes the circumference close to a half inch shorter. At the same time I’ll order a 1 1/2-inch ring as well. Mature Metal will reduce or enlarge a ring for only $10. A new ring, I think, is $55. So, for $65 I can get a better fit.

In order to get a new ring, I will have to send the device back. We have a Chinese cage I wore in the beginning and while the Jail Bird was adjusted to shorten the cage. Mrs. Lion hates taking that cage off and putting it on. I suggested that I could be wild instead. She seemed agreeable to that idea. So, if she will agree to the resizing, she can decide if she wants me wild or in the old cage. She’ll have to let me know.

I hope she feels better soon. Headaches are just horrid. Feel better my sweet lioness.

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In: Male Chastity

As directed, Lion was wearing his pink frilly panties when I got home last night. He was clearly uncomfortable so when he asked to take them off I let him. I had no illusions that they would turn me on and they didn’t. The only thing it accomplished was to let him know that I am in charge. Not that it isn’t important, but I’d consider the panties a bust. The nail polish is effective because he can see it but not feel it. He can forget it’s there until he looks at his toes. The panties are just physically uncomfortable. I don’t see an up side to his wearing them.

If I had to rate the last three attempts to show control, I’d say the nail polish is at the top of the list followed by diapers and then the panties. The diapers are at least comfortable until they get wet. If I allow him to change once he’s wet then the diapers will work. He’ll still hate them but they will be tolerable. He definitely has nail polish in his future. I even threatened to buy the colors of the football team we are rooting for in the playoffs. If they make it to the Super Bowl I may paint his toes in alternating team colors. I just know he’s looking forward to that.

I have designated tonight as my orgasm night. I’m still hoping to jump start things. So far I’m not any hornier than I was before I started scheduling orgasms. I didn’t think it would happen overnight so we will continue on with the experiment. Besides, it’s nice to have Lion’s attention. Tonight is also a Lion play night. I was thinking of unlocking him before he gave me my orgasm but I know he thinks I will want to play with him while he plays with me. Actually my thought was that after he gives me my orgasm, assuming I still have any energy left, I could ride him and maybe have another orgasm with him inside me. That way Lion would have some fun and I may have some more fun. I don’t think he’ll disagree with that idea. We’ll have to see how it goes.

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Sunday night I got a surprise orgasm. I am starting to like surprises, at least some. Yesterday, Mrs. Lion sent me an email from work saying that when she comes home she expects me in my pink, frilly panties. Yuck! Well, of course I put them on and greeted her in them. Definitely not a turn on for me. Mrs. Lion has finished her monthly and set herself a new orgasm date: tonight. Now that’s a nice surprise.

We are a week away from our first enforced chastity anniversary. Mrs. Lion had an idea for gifts we could give each other: new wedding bands. Mine would have an engraved lock and hers a key. We both think the idea is very romantic. I’m not sure I could explain the lock at work, however. I love the concept, but something this obvious would be problematic. So, we are still searching for an appropriate way to mark our first enforced chastity year.

I’ve been thinking about symbols. We all know about wedding rings. They announce to the world that the wearer is taken and not available. They also provide a constant reminder to both partners of their lifelong commitment. My chastity device is also a symbol. Yes, it does provide physical restraint for my penis, but that isn’t its real power. The real power is similar to our wedding rings. It is an unmistakable reminder that my only sexual pleasure comes directly from Mrs. Lion.

Mrs. Lion has mentioned that our adoption of enforced male chastity revitalized our sex life. Since it is getting more active every week, and almost a year has passed, it’s clear that enforced male chastity isn’t just a cool sexual idea that grows old over time. I am surprised this has worked so well. Mrs. Lion has been a wonderful keyholder.

If you’re new to enforced male chastity and thinking about getting a chastity device, take a look at Getting A Good Fit. I think the single most common reason that people give up is because they have ill fitting devices. Yours should not draw attention to itself any more than your wedding ring does. Also, enforced male chastity takes time, a lot of time, to integrate into life. It will take months before you are fully comfortable wearing a device 24/7. Judging by our relationship, it will take more than a year to fully integrate enforced male chastity into your lives. Now that we are approaching the one-year mark, I can happily say that it is worth it.